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Feminist: Downgrade the crime of rape

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Sunday, November 17, 2013 10:59 AM

KPO

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http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/commentators/germaine-greer-rape-4
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Alison (not her real name) lived with her eight-year-old daughter in a rented farm cottage. For some weeks she had been having a relationship with one of her workmates, which she had ended. Late one evening, the workmate came to plead his case, then to argue, then to bully. Finally he forced himself upon her.
Alison knew that, if she screamed and struggled, her daughter who was fast asleep upstairs would be the only one to hear. She dreaded the thought of the child's waking up and running downstairs to find her mother being sexually assaulted. She saw herself as having no option but to get it over with as silently and quickly as possible.

That night Alison was raped. That is what rape is: intercourse with a woman against her will. Now, because of some more than usually muddled thinking on the part of legislators, men too may be raped. The old crime of forcible buggery has become male rape - as if women, too, could not be forcibly buggered.

Once upon a time we knew the difference between the orifices involved, and the possible consequences, but that was then and this is now. Judges still give far heavier sentences for attempted male rape than they do for fully consummated female rape. The new nomenclature has not produced any new thinking about the nature and gravity of sexual assault. Or the inequality of men and women before the law.

When Alison turned up for work the next day she was so pale and withdrawn that her workmates were worried. Eventually, one of them managed to find out what was wrong. To all the women, it was obvious that Alison had not consented to sex.

The men, however, seemed to think it was a storm in a teacup. He hadn't knocked her about, had he? But of course he had. She felt despoiled, used "like a spittoon" and was disgusted with herself. The wound to her self-esteem will probably never heal. The perpetrator knew that he had damaged her and was gratified. At work, he behaved as if nothing had happened. Alison gave up her job, took her daughter out of school and left the district.

Alison made no complaint to the police. If she had done, she would probably have been treated with great skill and sympathy, and the people who dealt with her would not have let themselves be seen to doubt her version of events, but there would be little that could be done in the way of redress. The fact of intercourse could be proved, provided that she had not washed since the event, as could the identity of the man involved.

Thus the whole issue would turn on the question of consent. There were no witnesses; the child slept through the whole thing. The man would say that she eventually consented; she would say that she eventually submitted. Any halfway decent lawyer could have destroyed her case in cross-examination. She would have had to relive the rape countless times, before different groups of strangers, retelling the humiliating narrative over and over again, only to see her tormentor finally triumph over her, because it was simply his word against hers. All he had to say to escape punishment was that he thought, or believed, that her silence was consent.

The law of rape is anachronistic, unworkable and should be struck down. Tinkering with it has resulted in a huge expenditure of resources and effort by police forces which have little enough of either, in return for no improvement whatsoever in women's chances of redress. The fault lies in the very concept of rape itself.

The crime of rape is not committed against the victim, but against the state; the victim is Exhibit A in the case of Regina vs the rapist. As a piece of evidence, the victim must be interrogated and tested in every possible way, because rape is considered to be so grave, second only to murder.

It is not women who have decided that rape is so heinous, but men. The only weapon that counts in rape is the penis, which is conceptualised as devastating. Yet a man can do more harm with his thumb than he can with his thin-skinned penis. But it is his penis that is to him the symbol and instrument of his potency. The notion of rape is the direct expression of male phallocentricity, which women should know better than to accept.

If you talk to raped women, they usually resent all the other insults that accompanied the rape more than the unwanted presence of a penis in the vagina. The forcing of a penis into a mouth, for example, is not rape but sexual assault, yet a victim may resent it more; likewise forcible buggery, ejaculating on to the face or breasts, and so forth. In some cases, what remains in the memory and continues to perturb years after the event are the words a rapist forced his victim to say.

If physical assault were not so terrifying to women, most rapes would never happen. If you allow a man to put his penis into your body because otherwise he will cut your nose off, you clearly feel that having your nose cut off is miles worse, but the asinine law does not agree with you. The punishment for cutting your nose off would be less than the punishment for rape, but then you wouldn't be suspected of having consented to having your nose cut off.

Historically, the crime of rape is not an offence against women, but an offence committed against men by other men. The man who has control of a woman, historically her father, guardian or husband, has a case against the man who makes unauthorised use of her. When the state seeks redress, it acts on behalf of the patriarchy and not on behalf of the injured woman.

If the woman has consorted with a stranger male against the wishes or without the knowledge of her male guardian, it is she who is the malefactor and must be punished with due severity; in some societies she may even be killed by the men she is considered to have betrayed. In British law courts, this historic tradition survives as the duty of counsel for the defence to build up a case to incriminate the woman in order to exonerate the man who has abused her. The prosecution is thus bound to injure the victim to some extent, sometimes more gravely than the rape itself.

A foggy recognition of this injustice has resulted in the practice of concealing the identity of rape victims, but this simply reinforces the victim's awareness of having been shamed by the offence committed against her. Some exceptional women are now insisting on prosecuting rapists openly and publicly, as an explicit denial of any notion of shame attaching to the woman who has been outraged.

In its strictest form, patriarchal morality requires that, rather than be penetrated by an unauthorised penis, a woman should fight to the death. If she survives, her male relatives may kill her, and so purge the dishonour to the whole family. Fighting to the death is the only way a woman can be effectively exonerated from the suspicion of consent; however unreasonable it may seem, anything less can be interpreted as evidence of consent.

A woman who has no injuries to display and can provide no evidence of a struggle is already in trouble when it comes to seeking redress. The vast majority of raped women never even try. Every day, men rape women who are in bed beside them, with complete impunity, because the withholding of consent cannot be proved. Rape is not an extraordinary crime committed by a few contemptible individuals; it is part of everyday life for huge numbers of women. Being raped by a stranger is like being hit by a runaway bus; your injuries eventually heal. When the person you love and respect most in the world is indifferent to whether you welcome his attentions or not, the psychological consequences are lifelong and devastating.

The history of the crime of rape also explains the obsessive concern by the authorities with the possibility of mischievous women making false accusations of rape against innocent men, dragging their names in the mud.

It is certainly true that any man publicly accused of rape will be damaged. But in a situation where only 5.6 per cent of complaints result in a conviction, the vast majority of the men named could claim they have been falsely accused. It is their victims who then have to live with the additional stigma of having been discredited.

The current situation is one of damage maximisation, from the crime to the investigation to the outcome. The suggestion that distraught women in the immediate aftermath of the event should be videotaped and the tape shown to the jury is outrageous. Few raped women now go to the police. The prospect of ordeal by video will reduce their numbers still further.

There is a solution, but it is not recognised as such by feminists or legislators. That is to abolish the crime of rape altogether, and instead to expand the law of assault to include sexual assault in varying degrees of gravity; so that, for example, mutilating assaults on children would be recognised as many times graver than penetration of a grown woman.

If we return to the case of Alison, it can be seen that what she endured is what we might call petty rape. I doubt she would have wanted her assailant to be imprisoned for years; but seeing him sentenced to 100 hours of community service might have gone a long way to making her feel better. It might even have taught him something about taking women for granted. Other aspects of the offence, such as whether it exposed the victim to the risk of pregnancy or infection, could also be taken into consideration.

There are feminists who would be outraged at the idea of downgrading the crime of rape in such a way; indeed some feminists have demanded that convicted rapists be castrated, which is to give to the penis the same exaggerated importance as men do. To increase the penalties for the unlucky few who get convicted of this very common crime, while the vast majority get off scot-free, is not the way to go. Besides, a castrated rapist will use something more dangerous than his penis next time.

In exchange for allowing the offence to be downgraded, women should demand the lessening of the burden of proof. No one could take the uncorroborated statement of a complainant as sufficient basis for depriving a man of his liberty for years. But if what is alleged is common assault with a sexual component, and carries a lighter penalty, women's testimony could safely be given more weight. And we would not all be subjected to the silliness of protracted and hugely expensive trials involving inebriated undergraduates who collapsed in bed together and woke up unable to remember exactly what transpired.

This is not the first time that a reformer has suggested the removal of the crime of rape from the statute. Some countries have already revised their criminal codes to some extent, but so far they have not gone far enough, and judges have simply treated the new offences as if they were the old ones with different names.

What we need is a full investigation of the whole panoply of sexual offences, and a repositioning of the right of all individuals, male and female, married and unmarried, gay and straight, children and adults, to sexual autonomy. Nothing less will do.


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Monday, November 18, 2013 11:10 AM

BYTEMITE


Okay. I was - taking a break from the board/running with my tail between my legs/whatever you want to think I don't even care - but this successfully pulled me back in to comment.

This is the single most stupid ass thing I've ever read, and you must appreciate the amount of stupid ass I have to put up with. I read the cesspool comment sections on major news sites for entertainment, I have a pretty good grasp of stupid assery.

Whoever wrote this lacks VERY basic writing skills, critical thinking, logic, and common knowledge about anatomy, biology, psychology, disease, the legal system, and society in general. Such a bogglingly idiotic diatribe could only come from a mind more deranged than my own, completely oblivious to actual reality.

You know what gives a rapist power? Shaming the victim. You know what gives a rapist power? Minimalizing the problem.

A taboo on the subject is just as harmful for recovery as "oh, it's not really a big deal." Different approaches, different reasoning, SAME RESULTS. This is the kind of attitude that leads to repeat occurrences.

Among other problems:
1) Women can rape men and other women.
2) Appalling dismissal of date rape among young adults.
3) Legal system already differentiates between types of assault as well as between children and adults.
4) STDs and pregnancy concerns very much complicate the issue. Potential damages go far beyond the event itself.
5) Throw a dart, you'll find something.

In short, rape isn't just a problem because it represents "patriarchal oppression." And even if it WAS, the solution to the problem wouldn't be to just ignore it, change the definition, or sweep it under a rug. Nowhere in that meandering nonsensical rambling was there anything close to approximating reality.

The issues are not about embracing ten dollar words like "phallocentric" and posting pseudo-intellectual drivel from a 1970s man-hating women's liberation demagogue that misuses the terms and throws them around like candy. Guys. Think about the problems yourself, stop DEBASING yourselves and apologizing to try to fit in with what you think is politically correct. The moment you want equal rights for EVERYONE, including yourself, the moment you recognize the very real problems that your own gender faces and how utterly unimportant what engine you have under the hood is and how irrelevant it is to your life choices, THEN you'll be able to GET somewhere on these issues.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 3:12 PM

KPO

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I don't feel that you're responding to what the article actually says Byte, and in some cases I think you're responding to things the article doesn't say. Which is not to say that I don't agree with a lot of what you said, or that I wholeheartedly agree with the article. So I'll post bits of it that I do agree with, or at least find interesting, and worthy of direct response:

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Once upon a time we knew the difference between the orifices involved, and the possible consequences, but that was then and this is now. Judges still give far heavier sentences for attempted male rape than they do for fully consummated female rape.


(This seems to agree with your point 4) )

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Any halfway decent lawyer could have destroyed her case in cross-examination. She would have had to relive the rape countless times, before different groups of strangers, retelling the humiliating narrative over and over again, only to see her tormentor finally triumph over her, because it was simply his word against hers. All he had to say to escape punishment was that he thought, or believed, that her silence was consent.

The law of rape is anachronistic, unworkable and should be struck down.



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If we return to the case of Alison, it can be seen that what she endured is what we might call petty rape. I doubt she would have wanted her assailant to be imprisoned for years; but seeing him sentenced to 100 hours of community service might have gone a long way to making her feel better.


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In exchange for allowing the offence to be downgraded, women should demand the lessening of the burden of proof. No one could take the uncorroborated statement of a complainant as sufficient basis for depriving a man of his liberty for years. But if what is alleged is common assault with a sexual component, and carries a lighter penalty, women's testimony could safely be given more weight.


It's not personal. It's just war.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 3:48 PM

BYTEMITE


In no reality is shuffling the crime of rape under a broader heading of physical assault and minimizing the crime of rape going to help rape victims.

And a number of her other comments about rape are so unbelievably wrong as to be offensive. As are her comments about the male gender in general.

A logical argument requires both sound premises AND valid conclusions. Only SOME of her premises are valid, but her conclusion simply does not follow, so the rest of her argument, as described in the scientific terminology, is completely WHACKNUTS.

Taking your counterpoints:

1) Men are IMMUNE to STDS now are they? This is news to me. Are men also immune to the socioeconomic concerns associated with pregnancy, such as child support? Are you aware of such a thing called "the baby trap?"

The harsher penalties for male on male rape, assuming this is in fact the case (need cites and evidence - I imagine a lot of this goes unreported, and a lot also happens in prison) would admittedly be an anachronism, but I would suggest this standard, if it exists, is based in homophobia, rather than a malicious male-dominated culture punishment for women.

What's more, the author was just arguing FOR reduced sentences for men raping women (community SERVICE instead of imprisonment or jail time), in exchange for consistency across multiple kinds of rape. Then she talks about weighing children more strongly than a crime against an adult (which the law already does).

This is contradictory.

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because it was simply his word against hers. All he had to say to escape punishment was that he thought, or believed, that her silence was consent.


This is a big assumption. It's a jury trial. While there are people accused of rape who are acquitted, there are also people accused of rape who are not. There are regional considerations and tendencies which affect the reaction of the jury, and though it is not necessarily logical, the behaviour of both parties can sway the opinion of a jury as well. Silence means consent is not a codified part of the laws that govern rape - no means no IS. "Implied consent" is a thing, but it is being misused here. In terms of date rape, silence is very much NOT consent.

It is possible that this opinion here is influenced by earlier times, and even if it is, rape victims still often have an uphill court battle. But this isn't logical or sensible or kind to the victims. This is giving up.

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The law of rape is anachronistic, unworkable and should be struck down.


Anachronistic, yes. But the rest of the conclusion DOES NOT FOLLOW.

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If we return to the case of Alison, it can be seen that what she endured is what we might call petty rape.


If we were to hear the words "petty rape" from anyone but someone who called themselves a "feminist," would anyone here be okay with that? And keep in mind, when she says "petty rape" she means vaginal penetration with male (and maybe female) orgasm.

What exactly constitutes "non-petty" rape then? Would Ms. Greer agree to "LEGITIMATE RAPE" terminology proposed by Representative Todd Akin then? How serious a crime does rape have to be to be considered a somewhat major awful fucking thing to go through I wonder.

She even acknowledges how earth shattering domestic rape experienced by housewives is, so why on EARTH is she arguing to trivialize it?

Again contradictory.

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I doubt she would have wanted her assailant to be imprisoned for years; but seeing him sentenced to 100 hours of community service might have gone a long way to making her feel better.


HUUUUGE assumption, and again speaking to incredible ignorance and perhaps lack of real experience with human psychology in such a situation. Rape is about power. Recovering from rape is often about finding a lost sense of security, and yes, sometimes, about retaliation, to prove to themselves that they ARE NOT POWERLESS.

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In exchange for allowing the offence to be downgraded, women should demand the lessening of the burden of proof.


No. The offense is exactly as offensive and awful as the response to it warrants, not just to the state or to society BUT TO THE PEOPLE WHO EXPERIENCE IT. And because of the severity of the offense, the burden of proof must be stringent to prevent false positives.

I admit there are societal concepts that even now might skew the results against the victims, but it is THAT which should be addressed, rather than removing a path of justice that does far more than serve the victim's male relatives.

Ms. Greer's writing is a perfect example of rhetoric that sounds good to hear but is delusional and harmful in practice.

I reject it utterly.


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Monday, November 18, 2013 4:26 PM

AGENTROUKA


I'm very much with Byte on this one.

One of my main quibbles:
I don't see her logic as sound. Lighter penalties for rape or sexual assault = lighter burden of proof? In what universe?

She also strongly downplays the specifically sexual consequences of rape: disease and pregnancy being a HUGE worry for many victims. That there are worse things than "unwanted penis in vagina" (or, you know, whatever a female rapist would choose to do) is a given, but brushing off that form of assault as an inflated "phallocentric" preoccupation is just insulting.

I don't see her approach as particularly helpful when the issue of social attitudes that enable rape isn't really addressed.

And in what world is "community service" an appropriate response to someone so obviously capable of sexual assault that a court managed to find them guilty of it? How would you place that person square in the community?

That, and her use of the word "bugger". I'm shaking my head.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 4:37 PM

BYTEMITE


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That, and her use of the word "bugger". I'm shaking my head.


She's Australian. I'm guessing this is actually a distinction that exists in Commonwealth law.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buggery

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Lighter penalties for rape or sexual assault = lighter burden of proof? In what universe?


I'm in between buying that argument and not buying it, but that doesn't lessen my points against the whole.

Otherwise agree completely.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 5:13 PM

AURAPTOR

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To all the women, it was obvious that Alison had not consented to sex.


Wow. Women DO have magical powers. Amazing.


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Monday, November 18, 2013 5:32 PM

AGENTROUKA


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Originally posted by AURaptor:

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To all the women, it was obvious that Alison had not consented to sex.


Wow. Women DO have magical powers. Amazing.



It's pretty astonishing that out of everything in the article you would zero in on an opportunity to discredit the victim.

Her version of events: first and foremost, beyond all else, it must be considered suspect. Can't have a women getting the idea into her head that she could voice such an idea - outside of a court of law, mind you, just telling other human beings - and be considered worth believing.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 6:01 PM

MAL4PREZ


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Originally posted by AgentRouka:
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Originally posted by AURaptor:

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To all the women, it was obvious that Alison had not consented to sex.


Wow. Women DO have magical powers. Amazing.



It's pretty astonishing that out of everything in the article you would zero in on an opportunity to discredit the victim.



Not like it's the first time the Rap has shown his anti-woman side. Reference: women who want their health care to cover birth control are sluts. "The term applies," quoth the Rap.

Good thing I can't throw rotten fruit through the internet, or a certain misogynistic poster would have a messy face right now. Then again, trolls tend to live off that kind of stuff, so maybe he'd like it.

As to the article: I don't buy it. So, a certain crime is constantly downplayed, so the way to handle that is to make it officially downplayed? No, the way to handle it is for women to start cutting the dangly parts off any man who doesn't hear "NO." If men had to be afraid, they'd stop it.

Please, nobody preach to me about mental and emotional abuse and how women are not in a position to forcefully say no. I understand, and that is exactly what needs to change.

We need a Stand Your Vagina law. You try messing with a woman's privates, you will get hurt and possibly dead and the law won't be coming after her for it. That would solve the problem.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 6:02 PM

BYTEMITE


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Originally posted by AURaptor:

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To all the women, it was obvious that Alison had not consented to sex.


Wow. Women DO have magical powers. Amazing.





If that was supposed to be a reaction to the way the author suggests that the non-consent can not be obvious to men as well, that was a bizarre way of phrasing it.

If it was not, and you really were saying that this anecdote/actual story/whatever the lady might've been lying about consent and that's why she left her job and moved... If that's the conclusion you reach after reading all that, you've got some baggage to deal with.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 6:15 PM

BYTEMITE


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So, a certain crime is constantly downplayed, so the way to handle that is to make it officially downplayed?


>_>

It's idiotic, yes.

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Please, nobody preach to me about mental and emotional abuse and how women are not in a position to forcefully say no. I understand, and that is exactly what needs to change.


I am terrible with sentiment plus there is various lingering awkwardness... But I believe the proper response here is somewhere along the lines of "You Go, Girl."


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Monday, November 18, 2013 6:27 PM

AURAPTOR

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Originally posted by MAL4PREZ:

Not like it's the first time the Rap has shown his anti-woman side. Reference: women who want their health care to cover birth control are sluts. "The term applies," quoth the Rap.

Good thing I can't throw rotten fruit through the internet, or a certain misogynistic poster would have a messy face right now. Then again, trolls tend to live off that kind of stuff, so maybe he'd like it.

As to the article: I don't buy it. So, a certain crime is constantly downplayed, so the way to handle that is to make it officially downplayed? No, the way to handle it is for women to start cutting the dangly parts off any man who doesn't hear "NO." If men had to be afraid, they'd stop it.

Please, nobody preach to me about mental and emotional abuse and how women are not in a position to forcefully say no. I understand, and that is exactly what needs to change.

We need a Stand Your Vagina law. You try messing with a woman's privates, you will get hurt and possibly dead and the law won't be coming after her for it. That would solve the problem.



In fact, since I've not shown ANY " misogynistic " , or anti- women attitudes, ever, this in fact WOULD be a first. But I didn't , so it still wasn't the first.

I was commenting on the over all paragraph... When Alison turned up for work the next day she was so pale and withdrawn that her workmates were worried. Eventually, one of them managed to find out what was wrong.j

And the idea that the ONLY conclusion for Alison's state was that she'd been raped, before any facts had been established.

But, troll away, and vilify anyone and everyone who dares to even suggest views which don't fall lock step into line w/ how you want folks to react.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 6:46 PM

BYTEMITE


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I was commenting on the over all paragraph... When Alison turned up for work the next day she was so pale and withdrawn that her workmates were worried. Eventually, one of them managed to find out what was wrong.j

And the idea that the ONLY conclusion for Alison's state was that she'd been raped, before any facts had been established.



Why is this even relevant to the topic of conversation.

Functionally the story about "Alison" is just an allegory, a vehicle for the writer to introduce the topic of discussion. We don't even know if "Alison" is a real person or not. In terms of this conversation it doesn't actually matter.

You're approaching this anecdote as if it were deserving of the same sort of cross-examination it might warrant in a court or as if there are facts to dispute. If it bothers you that much, take it as the hypothetical for which it was meant.

For further elucidation, if someone ever says to you "I have this friend," you do not need to interrupt them to ask if this friend of theirs likes vanilla or chocolate ice cream, and then object to the lack of supporting evidence for whichever flavour they supposedly like.

Definitely don't give them a shit-eating grin and ask them "IS IT YOUUUU?!" I know this from personal experience, and a broken nose.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 7:23 PM

BYTEMITE


Also, preemptively:

The vanilla or chocolate question is answered on my part with a shrug - not of indifference, but of ambivalence.

It depends.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 8:10 PM

AURAPTOR

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Originally posted by BYTEMITE:
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I was commenting on the over all paragraph... When Alison turned up for work the next day she was so pale and withdrawn that her workmates were worried. Eventually, one of them managed to find out what was wrong.j

And the idea that the ONLY conclusion for Alison's state was that she'd been raped, before any facts had been established.



Why is this even relevant to the topic of conversation.

Functionally the story about "Alison" is just an allegory, a vehicle for the writer to introduce the topic of discussion. We don't even know if "Alison" is a real person or not. In terms of this conversation it doesn't actually matter.



And that's my point. It's an unknown matter, real or not real... who can say? But hell, why must I answer to everything I comment on ? I saw something, and that line just seemed odd to me. So I remarked on it.

Sheesh.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 8:39 PM

KPO

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In no reality is shuffling the crime of rape under a broader heading of physical assault and minimizing the crime of rape going to help rape victims.

I understand that the idea is offensive to many, but the writer of the article was making the argument that it could result in more rape convictions - which would help rape victims (and might actually prevent people becoming rape victims by deterrence).

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Men are IMMUNE to STDS now are they?

No, but they're immune to pregnancy.

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in exchange for consistency across multiple kinds of rape.

She expressly talks about treating individual rape cases differently: "Other aspects of the offence, such as whether it exposed the victim to the risk of pregnancy or infection, could also be taken into consideration."

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rape victims still often have an uphill court battle. But this isn't logical or sensible or kind to the victims. This is giving up.

But is it a fight that can be won? That's what I'm wondering. I'm beginning to think that rape is inherently hard to prosecute (not the kind where a man stalks a woman walking home late at night, and rapes her at knife-point - the rarer kind), because it's often not a case of whether sex took place, which science can establish, but whether that sex was consensual - which often comes down to the man's word against the woman's. If you're on the jury how can you justifiably convict the man in such a case? Isn't there often some, reasonable doubt? And even more so, when the woman was drunk? Can she remember if she gave consent or not, etc... Too often it seems, there is plausible deniability in rape cases.

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If we were to hear the words "petty rape" from anyone but someone who called themselves a "feminist," would anyone here be okay with that?

It was strange wording. Almost deliberately provocative. But I guess she was comparing it to gang rape or knife-point rape or something.

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And because of the severity of the offense, the burden of proof must be stringent to prevent false positives.

And then maybe, low conviction rates are inevitable.

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 8:45 PM

KPO

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An interesting look at the rape debate here in Britain:



It's not personal. It's just war.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 9:56 PM

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argument that it could result in more rape convictions - which would help rape victims (and might actually prevent people becoming rape victims by deterrence).


What would help conviction rates is removing both the means of support by which rapists influence public opinion against their victims and thorough understanding of consent issues.

I'm not really interested in lowering the standards of burden of proof because the burden of proof to get charges actually filed is actually already pretty low. Conviction rates are failing victims because of widespread misunderstandings and misconceptions about rape and consent.

In the "Alison" example the author acknowledged the police would have been sympathetic and she would've gotten her day in court. This is how state prosecutors and special victims units make bread.

The outcome of that trial is not necessarily against the victim provided she had genetic evidence, and even if there were not witnesses of the event, there may well have been witnesses of the man's behaviour to her after the breakup. But she didn't even report the crime to the police - guaranteeing that she would never have that closure. A personal choice, not wanting to confront that, understandable, but with a consequence - someone who was willing to rape another person and expressed no remorse over their actions is allowed free.

The story is actually poor support for an equally poorly constructed argument.

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No, but they're immune to pregnancy.


But not the consequences of pregnancy. A woman loses wages associated with maternity leave, or if her employers are real shitheads, she might lose her job. A man who conceives without his consent would be expected to pay child support for eighteen years, and child support and custody courts actually tend to favour women. I can't say for certain whether the two situations come out equal, but the issues are actually closer than you might otherwise think.

Male on male rape doesn't have the pregnancy risk, true. But I don't know why we have to call one more or less heinous than another. They're all pretty bad and damaging. Dismissing male rape is a disservice to the entire gender and the product of a lack of compassion for that gender.

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She expressly talks about treating individual rape cases differently: "Other aspects of the offence, such as whether it exposed the victim to the risk of pregnancy or infection, could also be taken into consideration."


Bullshit she does. She SAYS she does, but either she doesn't realize that consummated "petty rape" carries the same risk of pregnancy as ACTUAL SEX, or she does and she calls a "consummated rape" petty anyway. Same end result either way.

Again, she contradicts herself constantly, it undermines whatever points she's making.

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And even more so, when the woman was drunk? Can she remember if she gave consent or not, etc...



Not how it works. In date rape cases, intoxication or drugs automatically mean the person is unable to give consent.

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And then maybe, low conviction rates are inevitable.


No. Necessity of burden of proof cannot be changed, but ATTITUDES can.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 10:49 PM

KPO

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A man who conceives without his consent would be expected to pay child support for eighteen years, and child support and custody courts actually tend to favour women. I can't say for certain whether the two situations come out equal,

I would say men conceiving against their consent virtually never happens! (as a result of rape)

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Not how it works. In date rape cases, intoxication or drugs automatically mean the person is unable to give consent.

Maybe this is true when a person is completely intoxicated to the point of complete disorientation/passing out. But when a guy and girl get drunk in a bar and then hook up, have they raped each other?

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A personal choice, not wanting to confront that, but with a consequence - someone who was willing to rape another person and expressed no remorse over their actions is allowed free.


You think Alison would've succeed in court? I'm not an expert, but I have my doubts. Greer chose that anecdote because it illustrates how hard it is sometimes to convict rapists. Do you disagree with Greer's reasoning that 'All he had to say to escape punishment was that he thought, or believed, that her silence was consent'?

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No. Necessity of burden of proof cannot be changed, but ATTITUDES can.

I was going to talk about attitudes, but decided against mainly because I think the attitudes in your country and mine are probably a bit different. I recommend you watch the video I posted though, it discusses and debates the prevalence of certain attitudes like rape myths, and victim-blaming. I found it interesting to find intelligent women arguing on both sides of the debate.

But my conclusion is that 'changing attitudes' is not the silver bullet that anti-rape campaigners think. I think the problem of low rape convictions is more inherent to the nature of the crime - that there are no witnesses, and it's often the man's word against the woman's whether consent was given, etc.

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Monday, November 18, 2013 11:33 PM

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I would say men conceiving against their consent virtually never happens! (as a result of rape)


Never heard of girls poking holes in condoms, hmm?

Step away from your self-imposed gender guilt for a second and see that men can in fact be raped, and can in fact be the victim of some rather underhanded tactics to force them into fatherhood against their will.

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Maybe this is true when a person is completely intoxicated to the point of complete disorientation/passing out. But when a guy and girl get drunk in a bar and then hook up, have they raped each other?


Ugh, look. Frankly I think HORMONES makes the issue of consent questionable. But I have a non-standard perspective on all that kind of activity.

Ultimately there are probably people they were with who might know how drunk one or the other was even if they were drunk themselves, and depending on the situation they might give some indication of what the attitude among their respective peer group is and therefore what the person's attitude might have been. If they're exceptionally dumb, they'll post incriminating frat-boy-esque or clingy-psycho-girl evidence to twitter about the matter beforehand.

Chances are, yes, neither of them was able to really give consent, and people really ought to err on the side of caution before molesting the drunk cutie they've got naked in their hotel room.

It might not surprise you to know I think Knocked Up is the worst, most unethical and uncomfortable movie ever.

But just because there's some questionable grey areas is no reason to toss out the entire concept. That is dumb as hell. Especially since current technology and modern social tendencies are starting to shed light into these previously difficult cases.

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You think Alison would've succeed in court? I'm not an expert, but I have my doubts. Greer chose that anecdote because it illustrates how hard it is sometimes to convict rapists


SHE NEVER FILED CHARGES. OF COURSE THE GUY WOULDN'T GET CONVICTED.

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Do you disagree with Greer's reasoning that 'All he had to say to escape punishment was that he thought, or believed, that her silence was consent'?


I'm saying it depends on the area. For every Stuebenville where local politics bullies victims and people have to fight for a fair trial, there's a place at least in more progressive cultures where that shit doesn't fly. Ignorance has never been an excuse for a crime of this magnitude, and in many cases it can be proven the defendant was NOT ignorant.

With better education, we could make it so defenses like that don't fly anywhere, ever.

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I think the problem of low rape convictions is more inherent to the nature of the crime


Then you'll condemn victims to having one of the few roads of justice left to them closed. You don't stop a crime like rape by making it no longer a crime.

Let's be VERY clear. You are arguing that victims should be denied even the opportunity to say they've been raped, a key part of coming to terms with what happened to them, because oh it's not really so bad as all that, they'll get more convictions and the crime of assault covers the same concept.

No. It does not. People would continue to use rape as a term because the legal definition would not represent their particular experience. But the loss of rape as a legal term would delegitimize the claims of victims further. It would delegitimize the reality of rape. If changing the legal definitions DID create more convictions, instead of (more likely) just coasting along the same persistent social denial that enables this kinda thing but with an additional layer of obscurity, this would allow rapists to hide what they did under the umbrella term of an assault conviction, and risk subjecting other people to that because they would not know the full extent of what they had done.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 12:53 AM

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I was commenting on the over all paragraph... When Alison turned up for work the next day she was so pale and withdrawn that her workmates were worried. Eventually, one of them managed to find out what was wrong.j

And the idea that the ONLY conclusion for Alison's state was that she'd been raped, before any facts had been established.

But, troll away, and vilify anyone and everyone who dares to even suggest views which don't fall lock step into line w/ how you want folks to react.



I think it's pretty clearly indicated that they ASKED her what was wrong because she was in such a state. And she eventually told them.

So they are not jumping to any conclusions along the lines of "she is distraught, she must have been raped" but reacting to her story.

That you would insist their reaction to her should be immediate suspicion and a need to "establish facts" - why? Why why why is that your first reaction? A person hesitantly reveals a traumatizing event and the first thing necessary is to doubt them?

A distraught coworker tells you a crime - any kind of crime - has been committed against them and the first thing you do is consider whether they are lying? Or is it this particular kind of crime you consider heavily suspect? Or just that you think any victim - outside a court of law! - must never speak up about what happened to them?

If a person told you they were robbed some time in the past and it troubled them, would your first response be "Are you suuuuure this is what happened?"

How about a child tells you they are being abused - "Are you maybe lying?"

If not, why?

To remind you: the circumstances weren't legal proceedings, they were the first instance of a victim voicing what they feel happened to them. You suggest the response should be an immediate dismissal of their credibility.

You may not like it, but that IS misogynist crap.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 5:08 AM

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Okay, for a fact, my FIRST response was revulsion that something this goddamn ignorant and stupid would even exist, followed by eyeroll, facepalm and going off somewhere else cause this level of pure dumbassery is unworthy of my attention, but since discussion ensued, and for the life of me I have no idea why, my two penniesworth then.

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We need a Stand Your Vagina law. You try messing with a woman's privates, you will get hurt and possibly dead and the law won't be coming after her for it. That would solve the problem.

Amen, Halleloooyah.
I am ALL FOR the use of lethal force to defend oneself against this crime, because the consequences, such as pregnancy, pregnancy+complications, abortion, possible death, or STD infection up to and maybe including HIV which makes death a WHEN, not an IF...

HELL FUCKING YES, a woman should have *absolute* right to use lethal force to defend herself from violation - once the perp has evidenced or vocalized intent to violate, shoot his ass dead on the spot... and were it me, I'd give em a damn medal, not a prison sentence!

Oh, and that goes for us boys too - some asshole is in the process of attempting to violate and does not respond to being called down (this especially in the case of a drunk/unconscious potentive victim), you BLOW HIS ASS AWAY, right there.
Same standard applies - no attribution of crime to the defender.


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How about a child tells you they are being abused - "Are you maybe lying?"

Hooo, can of worms there - not for you, AgentR, cause like me, yer calling bullshit ON that kind of dismissal, but dear me oh my the shit a CHILD has to go through is often EVEN WORSE, up to and including 9+ hour interrogations with being screamed at and threatened the whole time, how is that not, itself a form of abuse ?
And no, what they do to rape victims isn't much freakin better...

As I told someone else this week, I've held the hands of victims of sexual assault while they were wheeled into emergency surgery, and flat told em this is no different than the gunshot wound of an attempted murder being attended to, and that someone would even do just that fucking little, when often their own goddamn family won't due to victim blaming-shaming, and it being a male person as well, can have an immensely profound effect on their psychological recovery.


I've no patience for abuser enabling excuses and bullshit like the original article, and I have some serious questions about who and why would have shuffled it through the mainstream media now given the original sources.

I've even less for anyone trying to justify it, and zero plans to be any kind of even pretend reasonable about it, especially to fuckers like Rappy who have the goddamn nerve to even try shelling the notion of them not being completely misogynistic given their own comments here, many of which were recorded for posterity at the time.
So tell me Rappy, are you not then, by your own standards a fucking whore for ever using a condom, you giant prick ?

-Frem

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 6:19 AM

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AR - I read it differently than you, it would appear. I saw it as the women " knowing " what had happened, merely from the way she looked, acted. There could be all sorts of reasons a person looks distraught, pale and what not. Yes, being raped would be one of those, I don't deny. But it's not the ONLY reason. I just saw that line as being curious. Obviously, had she TOLD them she'd been attacked, then they'd know. Duh! If that's the case, that line is a complete throw away.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 6:57 AM

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AR - I read it differently than you, it would appear. I saw it as the women " knowing " what had happened, merely from the way she looked, acted. There could be all sorts of reasons a person looks distraught, pale and what not. Yes, being raped would be one of those, I don't deny. But it's not the ONLY reason. I just saw that line as being curious. Obviously, had she TOLD them she'd been attacked, then they'd know. Duh! If that's the case, that line is a complete throw away.



It says clearly in the very lines you quoted that "eventually one of them found out what was wrong". So, yeah, pretty obviously she told them.

The context of your contested line "she had not consented to sex" also clearly implies that she told them the entire thing and they judged the implications of the scenario. No one goes "Oy, she looks distraught, she may not have consented to sex."

This whole sorry conversation could have been avoided if you'd properly read the text. But I'm going to accept that you misread and thus erroneously presented an opinion that in the proper context should be considered horrible.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 12:21 PM

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Originally posted by AURaptor:

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To all the women, it was obvious that Alison had not consented to sex.


Wow. Women DO have magical powers. Amazing.



It's pretty astonishing that out of everything in the article you would zero in on an opportunity to discredit the victim.



Its rappy.

I wouldn't use the word "astonishing." "Sickening" no doubt - but I think "sadly anticipated" is more appropo in this case.




"Goram it kid, let's frak this thing and go home! Engage!"

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 12:35 PM

KPO

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In rappy's defence I read that line and thought it was strange too - but just an example of bad/unclear writing, nothing more.

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 1:05 PM

KPO

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Never heard of girls poking holes in condoms, hmm?

That's not rape...

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Step away from your self-imposed gender guilt for a second

Gender guilt? I think you're mistaking me for someone else. And yes, of course men can be raped - but that's not the same as girls tricking them into pregnancy.

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Ugh, look. Frankly I think HORMONES makes the issue of consent questionable.

Hehe.

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It might not surprise you to know I think Knocked Up is the worst, most unethical and uncomfortable movie ever.

That's interesting, but was a crime committed, in your view? Or, would you want to criminalise that behaviour?

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SHE NEVER FILED CHARGES. OF COURSE THE GUY WOULDN'T GET CONVICTED.

But if she had...? you're avoiding the question.

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With better education, we could make it so defenses like that don't fly anywhere, ever.

Greer is making the point (and I agree with her) that it would be a VALID defence. The guy simply claims that the woman seemed into it to him. She didn't say no (that he heard). She didn't struggle (evidence would back this up). The story is certainly suspicious, but can you say without reasonable doubt that it's not true? So you can talk about education, and attitudes, but you're missing the TRUE reason why the prosecution would struggle to convict this man.

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You don't stop a crime like rape by making it no longer a crime.

No one's suggesting that. The suggestion was to treat it within the bracket of assault crimes.

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this would allow rapists to hide what they did under the umbrella term of an assault conviction, and risk subjecting other people to that because they would not know the full extent of what they had done.

This is a valid point. I don't know if men would be able to hide the precise nature of their assault conviction in some instances. It would be sensible for employers or whoever to ask. (I don't know what the precise legalese would be - perhaps they could still use the word 'rape', as in 'a rape assault charge' or something). But this is much better than the rapist getting away with it completely, which is what currently happens, more often than not.

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 1:49 PM

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That's not rape...


Depends on the country. Setting aside the international incident and politics involved, do you remember Julian Assange? He was with two women who found out about each other, and had him charged with rape on the grounds that he told them he was wearing a condom with them and maybe wasn't. Poking holes in the condom is kind of a similar situation, in that you are consenting to one thing, but not consenting to a risk of pregnancy or STDs.

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And yes, of course men can be raped - but that's not the same as girls tricking them into pregnancy.


See above. It can be. It's all about how you reason it out.

And please, you wouldn't have posted this or the video about feminists in your country otherwise. You have consistently held a more positive impression of women than men in this entire argument and you just now showed you have a different standard for women not consenting to pregnancy versus men.

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That's interesting, but was a crime committed, in your view? Or, would you want to criminalise that behaviour?


The guy probably could have been charged for lying about the condom in some places.

As for the rest - it's reckless and moronic to be that drunk in that situation, and both could cause harm to each other. Including pregnancy, which could have had detrimental effects on them both (and kind of did).

Honestly? The government tends to stay out of the bedroom, and should, for a good reason, but if it did that ENTIRELY then more brutal instances of non-consent would also be untouchable. We do tend to criminalize reckless and harmful behaviour, even if it's performed under the influence of alcohol. Like drunk driving. They're endangering each other, and this might even negatively impact society.

But ultimately the law couldn't really do anything unless one of them wanted to press charges.

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But if she had...? you're avoiding the question.


Then maybe she would have had a chance. Some chance is better than no chance, which is what not reporting it would be. How much of a chance she had, as I have said, depends on where she is and local perspectives.

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Greer is making the point (and I agree with her) that it would be a VALID defence. The guy simply claims that the woman seemed into it to him. She didn't say no (that he heard).


It's not a valid defense, and if Alison told any other person before the night in question about her concerns about the guy and wanting to break it off, the defense would actually be pretty threadbare. Heck, they could even bring in the coworkers after the fact to demonstrate that what happened was something that bothered her, and from there infer that maybe she wasn't really consenting at the time either. Once again, it depends on the jury and the location.

And it also depends on actually reporting it to the police.

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No one's suggesting that. The suggestion was to treat it within the bracket of assault crimes.


It's ultimately the same thing. You change the legal definition of rape to just another kind of assault, you lose the meaning and significance inherent in the term. In a world that doubts what victims have experienced and tries to convince them they're wrong, they're lying, and it never happened, it is incredibly important for a victim to be able to say "I was raped." And for them to be able to say that in a court of law.

If the law then is unconscionable and insensitive in its approach to how it treats a victim of this crime and how it administers justice, that is a reflection of the social values interpreting the law.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 1:50 PM

KPO

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Forgot to reply to this:

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One of my main quibbles:
I don't see her logic as sound. Lighter penalties for rape or sexual assault = lighter burden of proof? In what universe?


That was my first question as well; I don't know if it would/could be possible. But this article was recommended to me by a lawyer.

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She also strongly downplays the specifically sexual consequences of rape: disease and pregnancy being a HUGE worry for many victims. That there are worse things than "unwanted penis in vagina" (or, you know, whatever a female rapist would choose to do) is a given, but brushing off that form of assault as an inflated "phallocentric" preoccupation is just insulting.

I agree.

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I don't see her approach as particularly helpful when the issue of social attitudes that enable rape isn't really addressed.

I think one of the biggest enablers of rape (if not the biggest) is the low conviction rate, and the low reporting rate. It makes men think they can/will get away with it. If many more men can get reported, and convicted, and then be forced to live with that stain (even if sometimes the punishments are not as tough) then this would massively alleviate the problem I feel.

I'm going to do more research into law, and the burden of proof...

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 1:54 PM

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I think one of the biggest enablers of rape (if not the biggest) is the low conviction rate, and the low reporting rate.


They don't rape because they think they can get away with it, they rape because they think they're entitled.

The fact that they do get away with it is secondary to that.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 2:24 PM

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Originally posted by kpo:
I think one of the biggest enablers of rape (if not the biggest) is the low conviction rate, and the low reporting rate. It makes men think they can/will get away with it. If many more men can get reported, and convicted, and then be forced to live with that stain (even if sometimes the punishments are not as tough) then this would massively alleviate the problem I feel.



Or the "lighter burden of proof" will be used as another argument for the "evil women trapping men by making false claims" angle that people love to employ even now.

I don't know. I think the much bigger issue is that in many cases guys don't consider what they are doing to be rape, or have a HUGE advantage in the issue of victim blaming/discrediting. (Which I had thought reared its head in Auraptor's post.) As much as we talk about rape in society, many people are still fuzzy on what it actually is. Most would still jump to stranger danger or put the onus on the victim ("Asking for it.")

As long as guys are taught by society that sex is an expected reward or a sign of masculinity, you'll have cases where the perpetrator will not consider coercive action to be rape but a perfectly justified maneuver against a "selfish bitch" who is withholding what they deserve, and then they'll consider themselves a victim of "manipulative women" if the victim actually does speak up.

I think that issue is far more prevalent than guys going "I sure feel like raping someone, and conviction rates are low. The odds are in my favor!"

I really don't think conviction rates would be half as effective as a guy's buddies going "Yo, leave that drunk girl alone."/"Maybe turning you down DOESN'T mean she's stuck up."/"No, actually you CAN just masturbate if you don't get laid tonight."

If that sort of attitude was prevalent, I think you'd be looking at fewer rapes, because all those learned justifications for coercive behavior wouldn't be accepted anymore. I put my money on education.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 2:25 PM

KPO

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I don't know what goes through a rapist's mind that drives him to rape. I'm saying whatever it is, let's add the fear of getting caught/punished.

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 2:56 PM

KPO

Sometimes you own the libs. Sometimes, the libs own you.


This is interesting, about women filing civil charges rather than criminal charges against their rapist:

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In reality, there are TONS of reasons a rape victim may file civil charges but not criminal ones. For one, the burden of proof is easier in a civil case. In a criminal one, even DNA evidence may not be enough to prove the accused did it “beyond a resonable doubt” if he’s claiming the sex was consensual. But in a civil case, the evidence need only prove that it’s more likely than not that the accused did the crime.

But burden of proof is only one reason among many. I asked the fantastic Jessie Mindlin and Lydia Watts of the Victim Rights Law Center (and my fellow CounterQuo founding members) about this issue, and they said that burden of proof is far from the most common reason victims choose civil suits over criminal ones.

While we don’t know this particular woman’s reasons, here are 10 good reasons Mindlin & Watts see all the time:

1) Different remedies are available in a civil case that cannot get in a criminal case. E.g., as a condition of settlement in a civil case, a victim can ask that the defendant go through mental health counseling, have to give a donation to a rape crisis center, agree not to stay in a hotel without a chaperone, etc. I’m not suggesting the victim in this case wants any of this, but rather that there is lots of room in a civil case to structure a resolution that feels relevant and promotes the victim’s healing. In contrast, at the end of the day, in a criminal case it is the state/the government against the defendant, and the victim is the state’s witness.

2) In a civil case, the victim can address more than just the perpetrator’s behavior. In a civil case, the victim can seek to hold certain third party defendants – e.g., her employer – liable for discriminatory behavior based on the employer’s failure/refusal to believe that she was raped.

3) Depending on the time of crime to be charged, the victim may be able to resolve civil case more speedily than criminal case. This issue is especially important for lower income victims (who, as we know, perpetrators often prey on because they are likely to be more vulnerable in various regards).

4) Different rules of evidence apply. E.g., In a criminal case the defendant can plead the 5th. If s/he pleads the 5th in a civil case, the jury is allowed to interpret the defendant’s refusal to testify against him or her.

5) Some defendants are more concerned about a criminal conviction than they are about civil settlement, and so may be more willing to admit wrongdoing (or settle case and agree to various conditions w/out admitting wrongdoing).

6) One gets to take depositions of the other side in a civil case, which can be a good vehicle for getting perpetrator to commit to certain facts. The defendant doesn’t ever have to take the stand in a criminal case, and certainly does not have to agree to be interviewed by lawyer on the other side (i.e.,the prosecutor).

7) In a civil case, the victim is a party to the case. The case is captioned VICTIM’S NAME v. ASSAILANT’S NAME. That is more than a figurative difference… when a party to the case, the victim has control over the direction and strategy of the case. Whether to proceed with some motion or action, what to ask for in terms of remedies, whether to settle, which witnesses to call, etc. are all decisions a party to a case gets to make, and the attorney representing that person/party has an ethical obligation to confer with and follow the desires of the client (as long as the desires/directives are legal). In a criminal case, it is STATE OF XXX (Or US in federal case and in DC) V. ASSAILANT. That shows the fact that the prosecutor literally represents the interests of the state/government to “right the wrong” created by the criminal act… that means jail or probation/parole as the way to right the wrong. Though there is often restitution allowed (and often others sorts of things CAN be ordered as conditions of release and/or as part of the sentence), that is not the main focus of the criminal case. In addition, the prosecutor DOES NOT represent the victim and so has a different set of ethical obligations that DO NOT include conferring with or doing what the victim thinks is best/wants.

8 ) Many victims have mixed feelings about employing a process that could send someone to jail, particularly if there is some pre-existing relationship, or the assailant is a person of color (many communities of color, rightfully indignant about the over-representation of men of color within the penal system in the US, do not want to be a party to that system).

9) The idea of civil suits is, in part, to “make whole” the person who is suing. Jail does nothing to rectify the harm inflicted on the victim. Certainly, in our society, money is one way to make a person whole – if I have to quit my job due to the trauma following a rape, I certainly have an identifiable dollar amount that I am out directly attributable to the rape, plus counseling expenses, plus loss of ability to earn in the future (maybe), then we get into punitive damages.

10) Some constitutional protections to criminal defendants, such as right to counsel, do not apply in a civil case. This means a criminal defendant will get an attorney, and if s/he cannot afford one, one will be appointed. This can be very daunting, particularly for an unrepresented victim (which is the case for the vast majority of victims in criminal cases, since the prosecutor does not represent the victim), who has no attorney and no actual (though prosecutors do more and more confer with victims, but are not required to) voice in the criminal proceeding.



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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 2:57 PM

BYTEMITE


Nope. Conviction rate or severity of sentencing does not necessarily result in a reduced rate of crime. That argument presupposes that most criminals actually consider the legality of their actions and the punishment before they commit a crime. Which, they don't.

Now police for all they're pretty terrible in most modern nations actually do have a relationship with the reduction of crime rate, but this is because they remove criminals actively committing crime from the streets rather than prevent new criminals from developing.

https://www.ncjrs.gov/App/Publications/abstract.aspx?ID=59764

I just grabbed the first abstract I found, but there are a lot of papers out there wondering why conviction rates and severity doesn't have much effect on crime rate, you can also try googling deterence.

Civil suits is an interesting argument, but one which already occurs and tends to occur when criminal justice systems have failed. It's a plan B. You can make the criminal justice system work, but you do that by changing the mindsets that enable rape and enable rapists to get away with it, not by loosening the law and making it a lesser offense. And certainly not for the reasons given in the initial article.

Now, personally, as an anarchist, I actually don't like the concept of incarceration. If civil suits could prevent revenge repeats of more serious and violent transgressions, which the defendant has already shown their tendency for, there could perhaps be an argument made for civil law in place of criminal law in all cases.

But relegating rape down to something lesser or easier to handle relative to other potential damaging or socially unacceptable activities diminishes the idea of rape relative to the other wrongs. The idea that rape might only be a civil offense where assault and theft would be a criminal offense is problematic.

To have them all be criminal but to compare rape only to assault is also a problem. Severe enough cases of assault can have long term psychological ramifications, but rape is often something else again, exacerbating deepseated fears and vulnerabilities. And we can't exactly have a system of justice that considers primarily how affected and damaged the person was before it considers the crime, as reaction to trauma varies from person to person. There's also an upper limit - a person can't get any "more" murdered, or any "more" raped. As such, at some point we must conclude that certain crimes have an inherent gravity to them.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 6:14 PM

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Originally posted by kpo:
I'm beginning to think that rape is inherently hard to prosecute (not the kind where a man stalks a woman walking home late at night, and rapes her at knife-point - the rarer kind), because it's often not a case of whether sex took place, which science can establish, but whether that sex was consensual - which often comes down to the man's word against the woman's. If you're on the jury how can you justifiably convict the man in such a case? Isn't there often some, reasonable doubt? And even more so, when the woman was drunk? Can she remember if she gave consent or not, etc... Too often it seems, there is plausible deniability in rape cases.



The Illustrated Guide to Criminal Law has covered some of this, starting here:

http://lawcomic.net/guide/?p=1228


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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 6:31 PM

BYTEMITE


Wow! I knew a lot of that but some things I was less clear on. Thanks Geezer!

Now we have to determine whether commonwealth law is similar, but generally speaking, I think since Germaine Greer wrote this Modest Proposal, things have kinda changed a LOT.

Except in the military. Which is somewhat backwards on gender issues. :/

Sorry military-fan fireflyfans, but it's true. *shrug*

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 7:42 PM

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A clear indication of the problem:

A grown man shoots a minor and all he has to do is claim that he felt "threatened," even though he clearly made the decision to go after that child, gun in hand. A certain set of people rise up and say he was A-OK to murder the minor.

A woman claims to have not only been threatened but to have been brutally attacked, and that same set of people will immediately doubt her story, and even after seeing photographs they will deny it and defend the attackers. (Steubenville)

It is in our culture that the right of a woman to not be raped doesn't exist. Look at how college campuses respond to rape: talk the woman out of her claims until she breaks down, at which point they force her into the psychiatric ward while her rapist graduates in glory. (Google "ivy league rape" and you'll get plenty of stories.) High school girls are raped by football players: the football players remain hometown heroes while the girls are bullied and driven out of town. (Daisy Coleman)

And let's not even start with the military.

The problem with the OP article is that that woman raped by her ex should have been raised and trained from a young age to KNOW that her body is hers, that no man has the right, that what HE was the sick one. If she couldn't fight him off she have been at the hospital and the police station immediately after, telling her story over and over in a loud voice with no doubts and no shame. She should have shouted it from every rooftop that that sick fucker raped her, and even if he wasn't found guilty he was a sick fucker, not her.

But that's not how it is.

I swear, I would not disagree if 100 rape victims went out tonight, hunted down their rapist, and cut his dick off. Or any other body part. If I was in that position, I'd do it, and I'd spend the rest of my life in jail if I had to knowing that I'd done the right thing. The culture has to change, and a big damned shock is the only way to do it.

By which I mean: I don't think legal consequences will change much, but the power of women to look their attacker in the eye and let him know what he really is, and then if necessary to walk into the police station and tell it like it really happened, would make a huge difference. We shouldn't have a lifetime of training that shames us into doubting ourselves.

And yes, to pile on, I'm talking about stupid little crap like the stuff Rap posts. Perfect example of the WRONG mindset.

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 11:05 PM

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Quote:

Originally posted by AgentRouka:
I really don't think conviction rates would be half as effective as a guy's buddies going "Yo, leave that drunk girl alone."/"Maybe turning you down DOESN'T mean she's stuck up."/"No, actually you CAN just masturbate if you don't get laid tonight."

If that sort of attitude was prevalent, I think you'd be looking at fewer rapes, because all those learned justifications for coercive behavior wouldn't be accepted anymore. I put my money on education.


Yanno, this is a huge pet peeve about the matter with me too - why does society always put it all on the girls, don't us guys have a responsibility here as well ?

I've decked people over this, dragged passed out girls to their hotel rooms and locked em in at conventions, called down pushy college punks, even performed a couple evacs for girls concerned that a party was turning ugly - I figure it for ones responsibility as a human being, gender be damned.

And Mal4 makes good point about social values, as in large part due to my attitude about it and willingness to resort to violence over it made me something of a pariah among certain communities, not that it bothered me any cause folks who cannot respect the rights of other disgust me anyways.

But seriously, where's the guys willing to stand up ?
Yea verily, I know stepping forward in such discussions tends to make a guy a flamebait target, taking all amount of shit THEY ain't guilty for, which is unfair, but maybe understandable, though I make issue of pointing out *I* didn't do jack diddly to em so maybe get off MY back about it... in that way some womens rights groups are their own worst enemy, cause this discourages the guys from standing up, not that I'd accept that as an excuse, mind you.

Anyways, it only really takes one guy to be there, stand up, and call this bullshit down when they see it happening, and if you don't see one...
Maybe ya oughta BE one.

-Frem

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Tuesday, November 19, 2013 11:24 PM

GEEZER

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Quote:

Originally posted by FREMDFIRMA:
Anyways, it only really takes one guy to be there, stand up, and call this bullshit down when they see it happening, and if you don't see one...
Maybe ya oughta BE one.

-Frem



Unfortunately, I can see some varities of feminist calling this demeaning, since women shouldn't need men to protect them.

On the other hand, I imagine that some women would find themselves looking favorably on such a stand-up guy. Maybe this is a concept that should be promoted.


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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 7:32 AM

KPO

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Quote:

Originally posted by Geezer:
Quote:

Originally posted by kpo:
I'm beginning to think that rape is inherently hard to prosecute (not the kind where a man stalks a woman walking home late at night, and rapes her at knife-point - the rarer kind), because it's often not a case of whether sex took place, which science can establish, but whether that sex was consensual - which often comes down to the man's word against the woman's. If you're on the jury how can you justifiably convict the man in such a case? Isn't there often some, reasonable doubt? And even more so, when the woman was drunk? Can she remember if she gave consent or not, etc... Too often it seems, there is plausible deniability in rape cases.



The Illustrated Guide to Criminal Law has covered some of this, starting here:

http://lawcomic.net/guide/?p=1228


"When your heart breaks, you choose what to fill the cracks with. Love or hate. But hate won't ever heal. Only love can do that."



That was interesting, but not completely clear on the issue of drunken rape. Jeff was found guilty because "You knew she was too drunk to know what she was doing." Which seems like a reasonable standard. But the comic didn't really make it clear that that was the case - Stickie was just sat on his lap, and said, "Okay."

A couple of further points on this:

1) I still don't think it's easy to convict Jeff by this standard. I guess it would rely on witness statements from people at the bar saying how drunk Stickie and he were respectively (if he was drunk too can he still be guilty/proved guilty?)

2) What about the 'Knocked Up' situation where the drunken woman initiates the sex (if I remember that movie right?). Has the woman given consent there? If so, can't Jeff just claim that that's what happened?

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 8:23 AM

BYTEMITE


If both are drunk, like I said, it depends on if one presses charges and who appeals most to the jury, which is going vary by region.

Doesn't matter if one of them initated. Too drunk is too drunk, non-consent is assumed because the alcohol is impairing judgment. Which is why if you think your partner is drunk you should not start anything or let them start anything.

So no, Jeff can't just claim she gave consent. It's a lot more complicated than that.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 9:19 AM

KPO

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Quote:

Doesn't matter if one of them initated. Too drunk is too drunk, non-consent is assumed because the alcohol is impairing judgment.

What is 'too drunk'? The comic said that Jeff knew she was too drunk to know what she was doing. If someone initiates it seems to me they know what they are doing. having your judgment impaired is not the same as knowing what you are doing.

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If both are drunk, like I said, it depends on if one presses charges and who appeals most to the jury

Forget about jurors' biases. I'm interested in what the verdict should be. If you were juror on a case where the woman claimed that she was raped according to the 'Rape 2' scenario, but the man denied it, and said it happened differently, with no other evidence could YOU say he was guilty beyond reasonable doubt, and convict him?

Also, if Jeff is also heavily drunk, can we convict him on the basis that HE KNEW Stickie was too drunk to consent (or vice versa)? In other words, if they're both too drunk to consent, can they both be guilty of rape, since rape is something done knowingly (as defined by the comic)?

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 10:58 AM

BYTEMITE


Quote:

. If someone initiates it seems to me they know what they are doing.


First of all, alcohol lowers inhibitions and affects judgment, so things a person agrees to under the influence might not be things they agree to when they're in sound mind. Consent or lack thereof is decided by a baseline assumption of what they would agree to when they were not affected, and the default is non-consent.

And then there's REALLY drunk.

You ever seen someone wake up after a dream, maybe about their girlfriend, and they're still slow, and they start kissing someone next to them? Only it turns out it was their other friend they're bunked up with? Another GUY?

Sometimes, people who are confused or in a fog react to stimulus and situations without thinking or making a conscious choice. It's up to the other party to be aware enough to figure out which is which. Anything else is absolutely goddamned taking advantage, and I don't stand for these kinds of excuses.

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having your judgment impaired is not the same as knowing what you are doing.



IT IS THE SAME DAMNED THING! You think that someone who is DRIVING DRUNK knows that they're doing?

How about if they're so drunk they pass out after they "initiate?" Oh I guess they "initiated," that makes it okay then!

IF YOU ARE INTOXICATED, IF YOU ARE ASLEEP, IF YOU ARE IN A MENTAL FUGUE STATE, YOU CANNOT CONSENT. PERIOD. NO EXCEPTIONS. You can even have a 0.0 on a blood alcohol test and STILL BE INTOXICATED enough for this rule to apply.

Stickie McStickfigure can have gone to a bar and have merely a SIP of alcohol before she meets good ol' Jeff and goes up to his room and kisses him and then things got out of hand. If the next day she thinks "oh no, I don't think I was thinking straight" THEN THAT IS A RED FLAG. That could be sufficient to prompt a criminal investigation on the matter.

Quote:

can they both be guilty of rape, since rape is something done knowingly (as defined by the comic)?


If you actually think any of the situations you just described constitute actual consent, and you acted on that, you'd be as guilty of rape as the guy who lied and said he thought Alison's silence was consent. Ignorance of the law is not an excuse.

Because ultimately, you really should KNOW BETTER.

And this is the point where I start to wonder if you aren't trolling us. There is no possible way that you CAN'T know this already. Someone, at some point in your life, had to pull you aside and say, "Son, don't molest drunk girls, even if it seems like they're giggling about it. They're drunk. They always giggle."

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 1:20 PM

AGENTROUKA


I think when it comes to alcohol - and birth control - guys should really take a more defensive position.

If the girl is intoxicated, you as a guy are always safer saying no.

If you don't 100 % trust the woman you are sleeping with, you as a guy are safer saying no, or insisting on a condom.

It's not that difficult a concept. Because, if you turn it around, and the guy has sufficiently impaired judgment and feels he was taken advantage of in terms of having had sex with a woman without his true consent (i.e. being raped), he too should have a right to press charges in that regard.

This would really be much simpler if the default value wasn't that the guy should be having sex, as opposed to saying no if conditions aren't ideal.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 1:32 PM

KPO

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How about if they're so drunk they pass out after they "initiate?" Oh I guess they "initiated," that makes it okay then!

I would say consent lasts only for as long as the person is awake. People can (conceivably) be tired and initiate sex and fall asleep - same thing.

Quote:

Stickie McStickfigure can have gone to a bar and have merely a SIP of alcohol before she meets good ol' Jeff and goes up to his room and kisses him and then things got out of hand. If the next day she thinks "oh no, I don't think I was thinking straight" THEN THAT IS A RED FLAG. That could be sufficient to prompt a criminal investigation on the matter.

Have you much (any?) experience of drinking alcohol? Nothing wrong if you haven't, but it sounds like you don't.

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And this is the point where I start to wonder if you aren't trolling us. There is no possible way that you CAN'T know this already. Someone, at some point in your life, had to pull you aside and say, "Son, don't molest drunk girls, even if it seems like they're giggling about it

Of course nobody's told me any such thing, because I have no interest in molesting drunk girls and nobody's had to. But laws against bad behaviour have to be crafted carefully so that they don't penalise INNOCENT, non-immoral behaviour. At the moment you're saying anyone who meets someone in a bar and sleeps with them is committing rape, if any alcohol at all was involved. Or even a romantic dinner where wine was involved - rape! You're talking about wielding the full force of the law (a rape charge) upon very common, very popular human behaviour.

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 1:45 PM

BYTEMITE


Quote:

Have you much (any?) experience of drinking alcohol? Nothing wrong if you haven't, but it sounds like you don't.


Not that it's even relevant, but no, I don't drink because it makes people face-palm stupid. Also alcohol tastes like formaldehyde.

Even so, I have read enough about alcohol and seen the results to know that some people are lightweights, and they tend to be smaller people. There are also people who have a genetic sensitivity to the effects of alcohol. So it varies person to person, but a sip CAN be sufficient to get someone drunk enough that their judgement could be questioned.

And ultimately, that's not even getting into the fact that marijuana and other drugs can be legally considered a form of intoxication, without having a positive return from a blood alcohol test.

Quote:

You're talking about wielding the full force of the law (a rape charge) upon very common, very popular human behaviour.



It can only be investigated and charged if it's reported. And since law enforcement for this kind of thing is dependent upon being reported and the perception of wrong-doing, it's important for the law to be fairly inclusive instead of exclusive.

Not-so-innocent people who think they can get someone drunk and take advantage - haha because it's normal, everyone does that so it's okay! - will be fine right until the point that whoever they took advantage of takes issue with it. Maybe in the case where two people are drinking wine for dinner, neither one has a problem with what happened (despite a somewhat uncomfortable truth about the reality of the situation), and it never gets reported.

Seems like the law works.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 3:47 PM

AGENTROUKA


Quote:

Originally posted by kpo:
But laws against bad behaviour have to be crafted carefully so that they don't penalise INNOCENT, non-immoral behaviour. At the moment you're saying anyone who meets someone in a bar and sleeps with them is committing rape, if any alcohol at all was involved. Or even a romantic dinner where wine was involved - rape! You're talking about wielding the full force of the law (a rape charge) upon very common, very popular human behaviour.



I think Byte did a very good job of pointing out that it's innocent unless it's not and someone reports it.

The key is to be very conscious of who you sleep with and whether there's potential for regrets afterwards. If your partner is sporting impaired judgment and you're not 100% sure that you can trust they won't feel violated in the morning: just say no.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 4:24 PM

KPO

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Even so, I have read enough about alcohol and seen the results to know that...

I would suggest that you've misunderstood the mechanism of how alcohol works. It doesn't make people lose their mind, like some kind of hallucinogenic drug. It lowers inhibitions, making people respond to their own urges, that they previously had under tight control. If a girl makes a move on a guy after a few drinks (or vice versa), and it leads to sex, that's down to her own urges (and maybe beer goggles as well).

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It can only be investigated and charged if it's reported.

Ok so you're not interested in charging people for all the intoxicated sex out there, just in labelling them all as rapists, and rape-ees.

Quote:

it's important for the law to be fairly inclusive instead of exclusive.

Better for 100 innocent men to be called rapists according to the law, than for one guilty man to go free?

It's not personal. It's just war.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 4:45 PM

BYTEMITE


Quote:

I would suggest that you've misunderstood the mechanism of how alcohol works. It doesn't make people lose their mind, like some kind of hallucinogenic drug. It lowers inhibitions making people respond to their own urges , that they previously had under tight control. If a girl makes a move on a guy after a few drinks (or vice versa), and it leads to sex, that's down to her own urges (and maybe beer goggles as well).


Uh, NO.

Alcohol is an organic compound and a drug, of the type that is called a DEPRESSANT. It makes the neurons fire more slowly and disrupts connections between neurons. People's inhibitions are lowered because at the time they are less able to comprehend the consequences of their actions. If they drink too much alcohol, their neurons fire so slowly that they can no longer maintain basic respiratory function. It also doesn't help that it is a TOXIN.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depressant

You're really not winning any points for your argument here or making yourself sound well informed.

Quote:


Ok so you're not interested in charging people for all the intoxicated sex out there, just in labelling them all as rapists, and rape-ees.



In my opinion I would also include people operating under the influence of HORMONES, as I said, but my personal opinion as an asexual about these activities in general is not the issue here. The way the law works is. In the eyes of the law, the only rapists around are the ones who are reported, and they may be either convicted or acquitted, rightly or wrongly.

Weren't you just arguing about how conviction rates are too LOW? And I had to point out to you that your proposal to fix the problem would result in more false positives as well as less justice for victims and easier ability for rapists to conceal their crimes?

Are you just blindly flailing against the law as is in general now and no longer even have a point?


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Wednesday, November 20, 2013 4:52 PM

AGENTROUKA


Quote:

Originally posted by kpo:
It lowers inhibitions, making people respond to their own urges, that they previously had under tight control. If a girl makes a move on a guy after a few drinks (or vice versa), and it leads to sex, that's down to her own urges (and maybe beer goggles as well).



But isn't that exactly why it's called impaired judgment? The fact that without inhibitions, in the moment of intoxication, a person forgets their sound reasons for not wanting to do something that they definitely wouldn't do sober? Isn't that why it's called "taking advantage"?

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