In the garden, and RAIN!!! (2)
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Sending wishes to the universe that your car and your g'ma are ok, SIX! And *hugs* to you.
Thanks! Car was great. Considering the circumstances, so was grams.
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It's so stressful when someone you care about is in hospital. But even when they're only semi-conscious and seem unaware, they can hear you. Having been yanked from familiar surroundings into an alien world can be very disorienting and agitating, but even tho they may not know where they are or even who they are, a familiar voice, face, and touch can be very reassuring and allow them to relax and heal. If your g'ma thrashes around, tries to yank out tubes or pull out leads or climb out of bed, tell her that you're there. Place a reassuring hand on her arm, if she's used to you touching her, and tell her that you'll take care of her. Ask her what she needs. If she needs changing, call the aide. If she needs water, and water is allowed, give her sips of water (with a straw!) if she's in serious distress - trouble breathing, etc - don't use the call button. Boogie on over to the nurses' station and get help Hospital staff is busy, having you there to attend to her helps her AND them. Be assured, you just being there will help. Iven been on both sides of that equation, and I know. And she too will know someone is in her corner.
My grandma is one tough son of a bitch.
That first evening there she was laying in bed and obviously weak, but she knew where she was and why she was there. No changing necessary the whole time. She was still breathing a little heavy that first night, but when I talked to the lung doctor the next morning it was obvious why.... She's REALLY been through some shit. They drained 1,700ml of fluid from around the lung with spots. And there's still 200 more in there. It sounds like they're going to have to drain her two more times. Test results aren't in yet, but the lung doctor pulled me aside after I was asking questions and basically told me "it's cancer until it's not cancer". I'm not buying it until it happens.
I spent most of yesterday with her so my aunt could go back to work, and most of the morning today until after my dad made it and visited. He's the one who asks all the right questions, especially insurance related, so it was good to finally have him there to tag me out.
Last night when I came she actually reached out of the chair to give me a hug, which was the first time she did that, and this morning they had her off of the oxygen for an hour with no problems. They put her through some exercises both with and without oxygen and her results were good enough to not need to send her home with oxygen.
She might be coming home tonight.
I had to come back to refill on some stuff and to get a break. I think I'm going to sleep at my house tonight, maybe start some work I was going to do at my friend's place tomorrow morning even if I can't finish it, and maybe go back and stay over tomorrow night and help ease both her and my aunt back into whatever situation is going to be "normal", at least until she gets some exercise and hopefully gets back to where she was a few months ago before she had almost half a gallon of fluid around her lungs.
I've got some obligations during the week, but hopefully I can get back over there by Thursday to help out and hopefully get her started on her new exercise routine that I got her to promise she was going to start not just for her sake, but for everyone else's too.
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But from YOUR POV, when the hospital staff talks to you ... they might not do this at night but if they take her for tests ... ask them what tests. Ask them what meds she is on, and TAKE NOTES. Ask them to spell it out if need be. Many of my family worked in hospitals- RN, EKG tech/stat lab tech, ER doctor ... I know the lingo. I'm oriented t
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I'm glad you have a positive attitude, SIX. Altho everyone needs to plan for contingencies, IMHO there's no good borrowing trouble from the future... it'll come in its own good time anyway, and worrying about it doesn't help.
I hope your g'ma gets to go home soon. Hospitals are dangerous places to be!
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I'm glad you are staying positive too SIX.
Thinking good thoughts for your grandmother that they have all her problems sorted out.
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Well, I got back from my walk on a bright sunny day.
I did the dishes and cleaned out the kitchen sink then I sat down in front of my computer and finished retyping out the last chapter of my book.
Over the weekend I should be able to email to this lady that I know and she will read it and then help me draft a proposal.
I will be paying for all that typing over the next bit. My fingers on my right hand are sore. I just gave them a couple of good bends. Ow.
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Dad called and told me that they got her back home. She was able to get up the 8 steps without a problem and she even was able to get up and go to the bathroom by herself. While everybody else kind of spent the week thinking that this was the end, I was being positive that she'd be back on her feet and doing what she did before. But I was hoping that she'd be doing this in a week or two after getting back home. Not the night she came back.
I talked to her on the phone and she sounded great. Better than she's sounded in a long time... not just the last few weeks. She remembered that I was there at the hospital all that time and thanked me and said I was a good grandson.
She even remembered the movies that I got for us to watch. I told her as soon as my obligations are done next week I'm coming out to stay for a few nights to celebrate her birthday and to watch them.
If the tests come back negative on Monday we're in good shape!
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My aunt is going to sleep on the floor in her bedroom the next two nights until she feels comfortable being upstairs with her downstairs all night. But she did say that she's had her go to the bathroom twice so far and watched her without giving her any assistance and she was able to manage the whole thing on her own.
She told my grandma that today was her day of rest and tomorrow they start doing exercise. I told her that she should incorporate the egg timer I brought over to try to burn it into her brain so she'd remember to use it during the day when my aunt is at work.
And I was able to go out shopping for the sales again and just got about $120 worth of stuff for $14.
It's been a good day.
Hope your fingers feel better Brenda and that all the hard work pays off.
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A little heat from a hot water bottle and they seem better SIX. I did that while I watched M*A*S*H.
I hope so too.
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Found some rebates I missed. I'll be going back.
I've actually got to do some measurements in my porch. I was going to buy crown molding for the ceiling to hide the shoddy ceiling tile job they did originally, but I actually found some low profile oak casings that might do the trick, and they're on clearance for only 2 bucks each. 8 of them would do the trick if they will cover the worst spots, and I think it would be a unique way to case out the top. Instead of traditional crown molding it would look like the ceiling was encased in a picture frame.
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Originally posted by Brenda:
A little heat from a hot water bottle and they seem better SIX. I did that while I watched M*A*S*H.
I hope so too.
Nice!
I'll be doing some rough stuff this week. I'll let you know if I destroy my back again.
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Originally posted by Brenda:
A little heat from a hot water bottle and they seem better SIX. I did that while I watched M*A*S*H.
I hope so too.
Nice!
I'll be doing some rough stuff this week. I'll let you know if I destroy my back again.
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Be careful SIX. My trashed shoulder is still on the mend and I have to watch or I will pull it out again.
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Out for my walk in a bit on a cloudy day.
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Quote:How many chapters in your book, BRENDA? Or,another way ... how many pages? It seems like alot to typing.
Originally posted by Brenda:
Well, I got back from my walk on a bright sunny day.
I did the dishes and cleaned out the kitchen sink then I sat down in front of my computer and finished retyping out the last chapter of my book.
Over the weekend I should be able to email to this lady that I know and she will read it and then help me draft a proposal.
I will be paying for all that typing over the next bit. My fingers on my right hand are sore. I just gave them a couple of good bends. Ow.
I have no idea how to submit a book. Altho sis used to be a technical editor that's an entirely different thing. Are there requirements like ... double spacing (for editors marks)? Or that the old-fashioned way?
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Quote:Semms like you did a lot more than pull your sholuder, BRENDA. It sounds like a dislocation. That's a serious injury!
Originally posted by Brenda:Quote:
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:
A little heat from a hot water bottle and they seem better SIX. I did that while I watched M*A*S*H.
I hope so too.
Nice!
I'll be doing some rough stuff this week. I'll let you know if I destroy my back again.
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Growing up in a Republic was nice... Shame we couldn't keep it.
Be careful SIX. My trashed shoulder is still on the mend and I have to watch or I will pull it out again.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
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Quote:Great news about your g'ma SIX! Do you suppose her memory problems and fatigue were just due to poor oxygenation?
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
My aunt is going to sleep on the floor in her bedroom the next two nights until she feels comfortable being upstairs with her downstairs all night. But she did say that she's had her go to the bathroom twice so far and watched her without giving her any assistance and she was able to manage the whole thing on her own.
She told my grandma that today was her day of rest and tomorrow they start doing exercise. I told her that she should incorporate the egg timer I brought over to try to burn it into her brain so she'd remember to use it during the day when my aunt is at work.
And I was able to go out shopping for the sales again and just got about $120 worth of stuff for $14.
It's been a good day.
Hope your fingers feel better Brenda and that all the hard work pays off.
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Keeping positive thoughts!
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:How many chapters in your book, BRENDA? Or,another way ... how many pages? It seems like alot to typing.
Originally posted by Brenda:
Well, I got back from my walk on a bright sunny day.
I did the dishes and cleaned out the kitchen sink then I sat down in front of my computer and finished retyping out the last chapter of my book.
Over the weekend I should be able to email to this lady that I know and she will read it and then help me draft a proposal.
I will be paying for all that typing over the next bit. My fingers on my right hand are sore. I just gave them a couple of good bends. Ow.
I have no idea how to submit a book. Altho sis used to be a technical editor that's an entirely different thing. Are there requirements like ... double spacing (for editors marks)? Or that the old-fashioned way?
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
There are 31Chapters and it also includes a Prologue. It came out to 199pages on this computer. It was a lot. When I picked up typing it again, I was on Ch.18.
There is double spacing between chapter headings and the start of that chapter. Then there is double spacing when you change certain points of view. Indentations too for paragraphs and dialogue for characters. Lots of things.
The editor I used gave it back to me the first time with red marks all over it for punctuation and like I mentioned indentations for paragraphs and dialogue as well as spacing. Once I redid it all those corrections she just had one suggestion. Moving a certain scene into a prologue. Which I did.
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Back from my walk on a dry day and the sun is coming out now. Got the dishes done and sent my finished manuscript off to the lady who is going to help me write a proposal. Had to figure out how to do an attachment again. *L*
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:Great news about your g'ma SIX! Do you suppose her memory problems and fatigue were just due to poor oxygenation?
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
My aunt is going to sleep on the floor in her bedroom the next two nights until she feels comfortable being upstairs with her downstairs all night. But she did say that she's had her go to the bathroom twice so far and watched her without giving her any assistance and she was able to manage the whole thing on her own.
She told my grandma that today was her day of rest and tomorrow they start doing exercise. I told her that she should incorporate the egg timer I brought over to try to burn it into her brain so she'd remember to use it during the day when my aunt is at work.
And I was able to go out shopping for the sales again and just got about $120 worth of stuff for $14.
It's been a good day.
Hope your fingers feel better Brenda and that all the hard work pays off.
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Growing up in a Republic was nice... Shame we couldn't keep it.
Keeping positive thoughts!
I'm hoping they were.
Her memory still isn't good yet, but I'm surprised at her remembering anything that recently happened. That could just be a byproduct of the hyper-stimulation she's had in the last week too with people being around her all day long instead of sitting in front of the TV all day. But it had gotten so bad that she didn't remember anything new after 5 minutes had passed before. The 2nd day I was there she had asked me if my aunt came to visit yet, and my aunt had been the one to stay with her the majority of the first two days she was in there. I didn't tell my aunt she asked that.
I'm sure the fatigue was caused by the poor oxygenation.
We'll have to see if she keeps progressing positively. She still gets winded easily right now, and she just barely passed the tests that kept her from going home with oxygen. But like I said, if you saw her the first day I was there compared to the third day the progress was excellent. I honestly didn't expect her to be able to go to the bathroom on her own for at least another week.
I've got to call my aunt soon and see if she got her to do any exercise today. I haven't gotten a call from her in about 6 hours which has to be a good thing.
Cancer test results should be in on Monday.
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After taking too many days of, I finally got the motivation to do some yardwork and limb up an oak tree and trim the shiny-leaf mahonias (or whatever the heck they are. They were sold to me as mahonia repens and then grew about 6' taller than they should!)
Shiny leaf mahonia
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
I've got to call my aunt soon and see if she got her to do any exercise today. I haven't gotten a call from her in about 6 hours which has to be a good thing.
She didn't get grandma to do any exercises other than just walking around to do her normal stuff because she is getting winded just doing that right now. But she IS able to do it, which is the important thing for now. My aunt said that without asking for help she had gone into the bedroom and changed from her night gown into her clothes on her own, including her pants. My grandma is a fairly large woman, so at 90 years old in 3 days and after what she just went through, I'd say that's a borderline miracle less than one day out of the hospital... even if she was winded doing it.
One thing I neglected to mention the last two days in the hospital because I'm trying to remain positive is that she had an "episode" the last two days she was in there. I was there the first time it happened. I'd come back in from the LONG walk back and forth to have a smoke and she was hunched over in pain and complaining she couldn't breathe while reaching for the call button. I slammed that button and went out and yelled for help. The oxygen tubes had fallen out and were down her hospital gown. The nurse put the tube back in and hooked her up to the monitoring machine. Oxygen absorbtion was at 87% at first, but went up to 95% quickly. She had a pain low, in between her shoulder blades. I massaged her back and she said the pain was gone by the time they gave her some tylonol. I let her take that anyhow, but had it been codine or anything hard I would have refused it.
But then she was great the rest of the day. It was that night when I came back when she was reaching out of the chair for a hug.
After I left yesterday, the same thing happened while my Dad was there. This time, the oxygen was still in her nose though, and when they did the monitoring there wasn't any problems and her vitals were fine.
So I'm thinking this was just maybe a muscle spasm or something causing pain. They still released her without oxygen despite all this.
They gave her an over the counter pain patch and my aunt got her more at the drug store. Thankfully this event didn't occur today, so hopefully once we get her doing some workouts and out of that chair all day long this won't happen anymore and we won't need those patches.
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After taking too many days of, I finally got the motivation to do some yardwork and limb up an oak tree and trim the shiny-leaf mahonias (or whatever the heck they are. They were sold to me as mahonia repens and then grew about 6' taller than they should!)
Shiny leaf mahonia
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They're pretty.
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:Semms like you did a lot more than pull your sholuder, BRENDA. It sounds like a dislocation. That's a serious injury!
Originally posted by Brenda:Quote:
Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:Quote:
Originally posted by Brenda:
A little heat from a hot water bottle and they seem better SIX. I did that while I watched M*A*S*H.
I hope so too.
Nice!
I'll be doing some rough stuff this week. I'll let you know if I destroy my back again.
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Growing up in a Republic was nice... Shame we couldn't keep it.
Be careful SIX. My trashed shoulder is still on the mend and I have to watch or I will pull it out again.
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My new doc ordered an x-ray and nothing unusual showed up on it.
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You be careful with your shoulder, Brenda.
I'll make sure I stretch real good.
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Went back for round two of the sales this week.
Nailed it.
This one cost a bit more percentage wise than usual, but only because I got a few really nice tools that still cost a bit and I got all the trim I need to frame out the ceiling in the porch this spring that wasn't free but was still quite a savings.
They owe me about $800 now. That's going to pay for a lot of the landscaping and the dual-sump pump system I'm going to be putting together this year.
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Quote:I'm going on your description of "pulling it out again"
Originally posted by Brenda:
A little heat from a hot water bottle and they seem better SIX. I did that while I watched M*A*S*H.
I hope so too.
SIX: Nice!
I'll be doing some rough stuff this week. I'll let you know if I destroy my back again.
BRENDA: Be careful SIX. My trashed shoulder is still on the mend and I have to watch or I will pull it out again.
SIGNY Semms like you did a lot more than pull your sholuder, BRENDA. It sounds like a dislocation. That's a serious injury!
BRENDA: My new doc ordered an x-ray and nothing unusual showed up on it.
Once a partially dislocated joint moves back into place, nothing will show up on x-ray bc all of the damage is soft tissue. It's just that all the tendons and ligaments that hold the ball of the shoulder joint in its corresponding socket get stretched or partially torn, and it takes a long time to heal.
BTW fully dislocating a joint is a little like breaking a bone in that pain causes all muscles in the area to spasm, and unless the muscles are pulled hard enough to get the ball back in the socket ... or to set the bone fragments end-to-end... muscle spasms will keep everything locked in misalignment.
And it's not like TV shows where you see someone writhing in pain and an experienced doctor comes by and yanks it back into place and the patient sits up grinning and says "Thanks doc'" and walks away. It takes weeks in a sling and months of PT.
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
You be careful with your shoulder, Brenda.
I'll make sure I stretch real good.
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I am SIX,
I do a lot of stretching of my shoulder as well. Even when I am sitting I will stretch it up over my head and behind my head.
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:I'm going on your description of "pulling it out again"
Originally posted by Brenda:
A little heat from a hot water bottle and they seem better SIX. I did that while I watched M*A*S*H.
I hope so too.
SIX: Nice!
I'll be doing some rough stuff this week. I'll let you know if I destroy my back again.
BRENDA: Be careful SIX. My trashed shoulder is still on the mend and I have to watch or I will pull it out again.
SIGNY Semms like you did a lot more than pull your sholuder, BRENDA. It sounds like a dislocation. That's a serious injury!
BRENDA: My new doc ordered an x-ray and nothing unusual showed up on it.
Once a partially dislocated joint moves back into place, nothing will show up on x-ray bc all of the damage is soft tissue. It's just that all the tendons and ligaments that hold the ball of the shoulder joint in its corresponding socket get stretched or partially torn, and it takes a long time to heal.
BTW fully dislocating a joint is a little like breaking a bone in that pain causes all muscles in the area to spasm, and unless the muscles are pulled hard enough to get the ball back in the socket ... or to set the bone fragments end-to-end... muscle spasms will keep everything locked in misalignment.
And it's not like TV shows where you see someone writhing in pain and an experienced doctor comes by and yanks it back into place and the patient sits up grinning and says "Thanks doc'" and walks away. It takes weeks in a sling and months of PT.
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I got ya SIG.
That's just my description for it. I've been going to PT for a few months now and she has me doing exercises for it. As well as my trying to take it easy on it.
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Up to do a couple of things then over lunch I will take a look at some book publishers from Canada and see if I can find someone useful. I will be making notes on what I find about submissions and such.
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Quote:Well, if it gets published, count me in as one of your first customers!
Originally posted by Brenda:
Up to do a couple of things then over lunch I will take a look at some book publishers from Canada and see if I can find someone useful. I will be making notes on what I find about submissions and such.
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:Quote:Well, if it gets published, count me in as one of your first customers!
Originally posted by Brenda:
Up to do a couple of things then over lunch I will take a look at some book publishers from Canada and see if I can find someone useful. I will be making notes on what I find about submissions and such.
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That would be great SIG.
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I got up to the letter "S" on the main website for publishers across Canada. Found a couple of places.
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Out for my walk on a dry day in a bit. Have to return something to the library and do a couple of other things.
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Back from my walk and the sun is out.
Also back at the publishers list.
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Out for my walk on a sunny day.
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Back from my walk on a nice bright sunny day. All errands accomplished for today.
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Well, I got us all scheduled for eye and dental exams. I'll also be scheduled for additional tests to check some sore spots to rule out (or rule in?) cancer.
It occurred to me that next year I'll be 70. Wow. I still think of myself as in my early 60s. Time to update the mental calendar!
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Don't remind me of things like that SIG. I hit the 6-0 next September. I can deal with 59 a little easier which is this September.
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Well, I got us all scheduled for eye and dental exams. I'll also be scheduled for additional tests to check some sore spots to rule out (or rule in?) cancer.
It occurred to me that next year I'll be 70. Wow. I still think of myself as in my early 60s. Time to update the mental calendar!
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
Also I am finding these last two weeks of February draaging. I just want to get my next dental appointment over with. My mouth has to be measured for the denture and I have a terrible feeling it means a plaster mold. Yuck! Went through that in high school for braces.
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Out for my walk. Things to do.
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Originally posted by Brenda:Quote:
Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Well, I got us all scheduled for eye and dental exams. I'll also be scheduled for additional tests to check some sore spots to rule out (or rule in?) cancer.
It occurred to me that next year I'll be 70. Wow. I still think of myself as in my early 60s. Time to update the mental calendar!
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
Also I am finding these last two weeks of February draaging. I just want to get my next dental appointment over with. My mouth has to be measured for the denture and I have a terrible feeling it means a plaster mold. Yuck! Went through that in high school for braces.
Oh, you had braces too? I didn't feel like I needed them but my parents thought I did!
February drags for me in general. After all the holidays and birthdays from early October all the way thru Jan 1, February feels flat. It's still winter, not yet spring and there's nothing to look forward to.
Once upon a time, before life derailed me, I used the schedule our "yearly" appointments for February to break up the monotony. That would place any six-month appointments in August which, IMHO, also sucks.
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Grams has terminal cancer... :(
Hospice is getting everything set up for her at home tomorrow morning and she'll be back home for good in the afternoon. She's going to need 24/7 coverage now and they're saying six months, but both my dad and aunt told me with how she looks right now after having a spigot put in her to drain the fluid they don't think it will be more than a few weeks. I'm hoping she was just dosed with something for the operation and once she gets cleaned up she'll at least look like she did before and hopefully the breathing is better now that she was drained again.
I'll be spending a lot of time over there helping out. I'll check in when I can.
Hope you're both doing well.
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Quote:I'm sorry to hear that, SIX. I guessed your family got bad news and was taking time to digest it.
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Grams has terminal cancer... :(
Hospice is getting everything set up for her at home tomorrow morning and she'll be back home for good in the afternoon. She's going to need 24/7 coverage now and they're saying six months, but both my dad and aunt told me with how she looks right now after having a spigot put in her to drain the fluid they don't think it will be more than a few weeks. I'm hoping she was just dosed with something for the operation and once she gets cleaned up she'll at least look like she did before and hopefully the breathing is better now that she was drained again.
I'll be spending a lot of time over there helping out. I'll check in when I can.
Hope you're both doing well.
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I'm sure she'll improve once the anesthesia wears off. It can take a LOOOONG time for older people .. a couple of weeks, sometimes more ... to fully clear from the system. Can cause hallucinations or aggression, but once that goes away your g'ma will probably perk up and be more herself.
Cancer doctors are usually pretty accurate on someone's timeline. I expect that your g'ma still has a number of good months ahead if her. If there's something that she needs to do, like write a will, now's the time. Take pictures of her now, so youll have something good to remember her with.
Hubby and I nursed his mom thru a number of illnesses and finally thru her terminal cancer. Sometimes nothing can be done except make your family member as comfortable as possible.
I don't know how much pain she'll be in. Cancer isn't generally painful unless it metastaticizes to bone. But if she's in pain or is gasping for breath, don't spare the painkillers. They come in various forms and even if can't be administered orally can be given under the tongue (as a liquid) or even rectally (as a pill, gel, or liquid.)
It's tough to watch someone die slowly. The experience will leave sad and indelible memories, but eventually you'll remember happier times.
I'm here for you even if you just want to unload.
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I appreciate that Sigs.
I've been the one voice of positivity this whole time and I'm trying to keep doing it. I don't think it's really hit me yet. I should be taking this a lot harder than I am right now, but I've got some obligations I'm going to be powering through until the weekend is over then I'm going over to her place for a few days and nights and I'm hoping that she's at least still with it enough to watch those movies I got for her. I told everybody to let me know if anything takes a swift downturn for the worse in the meantime and I'll break my obligations and get out there right away. I won't know more until I'm there with her and get a feel for how she's going to be when she's back home.
Her attitude about everything is making this easier to deal with. She's not scared at all. She KNOWS where she's going, and she's happy to be going there. I've never seen somebody so unafraid of death in my life.
She's a great woman. The world is going to be just a little bit dimmer without her when she's gone.
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Well, I got us all scheduled for eye and dental exams. I'll also be scheduled for additional tests to check some sore spots to rule out (or rule in?) cancer.
It occurred to me that next year I'll be 70. Wow. I still think of myself as in my early 60s. Time to update the mental calendar!
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Also I am finding these last two weeks of February draaging. I just want to get my next dental appointment over with. My mouth has to be measured for the denture and I have a terrible feeling it means a plaster mold. Yuck! Went through that in high school for braces.
Oh, you had braces too? I didn't feel like I needed them but my parents thought I did!
February drags for me in general. After all the holidays and birthdays from early October all the way thru Jan 1, February feels flat. It's still winter, not yet spring and there's nothing to look forward to.
Once upon a time, before life derailed me, I used the schedule our "yearly" appointments for February to break up the monotony. That would place any six-month appointments in August which, IMHO, also sucks.
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Yeah, I did and I knew I needed them. What a pain and a nuisance they were.
In my case the end of January smacked in the face before I even knew it. Usually January drags for me but not this year. I have the dentist this month and then sometime in March a mammogram that has to be booked. Also more dental because once I get the denture then it has to be fitted and stuff. I've got appointments booked into May.
If I am lucky then in June or July, I might be able to get out to Alberta for a bit. I hope so. I need a break.
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Grams has terminal cancer... :(
Hospice is getting everything set up for her at home tomorrow morning and she'll be back home for good in the afternoon. She's going to need 24/7 coverage now and they're saying six months, but both my dad and aunt told me with how she looks right now after having a spigot put in her to drain the fluid they don't think it will be more than a few weeks. I'm hoping she was just dosed with something for the operation and once she gets cleaned up she'll at least look like she did before and hopefully the breathing is better now that she was drained again.
I'll be spending a lot of time over there helping out. I'll check in when I can.
Hope you're both doing well.
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I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
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I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
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I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
Thanks Brenda.
We'll circle the wagons and figure it out.
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I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
She's on the first floor and the bathroom is right next to her bedroom.
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I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
Thanks Brenda.
We'll circle the wagons and figure it out.
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I'm sure you and your family will.
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I'm off to mah jong in the morning.
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I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
She's on the first floor and the bathroom is right next to her bedroom.
Oh... And I talked to my Aunt and I'm going to be moving all of her stuff downstairs in a room right off the kitchen that we cleared out last year. She brought her mattress down and she's been sleeping in the living room on it since Friday night.
I'll probably be staying over one or two nights per week so my Dad doesn't have to stay all day 5 days a week while my aunt is working. It doesn't sound like my uncle has any plans of taking any days off of work, and my other aunt (his wife) is probably going to be wearing a mask for the rest of her life and probably won't be any help since she was barely at the hospital at all in the last two weeks.
Since I'm sure I'd be really bored staying there that often at one time in a house that has tech limited to things that were made in the 1980s and without internet, I can also spend some of that time cleaning things up and clearing some stuff out that my aunt and I haven't already gotten to.
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I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
Thanks Brenda.
We'll circle the wagons and figure it out.
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I'm sure you and your family will.
It just occurred to me that possibly could have been offensive to you, Brenda. You know that normally I wouldn't care about political correctness, but I do like you very much and I'd hate to think that the use of an idiom I grew up with pissed you off.
I was just telling my grandma a while back that my hips sometimes hurt when I'm working on the computer too long and I'm sitting Indian Style on my futon, and then I said I probably shouldn't call it that anymore.
Old habits die hard.
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
She's on the first floor and the bathroom is right next to her bedroom.
Oh... And I talked to my Aunt and I'm going to be moving all of her stuff downstairs in a room right off the kitchen that we cleared out last year. She brought her mattress down and she's been sleeping in the living room on it since Friday night.
I'll probably be staying over one or two nights per week so my Dad doesn't have to stay all day 5 days a week while my aunt is working. It doesn't sound like my uncle has any plans of taking any days off of work, and my other aunt (his wife) is probably going to be wearing a mask for the rest of her life and probably won't be any help since she was barely at the hospital at all in the last two weeks.
Since I'm sure I'd be really bored staying there that often at one time in a house that has tech limited to things that were made in the 1980s and without internet, I can also spend some of that time cleaning things up and clearing some stuff out that my aunt and I haven't already gotten to.Quote:
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I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
Thanks Brenda.
We'll circle the wagons and figure it out.
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I'm sure you and your family will.
It just occurred to me that possibly could have been offensive to you, Brenda. You know that normally I wouldn't care about political correctness, but I do like you very much and I'd hate to think that the use of an idiom I grew up with pissed you off.
I was just telling my grandma a while back that my hips sometimes hurt when I'm working on the computer too long and I'm sitting Indian Style on my futon, and then I said I probably shouldn't call it that anymore.
Old habits die hard.
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SIX, I also heard that idiom a bit growing up. So no offence taken. I was fine with it and took it in the spirit that you meant as that your family will come together and get it done for your grandmother.
They do die hard.
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Back from mah jong and it is trying to rain. But on the flipside I won this morning. Had 1 hand that had 8 doubles in it with a point worth of over 23,000. So, I finished up the morning with over 26,000 points. Got $10 too.
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Quote:Oh, that's right. I flipped it around in my head. How's the downstairs bathroom? Does it have a useable shower?
Originally posted by SIGNYM:
I'm sure you've thought of this, but on the practical side, at some point your g'ma is going to need to be downstairs and near a bathroom.
SIX: She's on the first floor and the bathroom is right next to her bedroom.
Shower chair and shower wand. Hospice should eventually provide a shower chair but those handheld shower wands are perfect for giving a sit-down shower. If there's a tub/ shower downstairs, hospice should provide a transfer chair as well. They should be providing all of the supplies you'll need.
Quote:That's what I did when mom was in hospital for a week (That was one of those times when she recovered went home.) There was an "office" that was literally filled floor to ceiling with miscellaneous boes of papers. Insurance Eplanation of benefits from when my dad was alive he had died years ago) bank statments from accounts that had been closed decades before. Old stock certificates from a company that had been bought out decades ago. Recent bills. Advertizing. Wills. My sis was taking excellent and loving care of mom, but not much on paperwork. I went and bought a filing cabinet and sorted it all out for her, along with the few boes of unopened mail in the livingroom, and disposed of the irrelevent stuff. I'd lie to think it relieved some of her stress.
SIX: Oh... And I talked to my Aunt and I'm going to be moving all of her stuff downstairs in a room right off the kitchen that we cleared out last year. She brought her mattress down and she's been sleeping in the living room on it since Friday night.
I'll probably be staying over one or two nights per week so my Dad doesn't have to stay all day 5 days a week while my aunt is working. It doesn't sound like my uncle has any plans of taking any days off of work, and my other aunt (his wife) is probably going to be wearing a mask for the rest of her life and probably won't be any help since she was barely at the hospital at all in the last two weeks.
Since I'm sure I'd be really bored staying there that often at one time in a house that has tech limited to things that were made in the 1980s and without internet, I can also spend some of that time cleaning things up and clearing some stuff out that my aunt and I haven't already gotten to.
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I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
I'm not sure how hospice works there, but here they had a nurse come and do an evaluation every few weeks to begin with, and an aide come in to assist with showers once in a while. I was disappointed at first with how little they were doing at the beginning, but they really cranked up the support as MIL declined, even delivering pain meds to the door.
I'm not sure how your g'ma is doing, but you may be in for something more like a marathon. It only turns into a sprint at the end. So don't plan on intense 24/7 care right away. Meals, helping to the bathroom, checking in every few hours, some entertainment... You will probably have time to do lots of other things for now.
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Oh, that's right. I flipped it around in my head. How's the downstairs bathroom? Does it have a useable shower?
Shower chair and shower wand. Hospice should eventually provide a shower chair but those handheld shower wands are perfect for giving a sit-down shower. If there's a tub/ shower downstairs, hospice should provide a transfer chair as well. They should be providing all of the supplies you'll need.
As of now, no... There is no usable shower (although the tub would work). This is the thing I was going to do with my friend's dad, but everybody was slowpoking around about it and now it's too late. I told my aunt to get my uncle over there this weekend to replace the hot and cold faucets and at least the shower wand will work without spraying water halfway across the room when its on, but the walls are covered in plastic tarps because they've rotted away from years of neglect. I can fix the walls, but I'm not going to be responsible for breaking any plumbing when my uncle knows a lot more about it than I do.
There's still going to be the issue now of getting her over that high cast iron tub for showering. Nobody wants to put in a walk-in base anymore, so I've already told my friend's dad that it's off.
Quote:Quote:That's what I did when mom was in hospital for a week (That was one of those times when she recovered went home.) There was an "office" that was literally filled floor to ceiling with miscellaneous boes of papers. Insurance Eplanation of benefits from when my dad was alive he had died years ago) bank statments from accounts that had been closed decades before. Old stock certificates from a company that had been bought out decades ago. Recent bills. Advertizing. Wills. My sis was taking excellent and loving care of mom, but not much on paperwork. I went and bought a filing cabinet and sorted it all out for her, along with the few boes of unopened mail in the livingroom, and disposed of the irrelevent stuff. I'd lie to think it relieved some of her stress.
SIX: Oh... And I talked to my Aunt and I'm going to be moving all of her stuff downstairs in a room right off the kitchen that we cleared out last year. She brought her mattress down and she's been sleeping in the living room on it since Friday night.
I'll probably be staying over one or two nights per week so my Dad doesn't have to stay all day 5 days a week while my aunt is working. It doesn't sound like my uncle has any plans of taking any days off of work, and my other aunt (his wife) is probably going to be wearing a mask for the rest of her life and probably won't be any help since she was barely at the hospital at all in the last two weeks.
Since I'm sure I'd be really bored staying there that often at one time in a house that has tech limited to things that were made in the 1980s and without internet, I can also spend some of that time cleaning things up and clearing some stuff out that my aunt and I haven't already gotten to.
We already cleared most of that junk out last year when I cleaned out the basement and the 2nd floor. We were going to do the 1st floor but winter came, and I wasn't too keen about removing stuff that she'd be likely to see was missing, especially given her short-term memory issues. Papers that looked like they may have importance I put in plastic totes for her children to go through. I'm not going through any of that myself.
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I am so sorry to hear that SIX. That is hard work for all the family and hospice is the best for 24/7 care.
*Hugs* to you and your family.
I'm not sure how hospice works there, but here they had a nurse come and do an evaluation every few weeks to begin with, and an aide come in to assist with showers once in a while. I was disappointed at first with how little they were doing at the beginning, but they really cranked up the support
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I was able to talk to Grams for about 3 minutes tonight when I called back. She says she's weak, but she's not in pain. Her breathing sounded good, but she is on the oxygen machine.
She still doesn't have an appetite. Her appetite was great during her first visit to the hospital after draining the fluid and several days into her return trip home, but by the time I had gotten there before she went back she was hardly eating anything. They also weren't allowing her much food or drink in the hospital with the testing and the procedure itself, and so far it sounds like she hasn't eaten much yet since she got home this afternoon.
I'm hoping that tomorrow is an improvement. My dad will let me know when I return from tomorrow's obligations, and let me know if he feels I should come in this weekend or if it can wait until after my dentist appointment on Monday morning, since I still have things that I need to do this weekend otherwise.
She still remembered the movies I got for her at least, and she sounds excited to watch them with me. I think that alone is already an improvement from when my Dad left this afternoon after she got home since he told me that he's thinking that it is possible that they'll never play a game of Upwords together again with how her mind was when she got home.
Finger's crossed that tomorrow is a better day!
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SIX, I could be 100% wrong, but it doesn't make sense to me that your g'mas cancer would advance so rapidly right after surgery and cause such rapid deterioration. Surgery is HARD on older people. They don't recover from the trauma or anesthesia like younger people do. And, yanno, she has some news to digest. It's hard to face impending end. It would knock anyone for a loop.
Anyway I think physically she just needs recovery time. A week or so. That may represent a fairly large chunk of her remaining time, but it takes what it takes. You can't rush it.
The one thing I really regret from my grandma's and parents" deaths was not getting to know them as people, especially how they grew up and what their lives were like. I moved too far away and missed the chance to get to know them one adult to another. Does your g'ma like to reminisce? That might help her recover.
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SIX, I could be 100% wrong, but it doesn't make sense to me that your g'mas cancer would advance so rapidly right after surgery and cause such rapid deterioration. Surgery is HARD on older people. They don't recover from the trauma or anesthesia like younger people do. And, yanno, she has some news to digest. It's hard to face impending end. It would knock anyone for a loop.
Anyway I think physically she just needs recovery time. A week or so. That may represent a fairly large chunk of her remaining time, but it takes what it takes. You can't rush it.
So anesthesia can keep you down for a while too then? Yeah. I guess I didn't consider that one. I forgot about how hard nitrous hit me when I had my wisdom teeth dug out of my gums before they derailed the orthodontic work and back before I ever had a drink or smoke in my life compared to the 2nd time I'd been on it when it had very little effect on me. I'm sure she was knocked out with something, but if my Dad doesn't know, grams won't be able to tell me.
My dad said she looked 10 years older after the procedure, but when I asked him about that yesterday after he told me all of the bad news he said she looked a lot better than the last time he saw her in the hospital.
I'm hoping for good news today. I should know more late this afternoon.
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The one thing I really regret from my grandma's and parents" deaths was not getting to know them as people, especially how they grew up and what their lives were like. I moved too far away and missed the chance to get to know them one adult to another. Does your g'ma like to reminisce? That might help her recover.
I actually know quite a bit about my grandma and my Dad these days. I missed that opportunity with all my other grandparents, but since my sobriety I've talked a lot to both of them.
I sometimes joke with my old man that the back half of Cat Steven's Cats in the Cradle never played out between us.
I wish my grandma had a journal or something. I still haven't read what was in my Uncle's two notebooks that he left me 15 years ago, but I have them and I will someday.
I'll tell you one thing though... I'm not going to let her watch FOX News all day when I'm over there.
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I've heard back from the lady that I emailed my manuscript too and she will have to snail mail it back to me as she doesn't drive into the city any more. Also since I don't drive and I doubt I would be able to get a ride out there this is the best way for now. She's found some things I missed and I will have her notes and be able to read them. She said she is liking it, which is nice to hear.
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Quote:I hope to read it some day, too!
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I've heard back from the lady that I emailed my manuscript too and she will have to snail mail it back to me as she doesn't drive into the city any more. Also since I don't drive and I doubt I would be able to get a ride out there this is the best way for now. She's found some things I missed and I will have her notes and be able to read them. She said she is liking it, which is nice to hear.
Oh BTW, congrats on the mah jong win.
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Quote:OMG yes. My dad was hallucinating for a week afterwards. He kind of knew where he was, but he hallucinated that hospital was on the verge of bankruptcy and the basement was full of telephone answerers trying to fend off calls from concerned relatives and creditors. He was so concerned about being left alone in a dark hospital that IRL he was going to get in a wheelchair and sign himself out AMA and get a taxi to go home.
SIX: So anesthesia can keep you down for a while too then?
A friend of my MIL's went temporarily paranoid ... this was a few days AFTER she was discharged and being taken care of by MIL at home... she threatened MIL with a knife. Delayed anesthesia reaction.
A colleague's dad repeatedly hallucinated eating oatmeal... AFTER he was sent home.
Hubby's "3-day" hospital stay turned into a 6-day stay because of disorientation from anesthesia and pain meds. This doesn't happen to everyone, but it happens enough, and it can occur unexpectedy after a time lag of days or even a week. If it happens to your g'ma don't get thrown. Of course, call hospice but it could quite likely just be a reaction to anesthesia.
And there was a time my dad had gall bladder surgery ... this was the days before scopic surgery when they did a whipple incision ... I went to visit him in the hospital and I literally didn't even recognize him at first. It was like he had aged 20 years in one week, he looked so gray and frail and small. But as he got better he was back to his former self.
Quote:Good for you!
I'll tell you one thing though... I'm not going to let her watch FOX News all day when I'm over there.
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I've heard back from the lady that I emailed my manuscript too and she will have to snail mail it back to me as she doesn't drive into the city any more. Also since I don't drive and I doubt I would be able to get a ride out there this is the best way for now. She's found some things I missed and I will have her notes and be able to read them. She said she is liking it, which is nice to hear.
Oh BTW, congrats on the mah jong win.
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I hope so as well.
Thanks. It has been quite a while since I got first place at mah jong.
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Back from my walk and got a small package of chicken wings for supper tonight and tomorrow. I am adding some brussel sprouts to them as well.
The rain went away and the sun is out now but there are a few dark clouds around.
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SIX: So anesthesia can keep you down for a while too then?
A friend of my MIL's went temporarily paranoid ... this was a few days AFTER she was discharged and being taken care of by MIL at home... she threatened MIL with a knife. Delayed anesthesia reaction.
A colleague's dad repeatedly hallucinated eating oatmeal... AFTER he was sent home.
Hubby's "3-day" hospital stay turned into a 6-day stay because of disorientation from anesthesia and pain meds. This doesn't happen to everyone, but it happens enough, and it can occur unexpectedy after a time lag of days or even a week. If it happens to your g'ma don't get thrown. Of course, call hospice but it could quite likely just be a reaction to anesthesia.
And there was a time my dad had gall bladder surgery ... this was the days before scopic surgery when they did a whipple incision ... I went to visit him in the hospital and I literally didn't even recognize him at first. It was like he had aged 20 years in one week, he looked so gray and frail and small. But as he got better he was back to his former self.Quote:Good for you!
I'll tell you one thing though... I'm not going to let her watch FOX News all day when I'm over there.
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I can't get a straight answer if she was anesthetized or not. Doctor's suck.
My dad thinks she just got a local, and asking my Grandma isn't going to help. She's already forgotten she has an extra hole in her body.
I find out when I got where I needed to be today that everybody took off work because she fell out of her chair at 3:30 AM and my aunt had to call my Uncle to come pick her back up. Dad's all doom and gloom to start my day off, and when I get back home I call to get a status update and my Dad's in the middle of talking with nurses and he'll call me back whenever.
I guess I can't judge, because when it's my Mom's time I'm going to have nothing to do with it, but Grandma was always good to me. Maybe there's some family history here that I'm not aware of because I get the feeling that everybody else just wants her to die now.
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Maybe family history. My g'ma was a lovely, wonderful grandma (babcia) dearly loved by all of her grandchildren. But at her funeral, when all of us (adult) grandchildren were bawling, our parents -her children- were remarkably dry-eyed.
Apparently she was something of a task-master and nag, but had a different view of her role as grandma.
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Maybe. My niece loved my mom back before they moved 2,000 miles away and hardly ever saw her again.
Now that I've talked to everyone the day had it's ups and downs.
My dad played Upwords with her and she only lost by 35 pts. She was only down 20 pts when my Dad went out, but she lost 15pts for her remaining pieces. They've always been fairly evenly matched with my Dad winning more often than she did, but 35pts is not a bad spread for a loss. My Dad doesn't ever play a game and not play to win.
So... That's great. He told me last night and again this morning that he didn't think they'd ever play again.
Her strength is completely gone. She can't walk right now. I won't go into any details about how the bathroom situation went today.
She's still not eating much either.
We finally talked on the phone about 10 minutes. My aunt said earlier when she heard I was calling that she wanted to talk to me because she hadn't talked to me all day. This is also a huge improvement since yesterday I called 3 times and she didn't want to even talk on the phone until the 3rd time and it was only about 2-3 minutes before she had to say goodbye.
She sounded a little loopy. My aunt says she's just tired after a hell of a day, but I think she's on something. But at least she was laughing and could hold a conversation. Since nobody now thinks that anything bad is going to happen in the next two days, I'm planning on heading right over there for at least two nights after my dentist appointment on Monday.
She's really looking forward to watching those movies with me.
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Laundry day and a walk in the rain by the looks of it.
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It looks like we're due for another half inch of rain a few days from now. That would put us slightly above our yearly total.
Correct me if I'm wrong, BRENDA, but it seems like you've had an unusual number of sunny days so far this winter?
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Not sure what to say about your g'ma being weak. If she's not eating is she drinking enough water and getting enough salt? Or getting IV saline?
She may be dehydrated. And it could still be from surgery. When I had a port put in, which is probably like putting in a drain, it was under local PLUS sedation (not total anesthesia). I was awake but very, very ...VERY... relaxed. I heard and remember everything. But I kinda drooped for a few days afterwards.
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It looks like we're due for another half inch of rain a few days from now. That would put us slightly above our yearly total.
Correct me if I'm wrong, BRENDA, but it seems like you've had an unusual number of sunny days so far this winter?
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You could be right SIG. In fact I missed whatever rain fell as it was dry for my walk and errands. Also the sun is trying to come out now.
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Got my laundry done and my walk in in the dry weather. Not overly cold out and the sun is out now.
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Not sure what to say about your g'ma being weak. If she's not eating is she drinking enough water and getting enough salt? Or getting IV saline?
There is no IV. The only thing she's on now that she's home is O2. Supposedly the hospice people know what they're doing.
I didn't think to ask how much she's drinking. I did hear from my aunt that she ate a larger than normal breakfast this morning, and my Dad said she had a decent lunch. Still nowhere near what she used to eat (or was eating just a week or so ago), but it doesn't sound like she's eating like a bird today.
Zero strength though. She had a lot of visitors today so they put her in the wheelchair. That was a mistake. She can't get comfortable in that and was complaining the whole time. My dad said it took about an hour to get her into the bed with my Uncle without hurting her. He is probably exaggerating. But he says that she feels like 300lbs of dead weight now because she can't offer any help. She's only 230lbs, but people have a hard time picking up protestors that are half her weight if they go ragdoll.
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She may be dehydrated. And it could still be from surgery. When I had a port put in, which is probably like putting in a drain, it was under local PLUS sedation (not total anesthesia). I was awake but very, very ...VERY... relaxed. I heard and remember everything. But I kinda drooped for a few days afterwards.
I'll know more when I'm there next week. It sounds like she's made some improvements every day she's been home. My Dad's not worried that anything is going to happen before I get there.
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My aunt is in bad shape. I can tell that she's really overwhelmed.
I think that even though my Dad doesn't want me over there taking a shift, I'm going to need to be there with them just for moral support as much as possible.
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Quote:Hugs to you, and hugs for your aunt. Working and taking care of someone is impossible. Not sure how your g'ma feels about male family members taking care of her more private needs. If that's a problem, you all may eventually need to pitch in and hire a female caregiver for when your aunt needs to get out of the house. (And she WILL need to get out of the house. Nobody can take care of a terminally sick relative 247. It's too exhausting, emotionally and physically.)
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My aunt is in bad shape. I can tell that she's really overwhelmed.
I think that even though my Dad doesn't want me over there taking a shift, I'm going to need to be there with them just for moral support as much as possible.
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You mentioned some relatives that appear to have no inclination to help. How are they financially? Helping pay for someone to come over and give you all a break could be part of the team effort.
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My aunt is in bad shape. I can tell that she's really overwhelmed.
I think that even though my Dad doesn't want me over there taking a shift, I'm going to need to be there with them just for moral support as much as possible.
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I think that sunk in the last two days. And I don't want to make any assumptions, but I don't think she's the type of woman who is going to enjoy any of it. She's a tough Italian who's done hard labor all her life and is more like her father than any of her sons are. She would have loved doing what I did overnights at my last job just like I did. Taking a leave of absence to sit at home taking care of somebody is going to drive her up a wall.
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Not sure how your g'ma feels about male family members taking care of her more private needs.
As long as she's sentient, she wouldn't allow it. I can't imagine her sons are going to do it anyhow, and I wouldn't even change my nieces diaper when she was a baby when my brother's wife asked me if I wanted to do it one day I was over there. I'm sure it's not as bad as I imagine it would be, but... gross.
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If that's a problem, you all may eventually need to pitch in and hire a female caregiver for when your aunt needs to get out of the house. (And she WILL need to get out of the house. Nobody can take care of a terminally sick relative 247. It's too exhausting, emotionally and physically.)
Well my Dad is going to be there every day of the week now even if my Aunt takes a leave. I'm planning on staying overnight a few nights a week myself, although my Aunt told me with how bad it is she doesn't think I'm going to be wanting to stay overnight and that she's got no expectations that I would do it until it happens. She mentioned last night that she's going to need to leave and get out at least an hour or two every day when my Dad is there.
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You mentioned some relatives that appear to have no inclination to help. How are they financially? Helping pay for someone to come over and give you all a break could be part of the team effort.
She had mentioned that they may need to hire somebody. She seems to think she can get a caregiver from some place for $15/hr, but I don't see how that's possible or how they could be any good. You can make $20/hr at McDonalds in Illinois now.
Nobody on this side of the family is swimming in cash or will be easy to part with it. And I hate the idea of my Aunt taking a leave when she finally got her head on straight around the same time I did and got herself a better paying job and has been actually saving money for the first time in her life. It's a shame that her 401k has money in it for the first time during Bidenflation and she lost 12% last year. At least she's getting the 100% company match though so she's still making out. But like I said she's busted her hump her entire life without any span longer than a few weeks between jobs, so her SS income is going to be quite a bit more than mine is, and I told her once she's on her own I can help her navigate everything as far as any possible benefits that would help her financially, getting her set up on SS and Medicare when that time comes, and (hopefully) get her into a nice condo for cheap when the housing market crashes instead of throwing away all that money on apartment rent with today's rates.
Their two biggest wastes of money right now are heat (11ft ceilings in a large house with my grandma needing to keep it at 70 degrees), and eating out every night with today's prepared food prices because she's too exhausted after work to cook for the both of th
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Piece of advice for your aunt, if this should ever become a temptation: DONT take Social Security retirement early. If she does she will lose the ability to earn money even as she collects social security.
How are you at cooking? On your nights over maybe you could prepare some meals and stock the frig?
AFA helping: Not sure how big your g'ma is, but someone will have to guide her to a toilet or to a wheelchair or transfer chair and then transfer to a toilet or shower chair. Eventually someone wil have to wash her hair and give her a shower and possibly even wipe her after toilet. If she falls is she a one-person lift or a two-person lift? Someone will have to change her bed sheets (There'a a trick to it. You don't need to get the person out of beed: You roll them to one side, lift the old sheet off and kind of log-roll it against them and put the new sheet on. then roll them to the other side onto the clan sheet, strip the old sheet off and pull the new sheet on the rest of the way and tuck it in. I'm sure you can figure it out.) and her clothes. That's not including helping her eat and/or drink, assisting with meds etc.
And that's not including all of the normal household stuff: washing dishes, sorting the mail, paying bills, sweeping and vaccuming etc.
Anyway, this will probably be a marathon not a sprint. What was being done BEFORE her dx? This is your benchmark. She is prolly not THAT much worse off, physically, than she was before she went to the hospital. Weaker, but beter oxygenated.
So I imagine that much of this help will not be necessary until the last two-three months, so your aunt, and you, and dad, shouldn't exhaust yourselves now. There's (probably) no need at this point for 24-7 bedside attendance. Good for someone to be there while you all learn how to do what you need to do, and great for someone to be on night shift so your aunt can sleep once in awhile, but you all need to pace yourselves. Maybe you all should throttle back after a week or so. Can your aunt work on a reduced schedule? Three days a week for the time being?
There are plenty of homecare agencies. The one I heard good things about was Home Instead, but when I looked them up I found even better-rated ones. The problem with agencies is that you pay the agency an exhorbitant amount of money and they pay their staff quite a bit less. If you don't mind trotting thru the interview process you can hire private-duty and you both make out better. Bc my workplace had a plan where I could set aside pre-tax money for such things, I paid our employees social security ect tax, and filed for reimbursement. That's one way of managing it.
Sorry for the brain-dump.
OH PS: GET A BEDSIDE BELL. Or some other easy-to reach call system.
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Piece of advice for your aunt, if this should ever become a temptation: DONT take Social Security retirement early. If she does she will lose the ability to earn money even as she collects social security.
Yeah. She knows. Thanks though.
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How are you at cooking? On your nights over maybe you could prepare some meals and stock the frig?
I could stock the frig, but cooking isn't my thing. I know how to cook about 3 different things and they're pretty bland. As long as my belly is full I'm alright, but nobody wants to eat my cooking.
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AFA helping: Not sure how big your g'ma is, but someone will have to guide her to a toilet or to a wheelchair or transfer chair and then transfer to a toilet or shower chair.
Unless a miracle happens and she gets stronger, that's not going to happen. She could walk to the bathroom by herself a week ago. Now she's just dead weight. It took 3 people to stand her up on the comode the other day. She's probably not ever going to leave that bed again.
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Eventually someone wil have to wash her hair and give her a shower and possibly even wipe her after toilet. If she falls is she a one-person lift or a two-person lift?
It's at least a 2 person lift. Maybe 3. Nurses and aides will be coming now to sponge bath her during the week.
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Someone will have to change her bed sheets (There'a a trick to it. You don't need to get the person out of beed: You roll them to one side, lift the old sheet off and kind of log-roll it against them and put the new sheet on. then roll them to the other side onto the clan sheet, strip the old sheet off and pull the new sheet on the rest of the way and tuck it in. I'm sure you can figure it out.) and her clothes. That's not including helping her eat and/or drink, assisting with meds etc.
My Aunt has had a crash course in that the last few days. Both a nurse and an aide are going to be there tomorrow between 1 and 4 to teach my Aunt and Dad all the tricks. I'll be there as well.
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And that's not including all of the normal household stuff: washing dishes, sorting the mail, paying bills, sweeping and vaccuming etc.
The first three my aunt does all the time. The last two she doesn't. That's why I was cleaning 15 years of dust off the fridge top along with all the other cleaning I did over there last year.
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Anyway, this will probably be a marathon not a sprint. What was being done BEFORE her dx? This is your benchmark. She is prolly not THAT much worse off, physically, than she was before she went to the hospital. Weaker, but beter oxygenated.
She can barely do anything right now. She's still eating about 1/3 of what she was eating just last week. My aunt was up with her for hours last night because she had to pee in the pan, but couldn't until she finally did. She kept asking my Aunt if she could use the toilet, but my Aunt had to remind her that she can't even stand up by herself and there was no way she could get her to the bathroom and back on her own.
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So I imagine that much of this help will not be necessary until the last two-three months, so your aunt, and you, and dad, shouldn't exhaust yourselves now. There's (probably) no need at this point for 24-7 bedside attendance. Good for someone to be there while you all learn how to do what you need to do, and great for someone to be on night shift so your aunt can sleep once in awhile, but you all need to pace yourselves. Maybe you all should throttle back after a week or so. Can your aunt work on a reduced schedule? Three days a week for the time being?
Unless I'm shocked by a miracle when I get there, this is hitting hard and fast. She might not make it through March. And honestly, if things are as bad as I'm being told they are already, I don't want her to suffer that indignity for very long. :(
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My aunt is in bad shape. I can tell that she's really overwhelmed.
I think that even though my Dad doesn't want me over there taking a shift, I'm going to need to be there with them just for moral support as much as possible.
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*Hugs* SIX. I've been there and it is overwhelming and that was with help coming in.
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If I get that sick I plan to take easy way out. I don't want to be a burden on our daughter and leave her with such painful memories.
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My aunt is in bad shape. I can tell that she's really overwhelmed.
I think that even though my Dad doesn't want me over there taking a shift, I'm going to need to be there with them just for moral support as much as possible.
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*Hugs* SIX. I've been there and it is overwhelming and that was with help coming in.
Thanks Brenda.
Sorry I've been so self absorbed right now.
How's the book coming along?
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If I get that sick I plan to take easy way out. I don't want to be a burden on our daughter and leave her with such painful memories.
Don't get me started on that. I've already had that conversation with my Dad and my Aunt a few times in the last few weeks.
I told my Aunt this morning that even if it were legal here, there is zero chance my Grandma would go through with it no matter how much she suffers. Her faith is so strong that she's not scared one little bit of death and she knows where she's going. But she's also of the belief that if you commit suicide in any fashion that you're not getting into heaven too.
I'm just hoping that when it gets really bad that it doesn't linger on for her forever.
I don't know how the hell they did it, but my uncle and her were able to get my Grandma to the toilet and back this morning. Maybe she is getting some of her strength back.
I've got more than just the movies for us to watch when we go over. I got some 30's and 40's music and I'm going to pick up a bluetooth speaker and leave it there so she can have that playing 24/7.
I told my Aunt that under no circumstance is my Grandma to spend one single second of the rest of her life watching Cable News.
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Well, I have to respect her beliefs. Me? Not a believer. Your mileage may vary.
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Oh, music from the past! What a lovely idea!!!
I personally love dance music from back then. Jitterbug, swing, the Lindy hop, even the twist. It gets my toes tapping!
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My aunt is in bad shape. I can tell that she's really overwhelmed.
I think that even though my Dad doesn't want me over there taking a shift, I'm going to need to be there with them just for moral support as much as possible.
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*Hugs* SIX. I've been there and it is overwhelming and that was with help coming in.
Thanks Brenda.
Sorry I've been so self absorbed right now.
How's the book coming along?
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No worries. It is to be expected. Dealing with a possible end of life situation isn't easy.
The lady I emailed it to is still going through it and she will let me know when she is finished. And I am still trying to work out a proper start to my second book.
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Well, I have to respect her beliefs. Me? Not a believer. Your mileage may vary.
I give it 50/50 that we're in the Matrix. The more I learn the less I know.
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Oh, music from the past! What a lovely idea!!!
I've got to credit my friend for that one. I knew I could get the music, but I had no idea how I was going to play it without it being a major hassle. But then I remembered this bluetooth speaker he got for only 10 bucks and looked to see if it did more than bluetooth. It did. It's got a micro-SD slot in the back, and a 32GB micro-SD card just so happened to be one of the grab-bag worth of tech related equipment I bought for a song on Black Friday.
You're not going to knock down any walls with this thing, but the sound quality is great. There's no randomizer feature (I think they expect you to just randomize from your phone or use Spotify or something), but when you turn it off and turn it back on it starts exactly where you left off. Probably got enough music to never hear the same song twice for a month.
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I personally love dance music from back then. Jitterbug, swing, the Lindy hop, even the twist. It gets my toes tapping!
My only real exposure to songs from that era are from the Fallout video game franchise when they rebooted it in the mid-aughts. I loved the playlist they had for that game. I wonder if any of them are in this collection?
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I'm off to my very part-time job tomorrow. So, I'll see everyone later.
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I give it 50/50 that we're in the Matrix. The more I learn the less I know.
Posted on Monday, Feb 20, 2023 by Tim Sommers
“Suddenly he woke up and there he was, solid and unmistakable Zhuang Zhou. But he didn’t know if he was Zhuang Zhou who had dreamt he was a butterfly, or a butterfly dreaming that he was Zhuang Zhou.” — Zhuangzi (translation by Burton Watson)
“We are almost certainly living in a computer simulation.” – Nick Bostrom (I recognize that Nick Bostrom is a problematic figure. But, as far as I can tell, he was the first to argue that the simulation argument is an improvement on the dream argument. I don’t want to discuss him, just that.)
Is the hypothesis that we live in a computer simulation an improvement, in some way, on the classic skeptical argument that life is but a dream? The dream argument seems to show that life could be a dream. Some claim that the simulation argument shows that not only is it possible that we live in a computer simulation, but that we almost certainly do live in a simulation.
More at https://3quarksdaily.com/3quarksdaily/2023/02/is-the-simulation-argume
nt-an-improvement-on-the-dream-argument.html
The Joss Whedon script for Serenity, where Wash lives, is Serenity-190pages.pdf at
https://www.mediafire.com/folder/1uwh75oa407q8/Firefly
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That's what I've heard too, but I give them no more credence than I would a Bible or Dianetics.
My only point is that I don't know anything about any possible afterlife, and nobody else does either.
Move a few decimal points and the simulation theory falls apart too.
Ain't nobody going to know what, if anything, happens to us until they get there. And if there is no "there", than nobody will ever know that answer.
As far as my grandma is concerned, I'm not going to spend what's left of her life trying to talk her out of her religion and ending her pain the easy way. She's in pain, but she's happy. She "knows" where she's going and she's happy to finally be going there.
What an absolute colossal prick I would be to try to take that away from her. Even if I could make an argument that it was for her own good.
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Going to Grams now. Super excited to give her the gift of music from her childhood and hoping she's got it in her to watch a few classic movies with me while I'm there.
My aunt seemed in good spirits this morning even though she had another rough night. I think the fact that she's not in this alone is really helping her mental state about it. My old man is there with her now and the nurse and aide should be arriving soon.
My aunt still thinks I won't last the night over there, but I think she's just projecting what she would do if she wasn't in a position with responsibility. I've no intention of fleeing.
They destroyed her beautiful dining room table by cutting off the legs to get it out of the house to fit the hospice bed and all the other do-dads. TBH, the 7 cats that lived there had really already done that to the legs of the table and all the chairs already, but their loss is my gain. I've emptied out my car and I'm going to be breaking down that wood and having a few fantastic pieces for projects back home. There's already a dresser out there I never got around to scrapping too, so I'll load up whatever I can in my car and get more the next time I go over.
My aunt says she doesn't want to move downstairs now and has no energy for it. I'll see if I can talk her into it when I get over there. It doesn't make any sense for her not to be downstairs when she's already got the mattress down there every night.
Be well, everybody. I'll give an update when I can.
Good luck with the publisher, Brenda.
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Thanks for the music, SIX. I especially liked Boogie Man bc it's the kind of music I like to dance to. But I sometimes feel that I get a lot of insight into past times by listening to the music that people listened to "back then".
AFA whether we're in a simulation or reality... those are two different schools of philosophical thought. One school.argues that we only know what we perceive. Given the right stimulus, it could be anything. (Subjectivism) Bc perception presupposes a perceiver (I think therefore I am, Kant)... ie dreaming presupposes a dreamer... the logical extension gets rid of the individual dreamer altogether. "What if this is all just a dream" becomes "This is all just God's dream" (Berkeley)
The other school of thought is that there is a reality, we exist in it and our senses perceive parts of it. (Objectivism)
Since neither approach can be proven either way, they are "a priori" (nothing before) assumptions at the base of any philosophy.
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Quote:Best of luck SIX. You, and your g'ma, your aunt and your dad are in my thoughts. Im relieved to read that your g'ma is at peace. *hugs* to you and your family.
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Going to Grams now. Super excited to give her the gift of music from her childhood and hoping she's got it in her to watch a few classic movies with me while I'm there.
My aunt seemed in good spirits this morning even though she had another rough night. I think the fact that she's not in this alone is really helping her mental state about it. My old man is there with her now and the nurse and aide should be arriving soon.
My aunt still thinks I won't last the night over there, but I think she's just projecting what she would do if she wasn't in a position with responsibility. I've no intention of fleeing.
They destroyed her beautiful dining room table by cutting off the legs to get it out of the house to fit the hospice bed and all the other do-dads. TBH, the 7 cats that lived there had really already done that to the legs of the table and all the chairs already, but their loss is my gain. I've emptied out my car and I'm going to be breaking down that wood and having a few fantastic pieces for projects back home. There's already a dresser out there I never got around to scrapping too, so I'll load up whatever I can in my car and get more the next time I go over.
My aunt says she doesn't want to move downstairs now and has no energy for it. I'll see if I can talk her into it when I get over there. It doesn't make any sense for her not to be downstairs when she's already got the mattress down there every night.
Be well, everybody. I'll give an update when I can.
Good luck with the publisher, Brenda.
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Forecast predicts we'll get 3 3/4" of rain over two events in the next 10 days. That would put us at least 3" over our average. If so, that would be great! But as BRENDA says: We shall see.
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Going to Grams now. Super excited to give her the gift of music from her childhood and hoping she's got it in her to watch a few classic movies with me while I'm there.
My aunt seemed in good spirits this morning even though she had another rough night. I think the fact that she's not in this alone is really helping her mental state about it. My old man is there with her now and the nurse and aide should be arriving soon.
My aunt still thinks I won't last the night over there, but I think she's just projecting what she would do if she wasn't in a position with responsibility. I've no intention of fleeing.
They destroyed her beautiful dining room table by cutting off the legs to get it out of the house to fit the hospice bed and all the other do-dads. TBH, the 7 cats that lived there had really already done that to the legs of the table and all the chairs already, but their loss is my gain. I've emptied out my car and I'm going to be breaking down that wood and having a few fantastic pieces for projects back home. There's already a dresser out there I never got around to scrapping too, so I'll load up whatever I can in my car and get more the next time I go over.
My aunt says she doesn't want to move downstairs now and has no energy for it. I'll see if I can talk her into it when I get over there. It doesn't make any sense for her not to be downstairs when she's already got the mattress down there every night.
Be well, everybody. I'll give an update when I can.
Good luck with the publisher, Brenda.
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Growing up in a Republic was nice... Shame we couldn't keep it.
Be well SIX and enjoy this time with your grandmother.
Thanks but that is still a ways off. Publishing I mean.
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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
Going to Grams now. Super excited to give her the gift of music from her childhood and hoping she's got it in her to watch a few classic movies with me while I'm there.
My aunt seemed in good spirits this morning even though she had another rough night. I think the fact that she's not in this alone is really helping her mental state about it. My old man is there with her now and the nurse and aide should be arriving soon.
My aunt still thinks I won't last the night over there, but I think she's just projecting what she would do if she wasn't in a position with responsibility. I've no intention of fleeing.
They destroyed her beautiful dining room table by cutting off the legs to get it out of the house to fit the hospice bed and all the other do-dads. TBH, the 7 cats that lived there had really already done that to the legs of the table and all the chairs already, but their loss is my gain. I've emptied out my car and I'm going to be breaking down that wood and having a few fantastic pieces for projects back home. There's already a dresser out there I never got around to scrapping too, so I'll load up whatever I can in my car and get more the next time I go over.
My aunt says she doesn't want to move downstairs now and has no energy for it. I'll see if I can talk her into it when I get over there. It doesn't make any sense for her not to be downstairs when she's already got the mattress down there every night.
Be well, everybody. I'll give an update when I can.
Good luck with the publisher, Brenda.
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Growing up in a Republic was nice... Shame we couldn't keep it.
Be well SIX and enjoy this time with your grandmother.
Thanks but that is still a ways off. Publishing I mean.
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Got back after 5pm and practically got blown away. Got a wind storm of sorts blowing through BC, bringing snow in the Interior. The ski hills were way happy this long weekend and a bit of rain down around my area. Though there is a possibly chance of snow around me on Wednesday. Just have to see.
Tired, tired, tired and probably a little sore tomorrow. Moving heavy pots around.
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Out for my walk soon. Couple of things to do. Nice and sunny right now after being blowy on my walk back yesterday late afternoon.
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Hey BRENDA, I hope you're not too achy from your workday yesterday. Sounds like you're able to stick to your regular activities so maybe you're ok?
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Been super busy- for me anyway. That means being consistently active, altho at my work pace I obviously don't accomplish as much as SUX. Still, I managed to get three bins of wardesste out last week, and three bins this week, and have been busy contacting contractors and gardeners and pursuing various medical and dental appointments for myself and the family.
Well, off to being busy, again!
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Rain prediction is getting more and more robust. For the most part, our snowpack surpasses the biggest snowpack on record ('82-83) except for northern CA, where it fall slightly below, having had no new accumulation for the past month.
https://cdec.water.ca.gov/snowapp/swcchart.action
If this storm grazes northern and central CA, and dumps on southern CA (as predicted), this will be a banner water-year.
Fingers crossed.
FWIW Canada maintains a drought monitor map too. The Vancouver area shows up as moderate drought.
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Hey BRENDA, I hope you're not too achy from your workday yesterday. Sounds like you're able to stick to your regular activities so maybe you're ok?
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Been super busy- for me anyway. That means being consistently active, altho at my work pace I obviously don't accomplish as much as SUX. Still, I managed to get three bins of wardesste out last week, and three bins this week, and have been busy contacting contractors and gardeners and pursuing various medical and dental appointments for myself and the family.
Well, off to being busy, again!
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
Hey SIG. Yeah, I'm okay.
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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Rain prediction is getting more and more robust. For the most part, our snowpack surpasses the biggest snowpack on record ('82-83) except for northern CA, where it fall slightly below, having had no new accumulation for the past month.
https://cdec.water.ca.gov/snowapp/swcchart.action
If this storm grazes northern and central CA, and dumps on southern CA (as predicted), this will be a banner water-year.
Fingers crossed.
FWIW Canada maintains a drought monitor map too. The Vancouver area shows up as moderate drought.
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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE someone poor - William Blake
We'll have to see what happens for my area this Spring and summer. Today is dry but there is a slight call for snow tomorrow because of the cold then I think back to rain. Just have to see.
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