Male and Female Imponderables--Now We Go In Content

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TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:26 AM

Yep, you guessed it! THe Imponderables continue!

Last thread:
http://www.fireflyfans.net/thread.asp?b=2&t=22220&m=338237#338237

Last thing we were discussing was buying an island for ourselevs somewhere and call it "This Is-Land".

Continue!

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KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:39 AM

Actually, dreams of coastal living is making me very depressed.

http://tinyurl.com/ekv6z

FUTUREMRSFILLION

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:41 AM

Why? Has someone made you come to Foley AL?

CALIFORNIAKAYLEE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:43 AM

I'm just curious, if we had the money to buy an island where we all could live, would we rather do that, or bring Firefly back to television?

Ok, so not exactly an Imponderable, but I'm curious what everyone else thinks. Live on an island populated exclusively with Browncoats, or see Firefly back on the air?

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:44 AM

Nah, it's just that I always wanted the island life, simple, but meaningful. And all the things it entails. I think in another life I was fish.

EDIT: Sorry, but I'd choose island life. I love Firefly, but what good is new content if your other life is crap? I can make up new stories in my head. I can't make up a new life in my head.

http://tinyurl.com/ekv6z

STILLFLYIN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:46 AM

That's tough, but I'd rather have Firefly back because if we did buy our own Island we would need to develop it, form a governmemnt and do all sorts of stuff so I think that we should focus our efforts of the return of Firelfy to the air rather than secession from the world.

KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:51 AM

But then no one would meddle. The idea of an island is very much the idea of owning Serenity for Mal. - at least to me anyway. Hell, Serenity Island is a cool name.

http://tinyurl.com/ekv6z

GUYWHOWANTSAFIREFLYOFHISOWN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:53 AM

my dad was looking at islands once

they were cool, and a real bargain at 3.2 million

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/llama.php
-try it out, I dare you

98% of teens have smoked pot, if you are one of the 2% that haven't, copy this into your signature

I'm so into Firefly, my butt glows in the dark.

KANEMAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:11 AM

Serenity Island....think about that? An island populated with Browncoats.I'm giggling at the thought. A random thread gets pounced on here quicker than cat nip at the vet and then filled with the thoughts of crazy folk (I mean that in a good sense).

13

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:11 AM

Aye, and I could finally become the pirate I always dreamed to be!

Gonzo: Off to Zanzibar, to meet the Zanzibarbarians!

Rizzo: Here we go again!

(Or something like that.)

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'It's Braedan. With an A.'

'Shiny moments aren't a destination any of us get to, and stay put forever. They're unknowable, brief flashes in time. That's what makes them shiny.' -GorramReevers

GUYWHOWANTSAFIREFLYOFHISOWN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:12 AM

BURMA!!

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/llama.php
-try it out, I dare you

98% of teens have smoked pot, if you are one of the 2% that haven't, copy this into your signature

I'm so into Firefly, my butt glows in the dark.

WHITEFALL

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:14 AM

Lol, I love muppet treasure island!

Bah, firefly or the island...

I'll have to go with firefly, the island seems good on paper, but I dunno, communes throughout history have tried to form a utopia, and most have failed. Not that I don't think we could do it, but it seems the riskier of the two ventures.

"But, these strong women characters?"

"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon

KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:20 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by Whitefall:

I'll have to go with firefly, the island seems good on paper, but I dunno, communes throughout history have tried to form a utopia, and most have failed. Not that I don't think we could do it, but it seems the riskier of the two ventures.

I don't mind being apart of an already set government. I just like the idea of Browncoats in close proximity with the tease of tropical paradise.

http://tinyurl.com/ekv6z

GUYWHOWANTSAFIREFLYOFHISOWN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:22 AM

so do I

and we could have a seperate island for the RWE ppls

(been there, not fun)

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/llama.php
-try it out, I dare you

98% of teens have smoked pot, if you are one of the 2% that haven't, copy this into your signature

I'm so into Firefly, my butt glows in the dark.

13

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:33 AM

You're the one who doesn't believe in Canada!

Counting Crows: Believe in me, cause I don't believe in anything, and I...wanna be someone who believes, yeeeeahh...

Mr. Jones and me...

(Or something like that.)

Anyone, utopia is pretty tough. Have to make sure it looks like utopia, not just tall.

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'It's Braedan. With an A.'

'Shiny moments aren't a destination any of us get to, and stay put forever. They're unknowable, brief flashes in time. That's what makes them shiny.' -GorramReevers

COPILOT

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:46 AM

I said everything did everything I could to make people hate me this last week. As if other peoples hatred would make me hurt less. I'm loosing everthing I care about and nothing matters anymore. New boy is gone forever he won't talk to me ever again. Somehow that does make things slightly better. Attachments hurt way too much but sleeping alone hurts more.

An I carried such a torch

COPILOT

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:46 AM

I said everything did everything I could to make people hate me this last week. As if other peoples hatred would make me hurt less. I'm loosing everthing I care about and nothing matters anymore. New boy is gone forever he won't talk to me ever again. Somehow that does make things slightly better. Attachments hurt way too much but sleeping alone hurts more.

An I carried such a torch

KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:54 AM

Don't turn out like me CP, a lonely man who hates everything. I too, have lost a great deal of interests in doing things anymore. It may be the pax, but I think it's something deeper.

I wish I could say the right words. I would say it's not so bad being single, but I am not the best liar. However, it is possible to rebound. Can't let one boy bring you down. We're stupid and do stupid things like hurt other people.

http://tinyurl.com/ekv6z

13

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:01 AM

I'm here.

One person who will never hate you, who'll do anything to make you feel better. But I can't unless I know everything.

Tell. Ride the winged donkey, shoot the antlered gopher, don't care. Just tell.

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'It's Braedan. With an A.'

'Shiny moments aren't a destination any of us get to, and stay put forever. They're unknowable, brief flashes in time. That's what makes them shiny.' -GorramReevers

WHITEFALL

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:03 AM

Well, can't say I understood 13 up above, but... well, we're with ya CP. Keep flying.

"But, these strong women characters?"

"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon

GUYWHOWANTSAFIREFLYOFHISOWN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:03 AM

I have grown wings!

*takes off only to remember noone taught him how to fly*

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/llama.php
-try it out, I dare you

98% of teens have smoked pot, if you are one of the 2% that haven't, copy this into your signature

I'm so into Firefly, my butt glows in the dark.

PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:03 AM

Alright, starting from the last thread: Animal cruelty bad, this is agreed.
Um, can't say I ever looked at someone and was suddenly attracted to them. I suppose it wouldn't be out of the question, though.
Positions... There are many I enjoy. I agree with MsG that the angle is right when man is on top, but you get that same angle from the "black bee" position (the one from Heart of Gold, that's the exact one) and that one is my favorite. In fact, the basic cowgirl is the only one I don't like that much because sometimes it is painful with the angling. Other than that, I have met very few positions I didn't like. Though I do like it when both people are active, there are certain positions when I have to do all the moving or it hurts, also certain times I like the man to do all the moving. Also certain times I can't move because I've turned to goo. Ooooh, MsG's mentioned on the side kinda spooning position is very nice too... Yeah, very few I don't like.
*ahem* moving on.
Yes, This Land! This Is-Land! This Browncoat Is-Land! Yes! I am on board with that. Oooh, I like serenity Island...
3.2 million isn't bad. I've known people to spend that much for a business space. Happens all the time. Of course, then they make money off it sometimes.

Copilot, honey, what have you done to yourself?

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FUTUREMRSFILLION

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:10 AM

I am the one that doesn't quite believe in Canada, or Iowa or Idaho or North Dakota for that matter. Wait, I have only ever been in about 5 states! How do I know the others exist? Hmmmmmmmmmmm!

KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:50 AM

Alright gals and gents, I'm getting sleepy. I'll see you all 100 posts later. Try not to get too out of hand on me.

Oh, here's a question: Ah crap, I can't really think of anything I want to ask the opposite sex. Guess I don't have the energy to try to learn their ways. How about this; What would you like to do that you haven't before?

For me, it's diving. I haven't even snorkeled.

http://tinyurl.com/ekv6z

PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:24 AM

I'm not sure this is really an imponderable, but it sort of is.
OK, for those of you who use or have used internet dating sites, do the "winks" get on your nerves? They really bother me. Especially when I check the profile and it's obvious I have nothing in common with the person and they'll just basically take anything they can get.
OK, so on the site I re-activated recently, this guy winked at me. His profile says he's looking for "women, 18-45". Not very picky on age, is he? Then I read his "ideal match" description and the 'vital stats' he put in are 4'5"-5'2", copper or red hair, curvy or full-bodied, and Christian. Aside from curvy, I am none of those. So I asked him what he found attractive about me in the first place. He said we seem to have a lot of common interests. I don't see it.
*le sigh* I'm so frustrated.

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ONEMANSHORT

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:49 AM

I would like to do alot of things, I suppose most people would. There's the obvious things, like traveling to Europe, bungee jumping, going on a cruise, etc... I don't care if I'm a total loser for posting this but I would like to go to a Firefly convention or just one with our BDH's in it. I'm goign to my first concert on the 20th so that's one experience I don't need have on the list anymore (Ringo Starr! I'm really psyched!) There's more, but that's enough from me. I've never used a dating site so I'm sorry I can't respond to you PhoenixRose. I guess that's oen more thing I need to experience, a romantic relationship. (Probably shouldn't be sharing all of this...oh well)

STILLFLYIN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 6:01 AM

Copilot, there is always something that matters, always something that should to be cared about, even if it is as simple as tommorow's life. Although I have never had a girlfriend and thus can only know a shadow of what others have felt, I do know that there are people out there who care about you; all you have to do is find them, they may be closer than you think

PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 6:01 AM

I'd like to fly. Not sure if ski-diving, hang-gliding, parasailing, or indoor skydiving is the way to go about that, but I'd like to do one of those sometime. At least one.
At Six Flags Elich Gardens here in Colorado there's this huge swing thingy. It's kind of like bungee, but also kind of like flying. Man that thing is fun. But it's an additional charge from park admision, so I didn't get to do it that much. If it was actually part of the main park I would just ride it all day, I swear.

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ONEMANSHORT

Thursday, July 13, 2006 6:10 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by PhoenixRose:
I'd like to fly. Not sure if ski-diving, hang-gliding, parasailing, or indoor skydiving is the way to go about that, but I'd like to do one of those sometime. At least one.
At Six Flags Elich Gardens here in Colorado there's this huge swing thingy. It's kind of like bungee, but also kind of like flying. Man that thing is fun. But it's an additional charge from park admision, so I didn't get to do it that much. If it was actually part of the main park I would just ride it all day, I swear.

Sounds awesome. I'm a roller coaster gal myself, but I've always wanted to go bungee jumping, some sort of strange appeal there. Parasailing I think I would be afraid of, but there's always some appeal in the ability to fly, until of course some scientist comes up with a way to make people fly in pill form, then it will just become typical and boring.

SERYN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 6:44 AM

sky diving, though i'd probably panic when the ground started getting close, while you're high up, love the sensation of flying, when the ground gets close, turns to falling. yeurrgh!

or does it just feel like falling all the time?

other thing i'd like to do? i'm going to so start whining - get a job that i want to do, maybe move to the states, i reckon i'd like it there, depite your president. drive, i need to do, but i've no hope of owning a car, so theres no point. But if i got one i'd be naming her Serenity, for the obvious connotations. FREEDOM!

yes, the winks from site generally do annoy me. actually, i became very tough, i wouldn't even reply to them, and i'd only very rarely reply to the 'hey saw your profile, you look nice, wanna chat?' messages.

It was a case of they obviously didn't read my profile properly, or they'd have something to ask me about, or they just have no imagination.

Tip guys, if you reply to a profile, regardless of your intentions, be specific, mention something in the profile, ask a question - show interest! it bypasses the awkwardness and gives her an actuall reason to reply to you.

aw.... i'm kinda diappointed that my comment on, ahem, 'in-flight head massages' didn't get more of a 'i'll be in my bunk' reaction. but only mildly.

Your robot reminds me of you. You tell it to turn it stops. You tell it to stop it turns. You ask it to take out the garbage it watches reruns of Firefly.
http://www.myspace.com/seryndippyt

TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 12:38 PM

Morning, all!
Good news...it's Thursday. That means only one day left until Friday...

Kenobius, what would I do that I haven't done before? Hmm. I think I would visit Egypt for the pyramids. Almost had a chance to do that a long time ago, but it never came to fruition. So, yeah, that's what I would do.

Seryn, I think you'd like it here. It's a nice place with nice people. We'd love to have you here!

Time for coffee. Be back.

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DAYVE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:15 PM

Good Morning everyone....

new day, new thread - amazing!

first of all, to CoPilot... wish i could offer comfort.....usually i find solice in words of songs... and one of my favorite Dylan tunes is To Ramona

I'd forever talk to you,
But soon my words,
They would turn into a meaningless ring.
For deep in my heart
I know there is no help I can bring.
Everything passes,
Everything changes,
Just do what you think you should do.
And someday maybe,
Who knows, baby,
I'll come and be cryin' to you.

be well - you have many supporters here

endeavor to persevere...

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:26 PM

Morning!

kudos to NV for mentioning Strawberry Cheesecake Ice Cream in the last thread! That's my very favorite Ben+Jerry's flavor, although it's hard to find.

Re the first time - I'm with you MSG, 21. Well, not with you, but you know what I mean. It was uncomfortable and bad which is a shame because it was with such a great guy. A really smart cute drummer. *sigh*

copilot - enjoy the crush! Nothing wrong with letting yourself feel good!

Does Serenity Island sound a lot like Fantasy Island or is it just me? Whatever, as long as there's an ice rink, I'm there!

going back to catch up more...

edit: copilot - just saw today's post. You can't make us go away, no matter what you say or do!!

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COPILOT

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:29 PM

I SLEPT!!!!!!!!!! From about 10pm to 6am! I got 8 hours sleep! I feel so much better today! I didn't put anything save caffine in my body yesterday and I feel much better. I thought I wanted to die but then everyone convinced me I was just coming down from a two day high and I would be just fine once my head cleared. I didn't really care or believe them but I fell alseep anyway and guess what they were right! Now all I have to do is go take a shower and find litium. My brain barely needs anything besides a over the counter dietary supliment to balance out. I just feel better so I stop taking it. Now there's no one around to make me take it so....... This happens.

Because my head is finally clear I'm relizing what I've been doing and it makes me really unhappy. I decided I was in love with someone I barely knew. I've gotten myself kicked out of my home and I'm about to be fired from my job!!!!!!!!! Why didn't this stuff matter more to me while it was happening? I screamed at Former SO for hours but he still faithfully calls me back I think just to make sure I'm still alive.

An I carried such a torch

TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:29 PM

*pointing into the black*
De Firefly, boss! De Firefly!

Sorry, my bad Tattoo impression for the year.

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DAYVE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:34 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by mal4prez:
such a great guy. A really smart cute drummer. *sigh*

wow... i was a drummer in rock bands in high shcool/college - all i ever got were stupid drummer jokes.....

What do you call a drummer with half a brain?
Gifted.

What do you call someone who hangs around with musicians?
A drummer.

What did the drummer get on his IQ test?
Drool.

Why do bands have bass players?
To translate for the drummer.

How can you tell a drummer is walking behind you?
You can hear his knuckles dragging on the ground.

What's the difference between a drummer and a drum machine?
You only have to punch the information into the drum machine once.

Did you hear about the bass player who locked his keys in the car?
He had to break a window to get the drummer out!

We know a guy who was so dumb his teacher gave him two sticks and he became a drummer, but lost one and became a conductor.

How do you know when a drummer is knocking at your door?
The knock always slows down.

I asked my drummer to spell "Mississippi"...
He said, "the river or the state?"

How do you know if a drummer's platform is level?
The drool comes out of both sides of his mouth.

How do trumpet players park in the handicap spots?
They put drumsticks on the dash.

How many drummers does it take to change a light bulb?
Five. One to change it, and the other four to stand around and talk about how much better Neil Peart would have done it!

Two drummers walk into a bar, which is actually kind of funny, because you would think that the second guy would have seen the first one do it.

What do you call a dozen drummers at the bottom of the sea?
A good start!!

Did you hear about the drummer who got into college?
No.
Neither did I.

edit: ok so i misspelled school..... i guess i've proved my point...

endeavor to persevere...

PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:41 PM

Poor Dayve! I have a great admiration for drummers. Really anyone who puts work into something like that.

I think I mentioned the age I was... 19. And it wasn't great and it hurt a lot but it wasn't bad either. not to say it didn't get a lot better...

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MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:41 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by PhoenixRose:
OK, for those of you who use or have used internet dating sites, do the "winks" get on your nerves?

My favorite was a guy who winked, had no info on his profile, but I dropped him a line anyway just to see who he was. And he send me a list of questions without saying anything about himself.

SEE YA!!

I'm actually getting exhausted with sending mail to men I hardly know. And I haven't send that many! I actually really enjoy my life as a single, except the no sex and no cuddling and no dates and no one to make me dinner. And the obvious conveniences - putting in a new garden path by myself was hella hard work.

OK, so having an SO would be better, but only if he fits into my happy little zone.

Anyway - you people that hate being single - I think the biggest reason I'll always be on my own is that I don't mind it so much. That sucks in a weird way. (Did that make sense?)

ROLFLMAO at the drummer jokes!!!

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TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:46 PM

Dayve, loved the jokes! Thanks for the laugh to get the day started.

Mal4Prez, yes, it makes sense. Being alone doesn't "suck" at all. I can't say anything anymore because I am not, but if I hadn't met my wife, I would be quite happy being single.

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MSG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:49 PM

Morning all- and a happy Thursday to you all:)

Copilot- oh goody see I told you 8 hours of sleep and letting the icky seep out of your system would do it HUGS...sorry about the job though. Are you sure you're fired?? I'd check with boss and explain you got really sick, but you're much better now:) See I have to say meds can be your friends. I know if I miss my ritalin everyone is sorry!! I figure with maintainence meds no matter how good you feel you hae to remember that just like insulin your body has to have them and you have to take them:)Rant over:)
OK who brought up strawberry cheesecake ice cream WHAP!!!!!! no taunting me at this hour...I love strawberry cheesecake ice cream or at least I think I did ( haven't had it in 2 years)
I haven't online dated, but I think it would bug me a ton if some guy tried to chat me up and then it became obvious he hadn't read my profile and was just hitting on everything. Got to laugh at a guy who says he's looking for a woman age 18-45 that just screams I don't care I just need to get laid:)

I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 1:57 PM

Good morning everyone. Wasn't exactly 100 posts, but I'm glad to see you've kept busy. Now to remember it all...

Seryn - Tristan is right, America has some nice people in it and some pretty sights along the way, but be warned. For every good person, you got a handful of idiots looking to make your life unpleasant. If you can handle their "America is the best country in the world and we'll bomb your terrorist ass if you feel differently" mentality, then come on over and hang out! Just stay clear of Ohio, it's kinda boring.

Tristan - Pyramids are right on my list. I'm an ancient history nut. Too much stargate over the years has got me interested in the real thing. Actually, any type of historical site would be a treat. But Egypt is on top.

PhoenixRose - Hmm, I am going to feel stupid, but I honestly thought you were complaining about people who use emoticons too much.

- No really, I did! I need some coffee... It's going to be a long day.

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TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:10 PM

Kenobius, I live in my own little world when it comes to history...actually have a Masters in it...and I was lucky enough to live in France for awhile and got to see the castles, towns, historic sites, etc. I do regret never making it to Egypt, though. Hopefully, I'll get back there one day!
By the way, saw the photo of your theatre over in the other thread. Looks good! I have pictures of the theatre my brother and I ran on my computer at home...I'll try to get them somewhere on the web. I am a big fan of the smaller, "guerilla"-type theatres. Thank you for sharing.

Strawberry cheesecake icecream...I must have missed that post. That does sound good right about now, though...

I have nothing to add, but I'll chime in on the online dating sites. Never used one, but I can see how they could be amusing if you didn't take them too seriously.

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COPILOT

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:10 PM

I think 18-45 just means that 35 is ideal 18 is a dream and 45 is the oldest acceptable age. Just my opinion.

Thank you all for helping me feel better these last few days.

The problem with my job is that our market is getting a new general manager. Which means someone new with no knowledge of who we are coming in to clean house.

Oh well I was going to quit in two weeks anyway. I just need to quit before I get fired. This town is full of people I need to avoid and experiences I wish I'd never had. Also I work for the same company as Former SO. So you know day after day of seeing him come to work happy looking all half ravaged by his new girl.....Makes me want to vomit on my shoes.

An I carried such a torch

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:17 PM

All right, following up on the drummer jokes... (I love you male types and I hope you take this in the proper loving spirit!)

From http://ifaq.wap.org/sex/bashingmenjokes.html

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TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:21 PM

Copilot, never quite thought of the age thing that way. Huh. Kinda makes sense. Thanks!
Sorry to hear about the job. Do you have anything lined up to replace it?

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TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:24 PM

Mal4Prez...hey, now!

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MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:29 PM

I know, I don't believe a bit of it is true, but it's still wicked funny.

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PENGUIN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:29 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Tristan:
Mal4Prez...hey, now!

I second that! lol

ONEMANSHORT

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:29 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by copilot:
I think 18-45 just means that 35 is ideal 18 is a dream and 45 is the oldest acceptable age. Just my opinion.

Thank you all for helping me feel better these last few days.

The problem with my job is that our market is getting a new general manager. Which means someone new with no knowledge of who we are coming in to clean house.

Oh well I was going to quit in two weeks anyway. I just need to quit before I get fired. This town is full of people I need to avoid and experiences I wish I'd never had. Also I work for the same company as Former SO. So you know day after day of seeing him come to work happy looking all half ravaged by his new girl.....Makes me want to vomit on my shoes.

An I carried such a torch

Glad you're feeling better. Maybe leaving your job will actually be a good thing, (I'm guessing) but it must be rather awkward having to see him everyday. It does sound like it's just an opportunity in disguise, find a new job, a better job, with more people you like.

MSG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:40 PM

Tristan- just to even things up here's my favorite joke ( which by the way gets me in trouble with a lot of women)
Why do they call PMS ( premenstrual syndrome) PMS?
Because mad cow disease was already taken:)

ooh I have an imponderable... guys would you be comfortable with a woman who was stronger than you..I mean significantly physically stronger...and women would you be ok if you were the buff/strong one in the relationship ( and I do realize with our big buff guys on this thread that we are sort of entering the imagination area, but just pretend)

I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:41 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Penguin:
Quote:
Originally posted by Tristan:
Mal4Prez...hey, now!

I second that! lol

I think of it like the drummer jokes or blond jokes - making fun of the stereotype.

OK, I can see it might offend. I took the jokes off but left the connection. Because I still think they're funny.

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TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:44 PM

MSG, thank you...that joke was funny! Not, of course, that I would dare repeat it in mixed company!

A woman physically stronger than I? Could be fun. Hasn't happened yet, but it has come close. The wife is stronger than she looks, and can sometimes take me down when I am not expecting it. Much fun!

Mal4Prez, no need to have taken the jokes off. I was having fun with you!

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Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:47 PM

Shiny happy people holding hands....

Little bit a' R.E.M for ya.

*scoot*

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MSG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:52 PM

morning 13 sweety:) Nice R.E.M. and a good and "shiny" tie in as well:)

Tristan- hmm well I do tell it in mixed company so maybe that's my problem joke wise:)

I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:55 PM

How could you think I was talking about people using emotes? Gawd, if you could see my whole emote folder on photobucket... *checks folder* I have 177 emotes now.
I wouldn't mind being as strong or stronger than a guy. Might make me feel more secure (at the begining anyway, wouldn't be a deal later on)
I'm so glad you're feeling better, Copilot! I was worried about you!
I need to find another job, too. Right there with ya.

*edit* I can't imagine that 35 would be ideal for a 26 year old, but maybe I'm wrong.

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Thursday, July 13, 2006 2:59 PM

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Originally posted by msg:

ooh I have an imponderable... guys would you be comfortable with a woman who was stronger than you..I mean significantly physically stronger...and women would you be ok if you were the buff/strong one in the relationship ( and I do realize with our big buff guys on this thread that we are sort of entering the imagination area, but just pretend)

Wouldn't bother me so much as long as I'm still needed. I wasn't blessed with an overabundance of gifts, and sometimes hulking things from one side of the room to the next is all I can do. I just don't want to go obsolete on her.

Hey, worked for Wash, why not me? I'll never let her walk over me though, cause I always have an idea or opinion about something.

EDIT: Sorry PR, but I wasn't thinking too clearly, that happens alot. 177, not too shabby!

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DAYVE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:04 PM

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Originally posted by mal4prez:
I think of it like the drummer jokes or blond jokes - making fun of the stereotype.

so the gloves have come off, eh?
http://www.zelo.com/blonde/index.asp

i know, i know....but it is fun....

endeavor to persevere...

13

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:04 PM

Don't use emotes that much myself, on account of techno-cripple-ness. Like to keep my posts ambiguous, too.

I'd almost prefer being the weak one of the two. Make me feel more protected and dependent.

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RUGBUG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:04 PM

Another morning...I really don't like mornings. And I really, really don't like cheery people in the morning (cheery virtual people are okay...cheery co-workers suck).

Quote:
Originally posted by mal4prez:

Anyway - you people that hate being single - I think the biggest reason I'll always be on my own is that I don't mind it so much. That sucks in a weird way. (Did that make sense?)

Count me in on that. For the most part I LIKE being single. I go where I want, do what I want. I spend my money and my time how I want to. I completely embrace the positives of single life. As I get older, I keep thinking it's going to be harder and harder for me to get married. Which is odd, because this isn't the life I thought I would have when I was 35 years old. It's a good life...just nothing like I expected.

PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:09 PM

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Originally posted by Dayve:
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Q: Why do blondes wear ponytails?
A: To hide the valve stem!

I have heard a very bad version of this. Actually it involved pigtails.
There are dumb blonde jokes and horny/slutty blonde jokes. Let's just leave it at that.

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DAYVE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:11 PM

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Originally posted by mal4prez:
OK, I can see it might offend. I took the jokes off but left the connection. Because I still think they're funny.

M4P, i'm certainly not offended by funny jokes - there are some funnies there - and, unfortunatly, some that ring true....

i'll pull the plug on the blonde jokes, too... Peace

endeavor to persevere...

COPILOT

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:12 PM

The only thing I like about being single is not having to answer to anyone about being permiscuious. Although it's not much fun anymore.

Last year I had an afair with someone who was 41 while I was 21 how odd is that? Although now that I'm thinking back on it I think the fact that I was 21 was a lot more important than anything else about me. So of course I fell in love really badly. Then he moved away leaving me to sit and cry alone. Wasn't exactly something I could ask for SO's help with. Just more stuff to get off my chest

An I carried such a torch

MSG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:14 PM

ok blond joke

A man hires a decorator to come and re-do his whole house. The decorator arrives and is shown the first room. The decorator explains the colors and furniture he'd like in the room. The man agrees and then leans out of the window and yells "green side up" The decorator is startled, but keeps going in each room the decorator explains what he wants to do with the room and the man agrees and then leans out of the window and yells " green side up" At the end, the decorator says "I have to know why you keep yelling green side up out of the window" and the man replies " oh I have a couple of blonds laying turf out front"

you know there is just nothing more soothing than watching a cute and much beloved cat sunning himself at the window( my cutest baby which I will post when I can find a way to do put them up)

EDIT- Copilot love unload away it helps:)
and as for the single thing I do love my husband, but there are times when I wish I could just do what I wanted without considering how it affected someone else:)
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:16 PM

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Originally posted by Dayve:
Q: Why do blondes wear ponytails?
A: To hide the valve stem!

Honestly, I don't really get this... something involving airhead, but... OK, don't explain, it'll only make it worse! But I like the other ones.

Here's a good one I can't do over the internet, you'll have to try it at home - put both hands on your head, squeeze and exhale like you're pumping the air out. It does me a lot of good sometimes!

Thanks Tristan - but it also occurred to me that we have younger viewers, and some of those jokes are a little, well...

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GED

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:34 PM

Wow I missed a lot in the 12 hours I didn't check.

Anyway, here's a new imponderable - forgive me if it's been done before. Women, would you make (or have you made) the first move on a date and what prompted you do so?

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RUGBUG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:35 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by msg:

Why do they call PMS ( premenstrual syndrome) PMS?
Because mad cow disease was already taken:)

This is one of my favorite jokes. First time I heard it (actually read) I about busted a gut.

Strength: Question for the guys...when you make some comment along the lines of "well, you could kick my ass" (kind of like Wash's "she could kill my with her pinky") is it suppose to be a compliment or is it an insecurity coming out?

I often get those types of comments. Yes, I am strong. I can pick up heavy stuff and I won't wait around for some guy to do it for me. (Ex. I just bought new table and chairs. They were delivered Friday while I was at work, so the boxes were left around the back of the house. I didn't wait around, I figured out how to lift these heavy boxes with my one good arm and get them inside. I then proceeded to assemble said table and chairs and remove old table and chairs with no help whatsoever. None of this was easy, especially with my arm situation, but it wasn't impossible either). I still really hate it when guys say I am stronger then they are. Unless you are an adolescent boy who weighs 125 pounds (if you are, that's not a slam...you're just fine)...I am more than likely NOT stronger. The comments feel like such a slam. Like I'm not weak enough to make you all feel good about yourselves. So what gives...my issue, or their's?

DESKTOPHIPPIE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:39 PM

Have I made the first mood on a date? Yep

What prompted me to do so? Nothing in particular. It just seemed right at the time. I hate to be vague, but it wasn't anything the guy said or did. Well okay, once it was something one was saying that I thought was really adoreable and I just had to kiss him there and then or I was going to explode, but if another guy said the same thing now it probably wouldn't provoke the same response. It just sort of happened at the time.

I suck at explaining.

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PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:39 PM

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Originally posted by Ged:
Anyway, here's a new imponderable - forgive me if it's been done before. Women, would you make (or have you made) the first move on a date and what prompted you do so?

Yes I would and yes I have. I'm usually subtle about it, though; the way I would want to be moved on. I'll just ease myself closer and wait for reciprocation. Don't want to make anyone uncomfortable or rush things. What prompted it? Couldn't say. Good ol' fashioned attraction I suppose.

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Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:39 PM

Double post - Grrr! Arrgh!

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KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:42 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by RugBug:
Strength: Question for the guys...when you make some comment along the lines of "well, you could kick my ass" (kind of like Wash's "she could kill my with her pinky") is it suppose to be a compliment or is it an insecurity coming out?

I often get those types of comments. Yes, I am strong. I can pick up heavy stuff and I won't wait around for some guy to do it for me. (Ex. I just bought new table and chairs. They were delivered Friday while I was at work, so the boxes were left around the back of the house. I didn't wait around, I figured out how to lift these heavy boxes with my one good arm and get them inside. I then proceeded to assemble said table and chairs and remove old table and chairs with no help whatsoever. None of this was easy, especially with my arm situation, but it wasn't impossible either). I still really hate it when guys say I am stronger then they are. Unless you are an adolescent boy who weighs 125 pounds (if you are, that's not a slam...you're just fine)...I am more than likely NOT stronger. The comments feel like such a slam. Like I'm not weak enough to make you all feel good about yourselves. So what gives...my issue, or their's?

For me, it would be a compliment and I guess a little bit of insecurity. I'm not a big guy, never have been, (Wait for jokes) so I know there are a billion people out there more capable than I am. Females not-with-standing. But at the same time, I don't think I would let anyone muscle me around, SO or not. So a comment along the lines of "I'll do this cause you could kick my ass if I don't" is slight truth with more of a playful implication than anything.

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Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:43 PM

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Originally posted by mal4prez:
I know, I don't believe a bit of it is true, but it's still wicked funny.

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DAYVE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 3:45 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by RugBug:
Question for the guys...when you make some comment along the lines of "well, you could kick my ass" (kind of like Wash's "she could kill my with her pinky") is it suppose to be a compliment or is it an insecurity coming out?.......So what gives...my issue, or their's?

this reminds me of a neighbor growing up - she was a couple years older than me and taller - sort of a tomboy - we wrestled a lot -and we were fairly equal strength wise - so i guess in the back of my mind, if i ever said something like that to a woman now, it would just be hopes of making physical contact.....

to answer the question - i would mean it as a compliment (i admire physically fit women - ok...i admire all women... i'd better shut up..)

endeavor to persevere...

EMMARIGBY

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:00 PM

To be honest I think a lot of women are a lot stronger than they give themselves credit for. It really bugs me when they don't bother to try to do any heavy lifting because it's easier to let the men do it. To be fair many women I know have been socially conditioned to actually believe they are weak. I have to really wind them up before they'll arm wrestle (and quite often then they'll beat or tie with my male friends!). There are few things guaranteed to make me steam as much as presenting me with a fairly easy task and then saying "Oh leave that for the men"! Unless, you know, I'm feeling really lazy or something!

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MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:00 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by msg:
Why do they call PMS ( premenstrual syndrome) PMS?
Because mad cow disease was already taken:)

Good one!

Quote:
Originally posted by RugBug:
Strength: Question for the guys...when you make some comment along the lines of "well, you could kick my ass" (kind of like Wash's "she could kill my with her pinky") is it suppose to be a compliment or is it an insecurity coming out?

Good question! I'm not physically strong, but scary in my own way...

I once had a friend tell a friend that he'd never date me cause I'm too smart. Granted, this was the kind of guy that got up at 8am to start drinking 40s of cheap beer to get ready the 1 pm football game...

gad, I have a superiority complex, don't I?

I have always been too reserved (chicken) to make the first move, but with my recently improved attitude I am just dying for the chance to do so. Gotta find a guy that gives me the urge...

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NVGHOSTRIDER

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:21 PM

EMMA- My ex was very strong. 130lbs, 5'10" of loving aggressive bitch. Kinda sad. I do miss the wrestling matches.

Ice Cream: I was trying to come up with FF/BDM themed flavors at the end of yesterday. My favorite is still the Mal-adjusted Rocky Road.

M4P- Thats a superiority complex. I thought everyone else just lacked the brains to be worthy. Seems I have some issues too.

"Built for comfort
not built for speed."

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:26 PM

All right - returning to an old imponderable - I am writing a Dear John email to a guy I went on a date with last weekend. He was fun, but there was no spark at all. And I absolutely can't mail him the suggested you are load of fun but I don't want to have sex with you line. That may be the truth, but I can't say that!!

I'm been putting it off all week, but I need to mail him. This is what I have so far:

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Hi Scott!

Sorry for the extreme slowness to get back to you. I forgot that this week was the beginning of a dance workshop - I've had class and rehearsal every night after work. It's lots of time and energy!

I also really had fun last weekend! With time to think on it though... I'm feeling that this is a friendly thing more than romantic.
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And then I ran out of ideas... it's the usual thing to say let's go to a movie as friends, but I think nothing would be more uncomfortable.

Help!

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TRISTAN

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:26 PM

PR, I'm 35 and my wife is 25...and it's ideal for us. Age was never really an issue for me; within reason, of course.

Morning, RugBug! The "you could kick my ass" isn't really an insecurity issue, at least on my part. I am with a warrior woman, and if she really put her mind to it, she could kick my ass. I love strong women that are not afraid to show that they are strong.

I understand the benefits of being single as far as "doing what you want", but the wife and I sort of have that arrangement, too. We don't really have to answer to each other, as long as what we are doing does not embarass or hurt the other. Does that make sense?

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Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:42 PM

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Originally posted by mal4prez:
All right - returning to an old imponderable - I am writing a Dear John email to a guy ..........Help!

you may want the advise of the ladies on board, but coming from a man.... i don't want to hear excuses - if you like me, good, if not, tell me and be done with it.... just don't drag it out. Now, if the guy persists and you're sure you don't want him....be as blunt as possible - it's for his own good.

that may sound harsh, but it's what i would want -

endeavor to persevere...

KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:44 PM

He's right, don't leave us hanging, that'll just give us time to build up hope. And that fall is a lot harder.

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MSG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:45 PM

hmmm interesting:) as for being stronger I can bench 120 and I just wondered if it was a bit off putting to guys.
NV- firefly ice cream flavors: hands of blue raspberry or mudder's milk and cream or rivers gummy bug surprise or Jayne's hunk o chocolate...I could go on and on:)

Making the first move...yup done that more than a few:) you should try it, it's fun!!

EDIT- dear john...well I really enjoyed your company and the time we spent. I'd love to hang out again some time. I'm glad we can be friends. I know we were both hoping for a spark, but sometimes it just doesn't happen. I hope you are interested in a friendship. Thanks so much for everything and good luck finding a spark with someone special:)
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:50 PM

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Originally posted by Dayve:
you may want the advise of the ladies on board, but coming from a man.... i don't want to hear excuses - if you like me, good, if not, tell me and be done with it.... just don't drag it out. Now, if the guy persists and you're sure you don't want him....be as blunt as possible - it's for his own good.

that may sound harsh, but it's what i would want -

Do you mean nix the first paragraph?

I don't think he'll persist, I just want to be final without being mean.

EDIT: MSG, you're a goddess!

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CALIFORNIAKAYLEE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:51 PM

Aw, Dayve, I hung out with drummers a lot in high school and never heard any of those jokes, lol. I was on the Color Guard, and we marched with the marching band in the fall, and then in the spring had a separate inside competition circuit that was just for the Color Guard, but there was almost always a Percussion competition scheduled along side it. So us girls of the Color Guard hung out with the guys of Percussion quite a bit, and I think nearly all of us dated one of them at some point. Mine was a snare drummer, and while he was an ass in many ways, he definitely wasn't stupid. And the constant drumming on everything was forgiven when he'd drum on my sore shoulder muscles. Actually a surprisingly good massage.

Now that I think about it though, that guy was a major hun dan. Anyone else look back at old relationships and go "What was I thinking?!"?

I don't think I'd like to be the physically strong one in a relationship, at least not unless I was significantly stronger than I am now. Physically, I'm pretty weak and fragile (what with the illness and all), so if a guy was weaker than I, he'd have to be pretty darn weak, heh.

OTOH, every now and then I get a spurt of energy, and I "channel my mother" as the hubby puts it. I swear my mom was a Pioneer woman in a previous life. When she was five months pregnant with one of my sisters, she chopped down a tree. Dad was working long hours to support us, and the tree was dead so it needed to go. I think she got about half way through with an axe before our neighbor came by with a chainsaw, lol. So every now and then I'll get a spurt of energy and do something Mom would do. Last time it was when hubby and I moved into the place we just bought, and I dismantled the entire built-in desk hubby had ripped out the day before. He couldn't believe his eyes when he got home, hehe. That said, hubby is definitely stronger than I am, and I like it that way.

As far as making the first move, I did it a few times in high school and college, usually not with great results. But a few years ago, one of my siblings was asking the hubby and I about how we got together, and hubby was telling the story, and told it as I kissed him. Which is totally untrue -- he kissed me! Our first kiss, he swears he was just standing there and I went up on my toes and kissed him, whereas I swear *I* was just standing there and *he* leaned down and kissed me.

If we're lucky, we'll still be arguing about this when we're sixty.

Well, I'll be sixty and he'll be sixty-eight, and I won't let him forget it for a moment.

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

MSG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:55 PM

Mal4Prez- well you saw my sample idea in the edit. I like to let the guy down by making it sound like we both weren't interested or some such so it doesn't come off as though you assume he has feelings. If he did have feelings, it's face saving for him and if he didn't, it doesn't make you sound like you're conceited:)

CK- isn't it fun to have one of those we can argue this till the end of time things ( as long as it's fun and silly) My husband and I have a long running argument about how he proposed:)

I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

PHOENIXROSE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:56 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by CaliforniaKaylee:
Anyone else look back at old relationships and go "What was I thinking?!"?

Seems like I do that every time. But then, my breakups have all been bad. Maybe that clouds my perspective. Also, it's easier to get over the pain by basically saying "Well, that was obviously not the place I should have been." If a focus on the bad, I don't cry over the good things I miss having.
Sorry, that was really angsty.

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Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:56 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Tristan:

I understand the benefits of being single as far as "doing what you want", but the wife and I sort of have that arrangement, too. We don't really have to answer to each other, as long as what we are doing does not embarass or hurt the other. Does that make sense?

Makes complete sense and sounds like something I could live with.

But what I see in a lot of marriages is an expectation that the spouse is around during down time. Yes, you want to spend time with spouse, but what if they have things that they enjoy that take a lot of time? Yes, this goes back to the horses and I think I've said it before. Doing what I do takes a lot of time. It's not just "oh, i feel like riding today." It's a 4-6 day a week committment of 2-3 hours at a minimum. That's a lot of time taken up with my passion while SO sits at home with nothing to do. And that becomes a source of contention.

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 4:56 PM

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Originally posted by CaliforniaKaylee:
Aw, Dayve, I hung out with drummers a lot in high school and never heard any of those jokes, lol. I was on the Color Guard...

Too funny - my boy was a snare drummer and I was color guard! And, yes, I was 21. Summer marching activites. I was a HUGE band geek (drum corps, in case anyone's heard of it.)

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CALIFORNIAKAYLEE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:01 PM

Ooooh, M4P, who'd you march with?! I was injured my senior year of high school (we got a coach in who had just finished coaching Santa Clara Vanguard during the DCI finals, so he over-estimated the strength of us poor little girls) so I never did get to do drum corps. Most of our coaches were ex or current SCV, and a lot of my friends went on to march with either SCV or Blue Devils after high school. And they always brought back the coolest pictures and stories. Man I would have loved to have done that.

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

DAYVE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:05 PM

M4P... yes, like a band-aid....pull it right off.... even better, that is unless you're holding out hope for friendship, is to call the guy and tell him straight up, it's a no-go. And on the friendship thing - i wouldn't get my hopes up... again, a man's POV... we don't want to be friends with someone we're interested in romanticly.... that's a pain we can do without.

CALIFORNIAKAYLEE.... drummers aren't so bad (or stupid) we just like to make noise.... i was never in band in school...i was asked, but i didn't like the marching deal.... i did try a jazz lab band in college that was fun - but mainly i was the long-hair time keeper for various rock bands - actually naming a band is almost as hard as playing in one.... we had some doozies....

endeavor to persevere...

CALIFORNIAKAYLEE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:06 PM

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It's a 4-6 day a week committment of 2-3 hours at a minimum. That's a lot of time taken up with my passion while SO sits at home with nothing to do.

Honestly Rugbug, I think it's an issue of finding someone else who shares that passion. I know that the hours hubby has to work and the amount of time he spends playing video games would bug a lot of other women, but since I work a lot of the same hours (though not always at the same times, depending on what we're each crunching for), and play a lot of games myself, it doesn't bother me at all. So maybe someone who shares your love of horses would be a good fit for you?

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

WHITEFALL

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:07 PM

On the subject of strong women... well, myself I have virtually no upper body strength. Leg strength, decent, upper body, nada. And many of the ladies I know are dancers and a few are athletes, so often times they are just plain old stronger than me. Does this bother me? Only if it bothers them.

Theres a girl in my year who does Color Guard, got plenty upper arm strength from there, and hey, more power to her. Personally I've yet to find a use for exercise I don't have, or don't want to have time for, so I don't.

So, imo, if the woman is the stronger of the two, it's only an issue if the woman has a problem with the man not conforming to a certain male stereotype. (Or being all healthy, not necessarily the same thing.)

"But, these strong women characters?"

"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:07 PM

I was in a small drum corps in the midwest for three years, played soprano (trumpet) for two years and then switched to colorguard. Those were the days, it was SO much fun.

But I wanted to try the BIG guys, so I did SCV '92 and I hated it! Those girls were a bunch of self-important drama queens. I like to think it was just that year, and the organization as a whole is better than that, but '92 was no fun for me.

Then I did Cadets '93 and it was incredible. I've never worked harder in my life! I have nothing but admiration for those people, and the amount of work it takes to be that good. I'm amazed I got through it at all!

I really loved colorguard. I miss it sometimes!

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NVGHOSTRIDER

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:07 PM

I never did get that. There is always something to do. But it feels so great to have nothing to do from time to time. I mentioned to my best friend that the reason she is with her husband so long is because he is always on duty or deployed with one of the teams. She finally admitted earlier this year that she loves the time she gets with the kids, but she also loves missing him then welcoming him home. It makes sense for partners to have their own things. Anyone who could understand the fact I have family and work obligations is alright in my book. Seems this is a continuing source of anxiety for some of us on this board.

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I'm workin' diggin' ditches"

MSG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:09 PM

yeah rugbug sometimes it can be a bit contentious when husband and I want something different for down time. My " wish for singleness" isn't really time related. It's more on the " it must be nice to be able to spend money how and when you want without having to ask" along with the" nice to redecorate with anything you want without asking another's opinion" with a smidgen of " being able to always eat what you feel like eating and watch the movie you wanted to watch" BUT all in all I like being married:) Just have occasional grass is always greener moments:)

EDIT- NV anyone who doesn't understand is a twirp and not worth the time...that said, yes it can cause trouble especially in a kid related field like our where sometimes kids need you at odd hours or for a lot of time and SO feels left out
I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

MAL4PREZ

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:11 PM

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Originally posted by Dayve:
M4P... yes, like a band-aid....pull it right off.... even better, that is unless you holding out hope for friendship, is to call the guy and tell him straight up, it's a no-go. And on the friendship thing - i wouldn't get my hopes up... again, a man's POV... we don't want to be friends with someone we're interested in romanticly.... that's a pain we can do without.

I sent the mail... and I'd so much rather not try a friendship, expecially since I met this guy online, so there was no friendship to start with. I just fell obligated to make the offer. How silly is that?

All right, kick down with the bad band names...

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WHITEFALL

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:14 PM

Hmmm... Firefly and the Serenity's?

Womack and Skunk?

Mal: Live In Concert?

Niska's Rep?

The Many Mustaches of Monty?

.........There's no pattern here. Suuure.

"But, these strong women characters?"

"Why aren't you asking 100 other guys why they don't write strong women characters?" -Joss Whedon

GED

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:17 PM

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Originally posted by CaliforniaKaylee:
Anyone else look back at old relationships and go "What was I thinking?!"?

Uhh yes, my last relationship. I let my feelings cloud my logical thought. I'll try not to do that again.

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RUGBUG

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:22 PM

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Originally posted by CaliforniaKaylee:

Honestly Rugbug, I think it's an issue of finding someone else who shares that passion.

There's a funny "toast" for horsewomen that goes something like this:

"If you're dating a guy who rides horses, Raise your cup. If not, Raise your standards."

(FYI,Cups are what holds the horizontal elements of jumps, standards, as well as being, you know, STANDARDS, are the vertical posts that jumps are set up on. that's one on the right of this picture:

)

MSG: The money thing plays a huge role as well. Horses ain't cheap and showing just makes it worse. I stay away from the $2000 for three days types of shows, but I can still rack up a $700 bill in a weekend.

Dayve: Drummers are delicious. Ain't nothing wrong with a little rhythm.

DAYVE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:25 PM

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Originally posted by mal4prez:
I just fell obligated to make the offer. How silly is that?

Not silly at all, you are very thoughtful & sweet - i hope the guy appreciates the time he had with you.

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All right, kick down with the bad band names...

really? ok, first was Kenny Thomas & The Out-of-Tunes..very young and silly

a band we called The Tractors, before there was a successful band by that same name

we tried Guy Lombardo - no one got that

Dark Meat, Loss-Leaders, Pogo, (one of my favs) Titty Bingo, & Regulators...

that's a few i remember.... one group started out really well, (actual talent), but we fought so much over a stupid name that we never played a gig....

endeavor to persevere...

CALIFORNIAKAYLEE

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:25 PM

If you were with SCV in '92, you might have actually known some of my coaches. My color guard coach was Sheri McGuinnis (Sheri McGuinnis-Aquilina when I knew her), and our band director was Dennis Aquilina, but I'm not sure if they were still there in '92.

1992 was Fiddler on the Roof, right? Man oh man, I LOVE that show! Possibly my all time favorite show. It's a close tie with Phantom from '89, anyway. I mean, the bottle dance right on the field? How can you beat that? I used to have an mp3 of the entire show, pretty bummed that I lost it.

Ok, I am now in total and complete awe of you, M4P. And I know what you mean about missing it, it's pretty much the only thing from high school that I still actually dream about, heh.

(Don't worry, I'm not loyal to SCV or anything, promise. The coaches may have been SCV, but most my friends went to Blue Devils, so it's all good. )

Ok, sorry everyone, my band geek moment is now over. It's just that the DCI finals are coming up next month, so it was on my mind anyhow.

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

KENOBIUS

Thursday, July 13, 2006 5:28 PM

Huh. Never knew that Rugbug, interesting. Also, riding is something I have never done, but would like to try it.

Here's a sidebar question - What role does money play into relationships these days? Are you ladies looking for quick retirement or is dating more of a necessity to pay the bills. And for guys, do you (like me) feel stuck cause you can't afford to date as much as you like to?

EDIT: Holy crap, I've seen that Fiddler performance! I was searching around Youtube and Google Vids looking for Fiddler stuff since our theater is currently rehearsing it. I adore Fiddler and seeing that on the field gave me chills, especially the bottle dance!

http://tinyurl.com/ekv6z

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