Haken is not around because...

POSTED BY: HAKEN
UPDATED: Saturday, September 17, 2011 19:39
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HAKEN

Friday, September 2, 2011 9:35 PM

Hi, all:

Just wanted to drop a quick note about why I haven't been around much for the past couple of months.

My father-in-law was suffering from terminal colon cancer and eventually passed away about a couple of weeks ago. My wife, being an only child, was left with the responsibilities of having to take care of all the things that goes along with having a parent die, including the care of my distraught mother-in-law. Since my wife can't do it alone, I've been helping her out as much as I can.

To make matters worst, my mother-in-law has now been diagnosed with lymphoma herself. We're still waiting for test results to see what type of lymphoma it is.

Suffice to say, this has been a huge emotional and physical roller coaster for our family and pretty much our own lives have been put on hold so that we can deal with these unfortunate events.

I do occasionally check the site to make sure everything is still running smoothly, but is unable to do much more at the moment since I'm not home as we are over at my mother-in-law's.

Hopefully things will get better in the coming weeks and I'll be able to devote more time on the site.

Anyway, just wanted to let you all know because some of you have been dropping me emails, messages, etc. wondering how things are going and where I'm at.

Will keep you all posted.

Best,
Haken

ECGORDON

Friday, September 2, 2011 10:08 PM

Condolences on the loss, Haken. Not to worry, we'll hold until you get back.

DAVESHAYNE

Friday, September 2, 2011 10:18 PM

My condolences re: FiL and best wishes Re: MiL for a more treatable result on the Lymphoma.

David

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WHOZIT

Friday, September 2, 2011 10:24 PM

My sympathys.

ARTCAT81

Friday, September 2, 2011 10:43 PM

hugs hun, sending positive vibes your way

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PIRATENEWS

Friday, September 2, 2011 10:47 PM

Thanks for stepping up. Been there done that.

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BYTEMITE

Friday, September 2, 2011 11:58 PM

I'm sorry to hear about that. :( I know how difficult the whole estate settling business is, my mother is still working on sorting out and spliting up her mother's estate about six months later.

MOOSE

Saturday, September 3, 2011 12:11 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by ecgordon:
Condolences on the loss, Haken. Not to worry, we'll hold until you get back.

This.

Exactly.

CHRISISALL

Saturday, September 3, 2011 12:29 AM

So sorry Haken, been there with my Mom's terminal cancer. It really sucks.
All my best.

CYBERSNARK

Saturday, September 3, 2011 12:30 AM

Yeah. Take all the time you need, Haken, you owe us nothing.

Condolences and sympathies.

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FREMDFIRMA

Saturday, September 3, 2011 2:55 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by ecgordon:
Condolences on the loss, Haken. Not to worry, we'll hold until you get back.

Absolutely, we're browncoats, it's what we do.

If you need anythin though, let us know, will you ?

-Frem

DREAMTROVE

Saturday, September 3, 2011 3:23 AM

Sorry to hear :'(

WISHIMAY

Saturday, September 3, 2011 5:42 AM

Egad! Well, I hope y'all catch a break. My sympathy to yer wife, and everyone involved. It's a painful altering of reality for sure.

We've all got our fingers crossed, and we'll hold together just fine. You do what needs to be done.

And when ya get back, maybe we oughta start up a cancer research charity...

JAKE7

Saturday, September 3, 2011 1:39 PM

So sorry to hear, Haken! My sympathies on your loss and I hope things go well for your Mother-in-law.

THESOMNAMBULIST

Saturday, September 3, 2011 2:20 PM

Hey Haken. Very sorry for your troubles. I'm currently dealing with something very similar with my girlfriends father at the moment. It's a tough and brutal experience. I wish you and your wife well in helping your mother-in-law find the strength to deal with her illness.

When you're ready, we'll all still be here.

MALSDOXY

Saturday, September 3, 2011 6:48 PM

Stay strong for them Haken, we'll hold until you return

"Haven't you killed me enough for one day ?"
- Mal, War Stories

BUP

Saturday, September 3, 2011 7:04 PM

What a mess. I am so sorry for you and your family's loss. Take care of yourselves. Be there for each other, love and understanding are things you'll surely need to both give and receive at this time. I wish I had something deeper and more profound to offer. I hope I helped just a little bit.

FLORALBUNNY

Saturday, September 3, 2011 7:05 PM

Hugs, Haken. Know you're not alone in such a situation.

bun

PIZMOBEACH

Saturday, September 3, 2011 10:36 PM

Hang in there Haken - you know we're here if you need anything.

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SISTER

Sunday, September 4, 2011 4:05 PM

So sorry for your loss, and the added concern of another ill family member, Haken. We're still flying and will hold until you get back.

DMI

Sunday, September 4, 2011 4:14 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Moose:
Quote:
Originally posted by ecgordon:
Condolences on the loss, Haken. Not to worry, we'll hold until you get back.

This.

Exactly.

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I pray for one last landing,
on the globe that gave me birth.
Let me rest my eyes on the fleecy skies
and the cool, green hills of Earth.

DANCINGNEKO

Sunday, September 4, 2011 10:40 PM

Deepest condolences to your family on your FiL's passing, and MiL's diagnosis.

Let us know if you need a hand (or five, or a platoon even). Until then, we'll hold.

YT

Monday, September 5, 2011 2:47 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by ecgordon, seconded by Moose, thirded by DMI:
Condolences on the loss, Haken. Not to worry, we'll hold until you get back.

YT

VERASAMUELS

Monday, September 5, 2011 8:20 AM

::Hugs:: to both of you.

Lost my mother to cancer in 2001. Again, am an only child. Dealing with all the practical stuff takes time. There will be plenty of 'Coats watching the shop while you're away.

Devout Keeper of Jayne's Lunchbox

SAVEWASH

Monday, September 5, 2011 3:09 PM

Best wishes to you and your family, Haken.

MAL4PREZ

Monday, September 5, 2011 6:56 PM

No worries about the site, Haken, do whatever you need to do! If positive energy helps, you certainly have a whole lot of it coming from a whole lot of places around the world. We'll all be thinking of you and your family!

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SLUMMING

Tuesday, September 6, 2011 3:48 AM

Been gone from this site a long time myself, sadly for very similar reasons. Just felt compelled to check in tonight for some reason, and saw your post. Please know that though time and chance should alter your world, you are not alone, my Firefly friend. And when the 'verse tilts back into place for you, all the lovely Browncoats will be right here.

PEULSAR5

Tuesday, September 6, 2011 4:49 AM

My heartfelt sympathies, Sir. You know your fellow Browncoats are here if you need us.

MSA

Tuesday, September 6, 2011 4:42 PM

HUGS Haken

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RIONAEIRE

Thursday, September 8, 2011 5:41 AM

I'm sorry for your family's loss and I'm glad that you're there to support your wife through all of this. Handling an estate is hard but losing a parent is way harder. And I hope that her mom has the strength to keep fighting.

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INVADERCHAT

Friday, September 9, 2011 1:46 AM

Condolences.
It must be a very difficult time but I hope the collective vibes being sent to you and your family lessen the load at least somewhat.

Keep flying.

WISHIMAY

Saturday, September 10, 2011 2:09 PM

Let us know when you know something -so's we can uncross our fingers!!

OPPYH

Saturday, September 10, 2011 4:15 PM

Haken,
Life gets complicated every now, and then. Hang in there buddy. Wishing you, and your wife a little good luck.

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1KIKI

Monday, September 12, 2011 4:15 AM

Haken

I'm sorry to hear all that. Do what you need to do. We'll cruise OK till you're back.

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Yeah, me neither....

HAKEN

Friday, September 16, 2011 2:30 AM

Thank you everyone for your concerns and support.

Here's a bit of an update on the situation. Unfortunately, the test results for my mother-in-law came back and the lymphoma is in her bone marrow, which means it's stage 4. Her chemo will begin on Tuesday and we've decided to move her into our house so that we can better help her through her chemotherapy. Everyone I've spoken to who has gone through this have told me the first treatment is the hardest and will pretty much wipe her out physically. Anyway, that's the latest. Will post more as things come up. Again, thank you all for your support.

http://about.me/haken

WISHIMAY

Friday, September 16, 2011 4:21 AM

Damn.

Just...damn.

Universe just ain't fair.
I hope your wife and family find the strength to get through this again.(and I hope you have a very thorough doctor for your wife, too!) This kinda stress can wreak havoc with a person's immune system....

MALSDOXY

Saturday, September 17, 2011 12:12 AM

wishimay is right, Haken, this can take a huge toll on the caregivers. You and your wife will need to take some 'me' time over the next few months and let others look after mom-in-law.
We're with you in spirit

"Haven't you killed me enough for one day ?"
- Mal, War Stories

FOLLOWMAL

Saturday, September 17, 2011 7:39 PM

Take care of you and yours Haken.
Thank you for letting us know.

Prayers sent your way.

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