Imponderables- quit slacking when I'm gone

POSTED BY: MsA
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MSA

Tuesday, August 23, 2011 6:59 PM

OK people.... what happened. I go on summer break and have limited computer and the thread dies???
FOR SHAME!!

Now.... what's been going on?

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

ZEEK

Tuesday, August 23, 2011 7:06 PM

You took a summer long vacation and we're the slackers? That's one skewed view point.

MSA

Tuesday, August 23, 2011 8:49 PM

LOL... hmmm but if I'm not egocentric I lose much of my charm...or do I???

What have you been up to and how's Kaylee doing??

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

ZEEK

Tuesday, August 23, 2011 9:47 PM

Nothing and Kaylee's doing fine. She went to see a specialist who basically said "keep up the good work". How "special". She's gotten in the habit of sleeping on my pillow during the day. Kinda odd but also pretty cute.

RIONAEIRE

Tuesday, August 23, 2011 11:00 PM

I've found that posting in these imponderable threads is a bit discouraging because they're basically just for MSA and Zeke, they don't notice when I post and they're the main people who post in them, so that may be why they haven't been going on lately, if the person who starts them is on vacation. Just sayin.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

MSA

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 3:53 PM

Sadly this used to be a vibrant thread that could average 100 post a day with tons of people...
sigh we're just the last dregs unwilling to give up

So tell me Riona- how are you?

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

FUTUREMRSFILLION

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 5:43 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by RionaEire:
I've found that posting in these imponderable threads is a bit discouraging because they're basically just for MSA and Zeke, they don't notice when I post and they're the main people who post in them, so that may be why they haven't been going on lately, if the person who starts them is on vacation. Just sayin.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

That is an interesting point of view since I and one other actually created this thread. We created it to be a place where those question we had always had about the other sex could be answered in a kind environment. Because of that, the people who frequented this thread became quite close. Perhaps it is the nature of the things you are saying? Are you asking questions or simply agreeing with what has already been said. Either way if you feel you are being slighted in a discussion speak up. Don't sit back and feel it is only for MSA or Zeek, because it is really just for me. It is all just about me.

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MAGDALENA

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 7:07 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by MsA:
Sadly this used to be a vibrant thread that could average 100 post a day with tons of people...
sigh we're just the last dregs unwilling to give up

I remember being in Australia & being 16 hours ahead of the East Coast, getting online in the daytime & spending half an hour reading all the posts which went up while I slept! Those days are long... long gone - but fireflyfans is still a special place & I still love visiting! I must pop in more often!

Hi Riona! I'm Magda! I now live just 5 hours in the future in London & I love it!

I have an "impoderable" of sorts... my cousin recently asked people what were their favourite words... I put forward serendipity, lascivious & onomatopea (not sure if that's how you spell it!)

Anyone got more favourites?

CPT Magda R Martin
CO of Golf Co (Europe)
76th Independent Battalion

MSA

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 7:32 PM

Strangely I do so love the word felicitations

As for sex- so who is getting some?? LOL kidding

OK here's a vaguely sex related question- Do you think it's wildly inappropriate for a high school year book to have a category in awards for cutest mom and baby( referring to the girls who got pregnant that school year)>?

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

MSA

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 7:36 PM

Also- I'm thinking of showing LOTR Two Towers as part of my fairy tale unit ( kids have to identify essential elements of a fairy tale then, using those determine whether or not a movie fits those criteria and write an essay persuading others of their opinion)
Would you object to a high school senior ( 18 yrs olds ) seeing it?

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

ZEEK

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 8:22 PM

What's objectionable about The Two Towers?

Yeah I don't think a yearbook should be celebrating teen parenthood exactly. Something just doesn't seem right about that.

MSA

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 8:46 PM

Yeah that was my feeling

I love having a senior English class where all the students are over 18. They can sign their own permission slips:)

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

MAGDALENA

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 8:52 PM

OK... I think it's nice to embrace those teen mother's who work hard to stay at school & complete their studies, but cutest baby/mother is not something to do with achievement, it reinforces the notion of "beauty" being a way to "fame" or "achievement" & it concerns me that there is a culture where there are enough teen moms to compete in such a competition... definitely not appropriate in my opinion!

Secondly - I would definitely go for it with showing The Two Towers... great choice! I can think of few films which would be open to so much variance in opion about "fairy Tale or not.." & as you say the students are old enough to consent themselves... what are you thinking might cause objection in the film (it's at least 3 years since I last watched it)

Also... I am not getting any sex... 17 months & counting..

CPT Magda R Martin
CO of Golf Co (Europe)
76th Independent Battalion

FOLLOWMAL

Wednesday, August 24, 2011 9:24 PM

Ahh, I miss posting on boards. More than 140 characters and only the folks here see it. Not my Mom. LOL ( Facebook reference. )

I totally agree with Magda about teen moms and babies in the yearbook. Encouraging more of the "see me", "beauty only" culture while in high school just adds to the problem, doesn't encourage a correction of such behaviour. There's got to be a better way to recognize teen moms who stay in school and encourage them to go on with their studies in college. :)

Sex? Is it possible to get enough of that?

I'm interested to hear what could possibly be objectionable in LoTR as well.
I think it's an excellent choice for your assignment. :)

http://www.kidsneedtoread.org

TRAVELER

Thursday, August 25, 2011 12:26 AM

Who's a slacker. I had the last two posts on the last thread.

And it is getting hot and sticky again.

http://www.imdb.com/mymovies/list?l=28764731
Traveler

RIONAEIRE

Thursday, August 25, 2011 12:56 AM

A MSA a chara,
I'm doing allright, thanks for asking. Did you have a nice vacation? I hope you went somewhere nice and had fun.

I didn't know that Imponderables was for opposite sex questions, where do I begin on that one, :)

I guess I thought it was just for you and Zeke since you're the ones I see post here, its sad that were lots of folk and now there are less, but hey we've got a few here now haven't we.

I agree with everyone about the year book, girls do have babies younger than they ought sometimes, but I don't think we need to encourage it, plus you'd be surprised how many silly girls in earlier years at school would look at that and hope to be the one chosen in a few years, sounds silly but some girls are that way. So I'd say leave off on that.

As for The Two Towers, I think that would be a fine thing to show, 17 and 18 year olds are old enough to watch. Now if you had 11 year olds you might have to send home a waver, but these students are grown or nearly grown depending, so it should be fine and lots of them will enjoy it.

Hi Magda, so you used to live in Australia but now you live in England? Do you like the change or do you miss Australia.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

NVGHOSTRIDER

Thursday, August 25, 2011 4:24 AM

Geez Traveler, not sure I want to know the reason for the thread getting hot and sticky AGAIN.

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DANCINGNEKO

Thursday, August 25, 2011 5:21 AM

Starting from the top:

MsA -- of course things went silent. We've all been pondering things...(e.g. "I need to get a job..." "Why the gorramn does everyone keep asking me what I like to do? I have no clue...." etc.)

Because FMF said so...I wanna know, who the pukin'ells is trying to send a FORSAKEN to hell? Can we torment the phule into their own living one right now, please?

Magda: favorite words? (for what it means) I like omiyage, nostalgia, and "pay day". For how a word sounds? I'll have to get back to you on that.

MsA: What is this "sex" thing you speak of?
As for the LotR Two Towers -- if they're old enough to sign for themselves, then it should be okay...I don't remember it being overly graphically bloody or anything.
As for the "cutest mother and baby" section in a yearbook? Yes. I think it's tasteless for the reasons previously stated, and sexist since there's nothing for "father and baby" section.

FollowMal: *squee*

Traveler and NVG: cold showers and frozen ice cubes would probably help you with your problem.

Riona: I'm going to follow "Thumper's mom's rule" right now...I'm pretty sure what was written wasn't meant in the way I read it, so *nods in Riona's direction*

And just so you know -- this place don't revolve around the lot of you....*ebilbratgrin* It revolves around the whims of Wash's dinosaurs...

STINKINGROSE

Thursday, August 25, 2011 12:11 PM

I don't think I've wandered in here before, mostly because I've been doing my pondering in the pub. (Okay and at my desk in front of books I'm supposed to be reading..)

@Riona: So bring a friend or thirty! This seems like a very welcoming place!

MsA: I think LOTR- yes, "cutest"- no.
There is nothing objectionable in LOTR other than some violence and elf-on-dwarf-on-Hobbit action (oh wait, that was the slashfic) 'scuse me: elf-on-human steaminess. Of course you could end up with parents screaming "satanic film with devils" which would make for a lot of kids trying to transfer into your class.

"Cutest" not only leaves room for highly biased interpretation, but is also like saying "you fucked up, well done!" and might backfire completely if they're trying to turn it into a "wall of shame". (Which would also be inappropriate.) How about all the new moms get a page headed "Determined to finish school"? Or if there's any of them who are college bound "Determined to succeed" or "Most likely to NOT be on Public assistance in 5 years"? Good for them that they're not dropping out, but let's not turn it into something to shoot for.

I understand that there are ethnicities in the US who view being a mother by the time you're 18 almost mandatory, and I do not want to slam on someone's tradition and outlook but it really doesn't work as well here as it does back in the old country.

Wow, I got all long winded on that one didn't I? Hazards of the job. Which I'm not doing. Okay, hazards of being a pompous gasbag.

MSA

Thursday, August 25, 2011 4:19 PM

Yeah I just felt that in an inner city high school with an uber high drop out rate and 100% of the students below the poverty line, it wasn't really the best idea to celebrate teen pregnancy, but I was outvoted...sigh

OK so next ponder- would you think it increased or decreased the attractiveness of a woman if she had fake boobs??
I ask because when I have my reduction ( I have really really really big boobs) I am reducing them so far they will have to be fake... so weird or not weird?

Riona- actually I'm glad you said something ... it made me realize how far we've dropped. I'm trying to get everyone back in here. I guess I'm especially protective of this thread because it's how I met my wonderful husband ( nvghostrider)
Beir bua agus beannacht

Traveller- please use the wet wipes...

Rosie- how are the frozen things??

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

ZEEK

Thursday, August 25, 2011 4:34 PM

Depends on the fake boobs. They can be exaggerated and ridiculous or they can be awesome. I'm only going on appearance though as I really really doubt I've ever been with someone with fake boobs.

Even then it depends on the guy. I don't think the over sized ones look good, but there are a lot of guys who are into that.

STINKINGROSE

Thursday, August 25, 2011 4:38 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by MsA:

OK so next ponder- would you think it increased or decreased the attractiveness of a woman if she had fake boobs??
I ask because when I have my reduction ( I have really really really big boobs) I am reducing them so far they will have to be fake... so weird or not weird?

Rosie- how are the frozen things??

Personally I'm not into boobs, although I have seen a couple of sets that made even me think "damn, nice tits!".
I've seen women the "boob fairy" missed, I've seen women after mastectomies, I've seen women after reconstructive surgery for mastectomies, I've seen women who always had something in their lap they were so heavy-chested. And when I say heavy, I mean HEAVY. Hauling the girls around like a set of toddlers and dragging your spine out of alignment heavy. Back pain= not fun. I've had friends you couldn't really hug because you couldn't reach around them all the way. I've seen young women with perky tits, I've seen old women who were wrinkled and saggy and every baby-chewed stage in between. Their beauty came from other things.

So when you say "reduction surgery" I say "go for it and good luck". Also: perky DD melons on a 80 year-old just look odd so make sure your surgeon does a nice job. (Is there such a thing as "age appropriate" knockers?)

So far as frozen things go: I think we'll survive. I drove half an hour one way this morning to repurchase the dry goods, which I usually only have to do once a year, and I'm "50lb bag of bread flour" enabled again. Plus they had whole wheat in stock again so I got a 25lb bag of that too.

I will say that when you're staring at a good inch of water/juice/whatever at the bottom of the chest freezer, and the bottom falls out of the paper bag of 10lbs of thick cut oats when you go to lift it, and you discover that they're very absorbent once you stop crying, and that scooping out soggy oats is the highlight of your day.. you might need a hug. Or a beer.

MSA

Thursday, August 25, 2011 4:41 PM

I'm dropping from a DDD to a slightly below C for the aforementioned severe back and shoulder pain, loss of feeling in arms, stress fractures already starting in vertebrae due to strain ( especially as I am a medium framed 5'2" person)I was simply not meant to have some giant nordic woman's boobs... somehow there was a factory mix up

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

STINKINGROSE

Thursday, August 25, 2011 5:31 PM

Somewhere out there is a Valkyrie saying "WTF?!"

MSA

Thursday, August 25, 2011 6:36 PM

Sadly ...yes

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

NVGHOSTRIDER

Thursday, August 25, 2011 7:13 PM

Are we talkin' tangible or intangible here. I've heard what fake raspberry flavoring is made out of but it still tastes of raspberry and I can touch it. How about the aspects of proportion, feel, and shape? Counterfeit 100 dollar bills spend the same (if you can get away with it) but they don't burn right to keep you warm and can't make good toilet paper. For me, it's all good. Boobs are nice (except when sent via joke email at work and worse when the massage features a he/she/it). But then again I am just a womanizer and former BCMW.

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ZEEK

Thursday, August 25, 2011 8:52 PM

I heard a comedy routine once where the comedian talked about dating a girl who said she had fake boobs. He was just like "that's cool" then he said the went to have sex and he found out "fake" meant padded insert things. He was like "whoa whoa whoa that is false advertising. That's not fake that's BS!" Or something along those lines. I think we should clarify that fake means implants.

NVGHOSTRIDER

Thursday, August 25, 2011 9:38 PM

And use of the word "enhanced" isn't always right. Augmented, sure. Is there a foundation to help women with implants after having a mastectomy? Surviving cancer is hard enough but to lose parts because of it sucks. One other thing, health insurer denying benefits to a breast cancer patient who is male. Thoughts?

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The country is making a big mistake not teaching kids to cook and raise a garden and build fires.
-Loretta Lynn

ZEEK

Thursday, August 25, 2011 10:00 PM

Definitely ridiculous. Any cancer should be covered regardless of gender. That's just beyond stupid.

Did anybody hear about the guy who had his penis amputated because they found cancer while giving him a circumcision? Saw something about that lawsuit. I know it's awful but that one is just hilarious to me. First off did they have him completely knocked out or something for a freaking circumcision? I mean the lawsuit is because he didn't consent to it. They couldn't have just asked? Second, assuming he was knocked out how do you break that one to a guy when he comes to? "Well you see...there was a slight complication. We had to take off a little more than expected. Actually when I say more I really mean all. *runs away*"

RIONAEIRE

Thursday, August 25, 2011 10:16 PM

I didn't realize that if one got a reduction one had to have artificial ones put in. It sounds like your body is suffering for having the natural ones, too big for your frame etc. so it sounds like this is the best option, I don't reckon your husband will mind and I doubt most men would mind if they knew it was something that had to be done.

Now when my dad and I watch Survivor (yes we love that show) he always tries to figure out who has fake boobs and who has real, he says when they lay down on their backs in their swimsuits its a dead giveaway. I would never choose to get artificial ones unless I needed to, like in the situation described above or breast cancer or what have you. I think that you're making the right choice for your body.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

MAGDALENA

Friday, August 26, 2011 10:08 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by RionaEire:

I agree with everyone about the year book, girls do have babies younger than they ought sometimes, but I don't think we need to encourage it, plus you'd be surprised how many silly girls in earlier years at school would look at that and hope to be the one chosen in a few years, sounds silly but some girls are that way. So I'd say leave off on that.

I hadn't even thought of that... young girls are so impressionable - but I have seen a few documentaries on BBC TV where young girls who are pregnant have older sisters who also had babies in their teens & say things like, "I am so glad I'm having a baby - I've wanted one since my big sister had one..." like they are dolls or something. We need to break this culture as it's damaging on the young bodies, difficult on the young mothers & doesn't give a child the start in life they need... I am not saying all teen mothers are 'bad' or even 'poor' mothers, but it is definitely not ideal & will lead to more & more problems in our society! I was well into my 20s when I realised how right my parents were about certain things - Hey! I still keep realising things, now! - so how can such a young person be able to aply the lessons they've learned as adults when they are not really adults themselve yet?

Quote:
Hi Magda, so you used to live in Australia but now you live in England? Do you like the change or do you miss Australia.

Hi! I love London! The history, the galleries, museums, parks, location (in relation to Europe & the rest of the British Isles) history! And did I mention the history?? I am planning to start studying (although I've postponed it til next January for financial reasons) & will be doing... can you guess? HISTORY! (wow! Good guess!) I am a nanny & I love the community I live in & the family I live with & have made some lovely friends here - but I must admit it' too far from my family & Australian friends! My mother passed away last year & it's been so very hard to grieve & work through that loss when I am on the other side of the world from those I love the most. THankfully I have family here (albeit 2nd cousins) whom I have found a strong bond with, & am very close to... I think I shall return to Australia one day, but for now I am very happy in London...

Coming to see my browncoat family at Dragon*Con next week, although it is going to bankrupt me! I am committed beyond the point of no return!

CPT Magda R Martin
CO of Golf Co (Europe)
76th Independent Battalion

WISHIMAY

Friday, August 26, 2011 6:17 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by magdalena:
I have an "impoderable" of sorts... my cousin recently asked people what were their favourite words... I put forward serendipity, lascivious & onomatopea (not sure if that's how you spell it!)

Anyone got more favourites?

Try Bulbous bouffant blubber macadamia video by The Vestibules...

MSA

Friday, August 26, 2011 7:06 PM

And we couldn't do D*C without you:) HUGS Squeeee Magda

Ok seriously artificial raspberry ...truly disturbing

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

MAGDALENA

Friday, August 26, 2011 10:11 PM

Li'l sis! I had no idea you were contemplating a breast reduction, & I completely understand... mine are currently 40F so they do cause upper back, neck & shoulder pain, possibly contribute to my frequent headaches & are generally uncomfortable... my ex used to say that breast reductions were a terrible idea - he loved nothing more than big, pendulous ones... *sigh* I would seriously consider it one day... I understand reductions better than enlargements... I mean I do understand that some women have self esteem issues which might be helped by having larger breasts, but the discomfort of large ones is physical, not emotional or mental (although they can contribute to those issues, too...) I think you would look just as gorgeous as you do now!

I am in the final week of counting down & I know exactly how many hours until I get Jimi-bear hugs again!! It's been 3 years & I am starved for them! I will demand at least 80 a day!!! (poor Taunji - his partner - is going to have to get in line!) I miss my browncoat family so much!

CPT Magda R Martin
CO of Golf Co (Europe)
76th Independent Battalion

STINKINGROSE

Monday, August 29, 2011 1:44 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by nvghostrider:
And use of the word "enhanced" isn't always right. Augmented, sure. Is there a foundation to help women with implants after having a mastectomy? Surviving cancer is hard enough but to lose parts because of it sucks. One other thing, health insurer denying benefits to a breast cancer patient who is male. Thoughts?

I'd say that the American Cancer Society probably has something like that in place, or at least knows where to send people to hook them up.

Re: denying benefits to males with breast cancer.. cancer is cancer. Period. Unfortunately I would not be surprised to find it's been done.

STEGASAURUS

Monday, August 29, 2011 3:40 PM

Um... So anyone could just wander in here and join in the conversation? Well.. within reason? 'Cause like someone posted earlier, I always found these threads to be somewhat 'clique-ish' and just didn't want to intrude on the conversations.

But I'd certainly give my 2 cents if I knew I wouldn't be intruding. ;)

-Steg

ZEEK

Monday, August 29, 2011 4:36 PM

lol we gotta stop being so cliquish. That's probably why the thread died.

Yep everyone is welcome to jump in the conversation. If you've got questions of your own that's great too. Some questions can really get the ball rolling.

MSA

Monday, August 29, 2011 5:35 PM

Of course you can Stego... we'd love to have you

Ponder away

HUGS Magda

Ok Next ponder topic....

So do you think that couples should have a date night?????

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

ZEEK

Monday, August 29, 2011 5:57 PM

Once couples move in together every night is date night. It's like why there's a father's and mother's day but no kid's day.

STEGASAURUS

Monday, August 29, 2011 6:28 PM

Oh, Zeek, in a perfect world... that would be true.

Add kids and such.... not so much.

I am a firm believer in the need for date nights. Usually WITH the significant other. But sometimes, a solo run IS necessary. If only to allow some of the angst that might build up (speaking only to what I have experienced - not assuming everyone's life is like mine) to melt away.

BUT... Date nights together? Absolutely! Kids should be left with a babysitter, or else it is NOT a date night.

Just my 2 cents.

-Steg

MSA

Monday, August 29, 2011 7:19 PM

Sadly we are babysitter-less and therefore have date night about once every 5 or so months when we visit my parents...kinda hoping to have a babysitter within the next year. I am just reluctant to allow Johnny to be babysat until he's old enough and articulate enough to say something if he's being mistreated.
I mean obviously we'd pick a well screened awesome person that I'd interview several times, but still....

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

MAGDALENA

Monday, August 29, 2011 7:30 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by MsA:
Of course you can Stego... we'd love to have you

Ponder away

HUGS Magda

Ok Next ponder topic....

So do you think that couples should have a date night?????

Steg!! I am so glad you popped in - looking forward to hearing some pondering from you!!

Li'l sis! HUGS right back at you! Also, I do indeed think couples need date nights! I am assuming you mean couples who now live together/are married? Coz couples who are dating... well, I guess they, you know... date! I know people who deliberately put date nights on the calender & book a regular babysitter so they make that commitment! (& I love them for it!! A little extra money for me!) but I also know folk who have done relationship courses & communication courses & they say their marriages are so much stronger for having a regular date night! Life is so busy, without taking time out to deliberately focus on one another & actually communicate, people can find themselves drifting or assuming their partner knows what their opnion of current events, concerns, work-place issues are... people so often forget to maintain romance in a relationship that has become "comfortable", & comfortable is lovely, but showing appreciation & sharing your inner thoughts is very important too... It's amazing how you can sleep with someone, see them naked every day & never, really, communicate about the important things which are consuming your throughts...

Mind you - I am still single, so what would I know?

CPT Magda R Martin
CO of Golf Co (Europe)
76th Independent Battalion

MSA

Monday, August 29, 2011 8:11 PM

A great deal... you are very wise :)

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

STEGASAURUS

Monday, August 29, 2011 8:53 PM

Aw Magda! Missed chatting with you, Ma'am!

Sadly, MsA, my wife and I are in the same boat. Even though she has a brother and sister-in-law around locally, their schedules are so hectic we rarely are able to coordinate. So we wait until her parents come over from Cali and go out then. We did recently find a friend's daughter who is willing (and capable) to watch Maddox, but then it's all about getting the funds together to adequately conpensate her for her time (as if spending time with Maddox wasn't good enough, we realize you can't spend cuddly cuteness everywhere).

But yes, date nights are a must.

And I agree, Magda is very wise and always provides sage advice!

-Steg

RIONAEIRE

Monday, August 29, 2011 9:49 PM

Date nights are a good thing, it gives the couple a chance to spend time just with each other, this is especially good if there are children, because raising kids gets so hectic and couples find themselves lacking time to focus on the relationship with each other. My best friend and her husband (childless so far) do date night every Sat. They take turns choosing the resturant and enjoy it a lot, its a break from the regular work schedule etc. As much as I dislike her husband I think date nights are great for them and pretty much any other couple. My mother and her husband have them each Tue.

Ponder: Why is it that the most annoying women, the ones that irritate me, have no trouble finding boyfriends/husbands?

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

ZEEK

Monday, August 29, 2011 9:53 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by RionaEire:
Ponder: Why is it that the most annoying women, the ones that irritate me, have no trouble finding boyfriends/husbands?

Doesn't mean they're finding quality boyfriends and husbands. There are lots of single people out there who aren't very good catches. If these women have no standards then that could by why they find it easy to find dates.

Off topic: wtf we have fire ants at my office!? To add insult to injury their little conga line of evil walks right past my desk. (*@#$@#$@#$!#@@

RIONAEIRE

Monday, August 29, 2011 10:14 PM

Crap Zeke, that's scary! I hope you can find a way to get rid of them ASAP.

I'm just not what men want. I think I'm pretty and all, I have confidence in myself, maybe that's what scares them?

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

MSA

Monday, August 29, 2011 10:25 PM

Zeek _ I do so love you... I shall be hearing the words "conga line of evil" every time I make the students line up:)

Stego- oooh awesome. I'd so love to find someone, but I'm just overprotective enough to have all kinds of trouble finding someone I'd willingly allow unsupervised access to my son.

Riona- see your problem is, you have high standards... you want a smart guy who is nice and decent:)
No seriously... You just need to find a better dating pool. I'm sure there are loads of browncoat guys out there who'd be thrilled to date a smart, fun, awesome woman like you:)

OK my feet hurt and I'm going home...

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

STEGASAURUS

Monday, August 29, 2011 10:42 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by MsA:
Riona- see your problem is, you have high standards... you want a smart guy who is nice and decent:)

This.

Quote:
Originally posted by MsA:
No seriously... You just need to find a better dating pool. I'm sure there are loads of browncoat guys out there who'd be thrilled to date a smart, fun, awesome woman like you:)

And this.

There is someone for everyone out there times three. If you're not finding what you want, leave your comfort zone and you will. That's a promise.
(Just make sure you get your guarantees in writing up front. That way you don't end up with a bait-n-switch. Hopefully.)

-Steg

RIONAEIRE

Monday, August 29, 2011 11:21 PM

Thanks MSA, every once in a while I post on craigslist and get a date, but that's as far as it ever goes. Oh well. Its not like I never go anywhere or do anything, I do lots of things, I just never meet anyone eligible who will talk to me. I guess the other thing is that meeting a man isn't my top priority in life. I'd like to but I'm not desperate, dating takes up lots of time after all.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

MSA

Tuesday, August 30, 2011 8:49 PM

Apparently there's a site called geek to geek which does exactly what it says... I know someone who has had crappy dating luck for a long time who met a really great guy on it:)

Oooh good ponder...if you have an SO where did you meet them and if not,how do you want to find them?

In my case I met NV (nvghostrider) on here... and we met in real life and BAM!!

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

MAGDALENA

Tuesday, August 30, 2011 8:56 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by MsA:
A great deal... you are very wise :)

I love you!

Quote:
Originally posted by Stegasaurus:
And I agree, Magda is very wise and always provides sage advice!
-Steg

I love you, too, Steg! I have missed this little corner of my life!

CPT Magda R Martin
CO of Golf Co (Europe)
76th Independent Battalion

MAGDALENA

Tuesday, August 30, 2011 9:07 PM

Oh & in response to MsA's latest ponder, I also met my previous SO via firefly! Although we'd interacted on fireflyfans we'd never clicked online... then we actually met in person at Dragon*Con & we were in a relationship for over 2 years... sadly it didn't survive being long distance (or at least it didn't survive a bout of lack-of-monogomy) but I treasured the relationship & I still care for him. I would like to meet another geek who loves the 'verse & understands my passion for this fandom! Someone who would share a sense of humour with me & also be patient with me as I go off on flights of fancy! It would be a bonus if he was financially secure, but money isn't everything!!

CPT Magda R Martin
CO of Golf Co (Europe)
76th Independent Battalion

AVERYFINECOMPANION

Tuesday, August 30, 2011 10:29 PM

I remembered my password!! Yay!!

I haven't gone through much of the posts because I'm lazy but meeting another geek would def be awesome. I may have to try this geek to geek site. I think I browse before but maybe I can be a little more serious this time.

I'm with Magda on the qualities! He has to deal with my unique brand of crazy, make me laugh, and not be a man child please.

edit: I missed my 5 year anniversary on this site by 5 days! 5 years.....

MSA

Wednesday, August 31, 2011 4:22 PM

HUGS Avery!!!!

HUGS Magda:)

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

MSA

Thursday, September 1, 2011 4:06 PM

And now it all goes quiet because a huge chunk of us have disappeared to D*C

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

ZEEK

Thursday, September 1, 2011 4:45 PM

D*C psssh. Slackers!

MSA

Thursday, September 1, 2011 9:36 PM

I have D*C mopes... I want to be there...but I want a house more

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

MSA

Friday, September 2, 2011 3:25 PM

bump:)

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

STEGASAURUS

Friday, September 2, 2011 6:46 PM

I wish, I wish, I wish I could go to DragonCon. Just once. But, sadly, it looks like I'll never get to go. (sadface)

In regards to your last ponder: I virtually met my wife through an ex's MySpace page. We eventually met IRL at the local watering hole (that's no longer around) and hit it off. Eventually we got married and the rest is the dramatic comedy I call my life. :D

-Steg

AVERYFINECOMPANION

Saturday, September 3, 2011 6:26 AM

*pokes thread*

So this is what its like not to be at d*c huh?

No sir I don't like it!

Back to ponder: Gave geek2geek a second try. See above comment about not being at dragon*con. It applies here too.

Quote:
Originally posted by Stegasaurus:

In regards to your last ponder: I virtually met my wife through an ex's MySpace page. We eventually met IRL at the local watering hole (that's no longer around) and hit it off. Eventually we got married and the rest is the dramatic comedy I call my life. :D

-Steg

I love that you met your current wife through your exs myspace.

NAVYSEILS

Sunday, September 4, 2011 12:39 AM

I agree with all the booing about no D*C.
I never want to miss one again. :(

Having Mick around for our 'sulk together while not at D*C night' was fun though.

As for the ponder, I've no idea how I'll go about meeting. I guess I'd want for it to just... happen. Somehow.

It's perhaps not the greatest plan.

STEGASAURUS

Monday, September 5, 2011 6:04 AM

Ponder: Is it REALLY appropriate to be a grandparent at the age of 39? Ok, maybe 40 when the child is actually born...

*sigh*

-Steg

LILI

Monday, September 5, 2011 4:59 PM

I've kind of wondered if anyone could play, here. I didn't want to just jump in, but I suppose I will now.

Quote:
Originally posted by Stegasaurus:
Ponder: Is it REALLY appropriate to be a grandparent at the age of 39? Ok, maybe 40 when the child is actually born...

Well, this would imply to me that two successive generations had children at around the age of twenty. I don't see how that's an inappropriate age to have children. It might be a little young, but not like super young. Now, if someone were becoming a grandparent at the age of thirty, implying two successive generations had children at around the age of fifteen, there might be a concern there.

Previous ponder: I met my girlfriend at college. She is a brilliant scientist, but she needed some pointers in English class, and lucky for me she came looking for a peer tutor. We kind of started helping each other with homework and fell in love. Of course, it took some time for us to come out to each other and actually start dating, but we got there eventually.

Facts are stubborn things.

STINKINGROSE

Tuesday, September 6, 2011 12:38 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by Stegasaurus:
Ponder: Is it REALLY appropriate to be a grandparent at the age of 39? Ok, maybe 40 when the child is actually born...

*sigh*

-Steg

I was about to say that I was in nursing school with someone who was 30 and about to be a grandma.
I'm about to be 40, and my child is 12 because I got off to a relatively late start, but I'm going to college with people who are old enough to be my kids without stretching the imagination. (Most of them were born in or after the year I graduated high school.) So I would be a little upset if I were actually to become a grandparent right now(!), but it's not inappropriate to my age range.

Previous ponder: I met him folk dancing. Ah lurves mah nerd.

STEGASAURUS

Tuesday, September 6, 2011 1:10 AM

Reason I'm just a little nervous is that my biological daughter is 15, so her age is the one I'm used to. My step-son is 20, so I knew it could happen sometime eventually. I was just wishful thinkin' I had a few more years before I had to bear the title. My wife, on the other hand, is an emotional wreck right now.

And for those confused, my step-son posted on his Facebook he was going to be a father. Not my daughter.

-Steg

ZEEK

Tuesday, September 6, 2011 2:44 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by LiLi:
I've kind of wondered if anyone could play, here. I didn't want to just jump in, but I suppose I will now.

Everybody's welcome to post in here. We don't bite.

MSA

Tuesday, September 6, 2011 4:41 PM

Don't make promisies Zeek...
Just kidding Lili really we do not bite:)

Stego - I just became a mom at 34 so I'll be at least 55 before I'm a grandma so I can see why it'd throw your wife off. Don't you also have a little one near my son's age??

HUGS to Navy, Avery, and Rosie ( wow took me a second to come up with screen names as I think of you by your real names ) D*C next year people...no excuses!!!

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

STEGASAURUS

Tuesday, September 6, 2011 7:16 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by MsA:
Stego - I just became a mom at 34 so I'll be at least 55 before I'm a grandma so I can see why it'd throw your wife off. Don't you also have a little one near my son's age??

Of course I do. Maddox is the same age as Johnny. (Did I spell that right? Been so long since we've chatted and posted pics.)

-Steg

MSA

Wednesday, September 7, 2011 3:53 PM

I thought Maddox was near his age, but I wasn't sure how near ( might have been off by a year)

Ok Ponder- What book do you remember most clearly from your childhood??
For me I'd say Heidi. We used to pile in my mom and dad's bed and she'd read us a chapter a night:)
We even, to this day, call pan toasted bread Heidi toast

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

ZEEK

Wednesday, September 7, 2011 4:18 PM

When does childhood end? I'd say as a real youngin I guess the Clifford books. As a mid youngin I'd go with Lord of the Rings.

LILI

Wednesday, September 7, 2011 5:24 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by MsA:
What book do you remember most clearly from your childhood??

That's easy: Alice in Wonderland and Through the Looking Glass. My obsession with Alice led directly to my studies in literature and then English.

Facts are stubborn things.

MSA

Wednesday, September 7, 2011 6:47 PM

Johnny loves Clifford:)

Hmm Lili how old were you when you first read it?

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

LILI

Wednesday, September 7, 2011 6:55 PM

I don't think I read it for myself until I was about nine, but my mom read it to me when I was... maybe five or six. And I regularly watched film adaptations throughout my childhood, too. Actually, I still watch them, but now I'm analyzing them much more.

Facts are stubborn things.

MSA

Wednesday, September 7, 2011 8:19 PM

Hmmmm I can totally see that. It's interesting the nuances you pick up as you get older.
The first time I read To Kill a Mockingbird I was maybe 6 or 7 and I got most of it, but didn't understand why, when the kids snuck out and followed Atticus and then talked to the group of men, that they were in trouble. Then as a teenager I re-read it and realized that it was a lynch mob

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

AVERYFINECOMPANION

Wednesday, September 7, 2011 11:16 PM

Little Sister Baby Sitters club books (which no one else I know remembers!) Everyone talks about the regular baby sitters club books, but these were for younger kids.

RIONAEIRE

Thursday, September 8, 2011 5:26 AM

Steg, as Lili said it implies to two generations had kids at 19 or 20 which is fine. I like Heidi and To Kill a Mockingbird, both neat books. And I do indeed remember those Babysitter's little sister books about Karen, I didn't fancy them myself, I loved the regular Babysitters Clubs from age 9 to 11, right after I turned 11 I moved along to other fair. But in third and fourth grade they were super cool.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

STEGASAURUS

Thursday, September 8, 2011 5:51 AM

Piers anthony's Xanth series and Madeline L'Engle's (prolly spelled her name wrong there) Wrinkle in Time series. 'round about the sixth grade(ish).

-Steg

MSA

Friday, September 9, 2011 4:28 PM

My class is reading A Wrinkle in Time right now:)

HUGS Avery- I do remember them as my baby sis loved them

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

STINKINGROSE

Sunday, September 11, 2011 9:00 PM

Null, nought, X. Do you think she was thinking of Daleks?

MSA

Monday, September 12, 2011 4:24 PM

hmm... interesting question

Ok so ponder folks

What would you be willing to do to have a million dollars??

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

NICODEMUS

Monday, September 12, 2011 6:06 PM

Would it be a one-off payment, or could we repeat the action for multiple millions?

ZEEK

Monday, September 12, 2011 6:43 PM

Um...I'd be willing to do a lot of things. For starters I'd be willing to continue doing what I do normally. If someone would give me a million dollars for that I would take it.

STEGASAURUS

Monday, September 12, 2011 7:43 PM

I'd let my wife sleep with the millionaire who's willing to pay...

Oh wait, that story's already been told...

Hmmm...

Good one, MsA!

-Steg

MSA

Monday, September 12, 2011 8:34 PM

I've noticed we can all think of things we wouldn't do for a million, but it's harder to think of things we would do

I for one might be willing to have twins for a million dollars ( emphasis on might as the one we have has nearly run both of us to ground)

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

ZEEK

Monday, September 12, 2011 8:55 PM

I'd take a nap for a million dollars.

I don't see what's hard about this.

LILI

Monday, September 12, 2011 8:56 PM

Oh, I can think of things I would do for a million dollars. Whether someone was willing to pay me a million dollars would probably be the question.

1) I would smash my car up with a sledgehammer.
2) I would make out with my girlfriend in public. Maybe even another girl, if Rachele was okay with that.
3) I would inventory any library archives.
4) I would live on fish for a week.
5) I would stand in the street and scream nonsense poems.

You get the idea.

Facts are stubborn things.

ZEEK

Monday, September 12, 2011 9:16 PM

I would sleep with:

Jessica Biel
Jessica Alba
Kristen Bell
Rachel McAdams
Amy Adams
Kate Beckinsale
Amber Heard
and more!

AVERYFINECOMPANION

Monday, September 12, 2011 10:40 PM

I don't quite understand what is hard about this either.

I would sleep with Alexander Skarsgard and then eat all you can sushi/steak/hot fries/cherry soda for a million dollars.

Then we'd play video games all day.

I'd def do that for a million dollars.

I found another imponderable. So you know those stupid cut and paste things people do on facebook? Here is one that I found: "I was RAISED; I didn't just grow up. I was taught to speak when I enter a room, say please & thank you, to have respect for my elders, lend a helping hand to those in need, hold the door for the person behind me say excuse me when it's needed, & to love people for who they are, not for what you can get from them! I was also taught to treat people the way I want to be treated! If you were raised this way too, re-post this. Sadly, many won't, because they weren't, and it shows."

Now, all those are fine and well, but what bugged me was this line "I was taught to speak when I enter a room". So entering a room quietly is rude??? I have never heard this before in my life. Is this a generation thing? She is in her 50s or 60s. Have I been rude for the last 26 years of my life because I walk into rooms quietly?

RIONAEIRE

Tuesday, September 13, 2011 12:22 AM

I've never heard of speaking when someone comes into a room either. Could it be a typo? People don't pay a lot of attention in life so it could have been a mistake that no one has caught yet?

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

STINKINGROSE

Tuesday, September 13, 2011 2:23 AM

I've startled the hell out of my husband lately by walking into the basement when he's focused on the computer and then asking him a question.

It's fun to watch him jump and shout in surprise.

It's my long-term plan: scare him to death and collect the insurance money!

ZEEK

Tuesday, September 13, 2011 3:48 PM

"I was also taught to treat people the way I want to be treated!"

Like looking down on them for the way they were raised. Yeah quite a class act there. More like that person is shouting from the roof tops what a bad attitude they have.

STINKINGROSE

Tuesday, September 13, 2011 8:20 PM

It smells like mushroom pizza in this hallway, and yet I have not seen any delivered. Odd.

Life on campus in the biology building.

TRAVELER

Tuesday, September 13, 2011 8:28 PM

That last statement, "Sadly, many won't," seemed rather rude for someone who just made an extensive claim about being raised to be polite. I get the impression of a snob and not someone I would have as a friend.

http://www.imdb.com/mymovies/list?l=28764731
Traveler

MSA

Tuesday, September 13, 2011 8:35 PM

pizza is designed to permeate an area even days after it has gone... it's part of the evil

I dislike all of those " when I was born...blah blah" Some of the stuff they mention is down right dangerous and come on so you survived GREAT, but loads of kids don't so quit looking down on parents who won't let their kids ride in the back of a pickup truck or roll around inside a tire
Also all of these have a subtle... the way I was raised is good any anything else is bad message that I find offensive

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

AVERYFINECOMPANION

Tuesday, September 13, 2011 10:25 PM

@Travler: Yeah, she def is uppity. In fact, I hide most of her posts. I just happenstanced to see her profile and saw that gem.

@SR: I've had the "I didnt even know you were here!!" things. It even happened once in a car. I was sitting in the backseat and they went into the passenger. It was quite amusing I as there for about 5 min before they knew.

@MsA: I tend to hate ALL the "copy this..." posts. Once in a while the sarcastic ones are good, but I had to get some opinions on that one.

Also, down with mushrooms!!!

RIONAEIRE

Wednesday, September 14, 2011 12:51 AM

MMMMMM mushrooms, I love mushrooms! Send any unwanted (edible) mushrooms my way because I'll gobble them up: Mushrooms on pizza, barbecued mushrooms, mushrooms in speghetti, they're all yummy, especially the barbecued ones.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

ZEEK

Wednesday, September 14, 2011 2:24 PM

Heck yeah mushrooms are great. One of my favorite sandwichs at a deli around here has a layer of raw mushrooms. They're good in any form I tells ya.

MSA

Wednesday, September 14, 2011 3:11 PM

I have a truly awesome recipe for roasted crimini mushrooms with bacon and herbs....DROOOL

Oh ponder.. what food do you love? Which one do you hate?

I hate lima beans... I just do
I love everything, but my favorite is a nice medium rare steak with grilled mushrooms and bernaise sauce

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.
--Francois Mauriac
It's fuzzy-minded liberal thinking like that that gets you eaten.

STINKINGROSE

Wednesday, September 14, 2011 11:03 PM

I love food generally.
I'm getting better about raw tomatoes, raw bell peppers (red/orange/yellow.. still can't do green), I'll try pate but not usually liver by itself or liverwurst, and I absolutely positively HATE beets.
I'm also not a vodka girl and rum doesn't always do it for me either, hence no Schweddy Balls for me! (If it wasn't for the rum base I might be able to power past the rum balls).

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