Thanks everyone for the advice and comments. Reading all you have to say has made me feel a lot better.
ebonezer- yes that they do. i will definetly have to take a look at your blogs maybe i can learn something from your expereinces as well. just please if you ever find a good one out there tell me you will share..... :) I just started reading this book called He's Just Not That Into You... where the hell was this book a year ago?! I could have saved myself from a whole lot a suffering.
Quicksand- Yea, I am finally starting to get that. There has to be at one (and i am sure only one) out there that isn't.
jerico-As for what I wanted him to say- nothing would have been preferable. He approached me when he could have just walked on by and I never would have even seen him.
gojiro- rat bastard indeed. i mean really is honesty really that difficult of a concept to understand?
Browncoat1- i agree, it's very akward. Especially when what you'd really like to say to him is "Gee, its nice to see you again too. Thanks so much for wasting my time and screwing with my head."
BadgersHat- I'm trying my best to let
it go. Easier said then done of course. p.s. read your earlier thread.. hope things are going better for you as well.
Anon- Yes, thank you. Thanks for taking the time to respond I can use all the help I can get at this point.
niknak-
"doesn't want anyone to hate him"
this is probably the biggest part of my problem. i think the only thing he really cares about is having everyone like him.

Thanks again all.
Mai

Boy = Selfish.

Boys suck ass. Best not to think to hard about it I think.

Although, if it makes you feel any better, we've all been there.

(Serously, go looket my blogs)

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> Why are guys so mean?
I'm not.

You don't provide details so I may be wrong here but I'm going to try help you look at this from his point of view.

> but [he] decided to break my heart instead.
He probably didn't want to hurt you. It is an unfortunate consequence of him deciding that he doesn't want to be with you and only you for the rest of his life. He probably acted badly because humans are imperfect beings that make mistakes and prioritise their own short term happiness. Some people are better at considering other people's happiness than others. Failed relationships are an inevitable part of the evolutionary struggle to find the best mate.

> All he has to say is "hi. how are you?" as if nothing ever happened and we were just the best of friends..... please what is with that?
He doesn't want anyone to hate him or feel uncomfortable. He's probably genuinely concerned how you are and wants you to be happy and move on.

Of course he might just be a complete arsehole - I don't know him.

The truth is, men are scum, only interested in naked women with large chests, and have the attention span of a gnat on crack...

... sorry, lady down the hall was watching "Waiting to Exhale" a little too loud...

Guys (and girls, I'll say) get nervous when around those then we done wrong. Generally, we try to avoid discussing sensitive subjects that we caused, and, in the process, look even worse for it in the end.

I'd say, let it go, cuz it's probably not really something you can ever fully understand, not should you bother. It's not worth letting yourself get upset about.

I think that his reaction is pretty much typical of a response from an ex (regardless of sex) in that given situation.

I have been through several relationships, some of them long term, some....not so much. Whenever you run into them in public, even if the break up was a good one, it is still very awkward to talk to one another in anything other than generalizations and neutral comments.

Sad when you think about it, but it is the reality of the situation.

Having been on the opposite side of this coin a few times, let me give you my perspective.

I've done both the "pretend nothing happened" thing, and the "hey, I'm sorry I was a jerk, let's be friends" thing, and have gotten pretty much the same result each time -- resentment, evil looks, and/or the cold shoulder.

The thing is, it's just uncomfortable for all parties to run into an ex out in public. Yours probably just didn't know how to handle it.

Then again, maybe he's just a rat bastard. I dunno, I never met the guy. :-)