A somber Mother's Day
Monday, May 9, 2005

Actually, that title should probably be "A somber day after Mother's Day."

Mother's Day has always meant something special to me, even if I never dwelled on it enough to completely understand what exactly that special meaning was. I've been blessed with a great family, and my mother ... well, let's just say I could be called "Mama's boy" and not be terribly offended.

However, and I'm sure I'm not alone in this feeling, Mother's Day isn't just about each person's mother - not to me, at least. For me, it's about all the women in my family. Mom (obviously), my grandmothers, sisters, wife, aunts ...

Aunt. Brings me to "somber." A little over a month ago, my great aunt (mom's aunt - close enough in age that they might as well have been sisters) passed away unexpectedly. Naturally, this year's Mother's Day was going to be a bit less (for lack of a better word) happy than others. Knowing where she is now, we are happy to an extent. Sad that she's no longer here with us.

A few days before she passed, our family was gathered at my grandmother's house. I'm not artsy by any stretch, but I like to think of myself as a decent photographer. That night, my aunt was sitting at the dinner table with her granddaughter asleep in her lap. Both with eyes closed. As far as I'm concerned, the epitome of the loving grandmother was captured there.

For Mother's Day, I made several copies of this photo for members of our family. Now that I've reflected upon all of this, I'm not sure I'll be able to look at the picture the same way again. I had a great love for my aunt - it hurts that she's not here with us. Hurts a bit more because the best picture I feel I've ever taken was the last one anyone ever took of her.

Hurts plenty more because my first child is due within the next two months and he won't get to meet his great-great aunt.

And it's Monday.

I really didn't mean for this to turn into a "woe is me, pity me please" blog. I kinda hope it at least leads some of you to take stock of what you have and make sure you aren't taking things for granted. That's what I'm trying to do.


Monday, May 9, 2005 1:26 PM


Thank you for taking the time to remind us of what's important. I'm sorry you are havinga bad day, but cheer up! Not all of life is bad. Good luck.


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