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FutureMrsFIllion

A little Background
Saturday, May 13, 2006

My last blog was a huge cup of selp-pity, but let me explain why I went "overboard".

1987-2000 reasonably happily married or as happy as one can be when married to a man who cheats and is an alcoholic. He would fall off the wagon and things would be crap and then get back on and things would be great.

2000 move back to the UK and start suffering what becomes a 4 times a year pnuemonia cycle that continues to this day
2001 husband has another affair
2002 husband get arrested for Drink driving and loses license in UK - which means I have to drive him to the train and back everyday, take the kids to 2 schools 20 miles apart and pick them up take myself to work and do all of the driving for the next 28 months. Husband goes to rehab and ends affair.
2004 husband puts on medals he is not entitled to and is prosecuted. I have husband committed to psyche ward to keep him from losing retirement. Husband retires and we move back to US, buy house.
2005 Husband starts drinking again and not coming home.
May 2005 I am diagnosed with Severe 3rd stage asthma that we can not control
June 2005 husband announces he wants divorce to "find himself" He still loves me and will "be here for me". He promises certain amount of money and to help finish fixing up house and will do yard work, etc.
June 2005 get diagnosed with Psuedomonas infection in the lungs that has colonized.
July 2005 find out husband has been having an affair for the last year and has moved from my house to hers-find this out only because 16 yr old son sees father out with woman.
Aug 2005 husband tells me he wants to come home.
Sep 2005 takes younest out only once. Drives him to the stop and shop-buys him a coke and on the way home tells him "You can tell your mom that I am going to marry that woman" and drops him off - Great father huh?
Sept 2005 husband reneges on all agreements
Oct 2005 Husband remarries (bigamy) and removes me from Navy medical - prescriptions go from $60 to over $200 a month
Nov judge throws out divorce
Dec husband blames me for judge throwing out divorce, stops payments and hires nasty attorney.
April go to court and the judge gives us no support - says we have to wait for court date.

At this point he is only paying a nominal child support. My mother has been making my house payments and buying my groceries since Dec. We still have not been to court. I have to work 2 jobs, and we still don't have enough. Husband never sees kids. Although he lives 2 doors away. He just bought himself a new Harley and a travel trailer. They have been to bike rallies all over and they have a new truck OH yeah and he borrowed $21,000 from my mom to buy a work truck and he has not paid them back a dime. So I now owe my parents almost $40,000 (which they are not asking for - but it has to be paid back!).

Big pity party for me! Oh well. Life sucks and you just carry on.

I need a sugar daddy!

COMMENTS

Sunday, May 14, 2006 5:53 AM

BANZAIBILL


I happy to see you back! Not happy to hear about the crappy excuse for a man that you've had to deal with. They really do give the rest of us a bad name!

Hang in there - Browncoats are truly shiny and we try to help!

Sunday, May 14, 2006 5:10 AM

VINTERDRAKEN


That fei fei de pi yan, You deserve way much better. Hope everything works out somehow, Wish I could do more then just tell you to hang on but im on another continent.

Sunday, May 14, 2006 5:10 AM

VINTERDRAKEN


That fei fei de pi yan, You deserve way much better. Hope everything works out somehow, Wish I could do more then just tell you to hang on but im on another continent.

Sunday, May 14, 2006 5:10 AM

VINTERDRAKEN


That fei fei de pi yan, You deserve way much better. Hope everything works out somehow, Wish I could do more then just tell you to hang on but im on another continent.

Sunday, May 14, 2006 5:10 AM

VINTERDRAKEN


That fei fei de pi yan, You deserve way much better. Hope everything works out somehow, Wish I could do more then just tell you to hang on but im on another continent.

Sunday, May 14, 2006 5:10 AM

VINTERDRAKEN


That fei fei de pi yan, You deserve way much better. Hope everything works out somehow, Wish I could do more then just tell you to hang on but im on another continent.

Sunday, May 14, 2006 5:10 AM

VINTERDRAKEN


That fei fei de pi yan, You deserve way much better. Hope everything works out somehow, Wish I could do more then just tell you to hang on but im on another continent.

Sunday, May 14, 2006 4:34 AM

NUCLEARDAY


*big hug* Some guys just give us menfolk everywhere a bad name. (And we don't generally need much help in that dept.) Glad to hear you're back though.

'Least you're still flying, and that's enough... :)

Sunday, May 14, 2006 4:14 AM

TAYEATRA


*Hugs FMF so tightly that I then worry about accidentaly suffocating you*

Saturday, May 13, 2006 10:45 PM

SOFI


*huggle* he sounds like a really ben- tian-sheng de yi1 dui1 rou! only wish i could make it better for you!! know that we are all here for you though...

Saturday, May 13, 2006 10:45 PM

SOFI


*huggle* he sounds like a really ben- tian-sheng de yi1 dui1 rou! only wish i could make it better for you!! know that we are all here for you though...

Saturday, May 13, 2006 10:45 PM

SOFI


*huggle* he sounds like a really ben- tian-sheng de yi1 dui1 rou! only wish i could make it better for you!! know that we are all here for you though...

Saturday, May 13, 2006 10:45 PM

SOFI


*huggle* he sounds like a really ben- tian-sheng de yi1 dui1 rou! only wish i could make it better for you!! know that we are all here for you though...

Saturday, May 13, 2006 10:45 PM

SOFI


*huggle* he sounds like a really ben- tian-sheng de yi1 dui1 rou! only wish i could make it better for you!! know that we are all here for you though...

Saturday, May 13, 2006 10:45 PM

SOFI


*huggle* he sounds like a really ben- tian-sheng de yi1 dui1 rou! only wish i could make it better for you!! know that we are all here for you though...

Saturday, May 13, 2006 8:18 PM

ICARUS


Oh dear... I don't know what to say, so I'll just fill in those blanks with I hope that everything will improve.

I am sorry for what has befallen you. Please feel better soon, and keep your chin up.

Just weather the storm, and come through stronger, I suppose... I am sorry, miss.

Saturday, May 13, 2006 4:59 PM

COPILOT


I'm going to cry now. Please know that all I want to do is gather you up and subject you to the biggest warmest most amazing hug that has ever been given to anyone in the history of the world! So glad you decided to come back though! Very very sorry but you're husband needs to die! He lives next to you and you havn't suffercated him in his sleep? You are a much bigger person than I am because really he'd be dead within days.
Well my darling dear I wish you all the love in the 'verse and please don't scare us by going away again!!!!


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