Returned early
Sunday, September 3, 2006

Greetings, all.
First off, let me say that the portion of DragonCon I attended was the most fun I've had in a long, long time. I finally met face-to-face with several Browncoats I have only known as typed words. It was wonderful! The parade was a evry shiny experience...marching along with the other Browncoats, singing (to the musical stylings of...I wish I could remember his name!) The Ballad of Serenity and Hero of Canton...much fun was had.
Unfortunately, I had to leave early in order to deal with a family emergency...this is the message I gave to Serenity when I called her right before the Shindig. The family emergency, it turns out, was very close to home. The wife and I will be divorcing. This does not come as a real shock to me, as we have been limping along for more than six months now. I won't get into too many details, but she has decided that she needs to be alone or awhile, and I concur whole-heartedly. I hold her no ill feelings, and want her to be happy...this apparently means not being married to me. Along with making her happy, this will also make me happy, so all manner of things will be well.
The bad thing about all of this is that it destroyed the rest of my DragonCon...I missed the Shindig, I missed the Browncoat costume contest, I missed the chance to meet the rest of the Browncoats at DragonCon. That pissed me off. I know there may be a time in the future when we can do this all over again (next year!!), but I was looking forward to a few more days of fun and happiness. If I was seemingly cold or rude to anyone I met this weekend, I apologize...not knowing what's really going on in your marriage will ocassionally make one act distant. I am happy to have met all of the people I did; again, I just wish I had met all of you.
In a nutshell, I will be on and off the boards while this thing is sorted out. But, hey, in 30-some-odd days, I will join the ranks of the single Browncoats! I may have to ressurect one of those old dating threads!
I did manage to get a few group shots of the Browncoats before the parade...I'll try to post those, along with my brief experience, in the close future.
Thank you all for being here, and for sharing my love.


Wednesday, September 6, 2006 10:27 AM



I'm sorry to hear it, and am at a loss for words.

Here if ya need an ear to bend. *hugs*

Tuesday, September 5, 2006 5:52 PM


Uh... oh.

Take care.

Tuesday, September 5, 2006 11:45 AM


When I don't know the right words to say to someone I tend to try to hug them to death. Consider this my version of a virtual rib cracker. I really feel for you and hope life starts treating you better, of all the people I know you seem one of the least worthy of unhappiness.

Tuesday, September 5, 2006 7:21 AM


I'm with Floralbunny - Reaver pole in the gut. Wow. I'm very sorry to hear about it. I'm also all admiration for your maturity in handling this!

Of course, I'm here if there's any need for immaturity. Or anything else! Vent freely, it's natural to have all kinds of feelings...

Hugs and more hugs Tristan!

Monday, September 4, 2006 3:13 PM


Thank you all. You have no idea how much it means to me that you are all here for me. I have some to think of all of you as family, and love spending time here. I have not yet been hit with the shock, but it may still come.

When you can't walk, you crawl...when you can't do that...thank you for being here.

Monday, September 4, 2006 11:51 AM


Wow...just came across this posting while getting up to date with the BSR...

While I have never been married, I can certainly offer my sympathy concerning suddenly being informed that a relationship - that while not perfect - you though was working in the best way it could, is now officially dead. Took me months personally to deal with things properly. I just hope that things will smoothen out a bit quicker for you and that hostility doesn't enter the picture:)

And like everyone else has said, don't forget that we're here if you need to carried...even for a little while;)


Monday, September 4, 2006 12:32 AM



we are here for you.

Sunday, September 3, 2006 7:32 PM


Whitefall summed it up pretty well, what my reaction was. Shock. Sadness. Respect. *hugs* We're here for you.

Sunday, September 3, 2006 2:58 PM


Ohhhhhhhh, hell.
Felt for a minute like a Reaver pole in the gut.
Then tears.
Been there myself.


We are here for you.

Sunday, September 3, 2006 1:42 PM


sorry bout all that went on.

I'd like to think you'da won the costume constest at D*C.

Keep up in here, mate.

Sunday, September 3, 2006 1:26 PM



I gasped, I did. I was just shocked, you two were so cool! You were our shining example of slightly mismatched marital bliss! Looks like you have a can of imponderables. We're here for you if you need.

But regardless, I have nothing but respect for your respect for your wife's wishes.

Sunday, September 3, 2006 10:21 AM


Tristan, I'm so sorry. I agree with FollowMal, you know where your home is. We'll be your sounding board if you need it, we'll always be here. Thinking of you,

Sunday, September 3, 2006 10:05 AM


Gosh, Tristan. I think I'm like Mavourneen. I don't know which to say.

Be well, and know we're thinking of you and please don't be a stranger. This place is always home. And we here are always family.

I also send *hugs*.

Sunday, September 3, 2006 5:04 AM


I guess the thing to say is: "I'm happy and sad for you, Tristan."

Mental hug for you, regardless. Hope to see/read you soon. -M.


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