Oooh...definitely a conundrum of a situation you got there, DTuck. Not sure how to respond effectively...

Really? Getting sloshed ain't the answer - as you've discovered - and mantra recital is not what it's cracked up to be either. All you can really do is take a good long look at how things seem to be from your POV and just say "Ok...shit has happened and I am in deep. Was any of this my fault directly and if so, why? If not, what were the reasons for all this shit's occurrence?" From there, you have at least a vague idea of where not to go in the future less you are ready for similar situations.

Gotta say though...if your woman's willing to drop that bomb to your face? Either break it off ASAP or be glad she's gone. That kinda of attitude? Too f-ed up for words, IMO:(

BEB

Personally, the place I find most comfort, is in my faith in God. It is where I find myself, put things into perspective, and ultimately find peace. At times when I just want to curl up and die, I find purpose. Even if you don't believe, or want to believe in God, talk to a pastor. They are wise men and woman, who have seen both the best and worst of humanity. They can help.

Mal would say that getting through the next day and just surviving is sometimes the best thing you can do. I went through a rough break up after coming home from overseas.

Been there. Know it sucks.

Advise: lots of Firefly, exercise, even yoga, and listening to all the music you've ever heard in your life that gave you chills/goosebumps on your arm/raised the hair on the back of your neck

Bob Marley will actually help a lot.

It's fucked up but you have to rewire your brain for self-esteem. The person this girl fell in love with originally is still in there somewhere.

Unfortunatly when life goes bad I just curl up with a bottle of vodka and drink till it doesn't hurt anymore. It works long enough to give myself the distance to unfurl the situation. I don't recomend it. I wish you all the best darling. I just wanted to let you know that someone out in the 'verse understands.