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Working with someone who's dying ...

POSTED BY: RUE
UPDATED: Friday, September 21, 2007 13:25
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Thursday, September 6, 2007 5:55 AM

I have a vote and I'm not afraid to use it!

... of cancer.

Aside from the interpersonal issues -

That person has decided to just live their regular life one day at a time. I'm not sure I'd make the same decision.

If you knew you were going to die soon - within year - what would you do ? And, since we are all dying - just more slowly - why would that be any different from your regular life ?

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Thursday, September 6, 2007 9:31 AM

MALBADINLATIN

I think it would quit my job, empty my savings and buy a sailboat, stock up on enough food to make it as long as they say I have.

See.....It's important to me that the legend be that he sailed of into the Pacific alone and was never heard from again.

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Thursday, September 6, 2007 9:33 AM

GRIZWALD

I would try to get a lot of my stuff sold so it does not burden my family. And I would use the money to get some debts paid off - again so as not to burden my family.

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Thursday, September 6, 2007 9:42 AM

RUE

I have a vote and I'm not afraid to use it!

My goal has always been to provide for family.

But what would an extra year of that do that the last few decades haven't already done ? So, thinking that I'll be able to continue on continuing on for at least another decade, that's what I'm doing. But if I thought I'd die in a year - I'd definitely retire (disability retirement), devote myself to things I've been hoping to do that I just haven't had the time for, and - I don't know. After you've done your best to provide, how do you prepare your family ?

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Thursday, September 6, 2007 9:45 AM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.

Accelerate my activities in preparing my child to live w/o me. Perhaps make her so pissed off at me that she'll be glad I'm gone.

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Thursday, September 6, 2007 10:48 AM

HERO

Quote:
Originally posted by Grizwald:
I would try to get a lot of my stuff sold so it does not burden my family. And I would use the money to get some debts paid off - again so as not to burden my family.

Wow...I'd run up as many debts as I can and then leave them all to PirateNews.

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Thursday, September 6, 2007 10:49 AM

RUE

I have a vote and I'm not afraid to use it!

When you die - who gets your debts ? Or do they just come out of the estate before probate ?

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Thursday, September 6, 2007 11:00 AM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.

Your estate. Whatever that is. It is left to the executor (if you have one) or the courts to figure out how to collect up your assets and pay off your debts. The trick is to disappear before the collections agencies come knocking on your door, and never re-appear until you are well and truly beyond their reach. So you'd either have to die quickly or be preapred for at least a year of living independently.

Take a lot of painkillers with you.

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Thursday, September 6, 2007 12:47 PM

GEEZER

Keep the Shiny side up

Quote:
Originally posted by rue:
If you knew you were going to die soon - within year - what would you do?

"I have a little list.
They never would be missed."

Actually, probably just do stuff I enjoy.

On dealing with a dying co-worker, I have asked a couple, and they said they wanted to be treated just the same as always.

"Keep the Shiny side up"

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Friday, September 21, 2007 12:37 PM

FREMDFIRMA

I would do, what I do.

I've been "officially" written off at least twice by docs, last time was the near-fatal accident back in 92... they were SOOooo sure I was gonna die, and what with me laughin at em for it.

Due to damage pileup and living many years in one of the most toxic places in the USA (zipcode 21225) I know quite well my time is limited, and my affairs, such as they are, are and have been well settled - with various contingency plans and a few right nasty bits to be conveniently leaked when yours truly isn't around anymore to catch the flak for em.

My torch, my work, as it were, is already passed into many capable hands with their own proteges and I have no worries on that part neither, and so when it comes to me, as the reaper comes to us all, things will go on as they always have - of course, he'll have to catch me first, and he damn sure ain't caught me yet, tho not for lack of tryin.

-Frem

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Friday, September 21, 2007 1:16 PM

VETERAN

Don't squat with your spurs on.

Quote:
Originally posted by Geezer:
Quote:
Originally posted by rue:
...."I have a little list.
They never would be missed."

...."Keep the Shiny side up"

Good one.

Back in the '90's I had a friend who seemingly beat lung cancer only to be diagnosed with stomach cancer a year later. He bought a hot motorcycle and road it to work every nice day until he felt too sick to work any more.

No one sat at his desk for like 5 years.

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Friday, September 21, 2007 1:25 PM

ALLIETHORN7

One Year?
I'll tell ya what I'd do- Nothing. Or, more precisely, nothing different. Maybe slack off in school a bit more, just for the novelty. Maybe catch a bullet for a friend- God knows, me and the Reaper have made peace. I don't fear him none, I don't bother him overmuch.

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A million miles from everything we've ever know...
We're on their hearts and minds,
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Hemmed in by emptiness,
A million ways that everything could be undone...

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