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Losing virginity early or late tied to health risks

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 5:47 AM

CITIZEN


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People who start having sex at a younger or older than average age appear to be at greater risk of developing sexual health problems later in life, a new study suggests.

The findings, according to researchers, cast some doubts on the benefits of abstinence-only sexual education that has been introduced in U.S. public schools.

Using data from a 1996 cross-sectional survey of more than 8,000 U.S. adults, the researchers found that those who started having sex at a relatively young age were more likely to have certain risk factors for sexually transmitted diseases (STD) -- including a high number of sexual partners and a history of having sex under the influence of alcohol.

On the other hand, both "early" and "late" starters were at increased risk of problems in sexual function. This was true primarily of men, whose problems included difficulty maintaining an erection and reaching orgasm.


http://uk.reuters.com/article/healthNews/idUKFLE47097220071204



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 5:53 AM

CHRISISALL


BS. I started young, had no STD's, and am going stronger than ever.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 5:56 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


How does this cast doubts on the benefits of abstinence-only sexual education? The last time I heard advocates of abstinence only never said anything about whether men would be able to get erections, only that it helps to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies, which according to this study it does. Quite the contrary, I’d say that the AJPH has just handed the abstinence-only crowd their smoking gun.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:03 AM

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Using data from a 1996 cross-sectional survey of more than 8,000 U.S. adults, the researchers found that those who started having sex at a relatively young age were more likely to have certain risk factors for sexually transmitted diseases (STD) -- including a high number of sexual partners and a history of having sex under the influence of alcohol.

On the other hand, both "early" and "late" starters were at increased risk of problems in sexual function. This was true primarily of men, whose problems included difficulty maintaining an erection and reaching orgasm.

Another bogus medical study trying to pass off correlation as causation. Early or late loss of virginity are only indicators for other factors that affect health and sexual functioning. People who become sexually active early are most likely abused or promiscuous, which then leads to STDs.

People who become sexually active very late probably have problems with sexual or social functioning to begin with (ergo why they are late). It has nothing to do with teaching abstinence in schools. Besides, teaching abstinence doesn't teach them to stay virgins until they are 40. Good grief. Just teaches them to stay abstinent or virgin until later (not late)--until they get married or find a steady monogamous partner. It is teaching them to not be promiscuous, which is associated with STDs. It makes a lot of common sense.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:07 AM

CITIZEN


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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
Quite the contrary, I’d say that the AJPH has just handed the abstinence-only crowd their smoking gun.

Not really, I mean it doesn't indicate that Abstaining prevents STDs; it indicates that people who start earlier have higher incidences. There’s nothing inherently about sex before marriage.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:09 AM

CITIZEN


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Originally posted by canttakesky:
Another bogus medical study trying to pass off correlation as causation. Early or late loss of virginity are only indicators for other factors that affect health and sexual functioning. People who become sexually active early are most likely abused or promiscuous, which then leads to STDs.

That was my thoughts, though they do acknowledge that in the article:
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It's not possible to determine cause-and-effect from the survey data, according to the researchers.




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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:09 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by citizen:
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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
Quite the contrary, I’d say that the AJPH has just handed the abstinence-only crowd their smoking gun.

Not really, I mean it doesn't indicate that Abstaining prevents STDs; it indicates that people who start earlier have higher incidences. There’s nothing inherently about sex before marriage.

So? According to this study if you start having sex at a young age, which is what the abstinence-only crowd is trying to prevent, you are at greater risk of STDs and promiscuity, which is what the abstinence-only crowd has been saying all along.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:13 AM

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On average, respondents said they had sex for the first time around the ages of 17 or 18. Those who had their first sexual encounter at average age of 14 were considered "early starters" and those who started at age 22 or older were considered "later starters."
Twenty-two is late? Where are these people from? I was a virgin when I got married at 22, and I am doing just fine, thank you very much.

I'll be damned if I teach my daughter to start having sex at 17 or 18 so that her "emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory sexual functioning and general well-being" aren't "impeded." You can develop emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills without having sex, or haven't these folks heard?

These folks are pissing me off.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:13 AM

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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
So? According to this study if you start having sex at a young age, which is what the abstinence-only crowd is trying to prevent, you are at greater risk of STDs and promiscuity, which is what the abstinence-only crowd has been saying all along.

The abstinence only crowd want to stop people having sex before marriage, finn.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:14 AM

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Hello,

Abstinence is 100% effective in preventing STD's.

It is also seldom practiced in the real world, making its usefulness dubious.

Teaching people not to be promiscuous might have its uses, though. While I don't believe social pressure can prevent sex entirely, it might get people to halve their number of partners per year. It might also convince them to slip something on before taking the plunge.

So maybe we can drop abstinence education in favor of 'good dating advice.'

"Listen girls, if you go down on him during the first date, he might not respect you. Make him wait at least a month, and make sure you click on an emotional level before you let him inside of you. And when you do have sex, make sure you use a condom. It only takes one mistake to cost you a lifetime."

Of course, I have ALWAYS respected girls that go down on the first date. ;-)

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:17 AM

CHRISISALL


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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
you are at greater risk of STDs and promiscuity,

Risk of STD's I get, but risk of promiscuity??? Isn't that like, "risk of being at the amusement park too long", or "risk of too many episodes of Firefly" or some such?

Just sayin' Chrisisall

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:20 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by citizen:
The abstinence only crowd want to stop people having sex before marriage, finn.

That’s certainly the common straw man that substitutes for the Abstinence-only agenda, but it’s not really what they’re after. They want to prevent young people from getting involved in sex at too early an age, by limiting sexual activity to marriage only.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:22 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by chrisisall:
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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
you are at greater risk of STDs and promiscuity,

Risk of STD's I get, but risk of promiscuity??? Isn't that like, "risk of being at the amusement park too long", or "risk of too many episodes of Firefly" or some such?

If amusement parks and Firefly could result in disease or pregnancy and psychological health problems then yes, it would be exactly like that.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:35 AM

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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
If amusement parks and Firefly could result in disease or pregnancy and psychological health problems then yes, it would be exactly like that.


You can get diseases from eating at McDonalds, or touching your eye after visiting the loo; you can get psychological health problems from having idiot parents, or traitorous friends; you can get pregnant from having secret agencies use you to incubate super-soldier embryos...okay- I couldn't think of something for that last one- my point is that sex is natural, like eating. Do it wrong, and you'll get fat...paint it as sinful and you attach unnecessary emotional stress onto what's gonna happen sooner or later anyway.


Not my best-worded argument ever Chrisisall

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:44 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by chrisisall:
You can get diseases from eating at McDonalds, or touching your eye after visiting the loo; you can get psychological health problems from having idiot parents, or traitorous friends; you can get pregnant from having secret agencies use you to incubate super-soldier embryos...okay- I couldn't think of something for that last one- my point is that sex is natural, like eating. Do it wrong, and you'll get fat...paint it as sinful and you attach unnecessary emotional stress onto what's gonna happen sooner or later anyway.

Allow children to do whatever they want without supervision and you as a parent deserve to have your skin flayed and strung up by your nose hairs. Don’t play this game with me, Chris. No good parents allows their children to go to amusement parks without supervision of some sort or allows them to watch TV unabatedly without concern for what they are watching, so why do people advocate that children should be allowed to have sex at will without parental consideration?



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 6:59 AM

CHRISISALL


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Don’t play this game with me, Chris.

Being a bit of a rogue here , of course you're right.
But- true story- my first real girlfriend and I first did it in her bedroom; she said her Mom knew we were gonna, and she'd rather it be in the safety of her home rather than in a parked car. She had a great Mom.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 7:17 AM

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"The abstinence only crowd want to stop people having sex before marriage, finn."

"That’s certainly the common straw man that substitutes for the Abstinence-only agenda, but it’s not really what they’re after. They want to prevent young people from getting involved in sex at too early an age, by limiting sexual activity to marriage only."

Uhm, Finn --

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 7:20 AM

RUE

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"so why do people advocate that children should be allowed to have sex at will without parental consideration?"

Are you saying that the abstinence-only crowd invites their parents along on the honeymoon ?

Keeping it all in the family, eh ?
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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 8:11 AM

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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
That’s certainly the common straw man that substitutes for the Abstinence-only agenda, but it’s not really what they’re after. They want to prevent young people from getting involved in sex at too early an age, by limiting sexual activity to marriage only.

So, they don't want to limit it to marriage, they just want to limit it to marriage. Sounds like they want to limit it to marriage to me.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:28 AM

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Originally posted by chrisisall:
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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
Don’t play this game with me, Chris.

Being a bit of a rogue here , of course you're right.
But- true story- my first real girlfriend and I first did it in her bedroom; she said her Mom knew we were gonna, and she'd rather it be in the safety of her home rather than in a parked car. She had a great Mom.

Yep, that’s the mom ever teenage boy wants their girlfriend to have.
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Originally posted by citizen:
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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
That’s certainly the common straw man that substitutes for the Abstinence-only agenda, but it’s not really what they’re after. They want to prevent young people from getting involved in sex at too early an age, by limiting sexual activity to marriage only.

So, they don't want to limit it to marriage, they just want to limit it to marriage. Sounds like they want to limit it to marriage to me.

Yes, I realize that you’re intent upon ignoring the issue because you don’t like religious type, but the fact remains that abstinent-only programs are directed at children and young people, not adults. There are precious few abstinence-only programs directed at unmarried 30-something men and women. The fact remains that the whole idea behind the abstinence only program is that young people should avoid sex until they are ready, which in this case is defined as marriage.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:30 AM

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Originally posted by chrisisall:
BS. I started young, had no STD's, and am going stronger than ever.


Yeah, and my Grandpappy drank like a fish, ate bacon and eggs every day, and smoked ten packs/day and lived to be forty.

Your lack of STDs just means you were a lucky little slut. Good for you.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:32 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by rue:
"so why do people advocate that children should be allowed to have sex at will without parental consideration?"

Are you saying that the abstinence-only crowd invites their parents along on the honeymoon ?

Keeping it all in the family, eh ?

You’re absolutely right. Since sex by it’s nature is generally a private thing and parents aren’t allowed to be directly involved in the children’s sex life, the only solution is to let children screw unabatedly without concern for their emotional or physical well-being.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:36 AM

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Your lack of STDs just means you were a lucky little slut. Good for you
Somebody is jealous. Poor Hero, didn't get any then, ain't gettin' any now.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:40 AM

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The abstinence only crowd want to stop people having sex before marriage,finn.- Chrisisall

That’s certainly the common straw man that substitutes for the Abstinence-only agenda, but it’s not really what they’re after. They want to prevent young people from getting involved in sex at too early an age, by limiting sexual activity to marriage only.- Finn



My mind just refused to jump off that cliff with you, Finn. Care to re-state? If not, can you tell me how you just got across that great chasm in the brain?


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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:41 AM

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"You’re absolutely right. Since sex by it’s nature is generally a private thing and parents aren’t allowed to be directly involved in the children’s sex life, the only solution is to let children screw unabatedly without concern for their emotional or physical well-being."

Wait a minute. I thought the reason to not teach sex-ed in schools was because the parents are teaching it at home. So the parents are NOT now allowed to be directly involved in their children's sex lives ? That means the schools better start teaching sex-ed. Right ?


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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:44 AM

SIGNYM

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I have't a clue what Finn means. But it sure is fun poking at it!

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:46 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by rue:
"You’re absolutely right. Since sex by it’s nature is generally a private thing and parents aren’t allowed to be directly involved in the children’s sex life, the only solution is to let children screw unabatedly without concern for their emotional or physical well-being."

Wait a minute. I thought the reason to not teach sex-ed in schools was because the parents are teaching it at home. So the parents are NOT now allowed to be directly involved in their children's sex lives ? That means the schools better start teaching sex-ed. Right ?

In other words, you don’t really have a rational response.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:49 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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The abstinence only crowd want to stop people having sex before marriage,finn.- Chrisisall


My mind just refused to jump off that cliff with you, Finn.

I can’t do anything about your mind and it’s cliff jumping, but I can tell you that Citizen made the “abstinence only” quote, not Chris. Just FYI.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:51 AM

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Who wants to live long anyhow?

All life is, is everything you gotta put up with between sexual intercourse. And if that isn't true for you, whoever is reading this, you need to re-evaluate and re-prioritize your positions.

Whether you were a pimp at 12 years old or you were a late bloomer that didn't get it till 22, live it... love it... learn it... and be the goddamned best at it that you can be... and hopefully you will be havin' it all of your life.

Nothing better in the world kids. Don't let an early death get in the way. Those nasty last 20 or 30 years, you can't get any without pills and who wants to have sex with anyone you could have sex with at that age anyhow?



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 9:54 AM

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FINN: Okay, Citizen said it not Chrisisall. (Are you sure I didn't make any spelling mistakes you'd like to point out?) But I see you avoided the real question, which is calling the "sex only in marriage" a straw man argument and then prompty repeating the very same point! How do you DO that? Surely, that's not what you meant!

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:02 AM

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Finn

I'm not the one short on rationality. First you said abstinence until marriage was a straw-man argument. Then you said the abstinence only program WAS no sex until marriage. You said parents couldn't be involved in their children's sex lives. Sounds to me like your saying parents can't teach their children about sex at home. So you must be for sex-ed at school, right ? Or are you going to say that schools cain't teach it, 'neither ?


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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:04 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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FINN: Okay, Citizen said it not Chrisisall. (Are you sure I didn't make any spelling mistakes you'd like to point out?) But I see you avoided the real question, which is calling the "sex only in marriage" a straw man argument and then prompty repeating the very same point! How do you DO that? Surely, that's not what you meant!

There wasn't a real question. The issue you are referring to, I've already explained, I think quite clearly. I suspect that you choose not to understand it, because it suggests a more rational agenda to the abstinence-only camp then you want to assign to people you don't agree with, but that's not my problem, nor is it something want to discuss again. The fact remains that abstinence-only programs are directed at young people, not adults - the obvious idea being to prevent young people from having sex until they are responsible enough to do so. It's really not that hard to grasp, and if you can manage it, we may have something talk about, otherwise I don't see the point.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:10 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by 6ixStringJack:
Who wants to live long anyhow?

All life is, is everything you gotta put up with between sexual intercourse. And if that isn't true for you, whoever is reading this, you need to re-evaluate and re-prioritize your positions.

Whether you were a pimp at 12 years old or you were a late bloomer that didn't get it till 22, live it... love it... learn it... and be the goddamned best at it that you can be... and hopefully you will be havin' it all of your life.

Nothing better in the world kids. Don't let an early death get in the way. Those nasty last 20 or 30 years, you can't get any without pills and who wants to have sex with anyone you could have sex with at that age anyhow?

Spoken like a single guy without daughters.

My take on sex is that it is far more enjoyable and long lasting if taken with a degree of gravity and responsibility that it deserves. Take for instance my mother, who lived the young carefree free-love stuff during the 60s - for about a year when she was 15. After that, she spent 20 years struggling to raise children in abject poverty with no education. Sounds like a load of fun to me.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:16 AM

6IXSTRINGJACK


Well you've always seemed like an upstanding citizen to me finn... you should give your mother more credit.

Not to mention that she wasn't privy to free condoms at school and over the counter day after pills at the local Walgreens either.

Ever notice how it's only white people who are concerned with birth control too? Probably too broad a generalization, but that's all I see on TV or in health class in school.


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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:30 AM

RUE

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The problem you have Finn is that you're making too many contradictory arguments. On the one hand you're saying that it's not about emotional health, then you're saying it is. You're saying parents shouldn't be involved, then you're saying parents who aren't involved should be flayed. You're saying either the schools teach abstinence only programs or the only other option is for parents to let kids screw at random.

Nowhere in your book is there room for parents to teach their children respect for themselves, taking responsibility by being prepared, understanding their own emotions and motivations. It's either abstinence only as taught by the schools or a pediatric Sodom and Gomorrah world.

It's actually YOU that can't conceive (pun intended) of anything outside of your agenda. And so your arguments go in circles, contradict themselves, and have unbridgeable gaps.


"never said anything about whether men would be able to get erections, only that it helps to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies" So it's not about physical or emotional health, except when it is " the only solution is to let children screw unabatedly without concern for their emotional or physical well-being".

"if you start having sex at a young age, which is what the abstinence-only crowd is trying to prevent ... prevent young people from getting involved in sex at too early an age, by limiting sexual activity to marriage only" So it's not about marriage, except when it is "young people should avoid sex until they are ready, which in this case is defined as marriage".

"Allow children to do whatever they want without supervision ... why do people advocate that children should be allowed to have sex at will without parental consideration? ... the only solution is to let children screw unabatedly without concern for their emotional or physical well-being" So it's not about parents educating their children and being involved either, since abstinence-only classes are the only viable option. Except when it IS about parental involvement "Allow children to do whatever they want without supervision and you as a parent deserve to have your skin flayed and strung up by your nose hairs."

"young people should avoid sex until they are ready, which in this case is defined as marriage" And I guess it's not about false dilemmas either except when it is the only solution is to let children screw unabatedly without concern for their emotional or physical well-being.


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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:32 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Well you've always seemed like an upstanding citizen to me finn... you should give your mother more credit.

My mother was an extraordinary women, who at a very young age naively bought in the free-love bullshit of the 60s. She did a remarkable job raising me and my various siblings. She also graduated with a Nursing degree with a 4.0 GPA at 34. She was an exceptional woman, who could have done far better with her life, had it not been for her experimentation with sex at such a young age.
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Ever notice how it's only white people who are concerned with birth control too? Probably too broad a generalization, but that's all I see on TV or in health class in school.

Ever notice how poverty and crime is rampant among African-American and Hispanic communities? A large part of it has to do with children having children they can’t afford to take care of. In fact, over 80% of teen pregnancies (ages 15-19) are from African-Americana and Hispanic girls.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:34 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by rue:
The problem you have Finn is...

Blah blah Blah. As usual, you can’t deal with the issues, so you attack the person you don’t agree with or take someone’s words out of context.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:36 AM

RUE

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"lived the young carefree free-love stuff during the 60s - for about a year when she was 15. After that, she spent 20 years struggling to raise children in abject poverty with no education. Sounds like a load of fun to me."

Sounds like a reason for abortion or adoption to me - and in the process becoming older and wiser.


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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:38 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


Quote:

Originally posted by rue:
"lived the young carefree free-love stuff during the 60s - for about a year when she was 15. After that, she spent 20 years struggling to raise children in abject poverty with no education. Sounds like a load of fun to me."

Sounds like a reason for abortion or adoption to me - and in the process becoming older and wiser.

I see, so 15 year old girls should screw all they want, because they can always kill or give away the pregnancies? Man that’s some cold shit.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:38 AM

RUE

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"As usual, you can’t deal with the issues"

As usual you duck actually discussing things by claiming there's nothing to discuss. Since everyone else will also be reading my post, they'll get that my post has substance and understand your tactics as well.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:44 AM

RUE

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Hmm, did I say that ?? Anywhere ?? No, I didn't.
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Originally posted by Finn mac Cumhal:
I see, so 15 year old girls should screw all they want, because they can always kill or give away the pregnancies. Man that’s some cold shit.


What I've been posting all along, if you'd bothered to actually read my posts, is that parents need to realistsically teach their children. About sex, consequences and responsibility. You don't have to moralize or turn it into some mythic finish line.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:47 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


Quote:

Originally posted by rue:
"As usual, you can’t deal with the issues"

As usual you duck actually discussing things by claiming there's nothing to discuss. Since everyone else will also be reading my post, they'll get that my post has substance and understand your tactics as well.

I doubt it. Even those who buy into your general ideology aren’t stupid. They know damn well you’re full of shit, even if they don’t confront you on it. Just like your crap of accusing of people of wanting “rude people” tasered. People saw through that bullshit too, Rue. No one you accused ever seriously advocated tasing rude people. That was a figment of your imagination design to attack people you don’t agree with, and everyone saw it for what it was.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:49 AM

RUE

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OOOOHHH. Changing the subject ! That's a good one !

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:52 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


Quote:

Originally posted by rue:
Hmm, did I say that ?? Anywhere ?? No, I didn't.

Yes, you did. My mother loved me. I know that seems remarkable to you. People do love their children, even if they are mistakes. Killing it or giving it away may be the cold logical thing to do, but it’s not always the human thing to do. It’s far better to teach our children the responsibility to avoid having to deal with those kinds of choices, then to allow them to make that mistake on their own, so they can grow from it.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 10:54 AM

RUE

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I said this "so 15 year old girls should screw all they want" ?? Really ?

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 11:09 AM

RUE

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I have a friend who had a child at 14 years old. Her parents were good but old-fashioned - one didn't discuss (ahem) sex. Her big reason to have sex - the guy - who was quite a bit older - said he loved her. When she realized she was pregnant she couldn't bring herself to tell her parents so the first place she went was grandma who lived down the street. Her grandmother said - oh, about how far along are you my dear ? To which my friend said - about three months or so. And the grandmother said - well dear it's too late to do anything about it now. So let's tell your parents and figure out what to do.

Even good girls raised in good homes get pregnant if they aren't educated. Even good families consider abortion as an option. Even good mothers consider adoption.

Abstinence only is not education. It's a way of putting your head in the sand and pretending that if you sound disapproving enough kids won't have sex. And - it doesn't work (too many studies to dispute that.)

And it doesn't say anything about THIS study. Kids have sex early for many different reasons - girls are often preyed on by older men, boys egg each other on, low academic performance, low economic status, few good options available as examples, neurological and emotional dings - they all constribute. Abstinence only won't work for them. And where you have all the right factors in place - including responsible parents - abstinence only isn't necessary.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 11:23 AM

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Originally posted by SignyM:
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Your lack of STDs just means you were a lucky little slut. Good for you
Somebody is jealous. Poor Hero, didn't get any then, ain't gettin' any now.


More like not getting enough then and getting too much now. I wonder if that means I'm nearing a mid-life crisis.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 11:45 AM

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My take on sex is that it is far more enjoyable and long lasting if taken with a degree of gravity and responsibility that it deserves. Take for instance my mother, who lived the young carefree free-love stuff during the 60s - for about a year when she was 15. After that, she spent 20 years struggling to raise children in abject poverty with no education. Sounds like a load of fun to me.
Because if you make sex horrific enough... outlaw condoms so people WILL get AIDS... fraught with danger and the possibility of many many children.... then of course young kids will think ahead and just say "no".


Sure.


FWIW, I don't want young children in this righteous, venegful, moralistic country to have sex. We make sure to combine sex and violence in so much of our "entertainment" that it's more like rape. And when it's seen as dirty, with a nasty tase of sadism and exploitation ... well, I don't think kids should handle sex in that kind of milieu. So I'll be the first one to say that older people shouldn't be having sex with anyone less than 18; there's too much of a legal/ power imbalance.

But all those nasty consequences of "sex for fun"... My God, man, civilization and science are here to help! As a Chinese colleague of mine says: If you can't be good, be careful.

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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 11:53 AM

FINN MAC CUMHAL


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Originally posted by SignyM:
Because if you make sex horrific enough... outlaw condoms so people WILL get AIDS... fraught with danger and the possibility of many many children.... then of course young kids will think ahead and just say "no".

Or you could just try to instill in your children a since of self-pride and responsibility, so that they can always make the best effort to enjoy all of life’s riches, without becoming bitter and cynical. I guess telling them to live life to the lees with carefree abandon is easier, but failing to inform them of what might very well happen if they do, seems like a real asshole thing to do to your children.



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Wednesday, December 5, 2007 11:57 AM

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I actually didn't have sex until I fell in love- unfortunately she only 'liked' me *snif*.
I sex-educated myself mostly, and only was promiscuous with my female friends after I decided sex didn't always mean love.
It's different now than before- the info is widely available. Smart, educated horny young folk should behave as they please, as long as they're bein' safe and aren't makin' someone THINK they love them...

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