It's pretty much official... by BadgersHat

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It's pretty much official...

POSTED BY: BADGERSHAT
UPDATED: Thursday, December 2, 2004 15:36
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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 8:39 AM

... after a week with my beloved visiting for the holiday, after much discussion, after much of aforementioned discussion becoming rather heated...

The decision, for now, has been rendered, and she and I are officially on a "break" from our relationship...

[cue sad strings section now]

... so... about that harem...

--Jefé The Hat

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 9:41 AM

LUNAKITTY

Harsh. :( *hugz*

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 9:47 AM

MALICIOUS

Awww, my Jefe, I'm sorry. Shall all us Browncoats collectively think bad-karma thoughts at her? That's a pretty awesome weapon to have at your disposal you know, so think long and hard before aiming it at her.

We've got your back, hon.

Mal-licious

Co-Holder of the Red Bell from Hell

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 11:48 AM

THEGREYJEDI

Don't be a safety net! Breaks never work. Breaks are the end. Get out. Get out now. I'm willing to put money down right here and now that she's got her eye on someone else, and wants you waiting in the wings in case it doesn't work. Thus she has a safety net and "isn't" "unfaithful."

Flee! FLEE!!!

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 12:48 PM

DARKJESTER

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, El Jefe, but I have to agree with TheGreyJedi (about the first time THATS's ever happened!) - don't wait around for her to figure out what a HUGE mistake she's making. WE all know that she's being less than smart, but she may never see the light.
Don't be mean, and always be polite and friendly when you (rarely) run into her. But don't be a puppydog waiting for her to come back and scratch your ears. You deserve better!

MAL "You only gotta scare him."
JAYNE "Pain is scary..."

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 5:20 PM

MALICIOUS

Can he be my puppydog?

Mal-licious

Co-Holder of the Red Bell from Hell

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 6:49 PM

STATIC

My experience is beyond TheGreyJedi's. . .and I have to agree that he's spot on in his assessment. I hate it for you, brother. . .but bail and bail now.

My suggestion is to completely sever ties for the time being. Don't be mean or hateful. . .just don't BE. . .not in HER world, at least. Don't have any contact whatsoever until you've healed enough that talking to her or being around her won't hurt or piss you off or make you a sap.

This isn't bitter or jaded. . .this is beginning the healing, rather than dragging a hurt out.

Good lookin' fella like you won't be lonely any longer than you choose to be.

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 7:19 PM

THEREALME

Oh, Hat, I'm sorry.

Hang in there, buddy.

* As one who has screwed up most of his own romantic relationships, The Real Me disqualifies himself to offer any further advice. *

The Real Me

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 7:42 PM

GOJIRO

Just keep lookin' for the next door to open, Jefe. And remember what I said about the knockers ...

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Tuesday, November 30, 2004 8:00 PM

SIGMANUNKI

Quote:
Originally posted by BadgersHat:

The decision, for now, has been rendered, and she and I are officially on a "break" from our relationship...

I'm going to join the corus here.

"Breaks" usually lead to an on again/off again "relationship" for a period of time. Take it from me as I've had some experience with this. End it now, it's a lot worse waiting in limbo, not knowing which ways up and having it end later, than having a clean break.

The choice is basically, a lot of pain now and better later. Or almost as much pain for a prolonged period of time and a longer "recovery" period.

But, if you guys are meant to be together, after time passes and this is all a distant memory, you'll find eachother again and will be able to being anew. But, the smart money doesn't pick this senerio.

In summery, get a clean break, do some soul searching, continue living. Let what will be, be. After all, your true dream girl could be right infront of your face right now. But, that's just my 2 cents.

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 4:37 AM

PALADIN

All I have to say is that I feel for ya. About a week ago today my longtime girlfriend and I ended our break by breaking up. I say the best thing is to be open and honest about things, it may not always help but no one thing does.

In the end, all any of us can do is just keep flying.

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 5:38 AM

ZOID

Jefé The Hat:

Sad news, bad news, brother. I've already spoke my piece on the matter. My advice hasn't changed, so I won't reiterate it here, except to say that Love doesn't take a break. You thought you had what you were looking for, a soulmate for life. Turns out you were wrong; but it's better to find out sooner rather than later.

We're all here for you, offering all the virtual sympathy and encouragement we can. As a brother, I virtually encourage you to get your ass out of the house and into circulation, and find some real feminine companionship. Since you're in a vulnerable state, you must not be on a quest to find your true love, right now. You just need to be with friendly, 'sporting' girls at this time. Avoid forging emotional bonds until you're sure you're ready to move on. Some 'experts' say you should wait a year; this expert says you should wait as long as it takes, and you'll know when that is, if you take stock of your feelings.

In the meantime, just have some fun, and keep things at bay emotionally. Make sure the girls you date know that y'all are just enjoying one another's company, and sharing dinner and entertainments with friendly souls inhabiting hetero bodies.

You live in NYC, right? To paraphrase Bill Murray from "Ghostbusters", there should be 3 million miserably eligible females in the tri-state area alone, for you to choose from. Since your goal should not be finding The One, the bigger the haystack, the more hay available. Finding the needle, The One, may be a little tougher; but let's cross that bridge when we get to it, hmmm?

Speaking of 'sporting' (it's up there, somewhere in my ramblings), why aren't you making the NBA minimum somewhere? 7-footers don't exactly grow on trees, you know. I don't care if you can play a lick, you should be clogging up the paint for 3 - 6 minutes a night for the Knicks, Nets, Sixers or Wizards while their star center takes a breather, especially since those teams are all notably short in the frontcourt. As far as playing style is concerned, ask yourself, "What would Bill Laimbeer have done, if he were 7 feet tall?" See if you can't manage to foul out -- all hard ones if possible -- every night in your 3-to-6 minutes. Of course, you'll run up against Miami and the Shaq Diesel and that will be downright embarrassing. Still, for $385,277.00 per annum (for players with 0 years experience, per http://members.cox.net/lmcoon/salarycap.htm#9 ), we can all withstand a little embarassment, eh?

And of course, in addition to your remuneration, you'll meet a higher class of 'sporting' women, all of whom will be desperate to be in your harem in the real world. Umm, just stay in your hotel room and don't answer the door when y'all play at the Nuggets, okay?

I said it before, you're a good looking kid; Bill Walton was a notorious poon hound in his early days, and he's always been uglier than sin. So unless you've got some previously unmentioned physical infirmity -- bad heart, wooden leg, blind in one eye and can't see out of the other -- my advice is to 'get thee to a sports agent's office, pronto'.

All you have to be is 7-feet tall (respiration, heartbeat and cerebral activity desirable, but not strictly required). They'll 'coach you up' on the rest. If you manage to fake it past your rookie year and get resigned to a league-minimum contract for your second year, you'll be making $120,000 more than the President of the United States makes in a year. Is this a great country, or what?

Representatively,

zoid
Bartender (e.g., self-styled philosopher and advisor), "The Bottom of the Tree" public house

P.S.
It may be helpful to lighten up some. I was dead serious about the NBA thing, but if it helped you laugh a little, I'll consider it a win in any case... Just remember, any advice is likely to be worth exactly what you paid for it...

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 6:39 AM

EST120

Quote:
Originally posted by zoid:
I don't care if you can play a lick, you should be clogging up the paint for 3 - 6 minutes a night for the Knicks, Nets, Sixers or Wizards while their star center takes a breather,

uh. what "star" centers are you refering to? bruno sundov? jabari smith? or maybe peter john rambos. hahaha. just teasing.

in all seriousness, though. i do wholeheartedly agree with this statement:

Quote:
you should wait as long as it takes

everyone is different and do not let anyone tell you that you should "just get over it" or that you should "be over her already". they are wrong. you take the time you need, regardless of how long it is.

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 6:48 AM

ZOID

est120:

I was referring to those currently playing the center position who could do some combination of shooting, rebounding, shot blocking, or generalized thuggery. The point I was making is that Der Hat could at least manage the thuggery while the 'star' was catching his breath. For this service, he would be paid 'king's ransom handsomely', and make the acquaintance of females whose chief avocation may be described as 'taking samples'...

Vocationally,

zoid

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 7:37 AM

EST120

Quote:
Originally posted by zoid:

est120:

I was referring to those currently playing the center position who could do some combination of shooting, rebounding, shot blocking, or generalized thuggery. The point I was making is that Der Hat could at least manage the thuggery while the 'star' was catching his breath. For this service, he would be paid 'king's ransom handsomely', and make the acquaintance of females whose chief avocation may be described as 'taking samples'...

Vocationally,

zoid

i know. i was just teasing.

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 10:22 AM

MALICIOUS

Quote:
Originally posted by TheRealMe:
* As one who has screwed up most of his own romantic relationships, The Real Me disqualifies himself to offer any further advice. *

Yeah, don't listen to this guy, Jefe. He waved MY green hand at Ebo! The nerve.

(Is that considered a hijack? It weren't meant to be! Really!)

Mal-licious

Co-Holder of the Red Bell from Hell

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 12:05 PM

BLACKOUTNIGHTS

Wouldn't it be nice to go through life without having to have our hearts broken at one point or another. Though I've had plenty of failed relationships, only one girl's broken my heart. But it was worth it for the short time we were together...even though the pain lasted quite a bit longer. In the wods of Kev'n Kinney, it's been broken hearts, and auto parts and everything in-betwee.

"Art is Ego..."—Greg Dulli

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 12:10 PM

THATWEIRDGIRL

Quote:
Originally posted by SigmaNunki:

In summery, get a clean break, do some soul searching, continue living. Let what will be, be. After all, your true dream girl could be right infront of your face right now. But, that's just my 2 cents.

I agree. I needed a break from my reality and refound a man that i had been friends with for five years. We've been together more than four now. He was there all along. Just waiting to be found. Time. It's gonna take time, lots of time. Good luck.

Mal and suzie have taught me a thing or two. Anytime you need a veil dance, just call, I can make it thru now without tripping, usually.

www.thatweirdgirl.com

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 12:19 PM

MAUGWAI

Sad news, The Hat's fine ass! That's the best news ever! Tall, dark and yummy is available! If the rest of the girls on the site are anything like I am, they heaved a dreamy sigh when they read that some silly girl didn't appreciate your cabinet reachin' self. Who's going to get stuff down for her now? Nobody, that's who. And if she calls and says, "Hey, Hat, I can't reach my turkey platter," you won't get the message because you'll be too busy chatting it up with all the ladies who appreciate a man who is the leader of This Landotopia.

"Dear diary, today I was pompous and my sister was crazy."

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 12:26 PM

AURAPTOR

America loves a winner!

Not to make light of Hat's situation, but why can't I shake the image of Ross and Rachel from 'Friends' when I read about y'all calling for an official 'break'?

If life were ANYTHING like t.v., you'd fine a hot bar maid and officially consummate this 'break'

Just MHO.

" They don't like it when you shoot at 'em. I worked that out myself. "

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 12:36 PM

BADGERSHAT

"Tall, dark, and yummy"? Hmmm... not sure I've ever been described in such a fashion, but I do appreciate the compliments!

--Jefé The Hat

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--Don't bother trying to predict, figure out, second guess, criticize, or suggest anything that comes from the mind of Joss Whedon, for you shall usually be wrong, and shall find out the Truth and Purpose in due time.
(This is the Truth of Whedoning)
"I like smackin 'em"--Jayne

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Wednesday, December 1, 2004 9:19 PM

THEREALME

Quote:
Originally posted by Malicious:
Quote:
Originally posted by TheRealMe:
* As one who has screwed up most of his own romantic relationships, The Real Me disqualifies himself to offer any further advice. *

Yeah, don't listen to this guy, Jefe. He waved MY green hand at Ebo! The nerve.

Mal-licious

Co-Holder of the Red Bell from Hell

Mal, Mal...

This thread isn't about you or me. It's about how Badger's Hat is now free to win the hearts of dozens of new ladies.

* The Real Me wonders if Mal-licious is prettier when she is jealous. *

The Real Me

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Thursday, December 2, 2004 3:16 AM

EST120

Quote:
Originally posted by AURaptor:
If life were ANYTHING like t.v., you'd fine a hot bar maid and officially consummate this 'break'

if you want this to be EXACTLY like TV, he needs to find a cashier at a copy place.

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Thursday, December 2, 2004 3:24 PM

MALICIOUS

TRM,

What? What do you mean? This thread isn't about what? I'm sorry, I can see your lips moving, but I can't....quite....make out the words. It's almost like you are speaking in a foreign language.

Mal-licious

Co-Holder of the Red Bell from Hell

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Thursday, December 2, 2004 3:36 PM

SIMONWHO

Quote:
Originally posted by est120:
Quote:
Originally posted by AURaptor:
If life were ANYTHING like t.v., you'd fine a hot bar maid and officially consummate this 'break'

if you want this to be EXACTLY like TV, he needs to find a cashier at a copy place.

Oh, someone beat me to a piece of pedantry. I feel sad. But yeah, wasn't she hot?

Right, relationship advice. *checks pockets thoroughly*. I got nothing.

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