My Thanks to Everyone, and some better news.... by DarkJester

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My Thanks to Everyone, and some better news....

POSTED BY: DARKJESTER
UPDATED: Monday, August 29, 2005 06:55
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Sunday, August 28, 2005 2:09 PM

I'd just like to take a moment and say thanks to everyone for their kind words and sentiments about the death of Jenna (my son's sister and my former step-daughter). [We need to come up with a better description of that relationship. Saying "ex step-daughter" doesn't cut it.] I spent the last week in South Carolina for the funeral, and got back late Saturday night.

Unfortunately, my son is too much like me for his own good, and is holding in his grief, thinking that no-one wants to be bothered by his tears. I've learned over the years how unhealthy that is, but he is still too young. TELLING him wasn't doing it, so...... I'm going to have to show him, by being there for him.

Tomorrow morning I'm giving notice to the place I've worked for the last 12 years, and in three weeks I'll be moved down to South Carolina. I have an apartment picked out. My ex and her boyfriend have both offered to get me jobs where they work, I have a good bit of training in Inventory Control, and former bosses that will give me high recommendations. I'm not SCARED about finding a job, but still....

However, the North Carolina Big Damn Premiere Party is only a week after the move, so I'll be able to make it! I'll be calling to check on a hotel room tomorrow, and I look forward to bringing my son to meet a bunch of great folks (otherwise known as Browncoats), see a REALLY good movie, and having a great time at the Ren Faire on Saturday.

Thanks again everyone. You really are the shiniest webgroup a guy could ask for!

John, AKA DarkJester

MAL "You only gotta scare him."
JAYNE "Pain is scary..."

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 2:16 PM

PSYCHICRIVER

You are more than welcome, and my thoughts shall certainly be with you all still.

Best of luck with everything ahead.

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 2:22 PM

CITIZEN

I feel for you I really do, for reasons I don't wish to post.

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[We need to come up with a better description of that relationship. Saying "ex step-daughter" doesn't cut it.]

May I suggest someone you cared about a great deal?
It may seem flipant but I never thought official relationships never say it...
Its how you feel that counts...

When my grandmother died it was difficult, I am like you and your son (based on what you say) in so much that I don't want to make a scene by showing *ahem* emotion *ahem*.
My grandmother died two years ago and I can't say I've really come to terms with it yet...
I keep expecting her to appear some where, I keep pushing the thought that shes really not there to the back of my mind.
Basically what I'm saying is I hope you get through this difficult time, and that we will all be there for you...

Q: What do you have when you are holding two little green balls in your hand.
A: Kermit's undivided attention.

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 2:35 PM

STARRBABY

You are such a great dad for moving to be closer to your son at this time.
You are also very lucky to have a decent relationship with your ex. You all sounds like people worth knowing, and I'm very happy you can be there for each other in this time.

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 2:49 PM

DIETCOKE

I have a story to tell you about last Wednesday's press screening in NYC. I man came up to me in line and asked what the big crowd was about. I did my shameless plug for the movie and he said, hummmm....that sounds a lot like the TV show called Firefly! Well needless to say, I explained that we had extra free tickets and to get in line to see the movie. He called his wife on the cell phone and saw the film. Afterwards I went up to him and his wife to get their reaction. They could not stop talking about it! They loved it! They never expected the movie to be that good. The husband explained to me that they had recently lost their child to a a childhood disease (don't remember what it was.) He said how much he and his wife needed this movie. For two hours, he said, he and his wife forgot that they had lost their only child. "Yep. It was that good!" he said.

(Thank God it was dark so he couldn't see my tears.)

NY/NJ Browncoats: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/firefly_nyc

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 3:13 PM

CHRISISALL

DarkJester. on another thread we were talking about what real heroes actually do.
I guess you fit into that catagory.

If you don't believe me, ask your son in a decade, or so.

Best of luck in SC Chrisisall

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 4:28 PM

COZEN

DJ,

Damn, but you are so doing the right things, for what my mere opinion is worth. Getting your son out there, and yourself, to participate in one of Life's joyful activities, is a terrific and strong move. I admire your strength as shown by your willingness to take positive measures.

Looking forward to meeting ya both in Raleigh.

c.

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 4:35 PM

THATWEIRDGIRL

I agree, someone you care about, no other terms are necessary. When I speak of family I always leave out the steps, halves, exes, and in-laws. Once they’re part of the fam…they’re always part of the fam.

Good luck with the move. You’re a brave loving man. Chris is right: you are a hero.

See you soon.

www.thatweirdgirl.com
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"...turn right at the corner then skip two blocks...no, SKIP, the hopping-like thing kids do...Why? Why not?"

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 6:06 PM

EMBERS

I think you are entitled to simply call her your daughter, there is no reason to create a distance in the relationship.
I am so glad you are going to be there for your son,
I've lost a sister and a brother,
and I don't think I'll ever 'get over it',
you son will be grateful all his life for a closer relationship with you and your help in easing this loss for him.

I'm sure you'll find support for finding a new job and a good place to live.
This is really the right thing to do.

And I hope you'll allow all the Browncoats to remain a part of your life!

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 6:45 PM

STATIC

DJ. . .

If you have trouble finding a room in Raleigh, you can share mine, and I would invite you to crash at my home after the premiere and be my guest in attending the Carolina Renaissance Festival the Saturday and Sunday immediately following the BDM. (Oct 1 and 2). Again, I will have a few hotel rooms at my disposal, and there will be some space, bed, couch or floor for you there.

I wish I could offer more, but I hope you will consider the offer I have made.

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Sunday, August 28, 2005 11:29 PM

EMMA

Ditto to everyone

your son is a very lucky guy and you are indeed a hero

good luck with the move

*big huge squishy hugs*

extremely dimensionally transcendental

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Monday, August 29, 2005 3:42 AM

BROWNCOAT1

May have been the losing side. Still not convinced it was the wrong one.

My hat's off to you DarkJester. I have no doubt you will be just fine in South Carolina, and your son will benefit from having you close by.

Sending out well wishes and prayers to you both fellow browncoat.

Where in South Carolina are you headed if I might ask? My wife is from Columbia & has friends & family in that area if you need anything.

__________________________________________

"May have been the losing side. Still not convinced it was the wrong one."

Richmond, VA & surrounding area Firefly Fans:

http://tv.groups.yahoo.com/group/richmondbrowncoats/

http://www.richmondbrowncoats.org

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Monday, August 29, 2005 3:49 AM

SPINLAND

You so have yourself and your priorities together. Your devotion to your son's well-being is an inspiration and ... I just don't know how I could pile enough superlatives onto the wonderful thing you're doing. All the best!

Mark

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I can see you.

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Monday, August 29, 2005 4:15 AM

KNIBBLET

You loved her and still love her as your daughter. This makes her your daughter. There are no 'steps' and 'former' in love.

May you and yours find peace. May your love keep you strong.

http://tv.groups.yahoo.com/group/MN-Firefly/

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Monday, August 29, 2005 6:20 AM

ODDNESS2HER

DJ, you are doing an amazing and beautiful thing for your family. I know you will all be better off for it. Good luck and God bless!

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Monday, August 29, 2005 6:55 AM

KAYLEERULESALL

DJ, i echo all the wonderful things said here. you truly are doing a great thing! best of luck down there, sounds like you have a huge support base, which is terrific. i am going to count you among my personal heroes.

on another note, i just want to comment on how great it is to see such an outpouring of support and help from everyone here--some even willing to open up thier homes and families to, essentially, a stranger is truly humbling. This speaks to the character of us browncoats; kudos, guys, kudos.

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When the stars shine bright through the engine's trail and the dust of another world drops behind; When my ship is free of the open sky, its a damn good day to my way of mind; Theres a barren planet you never can leave, theres a rocky valley where we lost a war; Theres a cross worn 'round a soldier's neck, theres a man's faith died on Serenity's floor, but i stood my ground and ill fight once more; Its the last oath that i ever swore

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