The Hidey Place of Nice Boys & Girls by BlackEyedGirl

ha!

That is quite amusing!

We need to come up with a cunning name for our browncoat dating service.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 12:29 PM

That's not strange, Blackeyedgirl, that's funny.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 12:31 PM

Traitors! The old thread weeps in its agonizing decay. How dare you?

;D

Quote:
Originally posted by Jadehand:
Comments on the nice boys Vs. getting hints: I can only speak for myself, I made a few embarassing mistakes in my past, misinterpreting ladies who were just being nice as giving signals. So now, if you're giving signals, I'll likely just assume you're only being friendly/ polite. You pretty much gotta hit me over the head, and drag me back to the cave. I won't mind waking up chained to the wall.

Yes yes yes. This is a key point I always hammer in the endless boy/girl discussions.

Quote:
Originally posted by BlackEyedGirl:
My best friend broke e-harmony too, and so did another friend of mine. Which means either they aren't lying about the 20% or I only know really wierd people. Either way, you are not alone!

Yeah, e-Harmony...I joined it something like 16 or 17 months ago (of course it sat unused for many months while I was with my last gf, i had purchased a year subscription). I've been matched with something like 200 people since I've been on there and have only gotten to the point where I met one, yes only one. It seems most I'm matched with really aren't good matches, haha. I think I live in a bad area for what I'm looking for...

Quote:
Originally posted by mal4prez:
My toenail painting thought came from this: in my one good long term relationship, we vacationed in Jamaica and did things like sit on the beach drinking rum and playing with nail polish. I don't think all men would be open to this and I just find that perplexing. It was hella sexy.

Yeah, that's amazingly sexy. Not the rum part, though. I can't drink rum anymore (and after my eye opening time i enjoyed last night I don't think I can drink vodka or even orange juice ever again, haha...hey progress, I had a good time last night and I don't feel guilty about it. I'm moving forward).

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Originally posted by ScorpionRegent:
Have a care woman! Love is probably the only thing worth fighting for. So it stands to reason it would be worth questing for. However it is true that fate has ironic sense of humor. It's a cliche that the moment a person stops searching for their lover and concentrates on just enjoying their life that will be the moment that they find someone. This is somehow related to that clingyness element that was getting batted around the other thread. "Desparate" people are so less than desirable because they have that psychic aura that tells you that they will be clingy if they can only find someone. "Desparate" and clingy people are insecure and expect the person they find to solve all their problemas and make their world a paradise. Can you say "codependant" children? I knew you could. No wonder no one wants them. No one wants to get into a interpersonal relationship with a blackhole.

That's what I'm doing right now, finding out what it is I want to enjoy in life (although I'm fairly sure I know what those things are). I've always been a solitary person, for the most part. I don't mind being alone...or at least that was how it was until I had my first gf a couple years ago. I still enjoy my solitude, but one can't help but miss the other half. I have been a desperate clingy person...I prolly still am, though I'm working on that most diligently. Yes codependant is bad but only to a point. I think if there is no dependency on the other then there's something wrong (or just different, not compatible for me) with the relationship. Holding that other person doesn't neccessarily get you through the week (blasphemy), but it sure as hell makes it a lot better.

Quote:
Originally posted by CallMeSerenity:
You can't kick yourself for something you did or didn't do when you were 7!! At that age, few of us understand the complex ramifications of our actions.

I've been kicking myself for things I did or decided all that time ago for ages. I'm finally to the point where I'm about willing to forgive that child.

Quote:
Originally posted by mai:
Is it bad what he just said made perfect sense to me?

No, or at least you're not alone ;p

Quote:
Originally posted by CallMeSerenity:
But I have to admit I went through a whole "What did I do wrong?" period. Very unhealthy.

Yeah, it's unhealthy. I've been going through whad did I do wrong/what's wrong with me? on and off for about 15 years which constitues more than 3/5 of my life. It's devastating...and it's hard not to do when you're someone as insanely analytical as I am. I take every comment, nuance of speech, body language and think it over until I must have figured out every possible meaning for it and every possible past/future that brought it about.

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Originally posted by chrisisall:
She won't watch a minute of Buffy, yet loves Firefly, that seem right to you?

It seems right to me ;D I can't stand SMG (i've never understood why men pine after her, her and jennifer love hewitt). Also, it always seemed rather juvenile. Perhaps I'd like the later seasons? It sucks when a show seems interesting, but you can't bring yourself to watch it because of certain actors (Buffy, Ghost Whisperer).

Quote:
Originally posted by BlackEyedGirl:
'holding you gets me through the week'
...
I just realized, THIS THREAD may in fact be the not-so Hidey Place of nice people cos no one on this thread overly sucks.

Ah, I'm here now, and that statement no longer holds true ;D My suckiness is so immense as to sap all positive energy from this (traitorous) post ;p

I'm the kind of person to say that but actually mean it. A quick hug and a kiss from my past gfs sent me into cloud 9 for the rest of the day.

Quote:
Originally posted by CallMeSerenity:
We need to come up with a cunning name for our browncoat dating service.

Celebrate U (and me) Day! haha

ok that was bad

[edit]-static, read some of your blog...I was often like Donovan. I've always gotten along better with people much older than myself. I'm sure that when I was younger I tested the patience of many much older than me, as well ;D I've often had to be shown how to "play" I have fun but it doesn't seem in the same way others do. I'm still learning to play.[/edit]

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 12:31 PM

QUEENOFTHENORTH

Hmmm, can't think of any clever names. Though I'll totally participate if we make a browncoat dating service. Maybe I should try that eharmony and see if I get rejected.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 12:51 PM

I think S6 is mostly crap too, CallMeSerenity. I love OMWF and I the ep right after it, "Tabula Rasa" is also quite good. After that, it's pretty much a crapfest, in my opinion.

"Hush" is from S4, by the way.

The idea of a Browncoat meeting/dating website is a great idea but I'd like to see it include Whedonites of all stripes not just FIREFLY fans.

Oh, and Chris have you seen S2 of ANGEL yet? I've forgotten.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 12:59 PM

See how little I know about Buffy?

Tabula Rasa was the funny one where they all lost their memories and got their rolls mixed up? And Spike thought Giles was his father or something?

THAT was a funny episode.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 1:07 PM

Yep that's the one. It shows they were still capable of producing good episodes, but...oh wait, you don't like BUFFY in the first place. Well, anyway, we can agree that's good one.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 1:14 PM

SIMONWHO

TWG is going to run a dating service on her website? Excellent. As for a name... how about something like "Find your Zoe" (for those seeking women) and "Find your Wash" (for those seeking men).

I would also say this - there is no hint like bodily contact. If you're trying to hit on a guy, take any excuse to touch him. If he's not interested, he'll flinch away (try a couple of times to be sure though). If he is... well, keeping touching his arm till he asks you out.

Remember, a nice guy doesn't want to cause anyone pain, including embarassment, so he won't ask you out unless he knows he's going to get a favourable answer or that you won't mind in the slightest about being asked out. If you want your nice guy, you've gotta make a lot of the early running. After that, well, piece of cake.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 1:19 PM

Batty-No, I agree, it was a good one.

I just didn't like the show overall. But I will admit there was some fantastic writing and exciting plots and some really good episodes. I like that one and Hush and OMWF and the one where Buffy drinks the beer and goes all cavewomany (Fire bad. Tree pretty) and probably a few others when I think about it.

I'm not a SMG fan, or a DB fan and that turned me off of it, as did some other stuff.

I liked Oz-oh, the Halloween ones were usually funny.

See? It's not that I didn't think the shows weren't well written (Joss is a genius) I just didn't like the show overall.

I couldn't stand Angel at all because it had both Cordy and Angel (neither of whom I liked when I watched Buffy) and then that Wes guy came around. Bleh.

Okay, enough babbling. Joss rules. Firefly rocks.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 1:25 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by SimonWho:
TWG is going to run a dating service on her website? Excellent.

If you're trying to hit on a guy, take any excuse to touch him. If he's not interested, he'll flinch away (try a couple of times to be sure though). If he is... well, keeping touching his arm till he asks you out.

When you said "Excellent" did you use your evil voice and do the finger temple thing? Because that's what I was picturing you doing and it made me LAUGH!

Also, I tried the touching thing once and the guy DID NOT get the hint. But he didn't flinch or anything either. Mixed signals. It gave me a headache.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 1:35 PM

Yeah, I'm even oblivious to the touching thing sometimes myself, but I think you need to go at least that far with it (as long as you think the guy doesn't have some sort of personal space complex ;D). I really, really need to be bludgeoned over the head to know someone's got an interest in me. As was said, we don't want to cause you discomfiture or assume anything about your advances. Be overly obvious. Hell, be captain obvious.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 1:44 PM

CITIZEN

BEG:
LOL.

As for a name:
Badger Dating?
Find a Companion?

Maybe something about Black market beagles.
might need to rethink that...

More insane ramblings by the people who brought
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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 1:45 PM

QUEENOFTHENORTH

Ha! Someone else uses the Captain Obvious thing! Hehe. I tried out that eHarmony thing and it gave me a couple matches, but only one sounded half-decent and he's really into ballroom dancing, which scares me. Lol. I think I'll just avoid the dating service thing unless we get a browncoat one.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 1:57 PM

CMS: I see the confusing statements in my previous posts. "Yep, that's the one" referred to "Hush". But the "it" was referring to "Tabula Rasa". Gotta watch my pronouns.

I don't how much you've seen of ANGEL, but for me the development of Wes is what kept the show humming for five years.

I won't anymore about that because it gets into spoiler territory.

And does anybody know when TWG is going to launch this website?

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 2:02 PM

SPINLAND

So, where do we Evil & Nasty sorts get to hide out?

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 2:02 PM

She was joking when she said she's start a dating service on her website, and I was joking when I reminded you all that she said that.

So, I hope no one's taking it seriously. Because the closest we're going to find to a dating service is RIGHT HERE on this thread.

Funny idea: we could start a thread that's like those silly ads in magazines. You know:

SWF in search of SM Jayne-esque 30-45. Must like guns, knives and lifting weights. Let me be your Vera.

Stuff like that.

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 2:07 PM

Let me be your Vera...priceless ;D

-edit- just saw your pictures CMS...you don't look like mickey mouse, haha, you look rather great (and kayleeish in a way ;p)

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005 2:56 PM

JADEHAND

CallMeSerenity wrote:

Quote:
.Funny idea: we could start a thread that's like those silly ads in magazines. You know:

SWF in search of SM Jayne-esque 30-45. Must like guns, knives and lifting weights. Let me be your Vera.

Stuff like that.
..

That's hi-larious. SWM Wash humour/Mal dark moodyness seeks Kaylee hapiness/ River craziness. No Saffons please.

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 5:19 AM

Jadehand: what kingdom were / are you in? For the uninitiated the SCA devides it's separate regions into kingdoms.

Scorpion Regent

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 7:03 AM

Thanks Jadehand-the idea made me laugh outloud.

LMD-Thanks for the compliment!

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 2:11 PM

XEROGRAVITY

**my brain cells are still regrouping and when they strike, it will be a total takeover. me as emperor, supreme ruler of everything, worship me cuz i win and winner takes all... mine mine mine all mine! i will own the universe and everything in it**

I'll be back. And when I return, I promise you... I will kill all of you with my brain.

Blackeyed Girl you are first enemy on the radar screen.

Rejoin the war... women are whores, men are studs.

This whole kumbayah thing you all have going is selling out the original thread. Gag me with a spoon. Totally not awesome.

XG

Kai is coming back. Never really left (sort of). Unless you count death. Save us Brunnen'G!

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 2:12 PM

XEROGRAVITY

...

...even if it's 2008 years later. Just save us!

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 4:14 PM

BRUISERSMOM

Quote:
Originally posted by CallMeSerenity:
I don't have much else to add, either.

Though I did try e-Harmony and I regret it.

I must have gone through hundreds of men (and dollars), finally whittled it down to one guy that I thought was absolutely fantastic. After months of emailing and talking on the phone, we met, had a amazing date (he even brought me a dozen roses) and then he NEVER CALLED ME AGAIN.

The biggest waste of time and money. Plus it REALLY REALLY hurt.

Ouch! One of my ex-boyfriends tried online dating and it didn't work for him. When he met the girl, there just weren't any sparks for him and he didn't call her again; however, there were some for her and she was hurt when he didn't want to see her again. He didn't tell me why he didn't spark with her. After talking to each other for weeks, it seems like it shouldn't be one of those "he's just not into you" things for him. But, what do I know about men? Apparently, not much because I'm still single.

"You can keep a dog; but it is the cat who keeps people, because cats find humans useful domestic animals."--George Mikes

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 4:25 PM

Yeah, I know how that goes. Earlier I mentioned that I had met only 1 person through e-Harmony. Things were alright on the phone and stuff, she seemed interesting. I went to see her and didn't really feel any kind of chemistry, but I did mostly enjoy the day...so I agreed to meet again sometime. By the end of the second I still wasn't feeling any sort of romantic inclination towards her, so I cut it off. It was really hard for me because I knew she wasn't feeling the same way I was. I could tell she really was into me ;(

I've never been much of a phone person, though. I'd much rather speak with someone face to face. I think it'd take many many phone conversations to ever be sure I was into the other person (of course much less to know that I wasn't). I really need to meet personally to know how I really feel about it. Chemistry is important.

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 4:27 PM

JADEHAND

ScorpionRegent wrote:

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Jadehand: what kingdom were / are you in? For the uninitiated the SCA devides it's separate regions into kingdoms.

...

It's been more than 10 years. I really don't recall the Kingdom name. Whatever it is in NC.

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 4:29 PM

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Originally posted by XeroGravity:
**my brain cells are still regrouping and when they strike, it will be a total takeover. me as emperor, supreme ruler of everything, worship me cuz i win and winner takes all... mine mine mine all mine! i will own the universe and everything in it**

I'll be back. And when I return, I promise you... I will kill all of you with my brain.

Blackeyed Girl you are first enemy on the radar screen.

Rejoin the war... women are whores, men are studs.

This whole kumbayah thing you all have going is selling out the original thread. Gag me with a spoon. Totally not awesome.

XG

Kai is coming back. Never really left (sort of). Unless you count death. Save us Brunnen'G!

*yawn*

Bored now.

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 5:11 PM

BRUISERSMOM

Chemistry is just such an ineffable thing.

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 8:37 PM

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Originally posted by XeroGravity:
**my brain cells are still regrouping and when they strike, it will be a total takeover. me as emperor, supreme ruler of everything, worship me cuz i win and winner takes all... mine mine mine all mine! i will own the universe and everything in it**

I'll be back. And when I return, I promise you... I will kill all of you with my brain.

Blackeyed Girl you are first enemy on the radar screen.

Rejoin the war... women are whores, men are studs.

This whole kumbayah thing you all have going is selling out the original thread. Gag me with a spoon. Totally not awesome.

XG

Kai is coming back. Never really left (sort of). Unless you count death. Save us Brunnen'G!

With an attitude like that 0G you ain't gettin' laid ever, even if you bring your money. Best go and be a sad little king of a sad, little hill. If you don't like it here, you can leave, and you won't be missed. The trolls might take you if you suck up to them, otherwise save yourself some money on your power bill by turning off your computer and your lights and just hang out in a dark room talking to the guy in the mirror. This thread is about people being nice to each other and right now you're only thinking of yourself. You got nothing we need. Forget the gravity you're just a zero.

To the rest of the thread I apologize for speaking bluntly. I resent rude behavior in a man it cheapens him in the eyes of the world as he does a disservice to himself. I wish no flamewar here. If Blackeyedgirl so desires I will leave the thread.

Scorpion Regent

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 8:43 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Jadehand:
ScorpionRegent wrote:
Quote:
Jadehand: what kingdom were / are you in? For the uninitiated the SCA devides it's separate regions into kingdoms.

...

It's been more than 10 years. I really don't recall the Kingdom name. Whatever it is in NC.

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I guess that would be Atlantia. Never been there. What's it like?

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Thursday, November 24, 2005 9:00 PM

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Originally posted by CallMeSerenity:
[B.

You can't kick yourself for something you did or didn't do when you were 7!! At that age, few of us understand the complex ramifications of our actions. If anything, blame your parents!

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Oh yes I can kick myself for it. I aught to know I have the scars. It was bad choice and it was mine, my parents had nothing to do with it. I don't dodge the bullet when it comes to blame.

Okay maybe you can look and find people, lucky you. It must be just me.

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Friday, November 25, 2005 4:46 AM

JADEHAND

Quote:
I guess that would be Atlantia. Never been there. What's it like?

When I was in it was a bit too political. I joined a group that had a former member In a fairly high position, and he had a grudge against the whole group. Though I joined after, we still had to deal with it. I mostly ignored the politics and hung out with the drinking/dancing/sk'dipping in the lake gypies. They were much more fun anyways. It's where I learned how to prove I was a Pirate by spelling AIR. Ayyyeeee, Eyyyyyyyye, Arrrrrrr.

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Friday, November 25, 2005 5:43 AM

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Originally posted by Jadehand:
Quote:
I guess that would be Atlantia. Never been there. What's it like?

When I was in it was a bit too political. I joined a group that had a former member In a fairly high position, and he had a grudge against the whole group. Though I joined after, we still had to deal with it. I mostly ignored the politics and hung out with the drinking/dancing/sk'dipping in the lake gypies. They were much more fun anyways. It's where I learned how to prove I was a Pirate by spelling AIR. Ayyyeeee, Eyyyyyyyye, Arrrrrrr.

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Forgive me if I stare, But I can see the island behind your tired, troubled eyes." -Fantastic Place (Marbles) -Marillion

Hell there's politics everywhere. Douglas Adams described it really well:
"people are a problem"

Other than that it sounds good. You even had a lake to swim in. We have only one close event with a lake and it's too poluted to touch. Pirates and gypsies make for a lot of fun afterdark.

Scorpion Regent

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Friday, November 25, 2005 6:18 AM

Can you be a gypsey and a pirate, because how could you choose between the two?

And was anyone around for Talk Like a Pirate Day? Because that was FUN.

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Friday, November 25, 2005 7:11 AM

COZEN

Reading through these massive threads, for the most part I can’t help but get the feeling that you good people ever seek to stumble into a four leaf clover, still fully expecting to come out of the encounter with a cracked skull.

I’m seeing a rapidly expanding network of impossibilities fueled by mutual lacking of self-esteem. As one racks up yet another imperfect partner so grows the accumulated burden of failures which is dragged into the next relationship dance. At best sometimes the sex is good, at worst, which seems nearly always, folk hate themselves. Thus each succesive dance becomes more difficult than the last. Yikes, what a way to live.

I can’t feel that way, not for long anyway. Call me naive if you want to. If so, that tag’s a fair trade on sadness and depression, so I can take it. I prefer having fun when I dance and, for that matter, when I romance. When it fails, it fails, learn and move on, but why carry the crappy parts with you? They can only have a negative impact on the next person with whom you might want to connect.

Guess all I’m saying is based on that old cliché, tis better to have loved and lost.... Well, you know the rest.

Of course, the above sentiment is rendered hopeless by any relationship that is physically or mentally abusive. I won’t pretend to be able to speak to that.

Where are we hiding? Close as can be. Within ourselves, tied in there by the bonds of our failures. I guess the conjurer within me is able to see failure less as a bond and more as an event, which allows better control over it’s hold on me.

Enough about me. Anachronisms is nice.

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Friday, November 25, 2005 8:25 AM

Hi Cozen.

Feeling grouchy today?

At least you can do it eloquently!

Welcome!

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Friday, November 25, 2005 8:28 AM

Cozen: You have some really good points there. Emotional baggage is just that: a bunch of stuff weighing a person down. There are those who collect emotional baggage the way others horde material possesions. They keep this stuff fastened around their necks like one would a boat anchor, because it has intense sentimental value. We all have learning expereinces, but they aren't any good if we only dwell on what a drag it was to have and fail to learn the lesson. My father had some advice about the over accumulation of materail things:
"He who owns less, is less owned."
I think that applies to emotinal baggage as well.
It may not be easily done, yet it is possible to wake one morning and say to yourself:
"Today I'll travel light" and leave all that stuff behind and just get yourself a cup of coffee. If you happen to meet someone at the time that's great, otherwise you can atleast smell the coffee. Then again maybe someone will notice you and think:
"There is a person who seems comfortable with themself." Now isn't that an attractive quality?

People these days watch a lot more tv than two three generations ago. The result is they may get to learn things from sitcoms that 40-50 years ago no one would even talk about, but they also have these very unrealistic expectations. In tv land no one has bad hair day unless it's essential to the plot. If a person is grouchy they are always grouchy, not becuse they are having a headache. In real life these things happen all the time, and they are not part of some great space alien conspiracy. In tv land everyone is physically attractive and if they aren't then they are in small minority. It seems almost a given that a lot of people programed by tv will have self esteem issues.

Maybe this is why so many teenage girls automatically start hating themselves the moment they hit puberty. How are they ever going to measure up to the latest supermodel?

To the thread: bear in mind that I'm speaking in a general sense. If you have realistic expectations, no self esteem issues and no emotional baggage then you should have no reason to be insecure and take offence, because then I wouldn't be talking about you then would I? If you are quick to rush to your own defence, bite your tongue for a minute and look in the mirror and then close your eyes and really look inside yourself.

Scorpion Regent

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Friday, November 25, 2005 8:59 AM

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Guess all I’m saying is based on that old cliché, tis better to have loved and lost.... Well, you know the rest.

Up until a few days ago I would have argued this age old point with you until I expired from lack of oxygen. As far as I was concerned it was far better to have never loved at all...only now am I starting to reconsider that. I've somehow managed to fit months of healing into a day or two. I won't question it (against my nature) but just accept it instead. Now, to keep it from slipping away in short order as it usually does. Wish me luck ;D

Good post, cozen. You definitely nailed many of the things I've let get the better of me.

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Friday, November 25, 2005 9:15 AM

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Originally posted by cozen:
Guess all I’m saying is based on that old cliché, tis better to have loved and lost.... Well, you know the rest.

Up until a few days ago I would have argued this age old point with you until I expired from lack of oxygen. As far as I was concerned it was far better to have never loved at all...only now am I starting to reconsider that. I've somehow managed to fit months of healing into a day or two. I won't question it (against my nature) but just accept it instead. Now, to keep it from slipping away in short order as it usually does. Wish me luck ;D

Good post, cozen. You definitely nailed many of the things I've let get the better of me.

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Heal thy self and find happiness. It will become you much more than festering in self pity.

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Friday, November 25, 2005 10:16 AM

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Can you be a gypsey and a pirate, because how could you choose between the two?

Serenity, First Officer of Destiny

I have a live journal: http://www.livejournal.com/users/callmeserenity/

Well in the SCA you can be both. You can have two entirely separate personas or you can combine them. Everyone gets to create theri own back story. So let's say that you were a gypsy who got pressganged into the navy and then you jumped ship and fell in with a bunch of pirates. There you go, you are now a gypsy pirate.

Scorpion Regent

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Friday, November 25, 2005 10:49 AM

REALLYKAYLEE

yeah! i remember talk like a pirate day! that's when i realized i wasn't the only person in the world to like veggie tales! (the only television show that makes me wish i was a carnivore)

also- that whole touching till they get the message thing- it can't be true. for one thing a relationship can't totally be based on physical contact and using it as a way to initiate something just ensures that it will play a huge huge role in the relationship.

plus if that's true i should have a freakin' fan club. me and my guy friends are REALLY close. it's annoying when it's perceived as anything more than friendship but only outsiders make that mistake. *sigh* that's what i get for being a comfy theatre person anyways.

also- i imagined that the name would be obvious- "hidey-place"

i came.
i saw.
i read all of the hidey place threads.

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Friday, November 25, 2005 11:15 AM

It doesn't have to be touching. Just make it blindingly obvious if the guy seems unmoved by subtlety. Chances are they are afraid to misread your signals and so assume you're just being friendly.

I've found there's no SCA Kingdom for my county (not surprised), but there is a county not far from here that belongs to one. I'll have to check it out.

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Friday, November 25, 2005 11:42 AM

ORPHEUS

Wow. Surprised this thread got so long, so fast, without my noticing. Once I read all this, I'll chime in with my thoughts or whatever later.

"Were there monkeys? Some terrifying space monkeys maybe got loose?"

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Friday, November 25, 2005 2:43 PM

LMD I gaurantee you are in a kingdom if you are in the continental US and Canada. Australia and New Zealand has their own kingdom. Europe and the middle east have their own kingdom. It's just a question of which Kingdom. So where are you located?

Scorpion Regent

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Friday, November 25, 2005 2:43 PM

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Friday, November 25, 2005 3:45 PM

I live in the backwards hell hole that is Western NY (if it wasn't for family...), Cattaraugus county to be more specific. I saw one for Allegheny, which isn't far. Thanks for any help, SR ;D

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Friday, November 25, 2005 4:16 PM