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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:02 AM

PENGUIN


Quote:

Originally posted by RiverIsMyGoddess:
Penguin, that sucks. The cops gonna be able to help with any of it? Insurance?



I hope the cops can track it down through the pawn shops, etc. I'm checking the papers. I have homeowners insurance, but with a $1,000 deductible I don't think it would be worth raising my rates over.

I did go out yesterday and buy a Toro self-propelled mower. It's a LOT more work but the exersize hopefully won't kill me! LOL

The mower fits in my basement, too!




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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:09 AM

RIVERISMYGODDESS


Quote:

Originally posted by Mavourneen:
MsG, I believe it is the arm squeeze/ intense eye connection combo that is the jump start.

Without the eyes, the arm squeeze is (generally) just friendly.
Without the arm squeeze, the eye connection is a staring contest.

I find that combo, with a small sideways smile for effect, does the trick every time.


And that makes you dangerous (well, only to Kevin at this point), because you know exactly how to do that which has power over us. :)


Penguin, the mower fits in your basement, huh? Right next to the shiny new 12 guage? Sucks on the insurance premium, but that makes sense. Hopefully the person(s) who did it will fall off of a roller coaster and break every bone in their body. That, or get run over by the lawnmower after falling off of it.


Wow, I'm in a hell of a mood.

~jimi
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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:10 AM

ZEEK


Quote:

Originally posted by msg:
Now somewhat baffled...I figured it was a simple gesture ( you know support, caring, hey how are you) and now I discover it's a jump start to the libido..who knew


See that's the one problem for guys. Trying to figure out if the girl really meant something by it or if that's just how she is normally. You're just going around confusing us MsG. Guys just have no chance I tells ya.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:14 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by Zeek:
Quote:

Originally posted by msg:
Now somewhat baffled...I figured it was a simple gesture ( you know support, caring, hey how are you) and now I discover it's a jump start to the libido..who knew


See that's the one problem for guys. Trying to figure out if the girl really meant something by it or if that's just how she is normally. You're just going around confusing us MsG. Guys just have no chance I tells ya.



Random man in MSG's life: "Aw, man, gas prices are going up."

MSG with arm touch and eye contact: "It's OK. Prices will drop in the fall."

Random man: "I am your servant, Mistress. Crush me under the sharp heel of your boot."

Now, Zeek. How is that ruining it for Random Man?





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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:17 AM

MAVOURNEEN


Quote:

Originally posted by RiverIsMyGoddess
And that makes you dangerous (well, only to Kevin at this point), because you know exactly how to do that which has power over us. :)



Speaking of which...I got a new nickname this weekend. "Lola." As in Lola from Damn Yankees

"Whatever Lola wants...
Lola gets."

Just because he didn't want to sell his bird cage...(It's on craigslist as I type...)
He said "Whatever you want, Lola."

Quote:


Wow, I'm in a hell of a mood.



We you, Jimi!

EDIT: I may need to cash in my jimibear ticket after all. I just went to the upstairs showroom to use the credit card machine, and guess who's eyes followed me across the gallery? It was oh so subtle. Not.


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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:22 AM

CALIFORNIAKAYLEE


Hey all, I'm posting before I'm reading (bad CK!). I thought it was Sunday when I woke up, so I couldn't figure out why hubby was trying to get me out of bed at 8:45am. (He doesn't drink coffee, so to wake himself up in the morning, he bounces around like Tigger. I'm not kidding.) And I could see out our skylight that it's overcast and rainy and crappy today, so I really just wanted to sleep in. But he made me get up. Grumble. Then I saw a topic here where they're talking about whether or not Joss owns the rights to Firefly, and I felt like I needed to share the things I've noticed and put together. Sigh. Bad morning.

Ok, gunna go make some coffee, and then catch up on everything here. Back soon.

~CK

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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:25 AM

RIVERISMYGODDESS


Quote:

Originally posted by Mavourneen:
EDIT: I may need to cash in my jimibear ticket after all. I just went to the upstairs showroom to use the credit card machine, and guess who's eyes followed me across the gallery? It was oh so subtle. Not.



I'm off at 2:30, lemme go get a bottle of bappin' juice (Jameson) and I'll be up there shortly.

~jimi
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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:42 AM

NVGHOSTRIDER


Allright folks. Seems the morning has brought a mix of conversation and I'd want in, but there seems to be a problem with my communication skills lately. I thought it was the people I was tryin' to communicate with but it seems my perception is clouded by some wierd emotional needs that aren't being met. Just thought I'd fill in a little.

Back to work. Oh boy.



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Monday, May 14, 2007 6:57 AM

RIVERISMYGODDESS


hey there NVG

~jimi
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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:00 AM

NVGHOSTRIDER


Wassuppers Jimi. (Presses nose to grindstone)



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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:03 AM

MSG


HUGS NV- whatever I can do to help,let me know

Mav- ok I choked laughing as that was my nickname in high school. I played Lola in Damn Yankees and we had a little incident in rehersal ( which to this day stands out as my most embarassing moment. For the rest of the year and then some I was known as Lola

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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:10 AM

RIVERISMYGODDESS


Quote:

Originally posted by msg:
a little incident in rehersal ( which to this day stands out as my most embarassing moment.


* waits as patiently as he can in case she decides to grace us with her story *


NVG - Same as always, man, workin' and livin'. You ??

~jimi
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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:15 AM

MAVOURNEEN


Quote:

Originally posted by nvghostrider:
Allright folks. Seems the morning has brought a mix of conversation and I'd want in, but there seems to be a problem with my communication skills lately. I thought it was the people I was tryin' to communicate with but it seems my perception is clouded by some wierd emotional needs that aren't being met. Just thought I'd fill in a little.



Is it just me, or did everyone else understand Joe's English just fine?

*looks around*

NV...I do believe we can understand you just fine.

Fire away.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:18 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by msg:
we had a little incident in rehersal ( which to this day stands out as my most embarassing moment.



Well. Now. You're killing me.

(But if you don't tell, I completely understand.)



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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:21 AM

NVGHOSTRIDER


It ain't y'all. Its the IRL folk that keep my hair on the floor. Had a heart to heart with GND early this morning. There is a strange psuedo relationship going on between us that goes from a prospect to a brother-like quality and its kickin' my ass like no other.

If'n I wasn't at work I'd be kicking and screaming toddler style on the floor, banging my head and hoping to rattle my gorram brain loose.

Maybe I'll do it anyways, ya know, for giggles.



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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:25 AM

RUGBUG


Morning Ponderables.

FMF: I'm sure you got noticed...just not approached because of children.

And that arm thing is good. I'm going to have to work on that. 'Cause I know when a guy touches me in a certain way, you can just tell what he's thinking. The arm one works, but the small of the back is BEST.

MSG: I was going to plant this weekend too. Instead, I just thought about it.

I did manage to ride a few horses, build some jumps (more on this later), pull a mane and get myself a gnarly blister, go running both Sat and Sun (yea, me...I HATE running) do 5 loads of laundry, including horse laundry...the neighbor went out of town so she didn't see the saddle pads go into the washer ().

News on photoboy: I decided to ask the photographer about him. Heh. So Jr. High-ish...but I really don't get to talk to him a ton when we work together, so what else is a girl to do. I just wanted some basic answers to see if I should even entertain thoughts of his cuteness and niceness. Answers were mostly TERRIFIC. I mean REALLY TERRIFIC. almost couldn't get better. Except for one. Boy is young-ish. Boo hoo. Photographer is going to mention that I might be interested...but the rest is up to him. If he thinks I'm too old...so be it.

Okay, so why is it when building things EVERYONE and their mother has to tell you how to do it? A dad (super sexy and nice Matthew McConaghey looking dad) volunteered to help out. So we're building away, having a good time putting these PVC jumps together. They're like serious puzzles and they have to go together in specific ways or things don't fit. Stalker guy comes over and is a complete and total ass. Seriously. I had to walk away he was upsetting me so much. He was in the way and doing things backasswards, not listening to directions I would give him...and implying that I couldn't put the jumps together (that's what really got my goat). 'Course nice dad thought he was ridiculous too, but was able to joke his way through stalker's ineptitude. But Grrrrr... (that's not to mention the others who stood around, but they stayed out of the way). I think I know why people stand around: it's FUN to build things. But there is only so much work to be divied up so if there isn't enough for you...don't gum up the works. Also, where were they when we were painting? Ah, yeah...that's not fun so no need to help.

So good weekend...but a little ranting to vent building frustrations.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:33 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by RugBug:
The arm one works, but the small of the back is BEST.


Hi RugBug.

Small of back is harder to get to than upper/mid back. Best when not exactly in front of recipient. But aren't those guy-to-girl? Girls would do arm, or perhaps chest / front of shoulder. Right?



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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:34 AM

RIVERISMYGODDESS


Quote:

Originally posted by RugBug:
The arm one works, but the small of the back is BEST.


That's the one I use. Flat palm in the small of the back.

Sucks about the retard who was messing up your jump building. Maybe he'll fall into a lake and drown.

Good news on the photoboy too. Age is just a number, IMHO.

~jimi
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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:37 AM

MAVOURNEEN


Quote:

Originally posted by RugBug:
The arm one works, but the small of the back is BEST.



Wow. In Mav Land, that's pull out all of the stops, take me, take me now, right here kindof a vibe.
I like you, Rugbug!

EDIT: And judging from the above, this is a popular option!


Quote:

News on photoboy: I decided to ask the photographer about him. Heh. So Jr. High-ish...but I really don't get to talk to him a ton when we work together, so what else is a girl to do. I just wanted some basic answers to see if I should even entertain thoughts of his cuteness and niceness. Answers were mostly TERRIFIC. I mean REALLY TERRIFIC. almost couldn't get better. Except for one. Boy is young-ish. Boo hoo. Photographer is going to mention that I might be interested...but the rest is up to him. If he thinks I'm too old...so be it.


I'm pulling for you, Rugbug. You didn't say what the age differential is...but it sounds like you'd be ok with it.
*Imagines a note passed in home room : Do you like Rugbug? Check one. Yes. or No.

Let us know how it pans out!



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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:37 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by RiverIsMyGoddess:
That's the one I use. Flat palm in the small of the back.


Isn't that tough to do face-to-face?

Quote:

Sucks about the retard who was messing up your jump building. Maybe he'll fall into a lake and drown.

Your mood is putting me in a good one.




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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:37 AM

ZEEK


Quote:

Originally posted by FlyVote:
Now, Zeek. How is that ruining it for Random Man?


It comes when she turns around and lays a huge kiss on MrG and random guy's heart shatters.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:40 AM

MSG


HUGS Rugbug sorry the stalker boy is such a trail, but at least you have the prospect of photo boy:)

NV- OK I've weighed in on this before...but I'll say it again. All she wants is some sign from you that you have some interest...

OK I'll tell, but it's really embarrassing.
We were rehersing the scene between Lola and Joe where she's singing the song " Whatever Lola wants" So I was given directions to push Jeremy ( actor playing Joe) into a chair and do most of the song moving around him and finally on his lap. Well we run the number twice and the second run finished. The director asked us to walk over for notes. Jeremy did not get up. Director gets irritated. Jeremy asked director to come to him. Director won't . Finally after much snarking, it is revealed that Jeremy had an *ahem* physical response to the rehersal and was unwilling to get up and have it noticed by all. Much amusement ensued with me being marked as "Lola" for the rest of high school.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:42 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by Mavourneen:
*Imagines a note passed in home room : Do you like Rugbug? Check one. Yes. or No.


{*} Yes



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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:42 AM

RIVERISMYGODDESS


Quote:

Originally posted by FlyVote:
Quote:

Originally posted by RiverIsMyGoddess:
That's the one I use. Flat palm in the small of the back.


Isn't that tough to do face-to-face?


Yes, it is, but it is more used for getting their attention at the same time, which is usually done while they are focused or distracted with something else. Face to face isn't something I am so good at (like our favorite prim and proper medic), it usually just ends up staring into eyes or checking out other facial features. I suppose arm or hand would work then.


Quote:

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Sucks about the retard who was messing up your jump building. Maybe he'll fall into a lake and drown.

Your mood is putting me in a good one.


I do hope that's a good thing.

~jimi
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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:45 AM

MAVOURNEEN


"Whatever Lila Wants
Lila Gets
and Little Man...Little Lila, wants you..."




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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:51 AM

ZEEK


Quote:

Originally posted by FlyVote:
Quote:

Originally posted by RugBug:
The arm one works, but the small of the back is BEST.


Hi RugBug.

Small of back is harder to get to than upper/mid back. Best when not exactly in front of recipient. But aren't those guy-to-girl? Girls would do arm, or perhaps chest / front of shoulder. Right?


I agree about the small of the back thing being a guy to girl thing. I don't think it would get the right reaction from guys. It would be more confusing than intriguing.

I don't even like it as a guy to girl thing of getting her attention. It seems like over stepping one's bounds unless there's already been plenty of mutual flirtation going on.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:52 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by RiverIsMyGoddess:
Yes, it is, but it is more used for getting their attention at the same time, which is usually done while they are focused or distracted with something else. Face to face isn't something I am so good at (like our favorite prim and proper medic), it usually just ends up staring into eyes or checking out other facial features. I suppose arm or hand would work then.


Tough to think in terms of the mechanics of something that comes naturally. I would small-of-back a woman if I were approaching at a perpendicular. But from in front it would be too assertive. But that's just me. And I'm out of the market.

Edit: And the small-of-back hand would not stay there as my position changes. Not gentlemanly.

And this (clarification for FMF) is really not boy2girl, but girl2boy. Or FMF2Nathan. So I stand by arm or pectoral.

Quote:

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Sucks about the retard who was messing up your jump building. Maybe he'll fall into a lake and drown.

Your mood is putting me in a good one.


I do hope that's a good thing.

Yes, Jimi, good. Except for polluting the lake.

Edit: MSG: Embarrassing, but nice story. Thanks for sharing.


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Monday, May 14, 2007 7:58 AM

NVGHOSTRIDER


I did and I don't know what my objective was. Was it to push her far enough away so I could try for someone else? Maybe a little. Could I have been hoping for something more between me and her? Sure. Why not. Am I doing all this thinking I like her but really just want to have sex with her? Possibly, but not without love. I tend not to function without the element of love very well.

So why do I have a feeling of failure? There was no real clear objective. In that case I shouldn't feel to have failed in the least, but it's still there.

Stupid brain and heart are running in f-ed up directions. Think I'll follow suit and run in circles for a bit.





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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:03 AM

MSG


NV- have you considered getting to know some sane women??? I think that might help:) HUGS and that's really frustrating when you just aren't sure:)

I grew up in the south so hand to the small of the back is an expected gesture for a guy. It's used as a show of support or protection ( Mav think Gibbs with Abby..how he places his hand there to move her or when he' standing beside/behind her and someone is saying or doing something she doesn't like...Tony does it with Jeanne and occasionally with Ziva)

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:08 AM

MAVOURNEEN


Ahhh. See, MsG put that in terms I can understand.
Gibbs & Abby. Got it.

Here in DC, touching someone in the small of their back like that is likely to lead to lascivious, getting chased 'round the Oval Office kind of behaviour.

Not that we'd ever do that mind of thing.


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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:09 AM

RIVERISMYGODDESS


The small of the back thing actually works well with me, though it is usually more playful as I can only hear their voice when I feel it, it's gone when I turn to face them. I also agree on moving the hand as position changes, and not leaving it there that long in the first place. Just long enough to make the presence/feeling known.

As for polluting the lake, well, I say we'll be saving on fish food.

NVG - if you are going to run in circles, hook yourself up to a turbine and make some electricity out of it. :)

~jimi
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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:11 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by msg:
I grew up in the south so hand to the small of the back is an expected gesture for a guy. It's used as a show of support or protection.


Here, just south of the border (uh, Canadian border) the small of the back would be too forward, unless you already had a relationship with the girl.

Interesting.



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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:12 AM

RUGBUG


NVG: You've made your thoughts on the matter known, right? Then just let her deal with it. As long as she's not using you for some affirmation/validation and then looking for love elsewhere, you're going to have to let it rest in her court. She gets to make the next move, if there is to be one.

Small of the back: most definitely a guy to girl thing. It's odd that I would react so strongly to it as it is sort of an "ownership" move. Walking into a room or through a door and he lets you go first, but puts that hand on the small of your back to guide you, announcing to everyone you're his. Mmmmmm. It has elements of being able to sweep you up into an embrace, as well. Good stuff.

But also creepy if the wrong guy does it.

So question for the guys: I always feel like there is a difference between touching and 'touching with purpose.' One is just greeting or convenience, one is Wowza. Do y'all do that on purpose, or do I read into things too much? And is it the same for you or is any touching (g-rated, mind you) by someone semi-attractive, get you thinking "Hrmmm?"

Edited to add: Stalker could go for a swim. Might cool him off a bit. 'Course that much arrogance might also kill the fishies...which would be sad.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:13 AM

MSG


I figured that'd work Mav...it's that protective comfort gesture meant to ( actually I have no idea what it's meant for) it's just done :) I've never seen it meant as a come on, only as an " I'm here for you, it's ok" sort of thing.OK I hate explaining cultural choices.

Ok I have 3 chocolate covered altoids left...good thing we are going to the store tonight

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:16 AM

RUGBUG


Quote:

Originally posted by msg:
I've never seen it meant as a come on, only as an " I'm here for you, it's ok" sort of thing.OK I hate explaining cultural choices.




But I think that's exactly why it works as a come on.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:19 AM

HELL'S KITTEN


*runs in!*
Quote:

RIMG: {Regarding lurking} I've been studying HK a lot, trying to learn from the master.*
HK: *This is an un-truth. Schrodinger's Kitten can be neither observed nor studied. What RIMG may be "studying" is, in actuality, the non-presence of HK.
RIMG: Naturally, that's what I meant. You say as much with your absence as you do with your presence.

*snort!* That actually makes quite a nice insult.

Y'all familiar with ManWithPez? I confess to reading his fly-blogs with glee, particularly the "what I said vs. what I was thinking" ones. So, along those lines, something odd happened to me yesterday, and it went like this:
HK's Hawt-Way-Smart-But-Incredibly-Arrogant-Prick-Co-Worker: "You owe me one." (smirk)
What HK said: "Hmm?"
What HK thought: "Hmm?"

HK's H-W-S-B-I-A-P-C-W: "In the Docs Project, we were discussing the VSDPI DHF and how to get all the information (blah-dee-blah, lots of big words that would bore you even more), and you're name came up as being associated with that project. Before they could volunteer you, though, I said you had better things to keep you busy and so I'd work on it. So you really owe me." (smirk / smile)
What HK said: "Ah. Yes. Thanks!"
What HK thought: "Oh, do tell me how and when you would like me to... satisfy... that debt (insert lecherous thought-look with villainous thought-cackle)."

Now, it's not surprising to me that I would think these things, no no. It's surprising to me that I would think these things so gleefully in conjunction with this particular person. And now I can't look at this guy without snikkering to m myself. I think I can officially declare myself Mentally Damaged. *cackle snort!*

No, I don't know why I'm telling you this. It's been bugging me since yesterday, so I figured writing it down may... help...... *snikker*

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:20 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by RugBug:
Small of the back: most definitely a guy to girl thing. It's odd that I would react so strongly to it as it is sort of an "ownership" move. Walking into a room or through a door and he lets you go first, but puts that hand on the small of your back to guide you, announcing to everyone you're his. Mmmmmm. It has elements of being able to sweep you up into an embrace, as well. Good stuff.



I'm on board with what you are saying, except that I'd touch mid-back where her back starts to curve out of the concave small-of-back. Imagine picking up a vase. You don't do it at the thinnest part, you do it just /under/ the widest.

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So question for the guys: I always feel like there is a difference between touching and 'touching with purpose.' One is just greeting or convenience, one is Wowza. Do y'all do that on purpose, or do I read into things too much? And is it the same for you or is any touching (g-rated, mind you) by someone semi-attractive, get you thinking "Hrmmm?"


You do realize that you are almost asking "when does no really mean yes?" Bit of a can of worms, that.




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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:20 AM

NVGHOSTRIDER


Not to knock on anyone, but where the F are they? I'm starting to think the seeking of unavailable women might be my own gorram fault. I might have to resort to visiting the local meat market on occasion. At least there is no real illusion there.

Okay, I saw the fault in what I just said. There are plenty of appropriate women around. But there is also a plethora of available but mentally/emotionally unstable women about.

Can't fricken' win.



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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:24 AM

MSG


Women- can't live with em...can't pity em and keep em in cages ( sorry my best friend's saying , but it seemed to fit here)

HK- saw this and thought of you
http://www.cafepress.com/buy/psychology/-/pv_design_details/pg_2/id_10
874068/opt_/fpt_/c_360
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"I'm not all that interested in the mental health of people who want to kill me. "- Leroy Jethro Gibbs


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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:30 AM

MAVOURNEEN


Are we talking looking further afield for said available women in Fallon proper (non-Res types) or within the Res community?

I do believe you have mentioned previously a scandalous lack of talent available to you.
I was just wondering where this lack is located.

But the mentally/ emotionally unstable women bit - you could be talking about AnySmallTown, USA.

EDIT: Ha, MsG. My best friend says "Men, can't live with 'em, can't leave em by the side of the road when you're done with 'em."

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:35 AM

RUGBUG


Quote:

Originally posted by FlyVote:
You do realize that you are almost asking "when does no really mean yes?" Bit of a can of worms, that.



Hmmm...don't think I'm asking that AT ALL. I'm asking "when does touching mean I'm-into-you" and do you guys do it knowingly. Particularly in reference to new relationships/frienships, etc.

What prompted my question is incident with photoboy. First meeting (weekend long, mind you) involved lots of intentional touching on his part. Arm, small of back, hugs, etc. All good stuff. But then nothing (although this has since had some light shed on it). Last encounter was touchy, but less sparky. (Did I blow it? Miss my chance?)

And I've had the creepy casual toucher. Where it feels like "I'm-into-you touching" but it's unwanted so it just gives you the chills...in a bad way.

That made me wonder if it's my perception or his action that laces a touch with significance.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:44 AM

ZEEK


Quote:

Originally posted by RugBug:
And I've had the creepy casual toucher. Where it feels like "I'm-into-you touching" but it's unwanted so it just gives you the chills...in a bad way.


Oh I would say it totally depends how you feel about the person that changes your perception.

To me hugs are a total friend zone thing. I don't go for a hug with someone I'm interested in. I hug people I'm good friends with.

The easiest way to stop creepy touching is to flinch and pull back. Make it look reflexive and you've sent the signal that you're in no way interested. That or a stern glance. Just make sure it's very obvious that you're not just looking longingly into his eyes or anything.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:48 AM

NVGHOSTRIDER


Res is probably out. I'm related to everyone. EVERYONE. Hell, I might be related to myself once or twice over. If that ain't an F-ed up thought then I don't know what is.

I'm dumb for basing alot of my decisions on my failures. It feels like everything has been a failure otherwise I'd be whining about something else. I've let romantacism flow and had it eutelized for someone elses gain, been strong in the face of adversity and was pushed upon the wayside when conflict was resolved, I've been a friend without expectation and was shunned when I did vocalize my feelings for a past friend, I me my, waa waa waa. So it comes down to this. No matter how much I've loved I might have only truly been loved back all of once. Which in itself is a triumph and a failure. And I don't believe love has failed me. I feel that I have betrayed the belief in love. I try hard to get it and don't even know what to do with it. That ain't right and isn't fair for anyone I'm supposed to love.

Mumble mumble mumble. Look. This is Joe getting sick of his own self.





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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:51 AM

RUGBUG


Quote:

Originally posted by Hell's Kitten:
It's surprising to me that I would think these things so gleefully in conjunction with this particular person. And now I can't look at this guy without snikkering to m myself.



Well, you said he's Hawt. And he did something nice for you.

Although your situation is only slightly better than having a dream about someone you would never go near...then blushing everytime you see him. Talk about mixed signals. Heh.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:51 AM

FLYVOTE


Quote:

Originally posted by RugBug:
Hmmm...don't think I'm asking that AT ALL.


You are not asking that particular thing, but the answers will be just as hard to define.

Trouble is: I could fake a supportive touch that is actually a creepy touch, couldn't I? Or I could think that RugBug might have interest in me so I make an honest touch-to-connect, and you are creeped out. Subjective.

Quote:

I'm asking "when does touching mean I'm-into-you" and do you guys do it knowingly. Particularly in reference to new relationships/frienships, etc.

An in-to-you touch would be best at a pivotal moment, at the moment that you wish to leave an impression. I get introduced to you - there is a group standing around talking - there is a moment where if I leave an impression that I like you it will be an indelible impression. As we part - touch - eye contact - it was nice to meet you - I hope that we can see each other again.

Quote:

That made me wonder if it's my perception or his action that laces a touch with significance.

It's a dance, that I'm sure of.



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Monday, May 14, 2007 8:55 AM

FLYVOTE


Yea! Insurance guy was here. More damage than I thought. And still high winds, so more could happen. Stupid storm *grumble*



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Monday, May 14, 2007 9:08 AM

MSG


yeah flyvote:) good for insurance

Speaking of which, HK how goes the rockstar hotel situation?

Rugbug- I think he likes you. I think you aren't giving him enough encouragement to keep it up. If he thinks you aren't interested or such he won't do anything more...so let's see how it goes when he finds out you are interested.

NV- HUGS and I wish I could help

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Monday, May 14, 2007 9:26 AM

RUGBUG


Quote:

Originally posted by msg:
Rugbug- I think he likes you. I think you aren't giving him enough encouragement to keep it up. If he thinks you aren't interested or such he won't do anything more...so let's see how it goes when he finds out you are interested.



Ah, msg, the eternal optimist.

Quote:

Originally posted by Zeek:

The easiest way to stop creepy touching is to flinch and pull back. Make it look reflexive and you've sent the signal that you're in no way interested. That or a stern glance. Just make sure it's very obvious that you're not just looking longingly into his eyes or anything.



Damn. I knew I was doing something wrong. Note to self: Don't look longingly at creepy toucher.

(Heh...just kidding. Had a friend who was a constant creepy toucher. With all girls. Either he was so hard up he didn't care who finally responded...or he didn't know he was creepy touching. I prefer to use the later definition...although, he was also the type to "rub" up against you in a crowded room, so maybe it was the former. )

Quote:

Originally posted by nvghostrider:
I feel that I have betrayed the belief in love. I try hard to get it and don't even know what to do with it.



Maybe don't try so hard. Just let it happen. You're young. You have plenty of life ahead of you. All you need to be is open to love when it does show up.

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Monday, May 14, 2007 9:47 AM

MAVOURNEEN


Well, it's my 3:45 PM time to go home post.
Have a good night, everyone. I will see you all tomorrow.

Tonight's dinner: Husband's taco salad. (Yum)
Tonight's tv: Heroes
Tonight's book: Emma (though I'm starting to slog down), then more Capt Underpants w/ son.

*waves to the Cooler*



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Monday, May 14, 2007 9:48 AM

RIVERISMYGODDESS


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