Imponderables: Almost Party Time by nvghostrider

A little more time to wait.

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Monday, October 20, 2008 5:46 AM

KELKHIL

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Hellz Yeah!

(dances a Firsties Jig)

Some men just wanna watch the world burn

Zombie Killing, Ninja in Training Kelkhil
The Shirtless Forsaken

Member of the Coalition for HK - Evil Geniuses for a Better Tomorrow.

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Monday, October 20, 2008 5:52 AM

Secondsies is the new Firsties.

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Monday, October 20, 2008 6:08 AM

KELKHIL

Quote:
Originally posted by Zeek:
Secondsies is the new Firsties.

Too late Zeek...

I already did the dance!

Ok so what should we ponder? Should we ponder?

Some men just wanna watch the world burn

Zombie Killing, Ninja in Training Kelkhil
The Shirtless Forsaken

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Monday, October 20, 2008 6:18 AM

We can ponder a situation between two of my friends. They've been roommates since college. So, I think they're going on 8 years of living together now. Anyway one of them is totally taking advantage of the other. She pays rent late. Let's chores like taking out the trash or cleaning the dishes go for so long that my other friend just gives in and takes care of it do to smell/annoyance. It's to the point where the friendship is on a razor's edge.

To me it seems pretty simple. The one friend is totally clueless that this stuff is driving the other friend nuts. Friend #1 feels like if she sits friend #2 down to really explain how this is making her feel that friend #2 will start to cry or something and she doesn't want to deal with that. Friend #1 also feels like if friend #2 only changes her ways because of a confrontation then she's not a real friend anyway.

So my ponder is about that. Are there things that "a real friend" just has to be able to figure out on their own or is that too much to ask?

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Monday, October 20, 2008 6:26 AM

KELKHIL

That seems like too serious of a ponder for a Monday Zeek.

Well what you disgruntled friend could do to drop a hint is move the dirty dishes to either the other friends shower or bedroom floor. Nothing gets a point across like dirty smelly dishes laying about!

Other than that....

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So my ponder is about that. Are there things that "a real friend" just has to be able to figure out on their own or is that too much to ask?

They got to be friends because they liked to talk to each other. Sounds like someone has forgotten that.

Some men just wanna watch the world burn

Zombie Killing, Ninja in Training Kelkhil
The Shirtless Forsaken

Member of the Coalition for HK - Evil Geniuses for a Better Tomorrow.

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Monday, October 20, 2008 6:32 AM

Here's the thing if Friend 1 isn't aware there's a problem how can she be expected to change... I can totally tell these are girls because of the psychic friend thing.. only women would expect someone to " just know" how they feel and change because they psychically sense the person is upset...open your damn mouth and tell someone it bothers you or keep it shut and suck it up.
However if your friend is worried about a confrontation... why not tell her via note or email. Write down what bothers her, why it bothers her,and what she'd like the other person to do differently in a calm non accusatory way ( use I statements like " I really need the rent paid on time because it makes me stressed or causes problems. I need to live ina clean hosue where work is shared equally...etc")
If person 2 is really a good friend, she'll applogize and change... otherwise get a new roommate or deal.

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Monday, October 20, 2008 7:29 AM

I agree with both of you guys. And of course you are correct MsB they're both women.

The talking thing has been at a minimum because Friend #1 is getting pretty serious in a relationship. So, she's been spending more time with her guy than with her roommate.

The other part that makes it difficult is that most of the "little things" that annoy her have been going on for those whole 8 years they've been roommates. It's just recently that she's been doing the late rent thing and that sorta opened the flood gates. Now all of a sudden the dishes are like nails on a chalk board to Friend #1.

Just drives me a bit nuts cause I agree about the issues not going away without some communication. I thought for a while about telling friend #2 what was up but I decided I should just let them figure it out on their own. If I get involved friend #1 might feel betrayed that I passed on info that was pretty much said in confidence. Bah women. :-P

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Monday, October 20, 2008 7:43 AM

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Bah women. :-P

I would agee with ya Zeek but I just don't find guys attractive enough to completely Bah women.

But I am a womanizer so my opinion may be a bit one sided.

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Monday, October 20, 2008 7:48 AM

Zeek- yeah apart from telling friend 1 to say something, there's not much you can do

NV ( and a good womanizer you are...giggle

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Monday, October 20, 2008 10:49 AM

When is my next vacation?

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Monday, October 20, 2008 11:07 AM

October 31st...

Ok this day has been dull to the extreme and yet somehow busy...sigh

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Monday, October 20, 2008 1:04 PM

WOOT!! HALLOWEEN!! FOUR YEARS!!! CELEBRATE ^_^

sry u had a dull monday MsB ><

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 5:07 AM

Tuesday, another notch. Hoping for a day off here or there soon.

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 5:24 AM

Zeek sleepy. Doesn't help that it's so far a slow work day.

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 5:56 AM

OK fully wish I was home... fighting to avoid the dread office germ, but I may be losing the battle...

NV

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 6:19 AM

oh no, not office germs >< *makes some emergency tea* no sick for party time.

i wish the weather would decide whether it wants to be sunny or cloudy @_@ this constant change just ain't doin'

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 8:24 AM

KInda doin' the same here. Got windy and cooler.

If'n it gets warm all the sudden then we are in or precipitation.

Might not be bad though.

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 9:26 AM

lolz, yeah, it finally decided to stay cloudy and rain, but we barely got a sprinkling. looks like more rain's comin though...

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 9:43 AM

I'd really like some rain

It's a nice fall day though...crisp and sunny and smells of fall:) There's a pumpkin patch and corn maze a block from my office:) All these cute little kids were wandering through it when I drove back from an observation..

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 9:55 AM

^_^ we have a corn maze in town (actually its the next town over but the orchard's so close it might as well be the same town :P) never been in it but i see it a lot when i drive by. u know its fall when they start setting that up XD

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 10:00 AM

Here's a ponder: Why are there stupid people in the world? And why, god, why are there so many of them??

As far as weather, it's 75 and sunny here, of course. We could use some rain, given that the Santa Ana Winds fire season is upon us, but I think I'm going to go take advantage of the weather and go out to the pool and get some sun. I have a weird tan line I need to get rid of for my Halloween costume... I love SoCal.

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 10:09 AM

Why ...I don't know Ck but I have been plagued by this question for years. I think it truly explains the failure of Firefly.. it was too damn smart.

Also I am intrigued by this thing you call " tan lines" ... are you going for a spray or are you going for the entertain the neighbors with nudity?

I have no such things, but that is because I am pigment challenged and unable to tan. Even if by accident I get burned it fades to white within days... sigh

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 10:25 AM

Lol MsB. No what I mean is, I have tan lines from my swimsuit, and then another tan line from my tank tops that I wear when I go to Disneyland or whatever. I'm not describing it really well, but basically there's an area that's covered by my tanks but not covered by my swimsuit, so it's tan but not quite as tan as everywhere else. Since the neckline of my Halloween costume is a bit more like my swimsuit neckline, you can totally see the line from my tank tops, but not the "holy crap, that's the color you started out at??" line from my swimsuit.

My hubby is also "pigment challenged" and tends to freckle more than tan. But he's found that if he starts with really small amounts of time (I think he started at 10 minutes maybe?) and builds his way up, he can actually get a nice looking tan.

Oh, and before anyone freaks out: I'm chronically vitamin D deficient, and have done a lot of reading into both the dangers of vitamin D deficency and skin cancer, and their relation to tanning/burning. My opinion is that for me, with a huge amount of autoimmunity and no family history of cancer whatsoever, the risks associated with not getting sun far, far outweigh the risks of sun exposure. The reading I've done has also pointed to data that says that the skin cancer risk is from burning, not natural tanning (ie, actual sunlight, no tanning oil). So I'm very careful about the amount of time I spend outside, and I make sure I never burn, but for me getting sun is an aboslute must.

(Sorry about that, but I've had people flip out too many times not to put the standard disclaimer up pre-emptively.

)

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 10:33 AM

CK your rant in the 30 minute of Joss's time thread left nothing else to say. Can you try to be less all encompassing in the future? :-P

I'm guessing the thread starter may be among your idiots that you're annoyed by. At least in his first post he mentioned that if anything we owe Joss our time rather than the other way around, but he still wanted 30 minutes.

My approach is I've totally given up hope that we'll ever see more Firefly/Serenity. If something gets done then it'll be a happy surprise. If not then I'm already resigned to that fate and can live with it. I just don't think petitions or postcards or online polls are going to do any good.

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 10:45 AM

Ok now I have to check it out

CK- LOL I'd just use a little gradual self tanning lotion like Jergens to build it up:)

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 10:47 AM

Lol Zeek, sorry about that. When an idiot hits on a topic that bugs me, I just can't seem to stop.

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 11:32 AM

I loved what you said.. it was articulate, thoughful, and completely free of attack. Just the facts ma'am:)

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 12:06 PM

You would take her side.

At least the day is finally coming to a close. I feel like it lasted a little over a year. Where's my birthday cake for surviving the day?

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 12:39 PM

Well, I just had a pirce of white cake with light white frosting topped with coconut(yuck) since I missed lunch.

Dumbass numero uno didn't cover his vent sufficiently and some other dumb ass decided to turn up the furnace in my wing to 75 degrees. My office stays nice and cool when it is set at 71 degrees. with little air being blown about my office it stays at least five to ten degrees cooler than out in the hallway. Pissed not so much that I missed lunch. Moer about me forgetting my lunch yeaterday and not enjoying it today.

Yeah I'm wierd.

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 2:06 PM

Coconut cake? Sounds yummy!

'Who are you and how did you get in here?' 'I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.'
Police Squad

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 2:27 PM

HELL'S KITTEN

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Originally posted by CaliforniaKaylee:
Lol Zeek, sorry about that. When an idiot hits on a topic that bugs me, I just can't seem to stop.

~CK

...I ((heart)) you, CK.
Have I mentioned that recently?

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 2:38 PM

Self love is so sweet:) HCK

Aww poor NV

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 2:56 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Hell's Kitten:
Quote:
Originally posted by CaliforniaKaylee:
Lol Zeek, sorry about that. When an idiot hits on a topic that bugs me, I just can't seem to stop.

~CK
...I ((heart)) you, CK.
Have I mentioned that recently?

The feeling is mutual.

~CK

You can't take the sky from me...

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008 6:20 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by NVGhostRider: topped with coconut(yuck)

I'm with you all the way. coconut is

now off to view CK's rant XD

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 4:32 AM

HUGS all...I'm at a school for most of the day so I won't be around

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 6:13 AM

Howdy all.

Poor MSB, stuck with the chilluns.

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 6:29 AM

I'm another coconut

er

Another Zeek sleepy day. Stupid gloomy weather!!

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 6:35 AM

Got a new optic (at 60 percent of the original price) last night and I just want to go zero the gorram thing in. Yaaaarrrr!!!!

http://www.trijicon.com/Specialties/law.cfm

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 6:41 AM

Did you hear about the possibility of another stimulus check send out? Hell yes, keeping throwing free money at me!!

'Who are you and how did you get in here?' 'I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.'
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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 6:50 AM

another one? why?

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Originally posted by Zeek: I'm another coconut er

woot, our numbers are growing XD

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 6:54 AM

To try again to stop the headlong plunge into a depression. So far it's just a back office rumor, but you never know......

'Who are you and how did you get in here?' 'I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.'
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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 8:00 AM

I've heard it from several places.

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 8:04 AM

I wouldn't call it free money. It just means we're more in debt to the Chinese and with their economy beginning to slow as well they may not have any more money to lend us. These "bail outs" can't continue forever. Plus I'm not too fond of the first round anyway. They're bailing out the people who were irresponsible in the first place. How about giving the money to responsible people and having them spend the money wisely and get our economy on the right track.

I think it was AIG who went right out and spent millions on a retreat for their execs and some top customers to go on a hunting weekend in the UK or something. Way to spend that loan wisely folks.

Grrrrr I'm not the biggest fan.

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 8:31 AM

Yah it was AIG, and they said it was "already planned before the bailout." No wonder they don't have any money to take care of the people who use their service. Too busy playing corp games and living it up.

'Who are you and how did you get in here?' 'I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.'
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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 9:29 AM

Hey I like money:)

Ok off to more and larger kids... the small ones are stabilized

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 9:44 AM

OK, so more truly I hate not having ENOUGH money, not money itself.

'Who are you and how did you get in here?' 'I'm a locksmith. And, I'm a locksmith.'
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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 9:55 AM

I like our money to be worth something though. Having more of it but having it be worth less isn't going to help things.

btw MsB did you watch How I Met Your Mother this week? What did you think?

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 10:09 AM

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Originally posted by MsB: Ok off to more and larger kids... the small ones are stabilized

lolz, but lil ones never stay stable for long XD "kindergarten is like the ocean, you shouldn't turn your back on it" *Arny turns around and chaos ensues*

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Wednesday, October 22, 2008 10:15 AM