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It's always a special day when I find an unexpected Firefly Reference

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Friday, April 6, 2018 10:34 PM

https://kotaku.com/ask-dr-nerdlove-my-friends-say-i-should-just-date-a
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Hi Doc,

I recently got into a debate with a group of guys over the idea of “Dating/Fucking the ugly girl”. I looked through your archive of articles and podcasts to see if you gave your opinion on this but I couldn’t find one, or I missed it.

Basically, they found out that I’m 21 and have never kissed, let alone slept with a girl before and they are calling me out on it. (Side note: I have no problem approaching women, let alone asking them out. That being said, it’s not like I’m desperately perusing women for the sake of a relationship either.)

Honestly, I view it as bad luck because most of the women I had active interest in the past few years were already in a relationship, weren’t interested in me, or strictly interested in another guy. That being said, I just went fuck it, and became friends while perusing my own endeavors.

The debate started when I mentioned that there were girls who were interested in me, but I personally did not find their physically attractive or I didn’t like a couple of their personality traits. They could be a good person, but I didn’t like them that way.

The group of guys responded roughly in a sense (pardon the language and feel free to tone it down) “It doesn’t matter if how busted the girl is or if she is a bitch. Just date her and fuck her until you can find a woman you like. Just do it for the sake of doing it. Heck there is doggy style for a reason.”

I completely disagree with this idea, but I would like your opinion on this because this isn’t the first time guys have told me this in the past and I don’t think it will be the last. The downside is that most of the time these guys tend to have had slept with a lot of girls already and technically dated some pretty cute girls. While I’m just here with no experience.

A different friend I asked agreed with the guys I mentioned above but added on his own reason. This friend basically said, “If you date the ugly girl, you put yourself on the radar of the other girls around you.”

He basically mentioned how he dated this ugly girl and the suddenly because he was in a “relationship” girls would approach him. He told me how more of the girls around him found him desirable and started flirting with him. He also said put a shit load of social media posts showing how good/romantic of a partner he is. He said after a while he just broke it off with the ugly girl and started dating one of the cuter girls who approached him and others would approach him just hook up with him.

I just think that you shouldn’t date/fuck a girl for the sake of just having a girl but given my luck i might just be tempted to.

-Thinking about Joining the Dark Side

P.S. They have cookies

Ignoring the bullshit that’s baked into the premise — which I’ll get back to — this is a horrible thing to do to somebody. I’m a big fan in things like flirting for practice, even with people you’re not necessarily into. I’m a fan of casual relationships, where everyone’s just there to enjoy some no-strings thrills. This, on the other hand, is just straight up cruel. If you treat this exactly as it’s implied — screwing or dating someone you see as beneath you just for practice, for confidence or whatever — then you’re treating somebody like a Fleshlight.

Now sometimes, you’ll find someone who’s into that. People are complex; we’re not just people, we’re also pieces of meat. Some folks are down with being used; if that’s their thing, then more power to ‘em. But your friends are suggesting that you lead someone on, lead them to believe that you like them, that you find them attractive, that you enjoy having sex with them… and then toss them away like used Kleenex the moment you feel like you can trade up.

Fuck no, fuck that, and fuck the people who suggested it. To paraphrase the sage, your friends are going to the special hell — the one reserved for child molesters and people who talk in the theater.

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Saturday, April 7, 2018 2:25 AM

JEWELSTAITEFAN

Methinks that would be the late sage.

Sometimes I ponder if these are even purveyors of the original edition, or if these are 2nd or 3rd hand renditions of the original shiny once viewed. (Without even knowing the original source).

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