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Originally posted by 6ixStringJack:

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Originally posted by Brenda:
No worries. I managed to get that through before the other troubles.

My dad just didn't want me to get hurt out on the ice. I did fall down but I didn't hurt myself at least.

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Oh... I think the lesson was a lot deeper than that, even if you don't realize it yourself. Kid's are physically resilient. He probably knew if you fell and busted your ass that you'd be crying and remember that bad experience, but he also knew you would have gotten back up, healed really quick at that age, and tried even harder the next time you went out on the ice.

I'm quite sure you took the lesson he was really imparting and as he intended it too, even if you were too young to realize it at the time he gave you the advice. I don't know you in person, so even though it's impossible to truly judge anyone's character, being online makes it all that much harder to do, but you got the lesson.

Anybody who ever tells you that they've achieved perfect balance is a liar or a charlatan. And I know that you have also mentioned your own struggle with and desire for balance in life. But from the outside looking in, me to you, Brenda, I have to say that you are the most even-keel personality that I've ever had any dialog with online in my life.

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One lesson he walked out on to the ice to help me and the teacher had to ask him not to do that. And he wasn't in skates just his regular shoes.

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To emphasize my point... Do you remember what happened next? After the teacher came on the scene and asked him to get off the ice?

I'm 99.9999% sure that he apologized, and got off the ice, while still making sure you heard his voice and that he was there and everything was going to be fine. I don't know how old you were when this memory happened, but I've seen enough kids in my family have a fall or somehow otherwise kinda-sorta bump themselves and immediately go to crying because they know it will get them attention. But that wasn't you. You just right back up, just like he already knew you would.

And while you were busy doing that, he was busy teaching you another lesson on not being a hothead and realizing where he was and what he was doing when your teacher snapped him out of his instinctual need to rush to save the day when he already knew is girl was fine and the teacher could sort it out...

Am I warm?????

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I could do that as I got older on ice that forms when the temperatures go real low and if there is a big puddle it completely freezes. Local 7-11 back when I was in high school had a big puddle freeze over in the parking lot. I was with a group of friends going there for lunch and forgot what my dad had taught. I went down and landed on my back. Ow! That hurt for sure. Everyone wanted to help me but I said no. They just stood back and watched me get to my feet and carefully finish walking across the lot. Same thing coming out of the store after eating. I got across the ice with no problem.

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That's what I mean too... You learned some good lessons early on. Probably a little too independent in the end, but I can only say that because I know what I am and I can sense these things about other people. I know you've seen some shit in your life, Brenda. But even if you hadn't shared as much of your own history here as you have over the years I'd still sense it on you. You're kind of a badass, but you'd never even admit to that let alone going around and bragging to everyone in real life or online that you were. A lot of people talk everyday about "independence" and "being independent", but hardly any of them really walk the walk.

Your old man really did teach you to stand on your own somewhere along the line. He knew and/or dreamed that there would be a time where you wouldn't need to. But he didn't ever want to leave you unprepared for a potential future where you did need to manage things on your own.

And you take things in stride... the little day to day things that can turn into even mini-emergencies don't really phase you much because you've seen 'em all before. You've been through worse.

I have nothing but respect for the way you carry yourself online, with complete anonymity, when you could at any point in time just break down and behave as badly as most of the rest of us do all the time here. You'd be well within your right, but I don't think that is something that interests you.

You're too busy letting the ice take you where you're supposed to go to dirty your nice skating digs with any of the shit we're flinging at each other everyday.



Maybe I'm wrong, and maybe I'm just romanticizing the role your old man really had in your life.. but that's the way I see it.

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I didn't cry when I went down but I did wonder what happened as I knew I was up on my feet. Guess I went too far away from the boards and boom.

Yeah, I think I did too. My dad also recognized my stubborn streak. So, yeah he knew I would be alright the next time I got out on the ice.

I'm far certain he would have apologized to the teacher and then walked off the ice. Think he told me that he had to go home and the teacher would look after me. I would have been somewhere between 8 or 9.

I like to think I am even-keeled. But some times I am not so sure.

Yeah, not being a hot head was one of his big lessons. He knew that wouldn't get me anywhere. I think you are pretty warm.

Oh, I know he did. I may not like it but I can't do much about it but get on with things. I have sort of learned to let things go that I can't do anything about. I hope. I have a friend like that and it drives me buggy but I just let her ramble on. I love her dearly and she wouldn't listen to me anyways and she hasn't over the years.

Thanks SIX. I've got too much to think about right now to get into it with Second and THG.

No, I don't think so. He thought his lessons were important and he was right. I might not have had to use many of them when I was younger but now it is a different story. As I've said he was a smart man. Not much book learning like I have but what used to be called street smarts.

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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Oh, heya guys.
All good at this end, I just stopped wasting my time with SECOND and THUGR.

I've gotten onto a schedule that doesn't leave much time for anything else. But I see you guys have a great conversation going. I'll have to scroll up and catch up.




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"It may be dangerous to be America's enemy, but to be America's friend is fatal."- Henry Kissinger

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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Oh, heya guys.
All good at this end, I just stopped wasting my time with SECOND and THUGR.

I've gotten onto a schedule that doesn't leave much time for anything else. But I see you guys have a great conversation going. I'll have to scroll up and catch up.




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"It may be dangerous to be America's enemy, but to be America's friend is fatal."- Henry Kissinger

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