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The War on Women in America
Monday, March 19, 2012 3:28 AM
CAVETROLL
Quote: War Is Hell Posted on March 18, 2012 | 29 Comments I normally don’t post politics here.* There’s always a first time for everything. And the everything right now is the fact that half of my field would rather commit suicide than actually think. Particularly when thinking involves not repeating slogans that are pushed at them from above with the implication that “all the coolest kids think this way.” Again, blame it on us being misfits, and misfits’ own misfits besides. We’d do anything to fit in. Well, most of us. I still prefer to stand by the side of the road holding both middle fingers up. On my Facebook page I echoed a friend’s post of a Heinlein poster with a quote about how forcing a man to pay for a service he doesn’t want “for his own good” is the greatest tyranny. This did not apply to any current controversy. It applied ONLY to the general fact that – is this news to anyone? – I don’t like taxation. I don’t think pacifists should have to pay for war, and I don’t think I should have to pay for stupid crony capitalism. In minus three seconds, someone brought up that a worse tyranny than this was the “War on Women.” Let me point out right now that if I hear that phrase once more I’m going to lose it. No, forget that. I’m going lose it right NOW. Let me tell you what war is, okay? War is where the enemy decimates your numbers – like, say in China where abortion is killing mostly females. War is where you are kept from learning – like in most Arab countries, where women have restrictions placed on their education. War is where your houses are burned, your children taken away into slavery, your goods looted, and you are dragged away in chains. In the United States, right now, women have preferential treatment – by law – in any company that gets federal funds (which heaven help us, right now, is most of them.) Women live longer than men. Cancers that affect females get more money and more attention than those that affect only men. Women have the right to be sole deciders on abortion, and if they decide to keep the child and make the man pay, he pays. (This by the way is a complete reversal of the “penalty” of sex which used to fall mostly on women.) And if he doesn’t pay, he goes to jail. Divorce courts award custody to mothers overwhelmingly. Oh, and in college campuses, women outnumber men. If this is war it is war on men. And I’ve had just about enough of everyone who claims otherwise. And please don’t come back and say women have to carry babies and this is unfair. Or that men are stronger and this is unfair. Or that… This is NOT kindergarten. LIFE is unfair. NATURE is unfair. Civilization and society can only go so far to compensate for the basic inequality of nature. It is not the job of nature or government to turn us all into neuters with the exact same aptitudes and abilities. And I, for one, am glad. If you’re not, consider your relationship with your own gender. I suggest your war is mostly internal. If you truly believe refusing to force employers to pay for birth control is a war on women, then you are fragile little flowers who deserve to experience life practically anywhere else in the world. You are also unleashing a monster. Get the government to force this and NOTHING is out of bonds. Forget selling you the rope to hang you with. The government will eventually force you to pay them to hang you. I’d like to believe the comment is wrong which I read on some blog defining feminists as a potemkin village of bicycled fish. But judging by how American women seem to be so completely embarrassed by their vaginas that they demand all sorts of compensation and affirmation of their specialness, I’m very afraid the comment was right. These women have things like Vagina Monologues (Imagine, Penis Monologues could ONLY be a middle school play, but because it’s the FEMALE body part we’re supposed to be in awe of it. WHY?) and go on about how they’re powerful, but melt in a pile of hysteria because someone was less than respectful to them. Meanwhile, real women need someone else to pay for their contraception or give them a hand up in school or business like a fish needs a bicycle and would NOT stoop to having special treatment lavished on them. They meet men as equals and refuse to be afraid of them, or ashamed of who they are. I know! Let’s make war on men, and refuse to listen to them when they’re abused, ignore their claims to their children, take away their right to choose if they want to be fathers (and pay for it) or not, design the school system so it doesn’t fit either their learning style or their development and oh, yes, drug them so they don’t act like boys AND all the while scream that they’re the ones hurting us. Which would be distinguishable from the present state of affairs, because…. Is that crickets I hear? Oh, yes it is. On behalf of all the women with male children; on behalf of all the women with male spouses, on behalf of all the women who are NOT ashamed of being women, and who DO actually like men – it’s time to stop beating on males and screaming we’re being hurt. Make love, not war. * And by the way, what cloud cuckoo land did I fall into that defending men is politics? WHEN did hating on half of your species become a political statement? WHEN did equality before the law the stop being the goal? WHERE are the doctors, and who put the inmates in charge of the asylum?
Monday, March 19, 2012 3:51 AM
ANTHONYT
Freedom is Important because People are Important
Quote:Is that crickets I hear? Oh, yes it is.
Monday, March 19, 2012 5:39 AM
Monday, March 19, 2012 6:23 AM
HKCAVALIER
Quote:War is where the enemy decimates your numbers – like, say in China where abortion is killing mostly females. War is where you are kept from learning – like in most Arab countries, where women have restrictions placed on their education. War is where your houses are burned, your children taken away into slavery, your goods looted, and you are dragged away in chains.
Monday, March 19, 2012 6:27 AM
Quote:Is that a lack of substantive response I hear? Yes, yes it is.
Quote:women have preferential treatment – by law – in any company that gets federal funds
Quote:Women live longer than men.
Quote:Women have the right to be sole deciders on abortion
Quote:and if they decide to keep the child and make the man pay, he pays.
Quote:Oh, and in college campuses, women outnumber men.
Quote:And please don’t come back and say women have to carry babies and this is unfair. Or that men are stronger and this is unfair. Or that… This is NOT kindergarten. LIFE is unfair. NATURE is unfair.
Monday, March 19, 2012 7:45 AM
KWICKO
"We'll know our disinformation program is complete when everything the American public believes is false." -- William Casey, Reagan's presidential campaign manager & CIA Director (from first staff meeting in 1981)
Quote:Originally posted by CaveTroll: Is that a lack of substantive response I hear? Yes, yes it is.
Monday, March 19, 2012 7:50 AM
Quote:Originally posted by AnthonyT: Quote:Is that a lack of substantive response I hear? Yes, yes it is. Hello, I believe that the article you posted is a general lack of substantive response to the feeling that women are under attack in this nation. 1) The article begins by suggesting that unless women are persecuted to the extent that they are in 3rd world nations, they should not feel as though they are under attack. Quote:War is where the enemy decimates your numbers – like, say in China where abortion is killing mostly females. War is where you are kept from learning – like in most Arab countries, where women have restrictions placed on their education. War is where your houses are burned, your children taken away into slavery, your goods looted, and you are dragged away in chains. Right off the bat, the article suggests that if women aren't being openly culled, they haven't cause to complain. This lets me know that the article author has no real interest in addressing the concerns of women who do feel they are under attack. No one in America has ever argued that this is the worst place for women to live, or that worse things aren't happening elsewhere. However, that seems a poor excuse for not wanting bad attitudes and bad policies to be looked at and reversed. 2) The article proceeds to showcase areas where women get preferential treatment. However, the article struggles mightily here as we shall see: Quote:women have preferential treatment – by law – in any company that gets federal funds First the author makes a statement and utterly fails to substantiate it. What does she mean, exactly? Quote:Women live longer than men. This factoid is a hoot, as though living longer is a type of preferential treatment. This same author will later tell women not to complain about biological inequities. Quote:Women have the right to be sole deciders on abortion This is a fascinating tidbit. The author begins her article by discussing libertarian principles, but then suggests that women being the sole deciders of abortion is some kind of inequity. This same person will later tell women not to complain about being saddled with the capacity to give birth. Yet this author IS complaining about that very same biological inequity. What alternative does this author propose? None. But we can guess that perhaps she'd see a more equitable solution as one where a woman's choices about her body were not her own. Just who here is complaining about biological inequities? It sounds like the author is. Quote:and if they decide to keep the child and make the man pay, he pays. This is another fascinating tidbit. Is the author suggesting that if a man helps to create a baby, he should not be forced to participate financially for its care and upbringing? Or is the author suggesting that a man should be allowed to tell a woman what to do with her body, by being able to choose to terminate her fetus? Again, the author seems to be complaining about biological inequities, something she's chastising fellow women for. Quote:Oh, and in college campuses, women outnumber men. And this same author neglects to mention how women typically earn less than men for the same job function. A mystery made more glaring by the fact that the author suggests that women get more education?! Quote:And please don’t come back and say women have to carry babies and this is unfair. Or that men are stronger and this is unfair. Or that… This is NOT kindergarten. LIFE is unfair. NATURE is unfair. The author says this immediately after lamenting that nature puts the fate of a fetus in the woman's hands. Incredible. Mainly, the author utterly fails in her essay because she utterly fails to address the reasons women feel they are under attack. She fails to mention how some in the state want to strip away her medical rights and rights to her own body. How some in the state want to legislate legal rape in order to shame women into desired behavior. How some in the state want to conceal medical information in order to steer women, through ignorance, to desired courses of action. I can only imagine that she fails to mention these things because she sees these things as acceptable. She already suggests that abortion should not be a woman's choice, meaning that the state would have to get involved in a woman's reproduction. How can she be against state sponsored birth control while endorsing state sponsored reproductive intrusion of other types? What can women think, but that the state is at war with them? Or shall women concede all the battles before this author shall concede that there was a war? I hope this author is better at fiction than she is at fact. Now, Troll, here is your substantive response to an unsubstantive article. May it illuminate the darkness. --Anthony _______________________________________________ Note to self: Mr. Raptor believes that women who want to control their reproductive processes are sluts. Reference thread: http://fireflyfans.net/mthread.asp?b=18&t=51196 Never forget what this man is. You keep forgiving him his trespasses and speak to him as though he is a reasonable human being. You keep forgetting the things he's advocated. If you respond to this man again, you are being foolish.
Monday, March 19, 2012 8:03 AM
Quote:Originally posted by AnthonyT: Quote:Is that a lack of substantive response I hear? Yes, yes it is. Hello, I believe that the article you posted is a general lack of substantive response to the feeling that women are under attack in this nation. 1) The article begins by suggesting that unless women are persecuted to the extent that they are in 3rd world nations, they should not feel as though they are under attack. Quote:War is where the enemy decimates your numbers – like, say in China where abortion is killing mostly females. War is where you are kept from learning – like in most Arab countries, where women have restrictions placed on their education. War is where your houses are burned, your children taken away into slavery, your goods looted, and you are dragged away in chains. Right off the bat, the article suggests that if women aren't being openly culled, they haven't cause to complain. This lets me know that the article author has no real interest in addressing the concerns of women who do feel they are under attack. No one in America has ever argued that this is the worst place for women to live, or that worse things aren't happening elsewhere. However, that seems a poor excuse for not wanting bad attitudes and bad policies to be looked at and reversed.
Quote: 2) The article proceeds to showcase areas where women get preferential treatment. However, the article struggles mightily here as we shall see: Quote:women have preferential treatment – by law – in any company that gets federal funds First the author makes a statement and utterly fails to substantiate it. What does she mean, exactly?
Quote: Quote:Women live longer than men. This factoid is a hoot, as though living longer is a type of preferential treatment. This same author will later tell women not to complain about biological inequities. Quote:Women have the right to be sole deciders on abortion This is a fascinating tidbit. The author begins her article by discussing libertarian principles, but then suggests that women being the sole deciders of abortion is some kind of inequity. This same person will later tell women not to complain about being saddled with the capacity to give birth. Yet this author IS complaining about that very same biological inequity. What alternative does this author propose? None. But we can guess that perhaps she'd see a more equitable solution as one where a woman's choices about her body were not her own. Just who here is complaining about biological inequities? It sounds like the author is.
Quote: Quote:and if they decide to keep the child and make the man pay, he pays. This is another fascinating tidbit. Is the author suggesting that if a man helps to create a baby, he should not be forced to participate financially for its care and upbringing? Or is the author suggesting that a man should be allowed to tell a woman what to do with her body, by being able to choose to terminate her fetus? Again, the author seems to be complaining about biological inequities, something she's chastising fellow women for.
Quote: Quote:Oh, and in college campuses, women outnumber men. And this same author neglects to mention how women typically earn less than men for the same job function. A mystery made more glaring by the fact that the author suggests that women get more education?!
Quote: Quote:And please don’t come back and say women have to carry babies and this is unfair. Or that men are stronger and this is unfair. Or that… This is NOT kindergarten. LIFE is unfair. NATURE is unfair. The author says this immediately after lamenting that nature puts the fate of a fetus in the woman's hands. Incredible.
Quote: Mainly, the author utterly fails in her essay because she utterly fails to address the reasons women feel they are under attack. She fails to mention how some in the state want to strip away her medical rights and rights to her own body. How some in the state want to legislate legal rape in order to shame women into desired behavior. How some in the state want to conceal medical information in order to steer women, through ignorance, to desired courses of action. I can only imagine that she fails to mention these things because she sees these things as acceptable. She already suggests that abortion should not be a woman's choice, meaning that the state would have to get involved in a woman's reproduction. How can she be against state sponsored birth control while endorsing state sponsored reproductive intrusion of other types? What can women think, but that the state is at war with them? Or shall women concede all the battles before this author shall concede that there was a war? I hope this author is better at fiction than she is at fact.
Monday, March 19, 2012 8:29 AM
Quote:The framing of the argument is that there is a "war" on women. I did not frame this argument in that term. You and the cause you support are failing to justify the use of the word "war".
Quote:This would be a reference to EEO quotas. There is an employment quota for women and minorities. There is no hiring quota for males.
Quote:Two people participated in the act that started that fetus. One person gets to make the decision about it. Maybe the man wants the child. But if the woman doesn't want it, it's gone. Or maybe the man doesn't want it, but if the woman does, she can carry it to term. Her decision and no required input from him. Does that seem fair to you?
Quote:This dovetails with the previous point. The man is, in historical terms, being taxed without getting representation in the decision to keep the child or not. And let's talk about the man's share in supporting that child. I've known more than one man who was paupered by the family court. It didn't matter what the man could actually pay and still support himself. The judge thought that he should pay more. One man I knew had the princely sum of $75 a month left over after taxes and child support. $75 A MONTH. How far do you think that went toward all the needed things in keeping his body and soul together? I mention him in particular because the woman in this question was a hook up. They didn't know each other before or after. He didn't even know about the child until he was served papers to appear in court. His life, effectively ended after that family court verdict. He had a steady girlfriend who let him move in. But he lost her due to the stress. He lost his job after moving into his car. Lost that too, when he was arrested and jailed for non payment of child support. What good came of that? The family court destroyed a productive member of society.
Quote:Women, as a whole, also take more sick time, use more medical services driving up the cost of group insurance and are more likely to take extended leaves than men. Are they as good a return on investment to a corporation? There are different standards on physical strength and speed for public sector jobs that are open to women. I am a very large man. A female firefighter will not be able to evacuate me to safety. Why should she get the same pay for doing 90% of the same job? I pay 100% of my tax bill. I expect 100% of the services.
Quote:6) Rescue Through a Doorway: This event simulates the actions necessary to drag an unconscious victim out through a doorway to get the victim to safety. You will be required to drag a 125 pound dummy approximately 50 feet, along a zigzag course to a designated area at the end of the course. In this event, there is a low ceiling over the course to prevent you from standing upright. The time limit is 36.00 seconds.
Quote:But yet you are arguing that society can somehow put training wheels on its mechanisms to make up for natural inequity. A much more preposterous statement.
Quote:Wants to. As in "not currently doing this". Hmm, I guess Japan "wanted to" bomb Los Angeles. Didn't make it so, but they wanted to. Maybe we should have acted like they had, because according to you, "wanting to" is the same as "has".
Quote:And you fail to even acknowledge the decades long pogrom against men that the government and social institutions that the author brings up.
Monday, March 19, 2012 1:38 PM
MAL4PREZ
Monday, March 19, 2012 1:57 PM
Quote:Originally posted by CaveTroll: Two people participated in the act that started that fetus. One person gets to make the decision about it. Maybe the man wants the child. But if the woman doesn't want it, it's gone. Or maybe the man doesn't want it, but if the woman does, she can carry it to term. Her decision and no required input from him. Does that seem fair to you?
Quote: And let's talk about the man's share in supporting that child. I've known more than one man who was paupered by the family court. It didn't matter what the man could actually pay and still support himself. The judge thought that he should pay more. One man I knew had the princely sum of $75 a month left over after taxes and child support. $75 A MONTH. How far do you think that went toward all the needed things in keeping his body and soul together? I mention him in particular because the woman in this question was a hook up. They didn't know each other before or after. He didn't even know about the child until he was served papers to appear in court. His life, effectively ended after that family court verdict. He had a steady girlfriend who let him move in. But he lost her due to the stress. He lost his job after moving into his car. Lost that too, when he was arrested and jailed for non payment of child support. What good came of that? The family court destroyed a productive member of society.
Monday, March 19, 2012 2:10 PM
FREMDFIRMA
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 3:57 AM
Quote:Originally posted by Kwicko: Quote:Originally posted by CaveTroll: Two people participated in the act that started that fetus. One person gets to make the decision about it. Maybe the man wants the child. But if the woman doesn't want it, it's gone. Or maybe the man doesn't want it, but if the woman does, she can carry it to term. Her decision and no required input from him. Does that seem fair to you? Not to put too fine a point on it, but if he wants the baby, maybe he should take it out of her cooch and stick it up his ass and see how that works out for him! [/snarkasm] Quote: And let's talk about the man's share in supporting that child. I've known more than one man who was paupered by the family court. It didn't matter what the man could actually pay and still support himself. The judge thought that he should pay more. One man I knew had the princely sum of $75 a month left over after taxes and child support. $75 A MONTH. How far do you think that went toward all the needed things in keeping his body and soul together? I mention him in particular because the woman in this question was a hook up. They didn't know each other before or after. He didn't even know about the child until he was served papers to appear in court. His life, effectively ended after that family court verdict. He had a steady girlfriend who let him move in. But he lost her due to the stress. He lost his job after moving into his car. Lost that too, when he was arrested and jailed for non payment of child support. What good came of that? The family court destroyed a productive member of society. Not a very productive member of society, it seems. Maybe he should take more personal responsibility for his hook-ups and his actions, eh? Or be a bit more discerning in where he sticks his junk if he's going to be practicing unsafe sex.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 4:42 AM
Quote:Originally posted by AnthonyT: Hello, Quote:The framing of the argument is that there is a "war" on women. I did not frame this argument in that term. You and the cause you support are failing to justify the use of the word "war". I actually did justify it, by pointing out the various perceived attacks on women. Or is it only a war if Congress declares it one officially?
Quote: Quote:This would be a reference to EEO quotas. There is an employment quota for women and minorities. There is no hiring quota for males. I believe this is because women have traditionally been criminally under-represented (read: discriminated against) in hiring. So you can see this as women firing back in the war against them.
Quote: Quote:Two people participated in the act that started that fetus. One person gets to make the decision about it. Maybe the man wants the child. But if the woman doesn't want it, it's gone. Or maybe the man doesn't want it, but if the woman does, she can carry it to term. Her decision and no required input from him. Does that seem fair to you? What happened to telling women not to whine about biological inequities? Now you're doing the whining. The fetus grows inside the woman- is utterly dependent on the woman- and is part of her body. Obviously she has the say about whether it gets born or not. The alternative would be to suspend her right to make decisions about her own body. Does that seem right to you?
Quote: Quote:This dovetails with the previous point. The man is, in historical terms, being taxed without getting representation in the decision to keep the child or not. And let's talk about the man's share in supporting that child. I've known more than one man who was paupered by the family court. It didn't matter what the man could actually pay and still support himself. The judge thought that he should pay more. One man I knew had the princely sum of $75 a month left over after taxes and child support. $75 A MONTH. How far do you think that went toward all the needed things in keeping his body and soul together? I mention him in particular because the woman in this question was a hook up. They didn't know each other before or after. He didn't even know about the child until he was served papers to appear in court. His life, effectively ended after that family court verdict. He had a steady girlfriend who let him move in. But he lost her due to the stress. He lost his job after moving into his car. Lost that too, when he was arrested and jailed for non payment of child support. What good came of that? The family court destroyed a productive member of society. It seems a man was treated unfairly. I sympathize. Does this mean that women aren't being attacked? No. The fact that a man has been treated unfairly does not negate the fact that women are being treated unfairly.
Quote: Quote:Women, as a whole, also take more sick time, use more medical services driving up the cost of group insurance and are more likely to take extended leaves than men. Are they as good a return on investment to a corporation? There are different standards on physical strength and speed for public sector jobs that are open to women. I am a very large man. A female firefighter will not be able to evacuate me to safety. Why should she get the same pay for doing 90% of the same job? I pay 100% of my tax bill. I expect 100% of the services. Wow. Guess what? Women take only as much sick time as they are entitled to. Same as men. When you take more than what you're entitled to, you get fired. I've seen it happen all around me. Are you suggesting women shouldn't be allowed to take the sick leave they've got coming to them? That they should be discriminated against for remaining within policy? That people who use more of their allotted time, time they are entitled to, should lose their jobs? As for firefighters, has it occurred to you that if you are so big and beefy that a male firefighter might not be able to haul your arse out of harm's way either? Here's an excerpt from the massechussets physical test guide for firefighters: Quote:6) Rescue Through a Doorway: This event simulates the actions necessary to drag an unconscious victim out through a doorway to get the victim to safety. You will be required to drag a 125 pound dummy approximately 50 feet, along a zigzag course to a designated area at the end of the course. In this event, there is a low ceiling over the course to prevent you from standing upright. The time limit is 36.00 seconds. I notice there is no differentiation between men and women on this guide. I also note that if 125 pounds is the necessary weight to be moved, you're a dead duck, you big, heavy fella. The test only requires Firefighters to be able to drag a fraction of your weight. All firefighters.
Quote: 7. Rescue This event is designed to simulate the critical task of removing a victim or injured partner from a fire scene. The Rescue event challenges the candidate’s aerobic capacity, upper and lower body muscular strength and endurance, grip strength and endurance, and anaerobic endurance. The candidate must grasp a 165-pound mannequin by the handle(s) on the shoulder(s) of the harness (either one or both handles are permitted), drag it 35 feet to a pre-positioned drum, make a 180-degree turn around the drum, and continue to drag it the remaining 35 feet to the finish line.
Quote: Quote:But yet you are arguing that society can somehow put training wheels on its mechanisms to make up for natural inequity. A much more preposterous statement. You mean it's preposterous that we tool-using humans can come up with mechanisms to make up for natural inequities? I'm not sure what you're trying to say. Or why.
Quote: Quote:Wants to. As in "not currently doing this". Hmm, I guess Japan "wanted to" bomb Los Angeles. Didn't make it so, but they wanted to. Maybe we should have acted like they had, because according to you, "wanting to" is the same as "has". What a strange stance. If I try to shoot you in the head and miss, have I failed to attack you? Not to mention that many of these attacks against women have been enacted into law. That's right. They ARE.
Quote: Quote:And you fail to even acknowledge the decades long pogrom against men that the government and social institutions that the author brings up. Why should I? None of it refutes the attacks on women. If you want to start a War on Men awareness movement, feel free. But a notch in column A doesn't negate a notch in column B.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 5:10 AM
Quote:Perception. You "perceive" an attack. I don't. All we have is politicians blowing smoke during an election cycle.
Quote:Don't think for a second that if it suits them they will not cut women's throats.
Quote:Not whining about biology, just about a political process. And this IS a political decision. I've seen women make the decision to keep a child to maneuver a man to stay with them. Emotionally or financially motivated, but still political, at least on a family level.
Quote: Your whole position is devolving into "someone was mean to the women so to make it fair we have to be mean to the men." Are you 8 years old? Group punishment stopped in the third grade.
Quote:Here's a very interesting article from Los Angeles regarding the high washout rate of women firefighters. The requirements of the physical tests are the principal cause.
Quote:And you also completely ignored my point about women being more likely to take lengthy leaves.
Quote:Hooray for women who can meet minimum physical standards for men. But they are few and far between. With this sort of thinking I'm sure we'll see women in combat roles in the Army and Marines. Women serve with distinction in the Air Force, Navy and Coast Guard. However, even the positions they work in are restricted. You don't see many female ordnance or gunners. Those jobs require the ability to lift (in teams) hundreds of pounds. Or tens of pounds repeatedly. Females have less upper body strength, less speed, and less aggression than males. The day we have female infantry or armor troops we may as well hang it up as a country. We will be admitting that we are second rate.
Quote:Pray, tell me where in these United States are women held as second class citizens?
Quote:Earlier you equivocated that as long as women were being attacked it serves men right to get some.
Quote:I feel bad for my nephews who have to grow up in a world that folk like you have in mind.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 10:24 AM
MAGONSDAUGHTER
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 2:05 PM
RIONAEIRE
Beir bua agus beannacht
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 2:21 PM
OONJERAH
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 3:06 PM
Quote:Originally posted by CaveTroll: Whooeee! Gosh, it must be nice to be without sin so you can cast that first stone.
Quote:I didn't say he wasn't stupid. But he went from taking home 30k as a heavy equipment operator (late 80's)to taking home diddley-squat.
Quote: So, how are you going to feel when you get taken to task for something you did 2 years ago and the government says; "Give us all your money Kwicko." Not to mention the social stigma of being a "deadbeat dad", despite not even knowing he WAS a father.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 6:05 PM
1KIKI
Goodbye, kind world (George Monbiot) - In common with all those generations which have contemplated catastrophe, we appear to be incapable of understanding what confronts us.
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Quote:Originally posted by Magonsdaughter: I think everyone should take 100% responsibility - men and women.
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Quote:Originally posted by Magonsdaughter: So he has learnt all this the hard way. But he should accept responsibility.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 6:18 AM
Quote:Originally posted by AnthonyT: Hello, Quote:Perception. You "perceive" an attack. I don't. All we have is politicians blowing smoke during an election cycle. Your so-called 'smoke' is being manifested in laws, proposed and voted for in government legislative arenas. If they were voting to shove dildos up men's asses, and passing such votes, I suspect you might wake up to the attack. Quote:Don't think for a second that if it suits them they will not cut women's throats. Thank you for proving my point. Women are pushing back against laws that attack them and raising holy hell for precisely this reason. Welcome to the logic train.
Quote: Quote:Not whining about biology, just about a political process. And this IS a political decision. I've seen women make the decision to keep a child to maneuver a man to stay with them. Emotionally or financially motivated, but still political, at least on a family level. Still whining about biology. The unborn are part of the woman's body. That means it's her decision, even if she's a mean, manipulative lass, unless you want to strip people of the right to decide what they do with their bodies. Is that what you're advocating? If so, that's precisely the sort of threat women perceive, and it again proves my point.
Quote: Quote: Your whole position is devolving into "someone was mean to the women so to make it fair we have to be mean to the men." Are you 8 years old? Group punishment stopped in the third grade. Your reading comprehension is questionable. I'm telling you that you can't treat women badly because a man was treated badly. That it's not okay to violate their rights just because you're mad about some guy's child support situation. You, on the other hand, are suggesting there is no 'war on women' because some guys got screwed in court. Guess what? One doesn't excuse the other, in either direction. The war on women still exists even if a guy got an unwholesome custody and support deal.
Quote: Quote:Here's a very interesting article from Los Angeles regarding the high washout rate of women firefighters. The requirements of the physical tests are the principal cause. If physically unsuitable candidates are washing out, then you have nothing to worry or complain about. Huzzah!
Quote: Quote:And you also completely ignored my point about women being more likely to take lengthy leaves. You must be talking about maternity leave. I don't work for the government. I get paternity leave. Instead of bringing down women you oughta be supporting men. Support Paternity leave!
Quote: Quote:Hooray for women who can meet minimum physical standards for men. But they are few and far between. With this sort of thinking I'm sure we'll see women in combat roles in the Army and Marines. Women serve with distinction in the Air Force, Navy and Coast Guard. However, even the positions they work in are restricted. You don't see many female ordnance or gunners. Those jobs require the ability to lift (in teams) hundreds of pounds. Or tens of pounds repeatedly. Females have less upper body strength, less speed, and less aggression than males. The day we have female infantry or armor troops we may as well hang it up as a country. We will be admitting that we are second rate. Speaking of deliberately obtuse... I wonder if you can think of any military forces that allow women in the front lines? Military forces that enjoy routine danger and combat? Think hard. I know you can name at least one that hasn't 'hung it up as a country' or become 'second rate.' But that wouldn't support your ridiculous argument, so I doubt you'll think too hard. Your bias against women is strong and unsavory, sir.
Quote: Quote:Pray, tell me where in these United States are women held as second class citizens? In Arizona, where medical information can be withheld from them at a Doctor's whimsy. I bet women know a lot more, being intimately familiar with all the ways they've been screwed over.
Quote: Quote:Earlier you equivocated that as long as women were being attacked it serves men right to get some. Reading comprehension fail. If women are attacked, it serves them right to enact laws to protect themselves from that attack. "Firing back" to ensure they are no longer discriminated against.
Quote: Quote:I feel bad for my nephews who have to grow up in a world that folk like you have in mind. Double me down on that sentiment, Troll. You have some twisted and rotten ideas about how to treat women. Ideas shared by lawmakers as they daily strive to humiliate and subdue women to behave the way they want them to.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 6:36 AM
Quote:Originally posted by Magonsdaughter: I think one of the problems I have with Cavetroll's buddy is not so much the mistakes that he made, but the utter victimhood of his response - a classic moronic 'poor me' attitude...
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 6:43 AM
Quote:Originally posted by Magonsdaughter: Cavetroll, just out of interest, what would you suggest might happen if a man wants a woman to keep a child and a woman wants to have an abortion. How would you, in the interests of fairness, solve that situation? Re men being made paupers by the Family Court, how many women who are single mothers are living in poverty. Haven't got the stats for your country, but here, single income families would make up the poorest strata of society. And yeah, hook up or not, all of us have to suffer the consequences for ouractions. Next time he should use a johnny.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 7:02 AM
Quote:They're being used as tools by politicians to meet their own ends. Don't think for a second that politicians care about their issues. Your statement is not logical.
Quote:So you decide to put in a koi pond on your property. You're saying that if I help you dig the koi pond so I can have the dirt, I have to pay for the maintenance of that pond?
Quote: No, I'm telling you that a series of perceived inconveniences does not equal a war. But real, enacted, either in law or in court rulings, government actions are stacking the deck against men.
Quote:Not when you have municipalities, like Boston, enacting lower standards.
Quote: Eritrea, Israel, Nepal, New Zealand, Thailand, Finland, Sweden. That was just a cursory search.
Quote:Wrong. Women are more likely to take leaves to care for sick family members. In addition to using sick time as primary care givers for children. FMLA, the Family Medical Leave Act was basically crafted for this purpose. Like it or not, this has an impact in the workplace. Why shouldn't I get more pay for being able to dedicate more time to work?
Quote: This is not enacted law. Again, you are mistaking perception for reality.
Quote:Your perceptions do not have the force of fact.
Quote:Ah yes, Fireflyfans.net, where we're all for freedom of speech. As long as it is speech we like.
Quote:Disagreeing with your position and asking you to support it with real, documented fact is not reprehensible. Anyone who makes such an accusation is just acting out their butthurt.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 7:03 AM
Quote:She should be offered compensation, just as a surrogate mother would be, to carry the father's child to term.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 9:41 AM
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 9:57 AM
Quote:Originally posted by CaveTroll: She should be offered compensation, just as a surrogate mother would be, to carry the father's child to term. With regard to single mothers, how are so many people here heaping blame on my friend for not being responsible for his actions and yet single mothers get a pass? My friend didn't know for 2 years about the child. I'm pretty sure the mother was aware much sooner than that. At one time single motherhood was stigmatized. Not so much anymore. I'm not going to take this argument into the realm of public assistance, but since Johnson's "Great Society" (HAH!) There has been an explosion of single parent household. The reason? An easy supply of food, clothing and shelter. I've never suggested that my friend should not have paid to support the child. But he was never given the option of taking custody. He had more income and would have been a better provider. But the government's answer was to strip him of his money, his possessions and his freedom. He is one of the reasons I am glad I always word a raincoat when I was going into the wet.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 10:07 AM
Quote:Originally posted by CaveTroll: My friend went from $30,000 take home pay a year, pretty good in '88 or '89, to $900. A YEAR. In what way did the court not victimize him? They took $29,100 dollars away from him. $2425 a month. That alone would be a comfortable middle class income in '88. And remember, he was working a blue collar job as a heavy equipment operator. He had no input on the child and no knowledge of it, other than it being a pleasant interlude. AND the state hit him up for 2 years of back child support. For example, when I had my first apartment in 1984, my weekly food budget was $25 a week. He didn't have enough to feed himself. Let alone clothe, house or buy gas, plus maintenance. This was also the time when Michael Dukakis' "Miracle in Massachusetts" was coming apart at the seams as fast as his presidential aspirations. Now, was the mother forced to pay nearly $30,000 a year to support that child? As I recall she was working in a sandwich shop. I think the minimum wage was $5 an hour. So let's say she was making $10,000 a year before taxes. Obviously, she was not spending all of her take home pay on the child. Was she thrown in jail when she didn't provide an equal share of money to support the child? No. Unequal justice before the law. How is this not unfair?
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 1:52 PM
Quote:Originally posted by CaveTroll: Quote:Originally posted by AnthonyT: Hello, Quote:Perception. You "perceive" an attack. I don't. All we have is politicians blowing smoke during an election cycle. Your so-called 'smoke' is being manifested in laws, proposed and voted for in government legislative arenas. If they were voting to shove dildos up men's asses, and passing such votes, I suspect you might wake up to the attack. Quote:Don't think for a second that if it suits them they will not cut women's throats. Thank you for proving my point. Women are pushing back against laws that attack them and raising holy hell for precisely this reason. Welcome to the logic train. They're being used as tools by politicians to meet their own ends. Don't think for a second that politicians care about their issues. Your statement is not logical.
Quote: And you have consistently failed to show me where women are being attacked. Your perceptions do not have the force of fact.
Quote: Ah yes, Fireflyfans.net, where we're all for freedom of speech. As long as it is speech we like.
Quote: Disagreeing with your position and asking you to support it with real, documented fact is not reprehensible. Anyone who makes such an accusation is just acting out their butthurt.
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Quote:Originally posted by RionaEire: I agree with Magon's, its important for both parties involved in sex to take responsability. I can't wait until they invent a pill for men, then she can take hers, he can take his and they'll have smooth sailing. If you don't want to get pregnant you should have at least one, two if possible, forms of controception goin on. I understand that condoms are rumored to make it less fun, so the man pill can't come soon enough. Question about behavioral concensus: The "lathering" thing was mentioned in another thread and then brought over here. That has happened before about other things on occasion, but it seems that most poeple tend toward not doing it. There have been times that I've been tempted to do it but I've refrained because it didn't seem nice. What do y'all think: Is it uncooth to bring disagreements or other annoyances from one thread to another? thoughts? "A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 6:58 PM
Quote:Originally posted by AnthonyT: Hello, An update for Troll. http://azcapitoltimes.com/news/2012/03/06/senate-approves-bill-on-wrongful-births/ Apparently nine states already have the 'legal to lie to women' law that is being voted on in Arizona. That's right. Nine states have already enacted this legislation. Doctors can withhold information about a pregnancy without fear of retribution in a court of law.
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 7:27 PM
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 8:07 PM
Quote:Originally posted by RionaEire: Question about behavioral concensus: The "lathering" thing was mentioned in another thread and then brought over here. That has happened before about other things on occasion, but it seems that most poeple tend toward not doing it. There have been times that I've been tempted to do it but I've refrained because it didn't seem nice. What do y'all think: Is it uncooth to bring disagreements or other annoyances from one thread to another? thoughts?
Wednesday, March 21, 2012 8:25 PM
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