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2. The wife always knows and condones or even encourages his behavior.

Typically wives of child molesters are the last to know. Men who molest keep their activities secret and often threaten their victims not to tell or they will hurt their mothers or other family members. http://ezinearticles.com/?8-Myths-About-Child-Molesters&id=6716990 there are those who DO know, but can't face it so they either consciously or unconsciously deny it's happening. From a psychologist:

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In my years of profiling violent crimes, I have found that in the majority of cases that I studied, the spouses knew about the child molestation which was carried out by their spouses. Of course the wives never admitted this once an investigation was opened; however, victims have often stated that the wives of their abusers were present when the attacks took place. As the victims called out for help, it was common for the wives to walk away and shut the door behind them. In other cases, the wives would see their spouses bringing children into their bedrooms but said nothing. Many victims tell their mothers that their fathers are molesting them, and they are not believed.

First and foremost, they are adamant that they didn’t know what was going on. Amazingly, these women who were teachers, physician assistants, and charity fundraisers became stunningly stupid when it came to the sex abuse. Though considered intelligent, these women claim that they couldn’t put two and two together that their husbands were doing something wrong when there was an endless parade of young boys or girls going into the bedroom with their spouses. It strains credulity to believe that these women knew nothing.

Some play their part and aid their spouses because they fear the shame and potential judgment if the truth came out. They cannot believe such a horrible thing is happening, and if they keep it secret then somehow it is less real. In a very twisted type of thinking they would rather live with their secret and play their role in the abuse than to face shame or any potential consequences. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/disturbed/201204/what-predators-wi
ves-really-know particular psychologist had a real hard-on for spouses of pedophiles (understandably), but it's well documented that in some cases, wives "know" but they don't admit it to themselves. There are levels of knowing something, those who are capable of denial do so by rationalizing away the evidence, or the spouse will blame the child. You heard it in the Sandusky trial, how parents disbelieved the children's stories; for the woman living with a pedophile, it can be the same. Conscious recognition of what's going on is subliminated so that they convince themselves it isn't happening. It's sick, but it's human nature to avoid the unpleasant, and wives face having their family destroyed, the condemnation of friends and family, self-hatred, etc., so the brain "protects" them from conscious knowledge.

Humans are very complex, and dealing with things like child abuse can get very convoluted.

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Capacity for denial is alarmingly high. Especially when faced with a potentially life-changing situation. Look at the number of smokers who deny that smoking kills, the number of drinkers who deny they're drunks, the number of abusers who deny they abuse, the power-producers and wasters who deny global warming, the pro-militarists who deny our tyrannical role, and the pro-corporatists who deny they're getting screwed. Because, if you had to face the truth of things, why... you might have to DO SOMETHING. And it might COST you something... a nice life, a favorite addiction, concealment from the eye of Sauron.

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