It's the little things by Fremdfirma

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It's the little things

POSTED BY: FREMDFIRMA
UPDATED: Monday, July 18, 2011 17:06
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Monday, July 18, 2011 9:03 AM

Well, at least SOME progress, although I find it repulsive that Snyder and Corrigan have the bloody fucking GALL to sit there and pretent credit for something they fought every hardbitten step of the way, and plan to appeal, defund or otherwise wreck at the first opportunity.

New rules will speed adoptions, cut back red tape
http://www.detnews.com/article/20110718/METRO/107180377/New-rules-will
-speed-adoptions--cut-back-red-tape

Kresnaks okay, but I don't work directly with em cause of too much reliance and dependance on leglislation and religion, which strikes me as a potentially dangerous road to be taking, and leaves a lot of kids and potential fosters swinging in the breeze for their beliefs.

I also find it grating that such a free pass is given to "anti-abortion" folk who simultaneously fight like hell against sex education, availability of contraceptives, and adoption reform, creating the very problem they're winding folk up about - should they not be called to heel for this ?

Of course, Synders days are numbered, thankfully, just seventeen days till we drop the recall bomb on his ass.

Funny story about that, while I stay the hell out of peoples biz, have a strict privacy policy and generally mind my own - one of the folks who lives here is "obviously" a rah-rah-kool-aid-drinker for the GOP and makes it bloody obvious in every conceivable way, but hey, folks gotta right to believe whatever....

Thing is, cause I was in the middle of helping fight one of the many legal fracas Gus is always involved in, I wound up throwing my John Hancock on that petition somewhere pretty far away from here - and imagine my surprise when the address just above mine happened to be that one!

Cheering with one hand, sharpening the knife with the other, and a whole lotta quiet scraping in the night when those bumper stickers dissappear later, no doubt - followed by "I never supported him!", oh yes.

Blood in the water folks, blood in the water.

-Frem

I do not serve the Blind God.

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Monday, July 18, 2011 12:08 PM

BYTEMITE

I mostly just feel bad for the kids in the foster care system. Maybe this'll help them out.

Some of those kids are probably going to need therapy though.

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Monday, July 18, 2011 4:41 PM

RIONAEIRE

Beir bua agus beannacht

My little brother came to us when he was almost 4, we already knew him when he was taken from his mother so our house was the logical place for him. His mom tried to get him back but she couldn't get it together so we eventually got to adopt him, it finalized when he was six. From the day he came to live with us to a year after the adoption finalized he had counseling each week, just to make sure things were going right for him. I think it was helpful for him to have a grownup who wasn't in his family to talk to and so forth, though since he was little I doubt they did anything super intensive. Our local DHS was fine, I had no complaints about how they handled his/our case. The adoption took so long because his mom was trying to get him back, after a while the DHS people said that it had been a long time and that a perminant solution needed to be determined, no more limbo time. So we adopted him, he belongs to us, but he sees his mom one evening a week for a couple of hours, we drop him off and pick him up later. It works fine.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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Monday, July 18, 2011 4:50 PM

FREMDFIRMA

More than therapy in some cases, Byte - remember what I said about "If there's a hell" ?

Consider a kid popped out and dumped into the adoption system, unwanted, and during their developmental period never given real attention or affection with a merry-go-round of caregivers and no basis to form an attachment, then dumped into group homes barely one step removed from hellcamps or prisons, and then pitched out on their ear with nothing, no resources and a piss-poor education made all the worse by ZERO life skills ?
And folk wonder why they hate us.

Every bit as bad is one of these social time bombs dumped off on an unsuspecting family willing to foster but completely unprepared for someone who's never actually had any chance to develop basic humanity - the carnage that ensues is one of the reasons many are reluctant to foster or adopt, and many of the few that are happen to be abusive, exploitive bastards of the worst order.

Add in that the recovery rate for those kids, to something even vaguely resembling normalcy, enough to get by, to survive, is maybe around four percent for boys, ten percent for girls...

And you begin to realize why I take the position I do on ending a pregnancy - cause IMHO it's not very much of a difference in end result, just a matter of how much suffering is involved.

-Frem

ETA: Riona, just hearing that makes me feel better, I do find comfort when it does work, mind you - I just want it to work for the majority of em, instead of the few lucky ones, you know ?

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Monday, July 18, 2011 4:53 PM

BYTEMITE

Yeah. ._.

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Monday, July 18, 2011 5:06 PM

RIONAEIRE

Beir bua agus beannacht

I know what you mean Frem, we (especially him) were the fortunate ones and I know that so often it doesn't work out so well. Sometimes I think of where he'd be if he and his mom hadn't known a family for him to go to, because so many foster families don't care and are luh suh and are mean folk, not to mention what you said about how hard it is when caregivers are always shifting and the child can't bond properly because of it. We're very fortunate to have him too, he completes my family and I can't imagine life without him.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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