Saying goodbye sucks... by BadgersHat

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Saying goodbye sucks...

POSTED BY: BADGERSHAT
UPDATED: Monday, January 31, 2005 17:23
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Sunday, January 30, 2005 3:28 PM

Came home Friday.

Walked in the door.

Saw my 16 year old cat lying on the floor.

Cancer got him.

He died during the day.

Sucks.

Used to sleep on my chest.

Been through a lot with that little guy.

Bye, Sam.

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 3:46 PM

EST120

i am sorry. :( it is never easy to lose a pet. they can become such a part of the family. still, at 16, he led a long life and i am sure he was very happy all the time you had him.

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 3:50 PM

THEREALME

Sorry, Hat.

I don't know what else to say.

The Real Me

(The Real Me cannot currently receive messages from this site; he is not ignoring you. But he CAN receive e-mail at realme@pcibroadband.net.)

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 4:05 PM

MALICIOUS

Jefe,

I can tell your heart measures up to the rest of you. You have my sympathies. You know that, though.

Love ya,

Mal

Mal-licious

Co-Holder of the Red Bell from Hell

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 5:53 PM

HARDWARE

Sorry Hat,
My cat has been with me for 15 years, so I know where you are coming from. Malicious can tell you that I am a big bear of a man and I will cry a river of tears when it is my cat's day to go.

If you believe in the 'rainbow bridge' then he's waiting there for you.

Be well,
H

The more I get to know people the more I like my dogs.

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 5:54 PM

TMURRIE

I applaud the cat though, he has lived as long as I have, which for a cat, is quite the feat. Sorry to hear about that Badger.

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 6:48 PM

THATWEIRDGIRL

I'm sorry for your loss. I don't know what to say to make it easier, because I don't think anything can. We're here if you need us.

I spent hours playing with Lady today. She is Jake's sister's spaniel and so much like my Lady it hurts. I miss her. She was a good dog. She was my friend. I loved her.

You loved Sam. You had sixteen years wonderful years with him. Cherish those memories.

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 7:07 PM

ALIENZOOKEEPER

I'm a dog-person myself, but I know what you're going through. This might help, dunno-

“The Power of the Dog”
Rudyard Kipling

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THERE is sorrow enough in the natural way
From men and women to fill our day;
And when we are certain of sorrow in store,
Why do we always arrange for more?
Brothers and Sisters, I bid you beware
Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
Buy a pup and your money will buy
Love unflinching that cannot lie—
Perfect passion and worship fed
By a kick in the ribs or a pat on the head.
Nevertheless it is hardly fair
To risk your heart for a dog to tear.

When the fourteen years which Nature permits
Are closing in asthma, or tumour, or fits,
And the vet’s unspoken prescription runs
To lethal chambers or loaded guns,
Then you will find—it’s your own affair—
But . . . you’ve given your heart to a dog to tear.

When the body that lived at your single will,
With its whimper of welcome, is stilled (how still!).
When the spirit that answered your every mood
Is gone—wherever it goes—for good,
You will discover how much you care,
And will give your heart to a dog to tear.

We’ve sorrow enough in the natural way,
When it comes to burying Christian clay.
Our loves are not given, but only lent,
At compound interest of cent per cent.
Though it is not always the case, I believe,
That the longer we’ve kept ’em, the more do we grieve.
For, when debts are payable, right or wrong,
A short-time loan is as bad as a long—
So why in—Heaven (before we are there)
Should we give our hearts to a dog to tear?

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 8:02 PM

THEGREYJEDI

Condolences mine.

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 8:10 PM

MONTANAGIRL

I'm so sorry. It is hardest losing those creatures that give us unconditional love. I lost my old ferret two years ago and I still miss her. Remember the good times and the good life Sam had with you. I'm sure he couldn't have asked for a better human to spend his time here with.

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 8:46 PM

FINN MAC CUMHAL

That’s very sad. It makes me remember my cat that died similarly. The vet said that it might die because it had suffered malnutrition as a kitten and my have kidney problems. Still it lived for two or three years before we found it face down in its food dish. It had died sometime during the night. It used to climb up onto the table where I did my homework and lay down right on my books. It’s hard to lose a pet that demonstrates such affection for you.

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Sunday, January 30, 2005 8:57 PM

MAI

I am so sorry Badger. I know how it feels to lose such a sweet baby. I also know that there are probably no words that will help right now. Just hang in there and remember what joy he brought to your life.

Mai

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Monday, January 31, 2005 3:23 AM

GORRAMREAVERS

Sorry hat.

"..it is my very favorite gun."

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Monday, January 31, 2005 3:47 AM

BROWNCOAT1

May have been the losing side. Still not convinced it was the wrong one.

Badgershat,

My heartfelt condolences for your loss. I know how it feels to lose a pet that has been a companion of more than a decade.

I am sure Sam loved you as much as you obviously loved him. Treasure the memories you have of him and a piece of him will be w/ you always.

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"May have been the losing side. Still not convinced it was the wrong one."

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Monday, January 31, 2005 12:40 PM

CYBERSNARK

I offer my condolences here as well. I've lost a feline "relative" as well, and no, it doesn't get better, but you will learn to deal with it. Remember him each time the wind brushes against your leg like he used to.

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Monday, January 31, 2005 12:47 PM

ZEEK

Sorry man. I know how I felt when I lost my cat a few years back. If you're anything like me you had a good long cry. I really can't say you'll feel too much better but just keep carrying on.

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Monday, January 31, 2005 2:17 PM

DARKJESTER

Oh Jefe, I am so sorry. I had to bury my Sebastian over 10 years ago, but I can still get dewey-eyed remembering how he'd lay on my chest and nuzzle my chin. (He was an indoor cat who got out, and had never learned to be afraid of cars). I'm sure Sam had a good and full life with you. My condolences.

MAL "You only gotta scare him."
JAYNE "Pain is scary..."

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Monday, January 31, 2005 2:26 PM

JEWEL

I'm so sorry. I lost my oldest cat back in November and I still cry when I think about her. What you're going through is never easy. My most sincere condolances.

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Monday, January 31, 2005 2:46 PM

ALTA

So sorry for your loss.

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There's no place I can be
Since I found Serenity

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Monday, January 31, 2005 3:04 PM

LISSA

i'm so sorry! *lotsa hugs*

~lissa, spwhore

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Monday, January 31, 2005 3:15 PM

CHOLLETT

BadgersHat, my most sincere condolences (did i spell that right?)

I think i know how you feel (sorry if this has gotten uber-repetitive by now on this thread). Last May, on the 25th, at about 4 pm (funny how you remember the specifics of these sorts of things) i had to make the hard decision to put down my cat, Corky. He was suffering to the point that he almost couldn't move at all on his own, and in a way i'm glad it was the may long weekend the 3 days prior, because i got to spend more time with him instead of having to go to school. We could feel his ribs through his skin, so he had lost a lot of weight, and he was going blind as well in the last week or so. He was 19 years old, 3 and a half years older than i was, so it's not like his life was tragically cut short or anything, but it was still hard. It was the first time that i ever experienced a close personal loss, so in a way i consider myself lucky that i made it that long without losing anyone else. It's still hard, because, yes, you do miss the things that they used to do, and it's very hard to see some of their things, especially in the first few weeks. Even after that first, and hardest phase, every now and then something will come up (like this thread) that brings it all back.

Sadly, this wasn't the end of it. 4 and a half months later, on october 4th, just about 3 and a half months ago, my beloved dog, Farley, got sick from cancer and we had to put him down. Since he was a good candidate for the sweetest dog ever, we didn't want him to suffer, and chemo would have given him maybe 6 months. It was so fast. 4 days prior was the first time he showed any signs of sickness, and then he was gone. He was only 5, so this time it was too soon. It was so hard to lose my 2 best friends in the whole world within 5 months of eachother. Since then, we have gotten a new dog. She is a black lab cross, so she looks very uch like Farley, except all black (Farley had white parts), female, and smaller.
Her name is Angel.

Sorry if this has carried on a tad long, but the point i'm trying to work towards here is that, while i can't guarantee it gets easier, you do learn to live with it, and the bouts of grieving become fewer and farther between. I'm still in the iddle of this process myself, so i can't tell you how it will turn out after half a year or a year or so, but i can say that, eventually, the main grieving stops, and you begin to only remember all the good things. There will still be moments, maybe even years later, where you will miss them and break down in tears, but just remember, don't grieve for their death, celebrate the fact that they lived.

Sam will always be with you, as long as you remember him well. Don't forget him.

Once again, sorry about the length. Got carried away.

"When your miracle gets here, you just pound this button once." -Alan Tudyk, in a message to Joss with the packaged button, about the Firefly movie

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Monday, January 31, 2005 3:41 PM

CORNCOBB

I feel for you man. My cat is fifteen and i love him to bits. I'll be devastated when he goes. Dreading it.

"Gorramit Mal... I've forgotten my line."

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Monday, January 31, 2005 4:21 PM

ASTRIANA

*hugs her Jefe tight to her chest*

I'm so sorry, honey.

~Astriana~

...I'm still free,
You can't take the sky from me.

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Monday, January 31, 2005 4:32 PM

SOUPCATCHER

Man, that sucks. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

One of my saddest memories is holding my black lab in my arms as the vet put him down. He was 12 years old and the cancer had eaten him up. It's the years of happy memories that helped me through the sad one.

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Monday, January 31, 2005 5:23 PM

INDIGO

Our pets are our heroes, our friends, our loves.

Hardware reminded me: when our Feather passed on last year our wonderful veterinarian gave us a copy of "The Rainbow Bridge"; it's not great prose but it meant so much to us. (Yay! All good pets go to Valhalla!)

The Rainbow Bridge

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to the Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor;
those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again;
just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.

The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing - they miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance.
The bright eyes are intent;the eager body quivers.
Suddenly he begins to break away from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
YOU have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again.
The happy kisses rain upon your face;
your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting face of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. -- Anon

Peace to you BadgersHat, peace to Sam.

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