My son called me tonight...... by DarkJester

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My son called me tonight......

POSTED BY: DARKJESTER
UPDATED: Tuesday, August 23, 2005 10:46
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Friday, August 19, 2005 8:44 PM

...at 11:30pm, my phone rang. It was my 12-year-old son, Cameron. That means it was 12:30am for him in South Carolina. He had to repeat himself twice for me to understand him. Jenna, his (half) sister, 17, was in a car accident tonight, and is gone. The beautiful high-school junior, who also was the beautiful little 3-year-old girl I held in my lap and watched cartoons with all those years ago, is gone.

I'm leaving in the morning for the 11 hour drive, and I'm using up the vacation days from work that I was saving for the NC BDM Premiere Party. Priorities, friends.

If you believe in God, I ask that you pray for my son Cameron, and for his mother Deanna. If you don't believe, just send some positive/healing energy towards Newberry, South Carolina. I'll round it up and deliver it in person.

MAL "You only gotta scare him."
JAYNE "Pain is scary..."

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Friday, August 19, 2005 8:49 PM

THEREALME

I have nothing adequate to say. There isn't anything. But know that our thoughts and prayers go with you, friend.

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Friday, August 19, 2005 9:08 PM

SGTGUMP

Quote:
Originally posted by TheRealMe:
I have nothing adequate to say. There isn't anything. But know that our thoughts and prayers go with you, friend.

Same here.

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Friday, August 19, 2005 9:12 PM

SIMONWHO

I'm so sorry, we're all thinking of you and your family.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 12:32 AM

GLORYBE

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 12:51 AM

PSYCHICRIVER

I'm terribly sorry, we will all be thinking of you and your family at this time.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 2:57 AM

COZEN

Strength, my friend. You can have any of mine, if need be.

cozen

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 3:19 AM

EMBERS

Please accept my sympathy and my prayers.
This is a terrible tragedy and you know your friends here on the board will always be here to support your spirits in any way possible.

I cannot believe your work place doesn't have bereavement leave for immediate family members, did you even tell them the reason for your immediate departure?

Take care.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 3:36 AM

BLUECATSHIP

I'm entirely new here, but your post was highlighted.

My deep sympathies for you, for your son, and for their mom. There's never a good time to deal with it.

Be together while you need to, so you can heal some. It takes time, but it does heal.

Here's hoping you'll find strength together.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 3:55 AM

SHINY

I'm so sorry, DJ. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family during this difficult time. Please know you always have friends here if you need anything.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 8:56 AM

CHRISISALL

Take care of yourself and your family, brother. Prayers, support and love from all of us here.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 9:25 AM

KNIBBLET

There are no words for what you are feeling. Take care of Cameron and know that we wish you all comfort and healing.

http://tv.groups.yahoo.com/group/MN-Firefly/

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 9:53 AM

MRSKBORG

I'm so sorry DJ. Know that we are thinking of you and your family.

"This movie may be a beautiful butterfly, but I loved that damn caterpillar." Joss Whedon.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 10:13 AM

ROBERTEGGLETON

I'm a therapist in a local mental health program with almost thirty years experience helping kids. I am also an original appointee to West Virginia's first Child Fatality Review Team; and the primary author of the state's first child maltreatment death report, "Daniel's Death," which focused on systemic deficiencies within the child protection system. It was widely distribed by the West Virginia Supreme Court, where I worked at the time, and extensively covered by the press. I also founded and directed the state's first Child Abuse and Neglect Data Base...was the lead investigator that resulted in several landmark children's right decisions.... That's enough about my background -- I writing for a related but very different reason. I want to share some power to help with your grief -- to tell you a story. Professionally, I absorb emotional pain to empower victims into actions that heal.

This story is about the only time I ever heard my grandma cuss. My grandma was the most religious person I'd ever met. She went to church every time the doors were open. Grandma never cut her hair because it was a sin for a woman. We couldn't talk about school dances because they were of the devil.

'm the oldest of four children from an impoverished background. One day, we were at my grandma's house and my little sister ran in bawling. Some mean boy had made fun of her because of the Goodwill clothes she was wearing. Well, as the big brother, it was my job to go beat him up. I stomped out the front door and there was my grandma standing on the front porch holding onto the rail. She looked down at me and said, "Bobby, don't let the assholes get you down." I went back inside and strengthened my little sister.

That incident was over forty years ago, but I still use Grandma when I need a little extra power to deal with a situation. She's got the biggest heart ever to beat, and if you need her to deal with your loss, all you have to do is to think about this story. I guarantee she won't let you down.

BTW, I have a son named Cameron too.

"Rarity from the Hollow," my first novel, will
come out as an ebook later this summer. Please see: www.fatcatpress.com It is filled with empowerment strategy. If you think it would help, let me know and I'll email the ms.

Lacy Dawn, the protagonist, is a preadolescent victim of child abuse from an impoverished Appalachian hollow who overcomes by empowering others and ends up saving the universe. She is a composite character based on children I met where I now work, mostly victims. The realism is harsh and intended to impact the social problem of child maltreatment.

On the other hand, the fantasy is outrageous and fun -- it reinforces content by contrast. I believe that fiction has a great potential to educate, sometimes beyond nonfiction because readers bond with characters and react emotionally, as well as, intellectually during the process.

A percentage of any profits has been designated to go to Children's Home Society to prevent child abuse.

Here's a quote from Faith, Lacy Dawn's best friend and a sexual abuse victim who was murdered in the second chapter:

"It's a kid's job to help her parents and any kid who don't ain't much of a kid and maybe don't even deserve to live."

Take care.

Robert Eggleton
robert_t@charter.net

roberteggleton

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 10:19 AM

REALLYKAYLEE

It's a fallen world. I just finished a prayer and there will be more.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 10:21 AM

STARRBABY

*sends kisses to DJ and his family*

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 10:57 AM

THATWEIRDGIRL

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Safe journey, friend.

www.thatweirdgirl.com
---
"...turn right at the corner then skip two blocks...no, SKIP, the hopping-like thing kids do...Why? Why not?"

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 12:59 PM

WEETABIX

I know what it feels like to lose someone close to you. My grandmother died last week. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

I framed Roger Rabbit

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 1:06 PM

NIKNAK

I can't even come close to imagining how you must feel. My thoughts and sympathy are with you.

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 1:46 PM

DIETCOKE

You made me cry. My prayers and my positive thoughts are with all of you.

NY/NJ Browncoats: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/firefly_nyc

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 5:10 PM

STATIC

I grieve with you tonight, and with your permission, when I speak before the BDM at the NC Premiere, I will remind everyone that you couldn't join us.

If you'd rather I didn't, I understand.

Again, I grieve with you. May your family find peace. Please email me if there's anything I can do for you.

Christopher

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Saturday, August 20, 2005 5:45 PM

PIZMOBEACH

... fully loaded, safety off...

I'm so very sorry for your news. I will pray for you and your family tonite.

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Sunday, August 21, 2005 6:03 AM

CYBERSNARK

*delurk*

Eternal life grant unto her, and may perpetual light shine upon her.

My thoughts and condolences are with you.

-----
We applied the cortical electrodes but were unable to get a neural reaction from either patient.

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Sunday, August 21, 2005 8:41 AM

DANFAN

I sent a prayer for you and your family. It seems so little a thing for the challenge that you face. I hope that the One who delivers that prayer will give you and your family the strength that it asks for.

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Sunday, August 21, 2005 1:55 PM

BAYBREEZE1

I am so very, very sorry for your loss and the pain it must cause you, your son, and all of your extended family. I will be praying for all of you. I too have a daughter who is a junior in high school, and I cannot imagine what Jenna's parents are going through. I will be praying especially hard for her mother, to find the strength to get through this. God bless you and give you the wisdom and strength you will need to help your son through this.

And to everyone - I received a call a few hours ago that a 15 year old boy my daughter goes to high school with was killed, along with a 16 and 17 year old friend, in a car accident last night. They were hit at a stop light by a 20 year old drunk driver, the only one to walk away from the accident. PLEASE, PLEASE, everyone take care on the road, be careful of what you do, teach your children, and never, never get behind the wheel after drinking.

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Sunday, August 21, 2005 3:13 PM

WICKEDLESTER

Don't take this the wrong way, but maybe something good might come out of all this. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but i've always found that good things always come out of the bad.

Got a Smoke?

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Sunday, August 21, 2005 4:02 PM

LAFEEVERTE

I cannot possibly imagine what you or your family are feeling right now. I can only send my condolences and my prayers for comfort during this difficult time.

Just sippin' away.

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Monday, August 22, 2005 4:31 AM

SPINLAND

Twice in as many years we've gotten the dreaded late-night phone call and learned of the loss of a close family member; both times were in auto accidents. It's never going to seem fair, it's never going to make sense. In time the pain fades somewhat, but right now it's real, and now, and it's legitimate. Grieve, rage, do whatever is needful to get through the immediacy of it--and rely on the rest of your family and close friends for comfort and strength. Let yourself feel it, and work through it, so you can get into the road to what healing is possible.

All the best wishes and good energy I (and my family) can send is yours.

----
I can see you.

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Monday, August 22, 2005 6:33 AM

BROWNCOAT1

May have been the losing side. Still not convinced it was the wrong one.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you, your son, and his mother.

Take care & keep flyin'.

__________________________________________

"May have been the losing side. Still not convinced it was the wrong one."

Richmond, VA & surrounding area Firefly Fans:

http://tv.groups.yahoo.com/group/richmondbrowncoats/

http://www.richmondbrowncoats.org

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Monday, August 22, 2005 7:09 AM

JAA

Losing someone always makes me wordless. My prayers and hopes go to you and your family.

Time for some Thrilling Zoics.

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Monday, August 22, 2005 7:21 AM

DUCESTECUM

Words cannot express how we feel but I want you to know I am so terribly, terribly sorry for your loss. I grieve for you and with you as I have been in your place and cried out to God and begged him to take me instead of my loved one.

Just keep telling yourself how happy Jenna is now and who she is with. Imagine her looking down on you and smiling and her wishing you and your son and his mother were not hurting so. She loves you and will always be with you, in your heart, and you will see her again.

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Monday, August 22, 2005 8:03 AM

GORRAMREAVERS

Very sorry for this tragic event. May you find strenght in yourself to help your family. Thoughts and prayers.

"..it is my very favorite gun."

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Monday, August 22, 2005 8:44 AM

ODDNESS2HER

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your family help each other through this painful time.

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Monday, August 22, 2005 1:31 PM

TRACY

So very sorry for your loss. I send you and yours light. Know she's well where she is now.

MAL: If anyone gets nosy, just, you know... shoot 'em.
ZOE: Shoot 'em?
MAL: Politely.

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Monday, August 22, 2005 5:11 PM

CRAZYMONKEY182

I'm so sorry for your loss. There's nothing I can say that will make this better but know that you and your family are in the thoughts and prayers of the browncoats and myself. May god be with you.

Jasmine Gomez, a Las Vegas Browncoat/Whedon fan.

Member of the 623rd BDM Birthday Battalion

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Monday, August 22, 2005 5:11 PM

CRAZYMONKEY182

sorry about the multiple postings

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Monday, August 22, 2005 5:11 PM

CRAZYMONKEY182

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Monday, August 22, 2005 6:21 PM

KELLAINA

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

If nothing we do matters, then all that matters is what we do. -"Angel"

Browncoat? Canadian? Join us:
http://movies.groups.yahoo.com/group/canadianbrowncoats/

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Tuesday, August 23, 2005 1:13 AM

BLUECATSHIP

Quote:
Originally posted by Roberteggleton:
"Rarity from the Hollow," my first novel, will
come out as an ebook later this summer. Please see: www.fatcatpress.com It is filled with empowerment strategy.

Robert, please let folks know when that book or ebook is published. I'd like to get it, personal reasons.

Thanks for your post.

* "You can be more." ~ Farscape * "You can't take the sky from me." ~ Firefly Serenity

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Tuesday, August 23, 2005 10:05 AM

DANTE144

Sorry, Man! I'll keep on doing what you ask.

"Jesus saves, everyone else takes damage" -tee shirt some girl was wearing at Megacon.

http://dantedreams.com <-my webcomic

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Tuesday, August 23, 2005 10:36 AM

CALLMESERENITY

DJ-I, like everyone else, send you and your family my deepest sympathies. You are all in my prayers.

I live near to Newberry. It makes me so sad to know that such a terrible thing happened to a fellow browncoat so close to where I live.

Serenity, First Officer of Destiny

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Tuesday, August 23, 2005 10:46 AM

ROBERTEGGLETON

From me and on behalf of maltreated children, thanks. Robert Eggleton

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