Male and Female Imponderables--Time After Time by Tristan

You think you know--what's to come, what you are. You haven't even begun.

*dance of firstiness*

Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace. - Gautama Siddharta

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 3:15 AM

JAMESTHEDARK

Damn it all! I was so close!

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 3:23 AM

Oh, PR, I was going to see if I could impose on you yet again to carry this thread while I am at D*C this weekend. This thread will be the last one I will be able to start until Tuesday. I would be most appreciative!

So, what are we discussing today?

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 3:37 AM

You think you know--what's to come, what you are. You haven't even begun.

Sure, I can manage that

I think we were discussing mild ESP, seeing lighting before it struck, and the effects of battered and shattered friendships and romances...
Oh dear, how depressing

Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace. - Gautama Siddharta

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 3:54 AM

I'll back up to the eharmony thing that was going... I avoided that because I heard about the religion angle, and the people on the TV commercials are annoying. But, not to be a commercial of my own, I found my man after my profile sat on match.com for 2 months. So i guess it can work.

Hi Copilot! Good to see you! *waves*

Friends that turn icky... hmm. I've had those, and they really suck!

But this makes me think about how I'm having a very stupid resentment forming against a very dear friend. It is SO stupid and I'm hoping it'll go away, but maybe I should tell him? I so don't want this to be a problem between us!

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 4:18 AM

Thank you, PR!
Mild ESP...not really. Ocassionally get weird flashes, but nothing major. Love lightning! Don't think I've ever seen any before it struck, though.
As for online dating sites, I have nothing to add to the discussion. I've never used one, so... I'll sit back and learn.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 4:19 AM

AZHEA

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Originally posted by mal4prez:

But this makes me think about how I'm having a very stupid resentment forming against a very dear friend. It is SO stupid and I'm hoping it'll go away, but maybe I should tell him? I so don't want this to be a problem between us!

You've GOT to tell him. Things like that festor and turn nasty, or can. Lay it out in the nicest way you can. Sometimes just bringing to light can difuse it entirely.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 4:48 AM

My friend tried eharmony and found a great guy. She picked him because in the "what's the first thing people notice about you" section he'd answered " my third eye" She figured he had a sense of humor that dovetailed with hers and she was right:)

I think online dating is getting to be a good way to just meet a bunch of different people. Mainly 'cause it's really hard. Usually your dating pool is confined to people you work with, people your friends set you up with, and random people you meet( which is weird) and even if it doesn't work out, at least you'll meet a pool of new people to draw from. If I were single, I'd do eharmony and match.com just so I could have a chance at meeting some people:)

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 4:56 AM

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Originally posted by Azhea:
You've GOT to tell him. Things like that festor and turn nasty, or can. Lay it out in the nicest way you can. Sometimes just bringing to light can difuse it entirely.

You're totally right! He just did something that hurt my feelings, and it's silly, but I think he'd understand. And I know he didn't mean anything by it! It's just... hurt feelings, you know?

MSG - I agree. Especially living in a small town like a I do, it's difficult to meet similar people. The online dating broadens the pool!

My guy had this little catch line: My dog thinks I'm cool.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 5:10 AM

RUGBUG

The religious angle of eharmony doesn't bother me.

And it really accurately described the man I think I want. To the point that my friends were like shocked at how well suited this fictitious person sounded. To bad they can't just produce him. Now there would be a service I would pay $60/month for.

I did a match.com one, but didn't join so I don't know if it shows up. Wait...just checked. It's there. Ugh, those catch lines are so hard. Mine's lame, but whatever.

Edited: On the friend issue: I've never had one say that didn't really like me, but I have had some interesting conversations and one that ended with us not being as close. She was really hurtful and I figured if she really thought the things she was saying about me that she couldn't really like me all that much. We're still in contact, but only ocassionally.

Did have another friend, closest one from college, decided that I was chasing her non-SO (she was basically in a job where she was his superior and was told to wait to date him until that was resolved...which would've been approx. nine months.) I've NEVER chased a man in my entire life. I'm the antithesis of a chaser. He, in fact, was pursuing me...and I was the one that put the brakes on. 'Course that's not the way either of them tell the story (they're married now).

I have had friends that while I'm close to, I fully recognize that their friendship is an effort for me. These are usually people that are very different than I am. I'm the quintessential strong silent type. When a friend is more of the emotional type, I have difficulties. The friendship, while valued, is tiring. One of my current friends is like this. I love her to death, but wowee can she be a bit draining. I think it's really important to recognize those differences...and to enjoy them, if possible. It helps expand your perspective on situations and the world in general.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 5:49 AM

I also had friends who can be very draining to be around...especially in college. I was known as a straight-talker, and did not like to mince words when people came to me. I could not stand those emotional bundles; the drama queens and drama kings...unfortunately, I spent most of college in the Drama department...glutton for punishment, I guess.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 5:56 AM

You think you know--what's to come, what you are. You haven't even begun.

*sigh* Yeah, not a lot going on with any of my profiles right now. I don't want to pay for it, but I'm thinking about it. There has been no follow-up with the drool-worthy one. Stupid boy.
OMG though, I have a total crush on one of the baristas at the coffee place I always go to. I've gotten to talk to him a couple times, briefly (he works graveyard and sometimes I'm one of the only people in there) and he's just so enthusiastic about coffee. I know that sounds weird, but there's something about being an expert on something and enjoying your job, even if it involves coffee, that is totally attractive. But how do you make a move on a handsome barista at a very popular coffee shop right next to the college? For one, very surprised if he's single. For two, what do I say? "You wanna have a cup of coffee?"

Anyway. I have apparently flirted with him quite skillfully so far, according to a friend of mine. Don't know if it will go anywhere, but it's nice just to have a crush on somebody!
Yeah, I still have one friendship that's a bit draining. She's got issues. We keep growing apart and then getting close again.

A family is a place where minds come in contact with one another. If these minds love one another the home will be as beautiful as a flower garden. But if these minds get out of harmony with one another it is like a storm that plays havoc with them. - Gautama Siddharta

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 5:57 AM

Top of the mornin' to y'all.

Friends. Bestest friend borrowed money the other day for prescription and said she'd have it right back. Did I say other day. I mean a week ago. ried calling a few times, but she either has her husband answer the phone, or lets the machine pick up. Kinda irritating. She could at least tell me to wait for payday instead of blowing me off. Fine, lie to me. But don't compound the problem by avoiding the problem.

As for the ESP thing, I mentioned that most of it is probably a compilation of stimuli, (heart rate, body temp, body language, brain waves, etc.). Had another feeling last night while driving to the store with GND. Kinda cool though. She turned down the radio and we just talked. Didn't even notice it was pretyy much off until we got home. Starting to feel she has something to say but is afraid to say it.

Look at that. Rambling again. Guess I should do some work now.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 5:59 AM

LITTLEALBATROSS29

Great topic ! It hits very close to home.Literally.

I was very close friends with my next door neighbor I mean like the next apartment down,not even a driveway seperating us.We both have children the same age & have known each other although not well, all our lives.We've spent the last 6 years as part of each others families.Last month she just stopped talking to me.Out of nowhere.I tried to be a good friend ,always.I have no idea why this happened & even my children are upset now .Which realy makes me angry.
I guess we weren't as close as I thought.Hurts some though.Especially because she's always right there when I leave my house.
Anyway,thanks for listening to my rant.I feel a little better now.

Bryce
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Thursday, August 31, 2006 6:01 AM

ZEEK

I have friends like that where they're cool people and all but we just don't mix well. I mean my close friends I can hold converstations with for hours with no problems. Some other people though we can't go 10 seconds without hitting an awkward pause. I have a few of those types of friends and I always have to be sure never to go do anything with just a group of them.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 8:05 AM

Posted this for the Forsaken. Finally named my pony.

And her name is Ginny. Short (Heh) for Ginger.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 8:06 AM

BUMP!

I do because I like it.

Problem?

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 8:19 AM

I need to get some stickers for my car...just haven't done it yet.
That looks good, NVG!

It is kinda quiet today...

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 8:22 AM

KELKHIL

People are falling asleep over at the Forsaken Slumber Party. Oh the marker fun goodness!

Kelkhil

The shirtless Forsaken

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 8:31 AM

NV- When GND asks what I know she will ask...your answer had just better be YES!!!!!! Or I may need to bap you again:) Repeat after me" I deserve happiness in any form it takes"

Wow busy day today...already have a nice request for cutodians. One of my kids played with the locking button on the new filing cabinet ( which I don't have keys to) and now the cabinet is locked and I can't open it:)

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 8:35 AM

Get ahold of Atrtcat. She's got GREAT stuff. Should see some of her paintings. Fantastic.

Better break out the magic markers for the Forsaken.

And my weapon of choice is:
The Sharpie Retractable.

ADD: MSG- Is it always neccessary to answer in words? Okay, might be smart to vocalize answers to her. Don't need any miscommunication these days.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 8:46 AM

NV-yes sometimes we need the words as well as the actions( though, if the actions are good, whoopie!!!)

Yes I have my lovely multi colored magic markers and my set of heated turreens for the catering of the forsaken sleepover:) Everyone's invited.

I choose to rise instead of fall- U2

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:04 AM

Okay. So I see her reading a crap load of Gorram romance novels. Thumbing through, I can't stand them. Drama, biulding tension, sex, then some teisted ending. Just don't get the attraction.

Romance novels are to real romance as porn is to real sex. Sure, they seem to serve the same purpose, but it is merely a fantasy.
I've heard it explained as having likened effects to men and women. Men can get into porn because of the visual aspect. Women can get into the novels because of the cerebral aspect.

I want romance and all, but this is the real world. It just ain't happenin' 24 seven. I guess in little doses throughout the day is fine.

Think I need to work on my fantasy world more. Kinda lost touch with it lately.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:09 AM

I really like some romance novels. The kids with well developed characters and a great non romance related story. For me those are basically a great story with romance as a part of it...NV you should Try one of J.D. Robb's books it's futuristic cop drama( incredibly well written and great character development over a series) I got MisterG to read them and he really likes them:)

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:11 AM

NVG, thanks for the email!

MSG, those locking filing cabinets are a hoot to get into if you don't have a key! It'll require a drill with a rather large drillbit and a bit of patience, but it can be done!

Oh, NVG, MSG is right...you deserve happiness!

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:17 AM

J D Robb, AKA Nora Roberts. Might give it a try. I loved the romance involved with Larry McMurty until Brokeback.
Made me second guess the relationship between Woodrow Call and Gus Mcrae. Still plenty pissed over that one!

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:18 AM

NV - I'm a little behind on the times, having missed several threads... who's GND? (other than the woman who is madly in love with your greatness and just waiting for the chance to play out her romantic fantasies on you... that part I worked out for myself

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:23 AM

MAVOURNEEN

Quote:
Originally posted by msg:
One of my kids played with the locking button on the new filing cabinet ( which I don't have keys to) and now the cabinet is locked and I can't open it:)

MsG- I had this problem, too. Look at the lock itself and see if it has any numbers on it. Then, call locksmiths in your area, explain the problem, give him/her the number and see if they have that number key on file. (It has to be the kind of place that makes keys, not just opens your car door.)

I did this, and $2 later had myself a new key.

*And by the way, thanks for your advice on my tidbit. He (I) survived his first day of kindergarden, and he loves it. I was a little nauseous Monday, but it passed as soon as I drove away from his school!

"Have you ever been with a Warrior Woman?"

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:28 AM

Mavourneen, love the sig! Would you mind if I borrowed that? I won't use it here, but I have a few friends who would find that hi-larious!

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:31 AM

ZEEK

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Originally posted by mal4prez:
NV - I'm a little behind on the times, having missed several threads... who's GND?

I'm not 100% sure but my guess is GND stands for Girl Next Door. I can't think of what else it would stand for.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:34 AM

DESKTOPHIPPIE

The two most romantic books I've ever read are The Amber Spyglass (third book in His Dark Materials trilogy) by Philip Pullman and The Red Tent by Anita Diamant. They're also cracking stories to read. Yes, you'll have to read the first two His Darm Materials books first, but it is so very worth it.

Another good one is The Other Boleyn Girl by Phillipa Gregory which covers all kinds of love.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:34 AM

Ah-ha! That's what I was wondering, and had not the mental acuity to figure it out.

I kept thinking GND = ground, as in electronics. I'm so not an electrician. Weird, huh?

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:35 AM

MAVOURNEEN

Tristan- Borrow away! I saw a woman wearing this on a tshirt the other day, so decided to comb photobucket. Poof, there it was! I love Karma!

Here's another one, blinky style.

"Have you ever been with a Warrior Woman?"

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:37 AM

Thank you, Mavourneen!

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 9:38 AM

KELKHIL

DTH - Quick! PR is asleep at the slumber party in the Forsaken thread. Oh yeah, Tristan just brought over a whole cart of markers!

*bolts back to the slumber party*

Kelkhil

The shirtless Forsaken

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 10:10 AM

OK filing cabinet open now. Was forced to disable it's locking mechanism, but it's all good. NV- Try JD Robb you won't be sorry ...do skip the first book Naked in Death and start with Immortal in Death

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 10:14 AM

Already intruiged. Game of Death and Death Race 2000. Two movies I'd love to remake. So maybe books with death in the title could be worth trying.
On a brighter note: I got tomorrow off! Hooray!

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 11:13 AM

yippee for time off and all:) All of her titles are Death in ( something) its a great series ( can you tell I love it?)
Ok heading home and all:)

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 11:40 AM

Bye Bye MSG. Four day weekend. Wish I had more money. Reading Day by Day Armageddon by JL Bourne online. Or, at least the beginning of it.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 12:06 PM

RUGBUG

Happy four day NV!

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 12:14 PM

well folk's, I'm out. Damn storie has me a little scared. Written in journal form. Check it out.
http://www.tacticalunderground.us/journal1.htm
I love zombie flicks. Never read a zombie book, (writting one though. Ain't that odd).
Out for the weekend.
Love to all.
'Night.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 12:43 PM

EMMARIGBY

Oooh, are we talking romance novels? Trashy Mills & Boon Romances are my guilty secret vice. I call them junk food for the brain!

I was most distressed the other day when I got a junk e-mail from Mills & Boon. How did they find out?! Who told on me?

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 3:18 PM

JAMESTHEDARK

I'm an unabashed escapist. I usually carry around a fantasy novel in my coat pocket, for when I get laid up. Not much into the romance angle, more for the tragic romance. For example, I actually got choked up when I read the end of Temple of the Winds, which is mostly fantasy, but at that point, was talking about the protagonist giving the very last bit of his life to save the woman he loved. It ended up okay, and it wasn't the first time I'd read it, but for some reason, it just hit me. I guess I'm that kind of romantic...

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 3:43 PM

Still at work, though not for long.
Hello and goodbye.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 5:02 PM

JAMESTHEDARK

As for draining friends, I have one who I have to moderate my time with. He's a great guy, don't get me wrong, but his mind and thought processes just function at such a different wavelength than mine, and after a while, I just need to wind down for a mite.

I got others who don't drain on me nearly as much, but I seldom come into contact with them, either because they work, because they live fairly far away, or because they are Luddites (I kid you not).

Well, midnight. Time for sleeping now.

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Thursday, August 31, 2006 5:26 PM