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Originally posted by nvghostrider:
When six guys jumped me after gym class and none of them left school without help, that is what I consider the first. And the last.

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Originally posted by PhoenixRose:
RIMG, I... really can't express how violently I disagree with you, having seen so many emotions flood into so many young women who were not prepared for them. It ain't just a cliche that having sex can change you; in junior high and early high school, it is a dead-set fact. So, um, it's kind of irresponsible to say that it's not going to or 'doesn't have to' affect anyone's emotional state, because while someone older and more mature is much more able to deal with it and might not notice it because it won't be an abrupt rush... Well, if it's different for men... That would be upsetting, actually. I don't know what to think now.

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Originally posted by DesktopHippie:
Smashing the bottle against the bar was kinda cool though, now that I look back at it!

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Originally posted by RiverIsMyGoddess:
Ah, brotherly love. Of course, we are the best of friends today, and I think the fighting is at least partially to blame for that.

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Originally posted by RiverIsMyGoddess:
On to sex. I agree somewhat with what has been said. Fourteen is way too young to have kids, especially alone and without the help of adults and/or medical professionals. I think that protection should be used no matter when you start having sex. That being said, I think I have a bit of a different view when it comes to the actual act.

I think that people (at least here in the U.S., not sure about the others) take sex way too seriously. The main problem is equating it to emotions. Now, I am not saying that emotions cannot be involved, I am only saying that the physical act of sex solely for pleasure and satisfaction doesn't happen enough. People get attached, get dependent, and eventually drama can be caused, making both people upset and negating the positive effects of the act altogether. I am all for a more relaxed atmosphere when it comes to casual sex (though not unprotected, there are beasties out there that don't need to be shared). To reiterate once more, I think that protection is the only way to go, no matter what your feelings are on the timing of when you start doing it, and that teaching kids that is the best way to go. They are going to have sex, and that age is getting younger and younger. There is sex on TV, in the movies, hell, even in the daily news. They are going to see and know about it and the best thing to do is to make them aware of the consequences, both good and bad.

~Jimi
jimi dot spettel at gmail dot com
Self-Proclaimed Grand Vizier of Georgia

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Originally posted by DesktopHippie:
Smashing the bottle against the bar was kinda cool though, now that I look back at it!

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*bigass bear hugs for being in that situation and not losing your head*

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Also, I wanted to say that I have always wanted to do that, though if I could do it in a different situation it would be ideal.

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I think I am a hippie born 40 years too late. At least, I have come to that conclusion in recent times.

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Originally posted by ChrisMoorhead:
DesktopHippie - I got a hearty laugh forming an image of a sweet, innocent looking girl wielding a broken bottle. It's funny that you're so against violence, cause chances are you'd be really good at it with that type of mentality.

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Originally posted by DesktopHippie:
RIMG - you're welcome my dear!

I've never been able to seperate sex from my emotions. I take sex very seriously, mostly because I see it as something incredibly important. I strongly believe that when you have sex with someone, something of your souls is shared. Even if it's just a one night stand, something of that person becomes a part of you, and part of you is left with them.

I hasten to add this doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex. It's my very favourite passtime It just also means that I'm really choosy about who I sleep with and don't go for one night stands. If I'm going to wind up with a piece of someone's soul, I damn well want to get to know him first!

Some people can seperate sex from their emotions and some can't. The key is to recognise which category you fall into and protect yourself accordingly. I'm in the "can't" group, so I just have to make sure I'm protected emotionally as well as physically. It sounds complicated, but it's pretty simple if you're me

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Originally posted by Tristan:
RIMG. 6'6"....300lbs....I am also pleased to call you 'friend' as well....just let me know if that changes!

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Originally posted by DesktopHippie:
RIMG - it just sounds like you have a stronger barrier than usual between your mind and your emotions. Which is no bad thing in some ways as it leaves you better able to handle stuff that would some other people up completely.

I'm actually at the opposite end of the scale. I've been very emotional since I was little, and it drives me nuts. I can't just be happy or sad or angry or frustrated or in love - I feel it so completely it swamps me, which can make day to day events very difficult to deal with. Imagine trying to become a professional businessperson when you want to cry every time your boss gives out to you for messing something up!

It took me years to learn how to shut my strongest emotions out. (Weirdly, it was the one thing suffering from depression actually helped with!) I'm a lot better at it now than I was, but if I'm telling a sad story or even watching a sad movie I can still feel myself welling up sometimes. Half the time I'm not even upset! I just seem to get a strong, almost physical reaction to every emotion. It follows that dating me can be very annoying sometimes. I try to warn potential boyfriends in advance.

EDIT: Huh! Reading this back made it sound like I was referring to you as a potential boyfriend! I wasn't. Not that I'd be adverse to the prospect having seen your photo I was just making a general comment.

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