Gosh..... I just need to know..... by tatertot

Yeah its a scary thing....telling someone the way you feel about them. I'm really, really, REALLY sad right now....but I'm just so happy we can still be friends.

Also, thank you ecgordon for sharing, made me feel better to know I'm not alone.

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Sunday, June 1, 2008 3:11 PM

JOSSISAGOD

I know of one couple, who have fallen for each other on this site. they seem to be in a very normal relationship. So, it happens, but I don't know if it's the way to go for everyone. as to who the couple is, I'll let them reveal themselves to you, rather than come out for them.

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Sunday, June 1, 2008 4:29 PM

Heh, I could probably guess who that couple is....but I wont. I'll just wait and see if I was right.

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Sunday, June 1, 2008 4:40 PM

SHINY

I seem to recall a thread where several people professed their love to TWG a while back...if that's any comfort. :)

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Sunday, June 1, 2008 6:16 PM

KNIGHTREYEDER

Sorry to hear you're down Tatertot, let's hope it was for the better in the long run. Hasn't happened to this kid because I have a problem with rejection so I've never tried.

There's someone better out there for you and they just don't know it yet.

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Sunday, June 1, 2008 6:36 PM

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Originally posted by tatertot:
...if anyone else has ever fallen for someone they met on this site. Is it weird? Is it out of the norm? Has this ever happened to anyone else?
Well it has happened to me and I have recently told this person how I feel and I was rejected. We are still good friends and I'm thankful for that but I still feel like crap.

Urrrrr....I feel like such an idiot!

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Truthfully , I can't say that I've ever fallen for anyone 'round here , but I have told folk on occasion that they've made an impression on me...

Having said that , this ain't quite 'the real world' , but it can hurt all the same...

Even in the 'real world' , reality tends to be a commodity in short supply , and things just get weirder by the day...

I've got quite a few orbits on me , and I can tell you , it ain't the years that really wear on you , it's the miles...

Nevertheless , there's not a day that goes by that I don't meet an attractive woman some place , which tells me , there's more of 'em being made all the time...

But , the thing that really strikes to my core isn't just the outward appearance someone has , (though that's important , too) , but the inner sweetness that shines through...

Which means that folk have to meet on more than just one level...

Without a meeting of minds , there's no sense in taking it any further...It would just be a waste of time...

Now , you took a little risk , and with that , there's always a little chance that it won't work out the way that you envisioned...

That is something that probably truly happens to every single one of us...

If it didn't , now THAT would be weird...

One thing I know for sure , Tot , this 'Verse is a whole lot sweeter with you in it...

If I weren't a 'mean old man' , I'd be pleased to hear from someone exactly like you , (not that there's anyone , exactly like you) , and it would be a bright beginning...

You're going to find someone that suits you very well , you just may not find them here...

But , I would wager , they're going to be a Browncoat , anyway...

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Sunday, June 1, 2008 7:24 PM

SIGMANUNKI

Yes, I know at least one couple that is together because of meeting here. Though I won't speak for them because it isn't my place.

There has also been several 'singles' threads over the years. Checking the archives might reveal some people who got together literally using this site.

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Sunday, June 1, 2008 11:16 PM

SHINYGOODGUY

If its any consolation; you're a real cutie and someone will come along and find out just how special you are.

So SMILE!

Quote:
Originally posted by tatertot:
...if anyone else has ever fallen for someone they met on this site. Is it weird? Is it out of the norm? Has this ever happened to anyone else?
Well it has happened to me and I have recently told this person how I feel and I was rejected. We are still good friends and I'm thankful for that but I still feel like crap.

I need to know if I'm the only one this has happened to or if this happeneds all the time. Also I will not mention the persons name to save him the embarrasment.

Urrrrr....I feel like such an idiot!

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Sunday, June 1, 2008 11:25 PM

JEWELSTAITEFAN

In the firefly sense, I doubt anybody has had a "FALL" while on this sight...
Ahem. But assuming you're not using that term in the verse literation, recently a number of posters have professed their interest in Foster, who I think shunned them all successfully. I did not participate in professin'.
That's the closest incident I'm aware of.

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Monday, June 2, 2008 1:44 AM

THATWEIRDGIRL

Wow, Shiny has a good memory.

I know of multiple couples that developed out of this site or FF in general. Most didn't come here to find it. And more than a one came about because of a relationship ending and the people here being around to offer support...then grew the new feelings.

So, yes. It's happened. Quite a bit more than some folks know. I can think of 5 couples off the top of my head (self included). If I tried, I bet I could think of a dozen or more.

The problem with professing attraction to someone we meet online is that we don't really know their whole situation. Sure they come here for some sort of companionship, but the details of everyday are lost to us. It's hard to guess what will happen if you admit your feelings. It's safer just assume they are not looking for a partner.

....on the other hand sometimes you have to take a shot.

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Monday, June 2, 2008 2:40 AM

MANWITHPEZ

Important people don't do field work.

Heh...HA!

I'll admit to being involved in the "I Love TWG" thread. I didn't start it, and I wasn't looking for anything at the time.

She offers good advice on this subject, and to whit...it was a good deal more difficult than it needed to be. In and of itself, this site is NOT real life, much like the rest of the internet, so, you don't know what the real situation of anything is. It takes a good deal of trust and loyalty to believe without fault in the person you have a thing for. I've been burned, and I've survived and things have turned out very, very okay.

The point to all this is to view it like an exercise in operational risk management. Does the risk outweigh the benefit? If it does, then you're probably looking at trouble. If it works the other way, then you might be looking at something incredible, but the execution in such matters can be problematic. You have to ask yourself if it really, really is worth the hassle. And, there will be hassle.

Also...there will be people crawling out the woodwork to offer advice on this subject. Examine it carefully. Then make your own decisions.

Or, just gun it. That's what I did, and it worked out great!

Kaylee: "What's so damn important about being proper? It don't mean nothing out here in the black."
Simon: "It means more out here. It's all I have..."

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Monday, June 2, 2008 3:31 AM

ARTCAT81

In this day and age meeting someone on the internet is increasingly acceptable way of meeting that special someone.

I can think of at least one couple that met on here. In the 76th, which has only been around for a year now, has two engaged couples that met through us, and at least one other couple I can think of. Bubblecats chat over at serenitymovie.org has similar stories. In my local crew, we have already had one wedding.

Hang in there, and dont be embarressed, you stepped out on a limb, that takes guts.

Browncoats are the shiniest folks in the 'verse
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Monday, June 2, 2008 5:37 AM

MAL4PREZ

Tatertot -

A few years ago, just before a dance performance, the director/choreographer said something I'll never forget: Making yourself vulnerable is one of the hardest things to do, and one the most admirable. That struck a chord with me, because like a lot of people I've always viewed vulnerability as thing to be avoided at all costs. Not so - if I keep myself closed, I'll never really be alive. As an artist, or as a human being.

The risk you took in talking to this person is something you should be proud of. It shows that you have courage and deep feelings that you aren't afraid to own. A lot of folks live their whole lives without doing something so scary.

So good on you! I'm sorry it ended sad, but you certainly have nothing to be down on youself for. I hope you never become afraid of taking such risks!

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Monday, June 2, 2008 12:33 PM

TILLIESONG

What Mal4Prez said is true, and really important.

You did an incredibly brave thing to open your heart to someone, and to tell the person how you felt. I'm very proud of you for being so brave and honest, both with yourself and with another person.

I'm very sorry that you are suffering right now. The good news is that it will get better. Not right this minute, and not all of a sudden, but day by bay, little by little it will feel a little less awful, until you'll feel a little better and then a little better than that. And the whole time you're healing from this hurt, there will be people who care about you, who are on your side, who want you on their crews and in their chat rooms and in their lives. I'm one of them, mei mei. And I offer you whatever comfort you can find from my friendship. And that's real.

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Monday, June 2, 2008 1:36 PM

SPACEVIKING

I have no courage when it comes to expressing my feelings for others. It took me a year to open myself up and tell my current girlfriend how i felt about her i was lucky to find she had also liked me for that whole year but didnt say anything either. We both felt really stupid afterwards but are doing great. So i respect that you were able to express yourself.

the day i found out firefly was over

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Monday, June 2, 2008 4:36 PM

Wow. I did try and post something that had alittle message to each and everyone of you...but it didn't post and I can't think of what I put.

And I'm too lazy to try again!

So I will say just say: Thank you all for your time and your kind words! It makes me feel alot better! And I'm telling the truth when I say that all yee shiny browncoats are like family!

(also as to the couple thing I was thinking of TWG an MWP! haha)

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Monday, June 2, 2008 8:40 PM

HUGHFF

There're lots of nice people on here giving all sorts of life affirming advice. I'm not really one of them.

You struck out. It happens - no-one bats 1.000. It doesn't mean you're out of the game, just this innings. Step up again, have another swing. You'll never score until you do.

I hadn't intended a baseball metaphor (what I know about the game you could write on a fly's eye with a chunk of charcoal and still have room for postage) but it actually works, doesn't it?

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Wednesday, June 4, 2008 12:24 AM

UPPERSON

Can't say I have, but I met plenty of nice and interesting people here, of which you are definitely one tater!

It is a hard one, but you will live to fall again!

This is just a personal opinion; but feeling something is better than feeling nothing at all. If you close yourself off when you get hurt, you lose more than you win!

That was my preachified moment for the day! Good luck tater, and see you around!

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Friday, June 6, 2008 8:24 PM

PHOENIXROSE

You think you know--what's to come, what you are. You haven't even begun.

Yes, I did. And it seemed to be going smoothly for a bit, too. He recently decided otherwise, though, so I definitely relate on the feeling like crap. Sorry to hear I'm not the only one.

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Saturday, June 7, 2008 2:36 AM

RIGOL

I've only just joined, so no I haven't fallen for anyone.

I probably could, though! I've certainly fallen in love with Firefly and Srenity, having only seen them over the past two months for the first time. It realy cuts me up to know that it never went any further. I even just bought the role playing game, so might get some friends together and continue the magic!

Mike

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Saturday, June 7, 2008 2:36 AM

STEAMER

I don't know that I've really fallen for anyone on here. Been mildly attracted to some, sure, esp. when viewing those photo threads....

but there's always some circumstance to preclude anything more, not to mention the common one, that I've had a couple of really, REALLY bad experiences I ain't keen to repeat.

You know something, though, when you find someone who's attractive you might start searching for something you have in common with that person so you can break the ice and get to know them better. Here on FFF, we don't have to search for that something because we already have it: we all love Firefly! So that streamlines things a bit. If I ever attempt to date again, however unlikely that is, I doubt if I would date anyone who wasn't either already a Browncoat, or open to conversion. So this is as good a place as any - there are, as has been stated, a goodly number of couples formed through FFF who are happier than they ever thought they could be.

Most everyone here knows I'm pretty gorram cynical about love, but that don't give me leave to trash everyone else's hopes and dreams. So keep your hopes up and good luck! I started a new singles thread a while back but it died pretty quickly. Shall I go excavate it for ya?

Cynicism aside, even though I'm one of those guys they break up with after the first date and don't want back - I'm still hopeful, however dimly, of finding a River. If it happens, it happens. If it happens here, so much the better.

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Saturday, June 7, 2008 2:43 AM

Tater! This has never happened to me......I do'nt have a life.

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Saturday, June 7, 2008 6:03 AM

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Tater! This has never happened to me......I do'nt have a life.

You don't have a spell-checker , either...

Try getting a proper education in writing , grammar , punctuation , and English , and don't keep participating in arguments with folk , then you'll have a shot at getting a life...

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Saturday, June 7, 2008 7:09 AM

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Originally posted by whozit:
Tater! This has never happened to me......I do'nt have a life.

You don't have a spell-checker , either...

Try getting a proper education in writing , grammar , punctuation , and English , and don't keep participating in arguments with folk , then you'll have a shot at getting a life...

Dear OUT2THEBLACK; BITE ME! Love WHOZIT

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Saturday, June 7, 2008 8:21 AM

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Originally posted by whozit:

Dear OUT2THEBLACK; BITE ME! Love WHOZIT

See , now that's what we mean about your anti-social talents...

Your talent for alienatin' folk is near-miraculous...But , you ain't no Doctor...

Now we can add 'gender-identity' issues to your list of ills...

Whatever it was you were wanting bitten , has not shown up...

This is why we don't like to dispense advice to folk like you...

In the first place , the wise don't need it...But , the stupid won't heed it...

Try to keep it kindly , Bud...There are Ladies and girl-folk about , and you wouldn't want to make a wrong impression...

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Saturday, June 7, 2008 1:48 PM

STEAMER

Both of you stop. You'll scare the women.

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Saturday, June 7, 2008 3:19 PM

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Both of you stop. You'll scare the women.

No worries...The ones I run with don't scare easily...

The ones that do...that's called 'hysteria'.

Quaint !

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Sunday, June 8, 2008 2:29 AM

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Originally posted by whozit:

Dear OUT2THEBLACK; BITE ME! Love WHOZIT

See , now that's what we mean about your anti-social talents...

Your talent for alienatin' folk is near-miraculous...But , you ain't no Doctor...

Now we can add 'gender-identity' issues to your list of ills...
Please forgive my bad grammar. anti-social talents, bad spelling, etc. I guess people who only made has far as high school are not welcome here, and the only welcome threads are "Gee is'nt Firefly Niffty!" From now on I'll stick to bland dull subjects, not one's that start a debate.

Whatever it was you were wanting bitten , has not shown up...

This is why we don't like to dispense advice to folk like you...

In the first place , the wise don't need it...But , the stupid won't heed it...

Try to keep it kindly , Bud...There are Ladies and girl-folk about , and you wouldn't want to make a wrong impression...

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Sunday, June 8, 2008 2:42 AM

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Quote:
Originally posted by whozit:

Dear OUT2THEBLACK; BITE ME! Love WHOZIT

See , now that's what we mean about your anti-social talents...

Your talent for alienatin' folk is near-miraculous...But , you ain't no Doctor...

Now we can add 'gender-identity' issues to your list of ills...

Whatever it was you were wanting bitten , has not shown up...

This is why we don't like to dispense advice to folk like you...

In the first place , the wise don't need it...But , the stupid won't heed it...

Try to keep it kindly , Bud...There are Ladies and girl-folk about , and you wouldn't want to make a wrong impression...

It's my ass I want you to bite but that can wait. I want to say I'm sorry for my bad grammar, spelling, anti- social talents, etc. You some others have made it clear that people who have not gone beyond college ar'nt welcome here. High School grads who post threads I guess should post dull bland threads like, "Is'nt Firefly Niffty?" and stay away from subects like "Get off FOX". I'll leave the hard stuff to smart people like you.

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Sunday, June 8, 2008 2:53 AM

FOSTER

Haven't expressed an interest so much as just complemented my facade. Besides I am already attached.

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Sunday, June 8, 2008 6:31 AM

Hey! No fighting on my thread you two!

Also to Steamer, no don't exavate it, I didn't really come here to find a date. Infact I never thought I would like anyone I met on the internets. But I see now that it happends, so, I don't feel so bad...

Once again, thank you for your time and advice everyone!

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Sunday, June 8, 2008 7:38 AM

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Hey! No fighting on my thread you two!

Also to Steamer, no don't exavate it, I didn't really come here to find a date. Infact I never thought I would like anyone I met on the internets. But I see now that it happends, so, I don't feel so bad...

Once again, thank you for your time and advice everyone!

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Sorry tater.

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Sunday, June 8, 2008 11:28 AM

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Originally posted by tatertot:
Hey! No fighting on my thread you two!

Once again, thank you for your time and advice everyone!

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Thanks , Tate...

Sorry , I didn't mean to intrude with that little scrap , but this 'WatZit' has a little
hit-and-run guerilla warfare strategy...

There's quite a history there , with the thread-sabotage and the nasty remarks when it doesn't go his way , and we should encourage those anti-social and uncivilized folk to just hang out in 'Troll Country', and keep one another company...

I hope you're feeling better these days , mei-mei !

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Sunday, June 8, 2008 12:06 PM

Tis ok. I'm not mad at either of you!

I have been feeling better. Thank you for caring!

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