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Cops use pepper spray on 8 year old during tantrum

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 7:46 AM

CANTTAKESKY


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Colorado police are defending their decision to pepper spray a crazed 8-year-old after the boy threw a violent tantrum in his classroom and threatened people with a sharp weapon.

The boy, identified only as Aiden, had been threatening, spitting and cursing at teachers in his second grade classroom in Lakewood, Colo., on Feb. 22 when schools officials called the cops.

When police arrived, the pint-sized perp was wielding a sharp piece of wood trim he had torn off the wall and was trying to stab teachers with it, cops said.

"I wanted to make something sharp if they came out because I was so mad at them," the boy later told Colorado's KUSA television. "I was going to try to whack them with it."

Cops ordered the boy to drop the stick, but the boy refused, shouting, "Get away from me you f---ers!" police said.

Officer then sprayed the boy with two doses of pepper spray and handcuffed him.

Aiden's mom, identified as Mandy, said that the boy had anger issues and that it was the third time teachers had called the cops after one of his tantrums.

Police spokesman Steve Davis defended the police.

"Our officers had to do something to diffuse the situation in a hurry before someone got hurt," Davis told KUSA.

"I think the officers made a great choice that day in choosing the pepper spray," he added.

Aiden's mom said her son was treated like "a common criminal."

"I'm sure what he was doing wasn't right, but he's 8 years old," she told the station.

Mandy said the boy was transferred to a school with behavior problems and had been seeing a doctor.

"I got like anger things," Aiden said. "It's just who I am. I think it's not ever going to go away."





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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 8:14 AM

OLDENGLANDDRY


Cant wait till he gets his first gun.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 8:35 AM

HARDWARE


Let's see which would make a better headline...

Cops use taser on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use billyclub on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use tonfa on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use nightstick on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use tear gas on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops pistol whip 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops gun down 8 year old during tantrum.

I kind of like gun down. Makes it seem all macho and exciting.

If there is a wrongful party it should be his parents for not raising a child who knows how to control their anger. Second place finishers in the blame game are the teachers, for calling the police in the first place. Third place goes to society at large for creating an environment where teachers and administrators are not allowed to lay on hands when a child gets disruptive.

The police used their least restrictive means to control the situation. But it isn't something that they should have been called in on.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 8:38 AM

HERO


Quote:

Originally posted by canttakesky:
Aiden's mom said her son was treated like "a common criminal."


Actually he was treated like an little kid who was out of control and brandishing a dangerous weapon. They tried to talk him down then resorted to the spray as a safe means of regaining control of a situation where he could have hurt himself or someone else.

A common criminal would have had less talky-talky more zappy-zappy.

H

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 11:17 AM

AURAPTOR

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Lil' man needed his meds. Poor thing.


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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 11:24 AM

DREAMTROVE


Nice to know we have our trustworthy supporters of violence against children.

ETA: Rap hadn't posted yet. I'm going to say he would be right except that I oppose drugging children. He probably need to not be locked in a prison at the time. He needed to get out and vent on a soccer ball.

That's what a ship is, you know - it's not just a keel and a hull and a deck and sails, that's what a ship needs.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 1:17 PM

KWICKO

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Originally posted by Hardware:
Let's see which would make a better headline...

Cops use taser on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use billyclub on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use tonfa on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use nightstick on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use tear gas on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops pistol whip 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops gun down 8 year old during tantrum.

I kind of like gun down. Makes it seem all macho and exciting.




Imagine my surprise to find out that you favor gunning down children.

"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 1:19 PM

KWICKO

"We'll know our disinformation program is complete when everything the American public believes is false." -- William Casey, Reagan's presidential campaign manager & CIA Director (from first staff meeting in 1981)


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Originally posted by dreamtrove:
Nice to know we have our trustworthy supporters of violence against children.

ETA: Rap hadn't posted yet. I'm going to say he would be right except that I oppose drugging children. He probably need to not be locked in a prison at the time. He needed to get out and vent on a soccer ball.

That's what a ship is, you know - it's not just a keel and a hull and a deck and sails, that's what a ship needs.




Well, to be fair, children are probably the only ones they're capable of beating up. As Hardware himself said, it makes it seem all macho and manly that way.

"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 2:06 PM

CANTTAKESKY


Quote:

Originally posted by Hardware:
The police used their least restrictive means to control the situation.

The least restrictive means was to wrap your arms around him, have another teacher pry the wood trim from his hands.

He's 8 years old. He's not that big or strong. Really.




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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 2:13 PM

RIONAEIRE

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On one hand, I would rather see them use pepper spray than a tazor. Obviously this kiddo was out of control. On the other and more sensable hand, I think they could have wrapped their arms around him and pryed the wooden shard out of his hands as Cant said. I do think though that if these problems are going on for this child that things need to change in the way he is being handled. I hope that at his new school they'll work on anger mannagement techniques etc. The sooner they get a handle on this behavior the better, we don't want him growing up to shoot up his school etc.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 2:47 PM

HARDWARE


Quote:

Originally posted by Kwicko:
Quote:

Originally posted by Hardware:
Let's see which would make a better headline...

Cops use taser on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use billyclub on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use tonfa on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use nightstick on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops use tear gas on 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops pistol whip 8 year old during tantrum.

Cops gun down 8 year old during tantrum.

I kind of like gun down. Makes it seem all macho and exciting.




Imagine my surprise to find out that you favor gunning down children.

"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill



As Kwicko falls into the sarCHASM.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 2:52 PM

HARDWARE


Quote:

Originally posted by canttakesky:
Quote:

Originally posted by Hardware:
The police used their least restrictive means to control the situation.

The least restrictive means was to wrap your arms around him, have another teacher pry the wood trim from his hands.

He's 8 years old. He's not that big or strong. Really.






Perfectly fine for me to do that. I've been trained to deal with mentally unstable adults, children and adolescents. The axiom that you fight the way you train so you should train the way you fight is undisputed. In the parlance of police training they had an armed suspect threatening physical harm to the officers and bystanders. Rolling around on the ground with a suspect is not the first intervention used.

As an added benefit I bet little Jayden or Hayden or whatever effeminate, not-a-real-boy's-name his messed up suburbanite parents saddled him with, will think twice before trying to act up in class.

The more I get to know people the more I like my dogs.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 2:57 PM

THEHAPPYTRADER


Kid needs a therapist, and this Doctor may or may not really qualify. But even with therapy, there's still the parent and teacher part of the equation.

As many of you know, I am now a private teacher (more of a therapist really) to children with Autism of Military families. One of the important parts of our ABA Therapy program is educating the parents (and oftentimes teachers) on how the therapy works, how to continue it and how to reinforce the desired behaviors while we are not there. Otherwise, (as I suspect may be the case here), they may revert as soon as the therapist is gone and the therapist gets to start all over each time with little to no progress.

Not that I'm assuming the media is doing anyone here justice, but I get the impression that the mother has either 'given up' or believes is out of her ability to deal with. The child seems to have concluded it is how he's meant to be. This is not the case, the violent tantrums are a means to achieve something, I'm guessing attention (of any kind) or 'escape' (avoiding an undesired activity).

If this kid has a documented disorder or disability there should have been a para-pro in the room to deal with this kind of a situation (or more likely to prevent it). Nasty situations like this could be a career ender if the teacher doesn't handle it just right and, wouldn't you know it, most teachers are better prepared to teach their curriculum than to deal with this kind of crap they ought not to have to worry about in the first place. When the shit hits the fan, teaching is a game of CYA. I don't blame them for calling the cops. If the teachers tried to handle it themselves the mother might very well be calling for them to be arrested. That probably wouldn't happen, but all it takes is an accusation in the teaching biz to ruin a career.

As for the cops, I don't have any experience or expertise in police work, so I can't comment other than to say I'm certainly glad the kid is not dead. I would like to think there might have been a more gentle approach, but I don't know what their options really were.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 3:36 PM

CANTTAKESKY


Quote:

Originally posted by Hardware:
In the parlance of police training they had an armed suspect threatening physical harm to the officers and bystanders. Rolling around on the ground with a suspect is not the first intervention used.

Then their training is wrong.

They should train police officers to intervene differently with young children and disabled people, suspects who obviously can be controlled with less restrictive force than an able-bodied adult.



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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 3:39 PM

CANTTAKESKY


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Originally posted by TheHappyTrader:
I would like to think there might have been a more gentle approach, but I don't know what their options really were.

Their option was to act like human beings instead of trained robots and use less force on the child than they did. Yes, that really is an option, to treat a child with less force than you would treat an armed adult.

He was 8 years old, and he had a wood trim. Yes, a piece of wood that at worst, could scratch you. Where is everyone's common sense?




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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 4:16 PM

DREAMTROVE


Mike,

That was pretty funny.


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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 4:22 PM

ANTHONYT

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Quote:

Originally posted by canttakesky:
Quote:

Originally posted by TheHappyTrader:
I would like to think there might have been a more gentle approach, but I don't know what their options really were.

Their option was to act like human beings instead of trained robots and use less force on the child than they did. Yes, that really is an option, to treat a child with less force than you would treat an armed adult.

He was 8 years old, and he had a wood trim. Yes, a piece of wood that at worst, could scratch you. Where is everyone's common sense?






Hello,

A sharp piece of wood can stab deep into your body, pierce an artery, and kill you. Or impale an eye.

That having been said, I think I'd have risked personal injury rather than unleash the spray. Still, no matter what, it'd have been a terrible headline.

Eight years old. And so clear about his anger.

I wonder what the root of that is?

--Anthony



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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 6:27 PM

FREMDFIRMA



Huh, only Anthony asked the question which occured to me first, why ?
Cause factually most of ya don't care, you simply ASSUME wrong on behalf of the child cause you CAN, cause the kid certaintly can't call you out on it, and rarely will any adult, will they ?

And that's if you don't assume worse - Hardware, YOU in particular need to fucking educate yourself you dimwitted prick. (1)

WHO IS THE SERIOUS, VIOLENT, HABITUAL OFFENDER?
http://www.vachss.com/av_dispatches/lifestyle.html

All that kid is gonna learn from this is might-makes-right, and superior force gets to make the rules.
And soon enough he'll learn that two pounds of lead throwing steel in his hand happens to be an effective enforcer of HIS will, putting him at the top of the heap.
To quote Vachss...
Quote:

This is a learned response. People are not born like this.

And right then and there, that's when and how they learn it.

The force-resistance-more-force model DOES NOT WORK, on children, unless your intent is to turn them into monsters, or self-destructive timebombs waiting to happen.

This had little to do with safety, and everthing to do with power, ego and control - on BOTH ends of the engagement, all three if you include the cops, cause generally with tantrum behavior the proper response is to get out of the immediate vicinity and wait them out, but since egos were involved the adults chose to lower themselves and engage in their need to "win" a situation to validate their supposed authority to themselves.
That's asinine, and as juvenille in it's own way as the behavior of the eight year old, you ask me.

Other than that we don't really know the details, so there's no point in speculating - although I will say that at the same age I committed substantially more violence and the cause for it was far more justified than you know, instead of flame and blame the adults should be looking into WHY the kid acts out, and I don't mean by conveniently blaming the school or parents as scapegoat, but find out what the exact motivation behind that behavior is, be it neurological, environmental, behavioral, or other - but it's just so easy to simply decry "Obey, OR ELSE" and bring superior force, isn't it now ?

And one good look at our immensely fucked up society and politics damn well OUGHT to give you some clue of where that fuckin stupidity leads.

-Frem

(1) Yes Hardware, I phrased it like that deliberately - if you don't like the way it tastes when it's served to you, than perhaps you should think twice about handing it out, who are YOU to judge someone by their name (what are you, five ?!) impugn their sexuality, and insult their parents just because you seem to think an irate eight year old has no cause to be irate, despite how our society (as you so aptly and perfectly demonstrate!) treats them and other youth.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 8:17 PM

RIONAEIRE

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Its true that we don't know the background behind this situation. But I'm thinking of the other kids here, one of them could have been hurt because, yes, a wooden shard can kill someone, you can kill someone with a pencil for goodness sake and they aren't even all that sharp most of the time. Things have to improve for this kid, anger mannagement wise, behavior wise, chemical wise, familial influence wise or whatever is going on behind the scenes because this behavior in class (sorry Frem) can't continue. I agree completely that someone needs to be working on what the underlying problem is and finding sometechniques for improving things so the kid feels better and is able to express his feelings more apropriately. For all we know the kid may have very good reasons to be pissed, but it still isn't okay to up and behave this way in a room full of people.

I know what Happy means about the police, I don't think it was the most desirable option either, but you know that if the teacher had tried to intervene she would have probably been arrested, people are so picky these days about things, not saying that's good or bad, just saying they are so picky.

And Aidan (a name that is attributed to Ireland but is very anglicized in spelling etc.) is a fairly common name for little boys, occasionally, actually very rarely, you'll see a girl called Aidan according to baby books but I've yet to meet a girl called Aidan.

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Wednesday, April 6, 2011 9:18 PM

NEWOLDBROWNCOAT


saw this on the news this AM. They were interviewing the kid, after the fact. My daughter, age 25 and the mother of an 8 month old, whose judgement I trust more than my own, watched the kid and said, "He shows no remorse, no contrition even now, after it all. He's a sociopath, and going to grow up to be a serious criminal." From what I saw on the TV, neither he nor his Mother learned anything from this, and by defending him, his mother is enabling him to grow up a sociopath.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 12:30 AM

FREMDFIRMA



Oh I don't disagree that public school isn't equipped to handle that, for the most part - things have come at least a LITTLE down the road from when I went to school, mind you...

While no one has spared the details of the situation, I figure his classmates displayed a wisdom his teachers didn't and got the hell out of dodge in a hurry, at which point all anyone really needed to do is shut the damn door - ok, yes, that would have prolly disrupted class for the day, but not any more than what DID happen, cause getting capsicum out of fabric and furnishings is a bitch, pity the poor janitor...

And meanwhile the teacher could have taken the opportunity to demonstrate a manner of handling the situation other than might makes right, set an example, you know ?

And while waiting for the child to wind down, you have the administration call his parents, advise them of the situation and point out that this CANNOT continue, and help them seek other options.
In short, you do your *job* as an educator and/or administrator - rather than acting like a prison warden.

Too many adults seem to think you can't reason with a child, they resort to "Because I said so!" and then back it up with escalating force, which IMHO reduces them to the SAME level of petty irrationality, and the only difference is due to social classism and superior force.
SOMEONE has to be mature and rational about it, and shouldn't it be the adult ?

I also call into question the judgement of an educator who doesn't seem to know that provoking or threatfully engaging a child in tantrum is utterly the WORST possible means of handling it, because they really should damn well know better.

-Frem

I do not serve the Blind God.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 1:43 AM

DREAMTROVE


I noticed the beginning of the story was missing. But even if there was nothing provoking this kid, and this isn't taken out of context, and say he just went nuts, then I'm afraid the lesson this teaches the kid is "you need a bigger weapon"


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Thursday, April 7, 2011 2:22 AM

HARDWARE


Quote:

Originally posted by canttakesky:
Quote:

Originally posted by Hardware:
In the parlance of police training they had an armed suspect threatening physical harm to the officers and bystanders. Rolling around on the ground with a suspect is not the first intervention used.

Then their training is wrong.

They should train police officers to intervene differently with young children and disabled people, suspects who obviously can be controlled with less restrictive force than an able-bodied adult.

Their option was to act like human beings instead of trained robots and use less force on the child than they did. Yes, that really is an option, to treat a child with less force than you would treat an armed adult.

He was 8 years old, and he had a wood trim. Yes, a piece of wood that at worst, could scratch you. Where is everyone's common sense?


More training time, more costs, higher taxes, no municipality has infinite resources. You train your people for the most likely scenario. And as has been stated elsewhere, the piece of wood could have caused a serious injury and was remotely capable of causing a death.

But this goes back to my original question, why were the police involved? If you want to get your knickers in a twist over the police response, don't call them to handle a misbehaving 8 year old. Teachers or school administrators could have handled this and CNN wouldn't have had more fodder for the beast.

The more I get to know people the more I like my dogs.

...and he that has no sword, let him sell his garment, and buy one. Luke 22:36

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 3:07 AM

CANTTAKESKY


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Originally posted by AnthonyT:
A sharp piece of wood can stab deep into your body, pierce an artery, and kill you. Or impale an eye.

Yes, indeed, if it were wielded by Rambo. Or some convict in prison. Or crazy cat lady. Or someone who is actually full-size and strong.

I have small kids around that age. Not one of them could more than scratch me with a sharp piece of wood. Esp if I were actually trained in physical combat. (It's called dodging.)



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Thursday, April 7, 2011 3:11 AM

CANTTAKESKY


Quote:

Originally posted by Hardware:
More training time, more costs, higher taxes, no municipality has infinite resources. You train your people for the most likely scenario.

It doesn't cost that much more to add this sentence to their training manual:

"When dealing with disabled people or small, prepubescent children, use your common sense on the minimum force required to control the suspect. They are not enemy combatants, and you are allowed to use much less force to control the situation than with able-bodied adults."





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Thursday, April 7, 2011 3:24 AM

CANTTAKESKY


Quote:

Originally posted by AnthonyT:
I wonder what the root of that is?

Right.

The news reports don't give us sufficient information to ascertain this, so anything we say is wild and baseless speculation. However, it is clear that he needs extra special help.

NOBC, I don't think kids are born sociopaths. I believe some people can turn into sociopaths more easily than others, but given a non-abusive upbringing, that outcome can be avoided. I don't think it is too late for this kid to learn to deal with his frustration and anger.

I hesitated to speculate wildly and baselessly. But if I had to, I would guess (wildly and baselessly) that the kid has some sort of neurological pathology (like sensory processing disorder or bipolar disorder) combined with possible abuse (it may be subtle and mild).

Again without knowing anything factual about the case, I would recommend a full neuro and occupational therapy workup, followed by family therapy and occupational therapy. I wouldn't try meds just yet, though that is probably what this kid would end up with first.

ETA: Just watched the video. He only has tantrums like this in school, which suggests to me whatever pathological dynamic there is is between him and the teachers. He is a prime candidate for homeschooling.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 3:34 AM

GEEZER

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Quote:

Originally posted by canttakesky:
"When dealing with disabled people or small, prepubescent children, use your common sense on the minimum force required to control the suspect. They are not enemy combatants, and you are allowed to use much less force to control the situation than with able-bodied adults."



I suspect the police involved consider that they did use the minimum force required to subdue the kid without anyone being injured. Since you weren't there, how can you determine that their actions were or weren't appropriate?

"Keep the Shiny side up"

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 4:09 AM

CANTTAKESKY


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Originally posted by Geezer:
I suspect the police involved consider that they did use the minimum force required to subdue the kid without anyone being injured.

Pepper spray IS an injury, albeit a temporary one for most people.

https://secure.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/wiki/Pepper_spray

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Since you weren't there, how can you determine that their actions were or weren't appropriate?
Common sense. Anyone who has had small kids knows grownups can restrain an 8 year old, wood trim or not, with physical force applied by one or two adults.

He is 8. He had a wood trim. The use of and injury with pepper spray is excessive for this situation.

This was not about minimum force to control the situation. This was about sufficient force to punish the child for his tantrum. It was "If you don't calm down on your own, we're going to spank you with pepper spray."

ETA: On the video, the mom said they didn't try to talk to him. If that is true, it is an egregious error on their part. They give hostage takers more respect. It supports my suspicion that this engagement was about punishing a "bad kid who needs to be taught a lesson" (as it were) and not about preventing injury.




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Thursday, April 7, 2011 5:49 AM

HARDWARE


Quote:

Originally posted by canttakesky:
Common sense. Anyone who has had small kids knows grownups can restrain an 8 year old, wood trim or not, with physical force applied by one or two adults.

He is 8. He had a wood trim. The use of and injury with pepper spray is excessive for this situation.

This was not about minimum force to control the situation. This was about sufficient force to punish the child for his tantrum. It was "If you don't calm down on your own, we're going to spank you with pepper spray."

ETA: On the video, the mom said they didn't try to talk to him. If that is true, it is an egregious error on their part. They give hostage takers more respect. It supports my suspicion that this engagement was about punishing a "bad kid who needs to be taught a lesson" (as it were) and not about preventing injury.


You keep circling this, but I'm going to call you out on it. If more force than physical restraint was not needed, then why were the police called?

Seems to me that you want to point the finger of blame at the police. I think it should be pointed at the teacher, school staff and administration and the parents. The child is not expected to be in control of himself, he is a minor. But those other people have the responsibility to teach him self control and they have failed so far.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 5:58 AM

ANTHONYT

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Originally posted by Hardware:
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Originally posted by canttakesky:
Common sense. Anyone who has had small kids knows grownups can restrain an 8 year old, wood trim or not, with physical force applied by one or two adults.

He is 8. He had a wood trim. The use of and injury with pepper spray is excessive for this situation.

This was not about minimum force to control the situation. This was about sufficient force to punish the child for his tantrum. It was "If you don't calm down on your own, we're going to spank you with pepper spray."

ETA: On the video, the mom said they didn't try to talk to him. If that is true, it is an egregious error on their part. They give hostage takers more respect. It supports my suspicion that this engagement was about punishing a "bad kid who needs to be taught a lesson" (as it were) and not about preventing injury.


You keep circling this, but I'm going to call you out on it. If more force than physical restraint was not needed, then why were the police called?

Seems to me that you want to point the finger of blame at the police. I think it should be pointed at the teacher, school staff and administration and the parents. The child is not expected to be in control of himself, he is a minor. But those other people have the responsibility to teach him self control and they have failed so far.

The more I get to know people the more I like my dogs.

...and he that has no sword, let him sell his garment, and buy one. Luke 22:36




Hello,

It seems fairly plain to me that the police were called in to shift liability in case there was an incident.

--Anthony



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Thursday, April 7, 2011 6:10 AM

BYTEMITE


I'd agree with that, Anthony.

I actually have some reason to doubt that eight adults can restrain a child.

wasn't really sure what to think about this story, without knowing the cause or the why the kid's behaviour was seeming a little excessive. On the other hand, the kid's response, for me, is what lends the most credence to the idea that this was more about putting someone into their place. Paraphrased: "My mom says I've been bad. So now I have to go to a special school."

Apparently, that is what this kid learned from this experience.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 8:01 AM

KANEMAN


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Originally posted by Kwicko:
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Originally posted by dreamtrove:
Nice to know we have our trustworthy supporters of violence against children.

ETA: Rap hadn't posted yet. I'm going to say he would be right except that I oppose drugging children. He probably need to not be locked in a prison at the time. He needed to get out and vent on a soccer ball.

That's what a ship is, you know - it's not just a keel and a hull and a deck and sails, that's what a ship needs.




Well, to be fair, children are probably the only ones they're capable of beating up. As Hardware himself said, it makes it seem all macho and manly that way.

"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill




Kinda funny, you and tough talk. There is not an ounce of doubt that I(black woman) would beat the fuck out of you(gay white male) in seconds if ever in the same room together. Problem is we can never be in the same room together. You hang around in bathhouses and I prefer pubs....stright is straight, gay is gay, and never the twain shall meet.....

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 8:05 AM

KANEMAN


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Originally posted by AnthonyT:
A sharp piece of wood can stab deep into your body, pierce an artery, and kill you. Or impale an eye.

Yes, indeed, if it were wielded by Rambo. Or some convict in prison. Or crazy cat lady. Or someone who is actually full-size and strong.

I have small kids around that age. Not one of them could more than scratch me with a sharp piece of wood. Esp if I were actually trained in physical combat. (It's called dodging.)






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Thursday, April 7, 2011 8:55 AM

CANTTAKESKY


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Originally posted by Bytemite:
I actually have some reason to doubt that eight adults can restrain a child.

I understand when kids get rageful like that, it is kind of like an unbroken horse bucking.

I understand that sometimes, it may not be easy to wrap your arms around a child so charged. It may not be easy to pursue some other method of control, such as negotiate or wait until he calms down. But sometimes we need to do what is hard and inconvenient to spare damage and injury to a human being. Esp a child.

Their response was to break this child. Put him in his place, as you so aptly said. Violence was expedient, so they used it, regardless of cost.

I am disturbed, maybe even angry, that there are so many people who are justifying police violence against a child. It seems our society has lost a lot of empathy and finds it easy to dehumanize even children.






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Thursday, April 7, 2011 9:58 AM

HARDWARE


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Originally posted by canttakesky:
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Originally posted by Bytemite:
I actually have some reason to doubt that eight adults can restrain a child.

I understand when kids get rageful like that, it is kind of like an unbroken horse bucking.

I understand that sometimes, it may not be easy to wrap your arms around a child so charged. It may not be easy to pursue some other method of control, such as negotiate or wait until he calms down. But sometimes we need to do what is hard and inconvenient to spare damage and injury to a human being. Esp a child.





So, only police arms could have been wrapped around the child? Teacher or principal arms would have been insufficient or caused serious mental harm to the child?

Can't wait for the explanation.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 11:04 AM

CANTTAKESKY


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So, only police arms could have been wrapped around the child? Teacher or principal arms would have been insufficient or caused serious mental harm to the child?

What are you talking about?

I don't care whose arms they are. I would have preferred that the police had not been called at all. But fine, they were called.

(I agree with Anthony that the cops were probably called for liability reasons. Meaning they were doing what's best for the school's pocketbook and not what is best for the student.)

I just draw the line at pepper spray. That's wrong.



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Thursday, April 7, 2011 11:51 AM

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I think most of us here agree that the situation could have/should have been handled differently.

I think Frem makes some good points.

Sociopaths: Are you born as a bad seed or is it learnt?
My current belief on the matter is that often a child is born with the tendency, its innate, an innate flaw, but how the child is raised can influence and reduce the child actually going out and hurting folk, that tendency is probably still there inside, but some people learn to control it/keep it at bay.

Of course I do think that a child who doesn't have the innate flaw can sometimes be molded into a sociopath by environment and training of that variety.

Which one is more common? Probably the innate flaw in my opinion, but early "training" in a child without the flaw can create a similar thing, torture etc.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 11:58 AM

MAGONSDAUGHTER


Violent societies breed violent children.

Sounds pretty out of control. Probably could have been handled differently. Who knows what the true story is. I have a fair degree of distrust for things reported in the media.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 12:25 PM

THEHAPPYTRADER


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So, only police arms could have been wrapped around the child? Teacher or principal arms would have been insufficient or caused serious mental harm to the child?


Teacher or principal arms could have been sued, and even though it (hopefully) wouldn't stick, that teacher will have to hope they let them keep their job, cause they ain't gonna find work anywhere else. All it takes is an accusation to ruin a teacher's career.

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I suspect the police involved consider that they did use the minimum force required to subdue the kid without anyone being injured. Since you weren't there, how can you determine that their actions were or weren't appropriate?


Couldn't have said it better myself Geezer.

CTS and Frem, I think your hearts are more or less in the right places but I'm not sure your minds are quite as local to 'em.

I'm just getting started in the child therapy arena and my focus is in Autism, but based off of limited information I think it's possible he's utilized these tantrums in the past to get whatever he wants, whether it be the attention he craves or an 'escape' from having to do something unpleasant like chores, school work or eating vegetables. The best way to deal with tantrums is to ignore them and not let the children out of doing their chores/homework/whatever. They can still do their chores while they are screaming. You avoid reinforcing the bad behavior (screaming) with attention and positively reinforce the good behavior of completing the task. This case is a mite more complicated on account of the violence and other students potentially in danger.

If you leave the kid alone by himself he could hurt himself and if you ignore him he could hurt himself or a student (I would ignore while keeping an eye on him for safety purposes). I suppose it could have been better for everyone (minus the teachers of course) had the teachers handled this on their own, but I don't believe the temporary pepper spray 'injury' via policemen to the student responsible will cause irreparable harm. It took multiple 'somethings' to develop this behavior and I don't believe one act will solve this or send him over the edge. Arguably placement in this new school over time might... but that's another can of worms.

I'm thinking he needs therapy (not drugs) to understand why these violent episodes are wrong and what the socially acceptable means of gaining attention or escape are and that these are not always immediately accessible.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 12:32 PM

BYTEMITE


I don't think this is as simple as not eating vegetables. The only scenario I can think of where a kid would think to make a shank at that young an age is a very, very bad environment.

But yes, there's probably lots of other factors, and this doesn't clear anyone of fault until we know more.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 12:48 PM

CANTTAKESKY


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Originally posted by TheHappyTrader:
If you leave the kid alone by himself he could hurt himself ...

I think that is a judgment call. I wasn't there, so I can't say for sure. But from what I hear, the rage was directed at others. He was saying he wanted to kill the teachers. It didn't sound like the kind of rage that would cause self-harm. If I'm right, and the rage was other-directed, then I would have left him alone until he calmed down. He said in interview that when he calmed down, he was ok.

But it sounded like neither leaving him alone to calm down, nor trying to talk to him, was attempted. They just went in with the pepper spray.

And pepper spray burns something awful. It is dangerous, nasty stuff. Go to that wikipedia article I linked to and see how most countries either ban it or control it under their firearms laws. It is not a matter of mild discomfort.

I was accidentally tear gassed once when my bus passed through an area that recently had had a violent demonstration. Even though the gas had mostly dissipated, whatever was left burnt me something awful. I wouldn't wish even that level to be done to a child. It is not as innocuous as some people believe because of its wide availability in the USA.





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Thursday, April 7, 2011 12:55 PM

CANTTAKESKY


Sorry, I missed this post, for some reason.

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Originally posted by Hardware:
You keep circling this, but I'm going to call you out on it. If more force than physical restraint was not needed, then why were the police called?

CYA.

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Seems to me that you want to point the finger of blame at the police. I think it should be pointed at the teacher, school staff and administration and the parents. The child is not expected to be in control of himself, he is a minor.
I blame the cops for using pepper spray. And I blame the school personnel for calling them.

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But those other people have the responsibility to teach him self control and they have failed so far.
Agreed.



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Thursday, April 7, 2011 3:48 PM

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Originally posted by Bytemite:
I don't think this is as simple as not eating vegetables. The only scenario I can think of where a kid would think to make a shank at that young an age is a very, very bad environment.


Indeed, just as I put it regarding school shootings, if the child is LOOKING for a weapon, it's already gone further than we should have allowed it to get - as adults we have certain responsibilities, and all too often we slough them off, abdicate them, and then blame the children we failed, cause it's easy, convenient, and due to lack of any recourse they are incapable for the most part of calling us out on it.

...till they grow up.

-Frem

"If the people allow Mariemaia to do as she pleases, then they will give rise to another Milliardo Peacecraft!"
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Thursday, April 7, 2011 4:35 PM

MAGONSDAUGHTER


I can imagine that kid felt like a cornered animal, and probably behaved that way. Police presence sometimes just makes it worse. However, in defence of the teachers at the school, if you're facing physical threat, then you have a duty of care to protect yourself, your collegues and of course, more importantly, other students.

I have been in a position where I had to call the police because of the violence of a young person, not that young I might add - and they arrived with the spray - hidden. They did an amazing job, and I guess we all did too, of talking the situation down. But I had to call them because of the danger to staff and clients.

Its a hard call, but there are all sorts of really full on behavioural problems out there.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 5:20 PM

KWICKO

"We'll know our disinformation program is complete when everything the American public believes is false." -- William Casey, Reagan's presidential campaign manager & CIA Director (from first staff meeting in 1981)


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Originally posted by kaneman:
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Originally posted by Kwicko:
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Originally posted by dreamtrove:
Nice to know we have our trustworthy supporters of violence against children.

ETA: Rap hadn't posted yet. I'm going to say he would be right except that I oppose drugging children. He probably need to not be locked in a prison at the time. He needed to get out and vent on a soccer ball.

That's what a ship is, you know - it's not just a keel and a hull and a deck and sails, that's what a ship needs.




Well, to be fair, children are probably the only ones they're capable of beating up. As Hardware himself said, it makes it seem all macho and manly that way.

"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill




Kinda funny, you and tough talk. There is not an ounce of doubt that I(black woman) would beat the fuck out of you(gay white male) in seconds if ever in the same room together. Problem is we can never be in the same room together. You hang around in bathhouses and I prefer pubs....stright is straight, gay is gay, and never the twain shall meet.....




Sorry, the "tough talk" was, and usually is, all coming from the side of dipshit right-wingers like you. (Look at your own post, and at Hardware's, for good examples.)

Seems lots of right-wing assholes around here get their jollies talking tough, and bragging about beating up children, or shooting them, and take quite a bit of joy in the idea of using pepper spray on them. Heck, that's no doubt why so many of them go into law enforcement.

"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 5:54 PM

HARDWARE


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Originally posted by Kwicko:

Sorry, the "tough talk" was, and usually is, all coming from the side of dipshit right-wingers like you. (Look at your own post, and at Hardware's, for good examples.)

Seems lots of right-wing assholes around here get their jollies talking tough, and bragging about beating up children, or shooting them, and take quite a bit of joy in the idea of using pepper spray on them. Heck, that's no doubt why so many of them go into law enforcement.




You are consistently hilarious Kwicko. Wrong, but just bang on funny.

I'm not right wing. I'm politically and economically conservative and socially liberal. Basically I'm libertarian.

Maybe from as far left as your posts make you appear this looks like right wing, but it isn't.

The more I get to know people the more I like my dogs.

...and he that has no sword, let him sell his garment, and buy one. Luke 22:36

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 6:05 PM

KANEMAN


Quote:

Originally posted by Kwicko:
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Originally posted by kaneman:
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Originally posted by Kwicko:
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Originally posted by dreamtrove:
Nice to know we have our trustworthy supporters of violence against children.

ETA: Rap hadn't posted yet. I'm going to say he would be right except that I oppose drugging children. He probably need to not be locked in a prison at the time. He needed to get out and vent on a soccer ball.

That's what a ship is, you know - it's not just a keel and a hull and a deck and sails, that's what a ship needs.




Well, to be fair, children are probably the only ones they're capable of beating up. As Hardware himself said, it makes it seem all macho and manly that way.

"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill




Kinda funny, you and tough talk. There is not an ounce of doubt that I(black woman) would beat the fuck out of you(gay white male) in seconds if ever in the same room together. Problem is we can never be in the same room together. You hang around in bathhouses and I prefer pubs....stright is straight, gay is gay, and never the twain shall meet.....




Sorry, the "tough talk" was, and usually is, all coming from the side of dipshit right-wingers like you. (Look at your own post, and at Hardware's, for good examples.)

Seems lots of right-wing assholes around here get their jollies talking tough, and bragging about beating up children, or shooting them, and take quite a bit of joy in the idea of using pepper spray on them. Heck, that's no doubt why so many of them go into law enforcement.

"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill




Man, you are hilarious. Sorry to get your ass-pussy all clenched up, butt I to am a fiscal conservative and social liberal. You are just way to easy to bitch slap. I enjoy giving you a black(negroid)eye, buy dragging your dumb ass to the mud. I think it is fine that you are gay and have a butt-load of gay friends, that's cool. You are free to be you. Truth be told I'm the first one to cheer you gays on. You on the otherhand , being a liberal , use teabagger as a put down.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 9:08 PM

MAGONSDAUGHTER


You are just a nasty piece of work. I'm glad you identify with the fiscal conservatives, because they can have you. But since when did being a social liberal involve using gay as an insult and calling people cunts? Deluded, stupid as well as nasty. You really did hit the jackpot when they were handing out personality flaws.

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Thursday, April 7, 2011 9:16 PM

KANEMAN


Quote:

Originally posted by Magonsdaughter:
You are just a nasty piece of work. I'm glad you identify with the fiscal conservatives, because they can have you. But since when did being a social liberal involve using gay as an insult and calling people cunts? Deluded, stupid as well as nasty. You really did hit the jackpot when they were handing out personality flaws.



What? I love gay people....I fuck with Kwicko's hang up....sorry you miss that

Kwicko, I formally condemn your mother for not aborting you. Yeah, I'm sure her brother was happy to have a son, but you are inexcusable....

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Friday, April 8, 2011 1:19 AM

KWICKO

"We'll know our disinformation program is complete when everything the American public believes is false." -- William Casey, Reagan's presidential campaign manager & CIA Director (from first staff meeting in 1981)


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Originally posted by Hardware:


You are consistently hilarious Kwicko. Wrong, but just bang on funny.

I'm not right wing. I'm politically and economically conservative and socially liberal. Basically I'm libertarian.



Now THAT is hilarious. As Frem so correctly nailed it, if one were to scrape off that Gadsden Flag sticker on your pickup, they'd find it was covering up your old "W" sticker.

Quote:


Maybe from as far left as your posts make you appear this looks like right wing, but it isn't.



Well, that and your "jokes" about shooting kids, and pepper spray being the kindest option.

Hey, if it goose-steps like a fascist and talks like a fascist...

There are libertarians on this board. But for an awful lot of so-called "libertarians" here (and in the broader population), the word "libertarian" just means "this year's neocon".



"Although it is not true that all conservatives are stupid people, it is true that most stupid people are conservatives." - John Stuart Mill

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