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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
She doesn't ever actually open your mail, does she?

Not sure about Canadian law, but that's kind of a big deal around here.

Do Right, Be Right. :)

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Originally posted by Brenda:

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Originally posted by 6IXSTRINGJACK:
She doesn't ever actually open your mail, does she?

Not sure about Canadian law, but that's kind of a big deal around here.

Do Right, Be Right. :)

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No Jack. She doesn't and opening someone else's mail is a big deal in Canada as well.

Also read the end of your piece about warning people at work that you won't be able to talk is maybe a good idea. I had to warn teachers when I had my jaws wired shut when I was in high school.

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Originally posted by Brenda:

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She doesn't ever actually open your mail, does she?

Not sure about Canadian law, but that's kind of a big deal around here.

Do Right, Be Right. :)

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No Jack. She doesn't and opening someone else's mail is a big deal in Canada as well.

Also read the end of your piece about warning people at work that you won't be able to talk is maybe a good idea. I had to warn teachers when I had my jaws wired shut when I was in high school.

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She sounds like such a bitch that she'd do it anyway. At least you got that.



I'm hoping the temps are cheap. I'm thinking if they're under 500 bucks then it's worth it, even if they're only good for 6 months. Above that though, I'm really going to have to consider eating my food through a straw and communicating like a monk for 6 months.

I barely said anything at school between 7th grade and Sophomore year. I'll just have to channel my early teenage years. :)

Do Right, Be Right. :)

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Originally posted by Brenda:
Well, my landlady and her husband where just down here a bit ago and she has given me a verbal notice to leave. I have asked for a written one and for 3 months. I may get the written one but not sure about the three months.

Haven't got a clue as to what I will do.

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Originally posted by Brenda:
Well, my landlady and her husband where just down here a bit ago and she has given me a verbal notice to leave. I have asked for a written one and for 3 months. I may get the written one but not sure about the three months.

Haven't got a clue as to what I will do.

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Originally posted by Brenda:
Well, my landlady and her husband where just down here a bit ago and she has given me a verbal notice to leave. I have asked for a written one and for 3 months. I may get the written one but not sure about the three months.

Haven't got a clue as to what I will do.

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Well, here in the states (or at least in LA) you can stall an eviction by calling code enforcement on the landlord. After all, what have you got to lose?

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And now starts the harassment that every time she sees me, she will ask me if I am moving and if I am looking for a place.

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And now starts the harassment that every time she sees me, she will ask me if I am moving and if I am looking for a place.

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I would be so tempted to tell her something nasty, on your behalf. It makes me angry how you're being treated.

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"The messy American environment, where most people don't agree, is perfect for people like me. I CAN DO AS I PLEASE." - SECOND

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Originally posted by Brenda:
Sometimes I wonder if the universe hates me.

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Originally posted by Brenda:
Sometimes I wonder if the universe hates me.

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I'm sure it doesn't Brenda. I've felt that way before too, but what I've realized is that when I've gone to those dark places and had those thoughts I was just giving myself way more credit than I ever deserved.

The universe couldn't ever possibly hate me. I could die tomorrow and it would never even know that I existed. That's probably the most liberating realization I ever had in my life.

Sometimes we have good streaks. Sometimes we have bad streaks. I think in the end it all balances out though and "Luck" is what you make of it.

You've beat down far worse scenarios than this before.

Do Right, Be Right. :)

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That is very tempting on my end but it will only end up in a shouting match which I don't have the energy for. She's done that three times now and with my birthday in a couple of weeks, I will be checking the mail more, so if she sees me.....

I don't sleep until the wee hours of the morning because my brain won't shut down enough.

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That is very tempting on my end but it will only end up in a shouting match which I don't have the energy for. She's done that three times now and with my birthday in a couple of weeks, I will be checking the mail more, so if she sees me.....

I don't sleep until the wee hours of the morning because my brain won't shut down enough.

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Boy, don't I know THAT feeling!

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Been there/ done that too.

You're in a tough situation, but really it mostly revolves around your landlady who is a complete, I mean COMPLETE byatch and who is toxic to you every day; who seems to take a perverse pleasure in undermining you at every opportunity. I don't expect you to be pissed off because you have to DEAL with the situation and have to keep cool, but seriously ... I'm prolly pissed off enough for the both of us.



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Here's another one why do all the crazies find me?

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Here's another one why do all the crazies find me?

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Why is she evicting you? Do you think that she's going to rent the (illegal) space for more $$? Or are they preparing to sell the house for top dollar and make $$ while they can?

I suspect that she's not crazy, just a greedy nasty byatch.

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Originally posted by 1kiki:
Brenda

GOOD FOR YOU to demand it in writing!

She may just be shaking the tree to see if the apple (you) falls out. I suspect her snooping is to try to catch you in something she can use against you - and if not that, at least make the situation so hostile you'll leave.

Do you have low-cost legal help where you are? Are you familiar with the housing laws in your area? It seems to me something is keeping her from just tossing you out officially. Maybe there's protection in place that prevents her from doing that for anything but 'cause' - failure to pay rent, engaged in illegal activities, creating a health hazard by hoarding, or some such. Because it seems to me like she's going through a lot of effort to make you leave by 'choice'. So, I suggest you find out what your rights are. If you are going to leave, it shouldn't be under illegal circumstances. And if you have rights to keep you in place, it could take some of the pressure off you. I hope when you leave, it's under your terms.

In any case, finding a new place will for sure be a hassle. You may have to greatly expand your geographic range, keeping public transport availability in mind.

But certainly living as her target is a hostile situation that's got to be some detriment to your well-being.

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Brenda's landlady:





We've already talked about going to the authorities about causing trouble for her. I can't remember how much of the reason you didn't want to do that was to not create waves, but I do recall you saying that she and her husband have some ties with the local authorities who give them a pass, correct?


Anyhow, I wouldn't focus your energy on causing any trouble for her. I don't know if I believe in karma or not, but I think the important thing is just figuring out how to get out of there and move on.

I've got a feeling that somebody who is that miserable all the time is already having a pretty terrible life and isn't worth your time or effort.

Do Right, Be Right. :)

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Originally posted by 1kiki:
Brenda

GOOD FOR YOU to demand it in writing!

She may just be shaking the tree to see if the apple (you) falls out. I suspect her snooping is to try to catch you in something she can use against you - and if not that, at least make the situation so hostile you'll leave.

Do you have low-cost legal help where you are? Are you familiar with the housing laws in your area? It seems to me something is keeping her from just tossing you out officially. Maybe there's protection in place that prevents her from doing that for anything but 'cause' - failure to pay rent, engaged in illegal activities, creating a health hazard by hoarding, or some such. Because it seems to me like she's going through a lot of effort to make you leave by 'choice'. So, I suggest you find out what your rights are. If you are going to leave, it shouldn't be under illegal circumstances. And if you have rights to keep you in place, it could take some of the pressure off you. I hope when you leave, it's under your terms.

In any case, finding a new place will for sure be a hassle. You may have to greatly expand your geographic range, keeping public transport availability in mind.

But certainly living as her target is a hostile situation that's got to be some detriment to your well-being.

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Hey Kiki. It is try to catch me doing something she's said I can't. Like put on heat.

There is free legal advice around and so I am going to try that route again. And hope it works so I can get the pressure off of me.

Getting too stressed out could lead me to having seizures again and I will know who to blame.

If I can find the right legal avenue, I have a whole host of things about this place. So we shall see.

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Brenda

GOOD FOR YOU to demand it in writing!

She may just be shaking the tree to see if the apple (you) falls out. I suspect her snooping is to try to catch you in something she can use against you - and if not that, at least make the situation so hostile you'll leave.

Do you have low-cost legal help where you are? Are you familiar with the housing laws in your area? It seems to me something is keeping her from just tossing you out officially. Maybe there's protection in place that prevents her from doing that for anything but 'cause' - failure to pay rent, engaged in illegal activities, creating a health hazard by hoarding, or some such. Because it seems to me like she's going through a lot of effort to make you leave by 'choice'. So, I suggest you find out what your rights are. If you are going to leave, it shouldn't be under illegal circumstances. And if you have rights to keep you in place, it could take some of the pressure off you. I hope when you leave, it's under your terms.

In any case, finding a new place will for sure be a hassle. You may have to greatly expand your geographic range, keeping public transport availability in mind.

But certainly living as her target is a hostile situation that's got to be some detriment to your well-being.

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Originally posted by Brenda:

Hey Kiki. It is try to catch me doing something she's said I can't. Like put on heat.

There is free legal advice around and so I am going to try that route again. And hope it works so I can get the pressure off of me.

Getting too stressed out could lead me to having seizures again and I will know who to blame.

If I can find the right legal avenue, I have a whole host of things about this place. So we shall see.

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You know, I can't believe there isn't some minimum requirement, like providing access to heat, even if you have to pay for it. I hope you get a rep who gets so pissed off on your behalf, you get fired up, too. You have a reason to be fighting mad.

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No her and her husband don't have ties to authority.

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-Caused extraordinary damage or put the landlord’s property at significant risk
-Is repeatedly late paying rent (at least three times)
-Damaged property beyond reasonable wear and tear and haven’t made repairs within a reasonable period
-Has broken a material term and, after receiving notice of the breach, has not complied with the tenancy agreement
-Seriously risked the health, safety or rights of the landlord or another occupant
-Knowingly gave false information about the rental unit or building to someone interested in renting a unit or buying the unit or building
-Significantly interfered with or unreasonably disturbed the landlord or other occupants
-Assigned or sublet the rental unit without the landlord’s consent
-Engaged in illegal activity that has adversely affected the quiet enjoyment, security, safety or physical well-being of the landlord or other occupants
-Was provided with a rental unit as a condition of their employment and the employment has ended
-Engaged in illegal activity that has caused or is likely to cause damage to the rental property, or engaged in illegal activity that has risked a lawful right or interest of the landlord or other occupant
-Hasn’t complied within 30 days of receiving an order from the Residential Tenancy Branch (RTB), or the date specified in the order, if greater than 30 days later
-Has an unreasonable number of occupants living in the unit

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Landlord’s use of property applies when the landlord is going to:

-Move in or have a close family member live in the rental unit
-Sell the property and the new owner, or a close family member of the new owner, will live in the rental unit

If a rental property is sold, there are two ways a tenancy can be ended if, in good faith, the buyer plans to occupy the unit or use the property for another purpose:

-The buyer makes a written request to the seller to end the tenancy before they take possession of the property (this cannot be a condition of sale) – the existing landlord then must give their tenant a Two Month Notice to End Tenancy for Landlord’s Use of Property.
-Once the buyer takes possession of the property, they can serve a Two Month Notice to End Tenancy for Landlord’s Use of Property

Unless a landlord (seller or buyer) serves a proper notice to end tenancy, the tenancy continues under the terms of the original tenancy agreement.

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Quiet Enjoyment

As part of the tenancy agreement, tenants have a right to peace, quiet and privacy in their homes – a right that comes from the common law principle of quiet enjoyment. That means every tenant has the right to:

Reasonable privacy
Freedom from unreasonable disturbance
Exclusive possession of the rental unit, subject only to the landlord's right to enter the rental unit in accordance with the laws
Use of common areas (like hallways, yards or laundry facilities) for reasonable and lawful purposes, free from significant interference

Quiet enjoyment may also include the tenant’s right to have guests, cook foods of their choice, play music at a reasonable level during acceptable hours, practice their religion, and have the use of all the services and facilities described in the tenancy agreement, maintained in good repair.

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No her and her husband don't have ties to authority.

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Oh... I thought you had tried creating an issue about it before, but the place was checked out and nobody did anything about it. For some reason I thought you decided that they have some friends that just swept this under the carpet.

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You'll be happier, for sure. It's time for you to go. If you try making things bad for her after you leave you're just going to be making yourself miserable in the process too. Better to cut ties completely.

Do Right, Be Right. :)

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Well, Brenda - fwiw you have me cheering your efforts!

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Actually Brenda, Signy brought up something I wondered about - do you have a formal rental contract? That's something you need to bring up.

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I haven't done anything to this place. It is falling apart on its own. - BRENDA

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This one??

CYNTHIA'S NATIVE GARDEN

https://cynthiasnativegarden.wordpress.com/

She hasn't updated since 2017. I know at one time ... before her sages cratered ... that she was thinking about entering one of those garden open houses ... not the Theodore Payne one which doesn't go too far into Orange County, but the CNPS (California Native Plant Society) one, I think.

I have a bunch more on file:

CAMISSONIA'S CORNER
https://camissonia.blogspot.com/

and

DIPPER RANCH, not so much about gardening as native plants and wildlife on working ranch.
http://dipperanch.blogspot.com/


None of them updated any later than 2017. I think everyone goes on "pause" during the summer, since all the fun happens when the rains come.

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I'm certain that you're in the clear. I just wanted you to know that (IMHO) you've done nothing to warrant an eviction.

I'm part of your cheering section too, BRENDA!

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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake

"The messy American environment, where most people don't agree, is perfect for people like me. I CAN DO AS I PLEASE." - SECOND

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This one??

CYNTHIA'S NATIVE GARDEN

https://cynthiasnativegarden.wordpress.com/

She hasn't updated since 2017. I know at one time ... before her sages cratered ... that she was thinking about entering one of those garden open houses ... not the Theodore Payne one which doesn't go too far into Orange County, but the CNPS (California Native Plant Society) one, I think.

I have a bunch more on file:

CAMISSONIA'S CORNER
https://camissonia.blogspot.com/

and

DIPPER RANCH, not so much about gardening as native plants and wildlife on working ranch.
http://dipperanch.blogspot.com/


None of them updated any later than 2017. I think everyone goes on "pause" during the summer, since all the fun happens when the rains come.

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Pity would be no more,
If we did not MAKE men poor - William Blake

"The messy American environment, where most people don't agree, is perfect for people like me. I CAN DO AS I PLEASE." - SECOND

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